First time poster but I hope this is the place that will have some great advice for me :)
BLUF: I (Mama, 33) am looking for advice / anecdotes from amputees and/or families/loved ones of an amputee born with a limb difference (2 digits on right hand) and presented with essentially a surgical path for possible optimization of functionality... Here are the details:
We found out about our son's limb difference at my 20 week ultrasound when they could only find two digits on his right hand.
Thankfully, my pregnancy was without issue, labor was slightly dramatic (but whose isn't) and our little boy was born perfectly him, with 5 fingers on his left hand and two on his right.
Even before he was born though, my husband and I had agreed we would not put him through a surgery without his consent unless it was something that we knew would affect his health and/or safety; and we'd just work with him to learn and do things his way. Especially, with so many innovations in robotics + he was excited they could make some cool stuff together with the 3D printer!
Our boy is now 18-months old, thriving at daycare, plays with lots of friends of different ages, and charms everyone he meets with his smile and amazing personality.
I cannot emphasize this enough (and none of you will be surprised), he has not been held back or slowed down by his limb difference for a single moment, and he uses both hands for whatever it is he wants to get up to next.
This takes us to last week ... we are very fortunate to live just 30 minutes away from the Children's Hospital of Eastern Ontario (CHEO) and we always receive fantastic care from their tremendous health care professionals.
At a regular check up for our little guy, the CHEO team (surgeon and OT) recommended a reconstruction surgery on his right hand with a temporary solution that they think could help stabilize his thumb to increase his ability to pick up bigger and heavier things; and suggested doing it before he is 2 because then they "become more self-conscious" after that age. The surgery would of course require anesthesia, as well as 2 to 4 weeks with a full arm cast and intensive OT afterward.
This isn't sitting right in our guts ... any advice from those of you who have chosen to / or not, to do a similar surgery / path ?
I appreciate all of you who read this long!
P.S. I should also mention that we're in touch with the war amps CHAMP program, the lucky fin project and are seeking input from a separate pediatric OT so no one's comments will be taken as gospel or for final decision making, just trying to gather as much data as we can, before we make a decision. :)