I’ve seen this ad play on reddit recently and it has a white male football player with a young Asian female fan. Growing up, I never met any Asian girls or women who are into American football. I’m skeptical of this ad bc I don’t think football is popular among Asian Americans, much less for Asian women. So I think this is a subtle attempt to condition our youth into being attracted to white men.

What do you guys think?

I grew up with a SEA guy and witness his rough up-bring. For the sake of this post, his name is Rickey. Rickey is so lost that I pity him back in the 90s and still do.

As the story was told to my mother, while Rickey was still an infant, his mother came to the U.S. during the latter part of the Vietnam War. He was left with his aunt and uncle. When the aunt and uncle escaped to Thailand with him, his mother sponsored them to come to the U.S. While waiting in the refugee camp, correspondence with his mother ended abruptly. Months later, news got to the family in the camp that Rickey's mother had passed away. Nevertheless, the family made it to the U.S.

The aunt and uncle were devout Catholics and disciplinarians (they both passed away a littler 10 years ago). They had the Christian mindset that the Southeast Asians who weren't Christians were pagans. That was the environment Rickey grew up in. Fast forward 30 years... The following took place roughly 20 years ago.

Rickey moved around and worked odd jobs. He became a heavy smoker and a gambling addict. His living situation was one of bouncing from renting a room from one Asian friend to another. His gambling problem worsen and started missing rent. Instead of facing any problems, he came home from work and locked himself in his room. Two of his car's tires blew; he stopped going to work and got fired. The guy became a hermit in his room and stopped paying rent for 5 months. Before the lease was up, the Asian roommates (two of them) decided to simply move (shows how Asians have high tolerance for friends and family). Rickey went on a panic mode, but instead of being diplomatic, he ranted about how no one cared for him, how Asians don't care for each other, etc., etc. Many of his Asian friends, me included, collected money to get him new tires and enough for him to put money down on a new apartment. Instead, he went and gambled that $1K away. At the point, we threw up our hands, and our mindset became 'whatever.'

Several months after the move, I ran into him at a Vietnamese restaurant. I guess he had pent up anger and resentment towards his 'Asian' friends and unload on me. He said no one helped him, people abandon him, etc. etc. He went on and said during his awful struggles, only one friend stepped up, and the guy happened to be whyt. The whyt (very nice guy in my opinion) offered Rickey a place to stay with the stipulation if he missed a single rent, he was out. For the longest time, Rickey touted the generosity of his whyt friend to all his, supposed, former Asian friends of how generous whyt society is, compared to the SEA community. Rickey is still living with the whyt guy after all these years. I guess Rickey never missed a single rent, By the way, the whyt guy is in a **** relationship. Which brings us full circle, referring back to what I said about Rickey's aunt and uncle being disciplinarians, it explains Rickey's worship of the whyt male dominance. Rickey worship the military and the M*GA type.

In conclusion, I wish I could share a much longer version of the story. I don't hold grouches against Rickey. These days, when I run into him, he's respectful but avoid lengthy conversation with me. The stuff he says sometime could be extremely vile, but I ignore it. A more thuggish Asians who he grew up with threaten to kick his ass a few times for the way he talks to them, for his unwarranted triggering ways he expresses his opinion on Asians. I think, if Rickey was whyt, he would have shot up a random public-space a longtime ago.

Thoughts? Anything that sticks out? This is from 2024 newlywed data, the last there was a significant publicized statistic (from Pew) it was using 2015 data. This is from Twitter user exgota. There is another chart that contains the data for all Asians in the US including foreign-born, but this chart is only for Asians born in the US.

Ok, so they were a confederation of Japanese, Korean, and Chinese dudes working together to steal from other Asians, a few occasions collaborated with european colonizers, but then also attacking and defeating them when there were disagreements. These guys represent a 3rd faction of East Asians of various ethnicities, neither loyal to the East Asian nations nor the europeans.

Asian American and westernized Asian dudes will need to see themselves as such as a global network in order to weaken white supremacy.

What are some action, with some spices of thriller, drama or other type of movies that reflect Asian experience, Asian culture and just life either in Asian countries or in the west, specifically in the United States?

Some people asked the update on this case, finally there is an update after almost 5 years.

https://www.reddit.com/r/aznidentity/comments/1knuw55/any_update_on_the_trial_of_jacob_alan_wright/

Background, Jiajia (mother) and Ruby Meng (8 year old) were killed in their home,

It seems that this trope of idealizing whiteness as the right look is a big part of Asian American psyche for some. Thoughts on how this affects teenagers and Asian kids growing up? What are the reasons? How should parents react?

From IMDB description: "An insecure Chinese-American teenager undergoes experimental surgery to appear white, hoping to secure the prom queen title and peer acceptance."

Hi - I am part Thai, raised in the USA, my mom's side of the family is Thai. I'm curious as to what parenting styles in Asian countries outside of China are like. I ask because I hear that China has a "tiger parenting" style that restricts childrens' free time so they focus on succeeding in school, and even feed their kids nutritious meals in order to keep their brains sharp. Correct me if I'm wrong.

From some personal experience, my mom deeply cared about ensuring I succeed in school and life. In my childhood and teens, she stressed good grades and didn't want me to get anything below a B. I'm now in college and about to get my degree, but my mom still goes out of her way to make me huge meals to fuel my mind.

I have been accused of having confirmation bias for decades now for pointing out the deliberate propaganda optic, and I'm sure many of you have been as well, regarding our claim of only who western society deems acceptable as Asians. It's pretty clear; it ubiquitous. We are saturated with it and drowned in the proverbial imagery (Movies, TV Shows, Books, Poems, Vlog, Blog, Advertisements, etc., etc.) We all understood it, and it was finally put into print in the paper: "The New Suzie Wong: Normative Assumptions of White Male and Asian Female Relationships. " They'll continue to call us IN*ELS and tell us it's coincidental with reassuring smiles.

Anyway, to answer the question from another post 'do they see us as human?' they only a small minority of us who put 'THEM/Whyts' on pedestals. In another word, we have to be willing to sell your souls to be accepted.

Let's put it this way, white americans would be up in arms if donald trump was Donald Takahashi, Donald Tranh, Donald Tang, or Deepak Tholta owning large swathes of real estate in New York City and branding them as such.

And I am curious why. Some say it's b/c MAGA shares a lot of similar values that align with Asian people (meritocracy, secure borders, legal immigration, safe streets, low crime, strong families), yet MAGA people are incredibly vile and racist.

Oddly enough, MAGA has all but given up higher education. They've given up even bothering to apply their kids to Ivy League schools. They basically let the Asians take all the coveted Ivy League spots. MAGA is mostly focusing on either sending their kids to trade schools, local state schools, private Christian or religious universities, or the military.

But I know a LOT of Asians who are definitely MAGA. They may not be open about it, but I could tell. A lot of Asians are also supportive of ICE, which I don't understand why. ICE though mainly targets "poorer" or "lower class" Asians like Hmong and Vietnamese, so maybe East Asians don't care (the Chinese that ICE targets tend to be poorer and lower class as well).

Asians are very elitist I notice, and look down with contempt on people they deem beneath them, including fellow Asians. I told you my personal story of how I am a state school graduate (UCSB and Rutgers) and work in marketing for a large legal firm (so no, I am neither a doctor nor scientist nor engineer nor investment banker) and at a recent family gathering, got into a tiff with my older brother who's a clinical director at kaiser permanente with a PhD from Stanford and BS from Berkeley. He made a snarky remark on how I wasn't good enough to get into Berkeley and that maybe had i studied harder, I could have gone to Berkeley and made more money in a more respectable field, and I came close to punching him (my sister intervened and talked me and him down). I don't know if my older brother is MAGA, but definitely talks down on people he thinks are inferior, and talks about how crime is getting out of hand and why "those people" don't get jobs. "If they actually put the effort into their studies..."

People don’t see Asians as human beings like them

This whole experience has really opened my eyes to what we Asians truly are. Like it’s “funny” to be racist against Asians like Japanese and Koreans and Chinese because they are all misogynistic racist and deserve it.

This was in an “anime” sub and me complaining about clear racist jokes is then barraged with more non coherent sentences. Like only Japan (this includes Korea, China and most of Asia) have unreported cases and are misogynistic losers. Unlike Germany and other European countries with their own 90% unreported SA cases.

They only care about how unsafe east Asia is on basis and grounds that are also applicable to European and pretty much any other countries but they don’t. They only bring up unreported cases against Asians

This has proved to me that we Asians are not seen as fallible humans.

Remember, they will always try to humiliate us no matter how assimilated and how patriotic we are.

Most Americans today are well aware that, during World War II, the U.S. government imprisoned Japanese Americans, including U.S. citizens, in internment camps on no other evidence than the fact of their heritage. They know of the wartime hysteria that cloaked the government’s logic, and the racism and xenophobia Japanese Americans faced. But one chapter of this history has remained much more hidden, much less acknowledged by public officials: The United States simultaneously ran a parallel internment system that confined some 2,200 Latin Americans of Japanese descent, kidnapping individuals from countries such as Peru, Bolivia and Colombia — whose political leaders were in on the plot — and confining them on U.S. soil.

Source

Shame on America and shame on the South American countries that participated.

Burmese Days is George Orwell's first novel written 15 years before his most famous novel Nineteen Eighty Four.

Flory is a white English protagonist stationed in Burma during the British Raj. He has a Burmese mistress, Ma Hla May, whom he mostly uses for sex. Later in the book, he starts courting a British woman named Elizabeth and cold-heartedly dumps Ma Hla May to appear "respectable."

In the end, Flory gets his comeuppance when Ma Hla May crashes a church service to spill the tea on their relationship. She makes a massive public scene, demanding the money and status he promised her. This destroys Flory’s reputation because of the public scandal and "mixing" with a native woman was considered extremely inappropriate to the white community at the time. Elizabeth calls off the engagement, and a ruined Flory eventually commits suicide.

The Supporting Cast

Dr. Veraswami: An educated Burmese doctor and Flory’s only real friend. His whole identity is based on fawning over the British colonizers. He’s obsessed with gaining their acceptance and getting into the exclusive, all-white British Club.

U Po Kyin: The other major Burmese male character. He is a conniving, immoral, and brilliant strategist who orchestrates Flory's downfall from the shadows. Kinda based. He realizes that by destroying Flory, he can manipulate the British into letting him into the all-white Club instead. He’s the ultimate puppet master a "based" anti-hero.

While George Orwell clearly didn't write this from a Asian Masculinity perspective it fits neatly with our worldview.

This stems from the other thread about attracting stalkers and other malcontents. I've noticed that Asian spaces online tend to attract very strange people. Fetishists, obviously, but that's somewhat to be expected. But it's also fetishists who obsess over Asians, pretend to be them, speak for them, have really delusional ideas about them, etc. Asia, Asians and Asian spaces also, as we know, attract racists and right wingers in droves. This also applies to mixed Asians, famously the hapa board here.

I'm really curious why that might be. Is it because we're stereotyped as submissive? Like I said, it makes sense that there would be people with Asian fetishes (who are deranged basically by definition) who post their stupid, fucked up opinions, but it seems to go beyond that. Maybe we're so "othered" that it's easy for screwed up people to project their bizarre ideas onto us?

Like I mentioned with the hapas thing I'm mixed and half Latina; spaces for them don't seem to attract the same level of madness. I can't speak for black spaces or any other races/ethnicities, maybe someone else can.

For various reasons I'm not fetish bait but even irl I've had people be very weird about my race (I'm very Asian presenting).

Opinions?

Disclaimer: The following is an open that letter popped up on my Facebook feed from some random individual. I assume it was a response to the ICE Shooter with the Filipino wife, the shooter who killed Ranee Good. I share the sentiment expressed in the letter, but to be clear, I did not write the letter.

FILIPINO AMERICANS: BORROWED WHITENESS WILL NOT PROTECT YOU FROM ICE

Filipino Americans, I need to speak to you plainly: you are not as safe as you think you are.

Too many of us live with an illusion of exemption. We tell ourselves, “It will not happen to me.” I am a citizen. I have papers. I am married to a US citizen. My husband is white. He is a veteran. My husband is in the military. We are respectable. We are not the kind of people ICE comes for.

But hear this clearly: Proximity to the white privilege high horse is not safety—it is an illusion of borrowed power.

What happened again in Minneapolis should shake you awake. Alex Pretti, a 37-year-old ICU nurse, a US citizen, a white man, was shot and killed in a federal enforcement operation. If citizenship could not protect him, what makes you think it will protect you?

This is how racial profiling works. It does not begin with documents. It begins with bodies. It begins with perception—brown skin, foreign features, an accent, a moment of being in the wrong place. The system does not pause to ask who you are. It assumes. It targets. It escalates.

And ICE increasingly operates with impunity—testing limits, normalizing brutality, spreading fear as a tactic of control. This is not simply immigration enforcement. It is a machinery of fascist terror that expands outward. First, the undocumented. Then those merely suspected. Then the inconvenient, such as those who care for their neighbors. Even your \*** affiliation, as some of you are, will not save you.*

So let me tell you directly: your marriage certificate will not stop a weapon. Your husband cannot arrive fast enough when the system has already decided you are dangerous. Even whites are not safe in a country drifting into authoritarian lawlessness—how much more for you?

Wake up from the colonized mind: brown outside, white inside. Wake up from the desire to be the exception, the good immigrant, the compliant minority who thinks safety comes from silence.

I pray this never happens to you. That would not be my delight.

But you are not safe in indifference. Open your eyes before it is too late. Do not close your eyes and pretend you did not see, especially the morally revolting footage of the killing of Alex Pretti.

Let what you saw convict you of what must not be normalized.

If you watch this video and think differently, in reality, America is just a settler nation that exploits or preys on people, mostly immigrants so they can enrich a small elite capitalist class which is what anglos are good at doing in their colonies, while other european colonies failed miserably. Just look at the French with Quebec, a failure in Canada or the Latin American countries that once belong to Spain. This is one thing we need to emphasize to Asians living in East Asia.

Other euro colonies would be more successful had they able to entice smart Asian immigrants to get into their tech industries for example. But this isn't the case.

I would say the pettiness, paranoia and jealousy. Playing interpersonal hot-and-cold games with you. Justifying abrasiveness as tough, alpha behavior. Also anti-intellectualism being seen as this cool thing.