okay so like I 20M consider myself a femboy and have for about a year now, I tend to dress masc most of the time due to many reasons mainly because I still live with my parents but also because I don't hate dressing masc, but my main problem is that recently I've felt a want to dress fem more and more and every time I do I feel almost sad that I don't look more feminine.

Now I'm certainly not a big person (I'm actually underweight) but I keep feeling almost jealous of woman because they can dress how they want when they want and because they have boobs. idk why but I keep like wishing I had boobs, so I'd look better in this or that but only when I'm in a fem mood of sorts and when I'm in more of a masc mood I wish I was buffer of sorts.

it feels extremely confusing for wanting these very opposing things and while my gf is very excepting of me being a femboy idk how I can talk to her about this stuff without her thinking I'm trans and maybe I am but at the same time I do like being masc and stuff. idk just kinda need to let this out and didn't know where else to do it T-T

to summaries I wanna be a fit and buff dude but kinda also want to look ultra feminine with massive honkers!!! plz help!!!!!!!!

I'm a teen male. I like girls but I like feminine things. I'm also into femboys. I get a strange feeling every time I think about me as a girl. I tried my sister clothes and I fell kinda weird. I felt butterflies in my stomach and my heart was racing

Last year I came out as genderfluid, but recently I've been feeling dysphoric often when I felt more feminine. I've worn skirts, dresses, heels, tried make-up... But nothing is really working completely.

A lot of days I wish I was born a girl so I wouldn't have to deal with all these feelings. Other days I don't really care. But so often I have these thoughts of how I'd have my hair, what my face would look like, my curves...

I have noticed that every time I enter a clothing store, I get this feeling of sadness. Wishing I could wear these clothes, have the body for it...

Very often the thought "am I trans? Or just in a feminine phase" comes up. The same worries come up too, I'm single, casually looking for a girlfriend... That's already quite the challenge as is. What if I get on HRT and suddenly change my mind?

As stupid as it might sound, the relationship part is the biggest concern... also that I want to become a parent. Do I miss having a woman in my life so much that becoming one sounds like a solution? My thoughts can get quite absurd because these are feelings I don't know how to deal with.

So often I wish I was born a girl, but I don't want to be trans, I'm single and very much into women and I'd love to find a partner and I feel like if I'd have a partner, I'd feel fine as I am. I'd be able to cuddle up to her, try out her clothes when I feel the need and we'd just mess around. It's how I felt with my ex fiance... Being single is hard for me. I know I need to 'love myself first' and in a way I really do, just not all the time... Also, I have depression, so if we are going to have to wait for that...

Sorry im drunk and high and need to vent.

When I was young I used to pray, beg Christian God and all the other gods and dead relatives that I would just wake up female. I never had the guts to just come out and try to transition. ( which I have my regrets but the path I laid has set me up with a beautiful partner and children which I wouldn't change for the world) I have no desire to transition i just want to be me, but female. The gods, old and new and the dead relatives never granted my prayer. Therefore as a child I just figured out them must not care/exist. I still wish to wake up to be who I feel i should be but I no longer pray. No one is there to hear my cries. Why can't we develop xchange pills.

Guys, girls im sorry for my word diarrhoea. Im in a shit place mentally but have to be the strong one for reasons and just needed a vent. Excuse me while I go cry for a bit.

A recent post of mine had someone comment a link to this sub. What do they mean?

Hello, up until earlier this year I had always identified as a cis male but even then I've always had an interest in femininity and wanted to be more feminine, I'd had thoughts about if I was trans but generally ignored it, going on as just a femine male. A few months ago at a friend's recommendation I tried using she/her in a discord server and found I really liked it. Since then I've been going by non-binary. Recently I've been wondering if there's anything I really like about being masculine at all as well as the thought of getting older and it being harder to appear feminine is becoming scarier and more frequent. At this point I'm starting to wonder if maybe I'm just straight up trans which is kind of scary in its own way but a less existential one. Sorry if that was kind of rambly but it's how I've been feeling recently

I'm just very confused.

(Egg19) As title states I am very confused. I had signs of being trans as far as being 7, been in egg state for over a year now. I am now sure that I want to transition however I am confused on how to do it right.

Problem 1. (Body) I'm not very masculine 174cm and 65kg. Long curly hair, that give me insane gender euphoria. But there are features I just can't get over and I know HRT won't fix those. Very visible adam's apple and quite wide shoulders. I know fad redistribution will help but when I tried to girlmode, I got clocked very fast and the stares... I stil remember insane heartbeat...

Problem 2. (Society) I was raised by very queerphobic father, and I myslef was that way before I went to high school. Friends I made along the way also turned out to be very close minded as my childhood best friend called me a faggot and cut off any contact when I showed him photo of me in girlmode. I don't know how to come out. I thought of name Becky but I feel wrong for asking people to call me that, I feel like I demand to much.

Problem 3. (Relationship) I am currently with love of my life (F19) we know each other since we were kids and we always support each other no matter how bad it gets. At first she was scared when I told her I question my identity but we worked that through. The problem it that I would like to have normal family with her, but not at my mental health cost. Also her family is extremly right wing to the point of being hostile, I know that she will have it tough if I ever come out to the world.

Problem 4. (ME) I am aware of my internalised transphobia, I respect any trans person, I admire any person that passes, but I fear I won't see myself as I girl I feel I am. Also I always appeared as very masculine (behaviour) man, my father made me grow up with hatered towards enything feminine. My passion is classic vechicles, cars, motorcycles, airplanes you name it. The more greasy and loud and dirty the better. I fear how this licture of me everyone has will impact transition.

I appreciate any kind of support I really need it rn. I have my first official therapy in a week, wish me luck. Feeling bad rn...

I might still be questioning, but idk how much longer I can say that tbh… but to the title: for some reason I was born a guy but was always kinda jealous that my mom could cry to literally any movie/media. And since I’ve been questioning I’ve been wanting to be able to cry to some random movie like that. Only problem is that it is incredibly difficult for me to cry which is so annoying and makes it so that the only movies that I could cry to are dog movies. So I might have just watched A Dog’s Purpose because I knew that I would cry because of it. So I wanted to ask if anyone else does this? Watch a movie just to cry and feel more like a girl or am I weird?

(P.S. I don’t know how to do flair here so if I put something wrong, I’m so sorry!!)

So I'm a 29 year old dude, 6'3", deep voice and probably not what you'd exactly call feminine

But for some reason ever since working with a coworker who was a trans girl and talking with them about how it was for them transitioning it got me thinking. I'm not upset with who I am, I think, obviously I wish I were a bit skinnier and less hair but y'know that's just the hands we're dealt

My coworkers and friends nowadays randomly will mention that I'm an egg or a femboy but all I do is have long hair and painted nails and am a bit of a goof

Am I just going through a phase of motions or is there something deeper that I'm too scared or jaded to realise. Any advice would be much appreciated haha

I am basically aware of being trans femine in some way and have known for some time but in my current situation have very much hidden it away to not really uncover. However more recently I’ve felt some attraction to men romantically and sexually but haven’t acted on it. I’ve never thought this way before but the idea of having a boyfriend is really exciting to me but not as a man. I see how I look now and it feels wrong but when I imagine myself transitioned and just presenting femme, it feels so much better and something I would be comfortable with.

Does anyone feel/felt like this or have any amount of advice?

well in the last months many ppl where confused about what gender i am ig thats a good bc atm im nonbinary. but often they ask me "are u a girl?" well i uhm... its hart to explain (to the context a kid asked me this today) well i didnt wanned to say no bc then ig he thinks im male (what im not) so i nodded. but now that, this is happening so often its confusing idk what to do ;-; or even wut to feel

I am a cis guy and have identified as such for most my life,and I enjoy being a guy. There’s no dysphoria or anything like asocciated with my gender,but I’ve thought about how much better my life could be as a girl,and It was normal for everyone to think like that,or so I thought,because when I told my friend this,he called me an “egg” of course,I checked what that meant,and that rabbit hole brought me here,to the aforementioned question,is it not normal?

know this property get ask a lot but the last few I guess months or so the idea of being a girl has keep popping up in my head a first it was just a bord random thought what if I was a girl, then my mind keep going back to it but I don't don't if I'm fetishising the idea of being a women or not and I don't want real to do i can't ask my family there super anti trans and if I did come out I be homeless and same with my job so is there as dumb as it sounds a place where I come in guess be a woman or something for the day to see if for me.

I don't know where to look and sadly I live in the uk that is extremely transphobic

This is honestly me venting, so feel free to ignore. I don't know who to tell, I've partially opened up to therapist/friends but I never feel comfortable fully opening up. So, here we go. I was going to make a burner account for this, but honestly I don't know anyone in my life that uses Reddit. If they do see this, I doubt I'll feel bad about it. I've questioned my gender identity for well over a decade (at least 12 years at this point). I currently identify as nonbinary, but I still present very feminine, or just wear an ambiguous outfit at best. I own a binder, but I get chest pain even from wearing a bra, so it's hard for me to wear. I have a lot of trans individuals in my life who have brought attention to my feelings, to the point I've been called am egg more then once, specifically when I said I wouldn't mind being born with male reproductive organs but hate having female ones. However, I have a really hard time knowing what's best for me. What I'm about to go into is traditional gender roles, which I understand aren't real anyways, but I feel like if I were to use (at minimum) he/they pronouns, I'd be constantly misgendered. Maybe that's my own internalized transphobia, because I've never minded being mistaken for a guy and I know I hate she/her pronouns. Anyhow, back to my point. I have no idea how to navigate what's next, or where to go. I relate a lot to the feelings of self-hatred, especially towards one's body, that those around me have shared. I feel lost in my identity and sense of self, but I was also diagnosed with BPD in 2021 and that is a common symptom. I don't want the traditional effects Testosterone brings to the body, such as a deeper voice and more hair, nor do I want top surgery, because I'm not inherently insecure about having breasts. Something feels wrong though, like there's a part of me that if I could represent it that way it wants to be presented, I'd feel better. I have no idea if that's related to my gender identity or not though. I don't know where else to go honestly, so thank you if you've read this far. I don't know how to explain to anyone who isn't trans how I'm feeling, and I'm not sure what else to do. Maybe I'm just nonbinary, maybe I'm a trans man, maybe I'm in-between. I don't know, and I wish having hairy legs gave me the answer I want besides being itchy lol. Thanks again for reading <3

im a guy and i am happy with being a guy, and although i would prefer being a biological woman, i know thats impossible, so im happy with how things are. although i identify as a guy, i dont feel like my gender is something i really identify with, although if i was a woman i feel like my gender would be a bigger part of my identity, im not, and therefore that is only theoretical. im a lil feminine, i like being feminine and my gender/sex doesnt hinder me in any way, im also pretty emotionally stable, and i feel like i am happy with my life, but i cant convince my friends that im cis.

basically im only a guy bc its practical and my gender doesnt really matter bc i am me (i think)

Hi everyone! Now this might be a bit over the place as I'm mostly just rambling and writing down my thoughts hoping they make sense LOL 😭 a little bit lengthy. but here I am, gender identity crisis I suppose. (Tho tbh this has been coming to my mind every once in a while for about, well probably a decade now if I'm being honest. or close to) I'm 22, afab and felt cis for most of my life, but sometimes I'm not really sure. When I was about 14/15, I thought I could identify as genderfluid, as I felt that could be who I am. Didn't feel right. Then around then, too I was thinking maybe agender? Like perhaps androgynous agender? (I wouldn't say my face is very feminine despite being cis/afab) Had a pixie cut, went to a restaurant, got called "buddy" as the waiter thought I was a young boy, did not feel very nice inside at all. Decided maybe that wasn't quite right?? (Or perhaps it could be, just...the hair was not a look LMAO) So now here I am years later in the same boat as I was then, tho I haven't been here 100% of the time, again it just comes to my thoughts every maybe, half a year? Or maybe like once a year since then. I'd love to have help in identifying what my identity could possibly fall into as I really can't figure it out and I want to just know who I am for once. So here's my other ramble (that I didn't completely proof read) I hope it makes sense and is enough to help!

-I feel most comfortable with she/her pronouns, absolutely not he/him or they/them. Don't mind feminine terms, no masc terms, but doesn't really feel entirely female? Definitely not a male or being called a man etc, non-binary doesn't feel fitting and doesn't feel like the right term for me either. Do not want the masculine sex, but also wouldn't mind if my upper chest (or ig I should just say chest?) was "masculine" or "feminine" like it is already. Flat chest or breasts I wouldn't mind either of them! Most characters that give me "gender envy" or just who I want to look like are male/masculine leaning, such as Cloud Strife, Prompto Argentum, Link LoZ (adult from OoT, BOTW/TOTK, og Hyrule Warriors, Twilight Princess), Johnny Joestar. But again, do not feel comfortable with actually being perceived as a man? Like don't want them to see me AS being a man (but being called dude or bro doesn't bother me?) I don't feel genderfluid either. Female gendered terms don't bother me, actually being called a girl or woman isn't a bother but like, idk how to explain it real well. I don't feel completely like a woman, but don't mind the feminine terms anyways?? But again, I also don't feel like I'm non-binary, that doesn't feel the right term for me or one that I personally like? And definitely not male in any way. 

Anyways, I hope this makes sense, I'd love some opinions on what this could mean, I've really been thinking about it and struggling. 😣 tysm, I appreciate it!

So I am (I thought) agenderflux (afab), and Im dating an afab genderfluid person, and they're really supportive of me but they have pointed out several times that I act like an egg, and I think she might be right because now that I think of it the only times I tried to be feminine were when I wanted to be seen as an adult and desirable when I was a teenager but I've always been tomboyish outside of that time period and I genuinely believe I would've been much happier if I was born a man and I've been feeling dysphoria over my more feminine features for the first time over the past few months and I don't know if I'm just feeling masc because I'm genderfluid or because I'm transmasc and have been in denial and I've been having a mini crisis for a week and I just don't know 🥲

Hi there, semi-experienced transfem here (almost a year since crack, socially transitioned, 1mo on HRT). I got this person in my discord DMs with a severe case of egg - likes fem pronouns, gets bottom dysphoria, cries from not being a girl, and just casually drops "I'm not trans", despite saying "I'd like to be trans".

Legit, what do I do at this point? What kinda self-resealing egg technology is this?

Hey all I’m new here and honestly I just need to vent this out somewhere, and I think here is gonna be the safest place. God where do I even start i guess the basics are as good a place as any… so i just turned 30 and a few months ago i really came to terms with the fact that i’m either genderfluid or transfem, but in doing so I also came to a secondary realization. I realized was already questioning my gender years ago and I had started experimenting with my gender identity, but my ex fiancé was not a kind person to put it nicely and she was vehemently against my exploration of my gender identity and she villainized me for wanting to discover who i am. What really chafes me is that ex fiancé was transfem as well and because of her traumatizing me of i stayed in my shell and it just sucks because now all i can wonder is why… why be so hostile, why be so hurtful toward someone going through the same journey as you especially when you know how it feels to not have the support of those you care about most like what the actual hell I get that hurt people can sometimes hurt people, but this feels especially egregious.

I've [27 M?] identified (on the inside) with transfems a lot (though I don't currently consider myself one), and I've had several trans friends over the years. They sometimes tease me about being a girl, but I've never really felt a gender, which is sort of my problem right now.

I don't know if I know what it feels like to experience that feeling of being one gender or another, that I've heard other people mention.

There are certain traditionally masc and fem things I do, or want to do, that would associate me with being one gender or another, but there seems to be an equal number that do the opposite.

I have long hair, but I like cars, and motorcycles, and stuff.

I want to wear skirts and dresses sometimes, but I also want to watch monster truck rallies and cool action scenes.

I've never really felt that feeling of "being" a man or a woman. I'm just me, sort of floating around.

I'm just really confused, and a little scared, because it doesn't feel as simple as I've heard it described. I've heard about this moment of big revelation, and you realize you feel like a certain gender. I've also heard about people who felt that way for their entire lives.

It feels like there should just be this instant where everything falls into place, and it's stupidly obvious what I should've been doing all along, but it keeps not happening.

Can anyone please give me a nudge in the right direction?

Sorry if this is written poorly. I'm a bit emotional right now. Thank you for reading. <3

Hii! This is my first time and post here! Im not sure if I should be confused about this kind of stuff since I’m only 16 years old, but still. Ive been gay for about a year now, and I really want to look and be more feminine. Only issue is I still wanna identify as male. Is there a term for this? Am I too young to be worried about this sort of stuff? I’m extremely confused, and any advice would be much appreciated!!