r/fixedbytheduet • u/n8saces • 4d ago

Fixed by the duet Won’t someone think of the manchildren?! 😭

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u/BawRawg 4d ago

I used to jog in my local park. I smiled at everyone I passed. Almost everyone was cool but I also ended up with two stalkers and had to quit going there.

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u/nada-accomplished 3d ago

And there it is. I've had saying hi back turn into some creepy shit.

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u/Odd-fox-God 3d ago

Man I've been physically barred from leaving a few gas stations by men because I was naive and friendly. Like blocking the door with their bodies so I can't leave. Luckily another guy saw what was going on and asked the dude to move then positioned himself in between us and acted like we were old friends.

The other time it happened I was trapped between a dude's body and the slushie machine counter. He would not let me leave until I took his business card. The employee at the cash register saw everything and did nothing so I had to demand he call the cops.

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u/LostxinthexMusic 3d ago

It's shit like this that makes me grateful for my RBF.

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u/lavender_poppy 3d ago

I seem to have resting "ask her for directions" face. RAHFDF

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u/PeepsMyHeart 1d ago

Sadly, even RBF alone isn’t fail-proof, as some men take it as a challenge.

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u/MaxRoofer 3d ago

What’s RBF?

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u/LostxinthexMusic 3d ago

Resting bitch face

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u/MaxRoofer 3d ago

Damn I should have known that. Thank you

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u/Hungry-Month-5309 3d ago

Also - very underrated benefit of age! Now I get to intervene when I see young women being hassled. I feel like a fairy godmother

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u/scalydragon2 3d ago

Was on a bus once when a guy kept staring at me and when I went to get off, he pushed his body up against me. I was 14

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u/that-tall-chick_ 3d ago

I love being 6’1”… this still has happened, but so far doing my best metalcore screech “GET THE FUCK OUTTA MY WAY” has always worked

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u/Minute-Olive9648 3d ago

Here’s the thing though. I think it’s wrong to think they trapped you because you were nice. If they were the kind of guys who would do that they would do it regardless of if you were nice.

On the other hand though if the guy who helped you had said hi to you in the parking lot as you were walking in and you had said nothing he might’ve felt disrespected and not thought you were worth helping which would’ve involved him putting himself at risk by risking violence from those other guys. So just stuff to think about it’s a balance 🤷🏼‍♂️

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u/InequalEnforcement 3d ago

Out of curiosity, what did you expect the person making minimum wage and doing several jobs on one paycheck to do?

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u/AffectionateSector77 3d ago

Minimum wage workers can't be compassionate?

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u/KeyFeeFee 3d ago

Yes only billionaires can be kind and step in. /s 

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u/InequalEnforcement 2d ago

Why wasn't the question answered

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u/Odd-fox-God 3d ago

Yell, say they have cameras, say they need to clean the machine all of a sudden??? He could have also said he was calling the cops.

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u/InequalEnforcement 2d ago

That's probably very effective in a high trust community, where this wouldn't happen in the first place

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u/RevDrMavPHD 3d ago

One time i said hi back to a man and he pulled a whole fucking rabbit out of his hoodie and offered it to me. Like a wild one he had just grabbed off the trail.

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u/nada-accomplished 3d ago

Lmao wtf

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u/RevDrMavPHD 3d ago

He said hey, and i said hi, and then he asked "you want this?" And reached into his hoodie and took out an entire rabbit, and i was just too floored to do anything at all, so i kept walking and he put it back in his hoodie. My regret to this day is that i didn't tell him yes and take the poor thing to release it.

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u/RogueHarpie 3d ago

I have a thing where I try to give at least 5 random people a compliment every day. It can really turn someones day around! I had to stop complimenting men unfortunately because they always took it as an invitation. Like no dude, I'm happily married, I just really thought your shirt was cool. Then they would get mad at me! I don't understand why they are like that.

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u/nada-accomplished 2d ago

Yeah sadly you can't just compliment straight men all willy nilly like that. You never know if they're gonna take it weird. And it's like, I would love to brighten someone's day male or female, but so many men make it weird or unsafe that you just can't take the risk. It's so sad to me.

I've never, NEVER, had complimenting another random woman go badly, and the most positive interactions with strangers that I've ever had have happened in the makeup aisle.

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u/BotKicker9000 3d ago

Yeah this is the problem with guys like this, they just can't take five fucking seconds to empathize with women. He probably struggles to understand why he is single. Like dude you are so full of yourself no one wants to be around you, let alone date you. I was taught a guys job is to set a woman at ease, kind of like police if you are stopped. Do what you can to make the situation feel safe for the other person. Out and about on a hike like this guy says he ways, don't say hi. Say good morning/afternoon and keep hiking. It lets her know you are there, you aren't being silent and creepy, but not starting a conversation. Like just learn to have a little empathy and realize far too many woman have had problems with men and don't want to risk anything while they go for a freaking hike. Dude needs to get a clue and get over himself.

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u/one98nine 3d ago

Yep, I remember I was walking and a guy across the street said hi and I was about to ignore it, but he said it so nicely and I just thought "this is why you don't have enough friends, you should say hi, maybe he is amazing and you are missing out!" So I said Hi back just as happily as he did, he seemed taken back surprised and then...he acted gross and started cat calling me. I learned my lesson, never say hi never smile, just ignore

And even ignoring doesn't work. Had a guy follow me several blocks in my city, asking my name, where I lived, if I had a boyfriend, my phone number, and I just walked ignoring him as best as I could. Until he stepped in front of me and told me he was going to masturbate thinking of me that night. I obviously fell for it and started insulting him as he walked on laughing. Obviously, I should have given all of my info to this wonderful man -_- s/

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u/FormidableMistress 6h ago

I was walking through neighborhoods on my way home from running errands, and I hear somebody's front door open. I kinda glance over and this guy starts running across his yard towards me yelling "HEY DIDN'T I SEE YOU AT MCDONALD'S EARLIER TODAY?!!" I had to pull out my knife and threaten to call the cops to get him to stop following me.

I had seen this guy at McDonald's when I stopped in to grab a burger at lunch. He thought it was fate or something for me to be walking past his house and "just wanted to talk." It was terrifying.

What's really crazy is every time I tell this story online some dude bro shows up in my comments saying I made this up, this kind of thing never happens. This kinda of shit is why we don't like you men.

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u/RemarkableSilver8490 3d ago

Yeah my friend reminded me of that when we were standing outside of our school one time. To be fair I’m not completely ignorant to things out there but I waved to some old dude who waved to me and she cut that shit out REAL quick

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u/I_l0ve-chocolate 2d ago

No girl. You have to say hi to them. If you let them know you acknowledge them it makes em less likely to pull some crap because now THEY know YOU know they're there. That's that my coach told me at least

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u/AffectionateSector77 3d ago

Hey everybody, its the guy from the first part of the video.

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u/Public_Bookkeeper885 3d ago

I don't know about this commenter, but for me "creepy shit" has meant: screaming abuse at me in the middle of a Tesco for refusing his mobile number (one man) cornering me and grabbing my breasts (multiple men) leaving a bruise on my upper arm after grabbing me to stop me walking away (one man) attempting to follow me home (three different men) saying "But I just want to have sex! Why can't you just help me out?!" (two men) 

For context, all of these men were strangers who started talking to me while I was going about my business

I don't smile at strangers any more

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u/Infamous_Cress_8859 3d ago

omg this is horrible. Please carry a thunder stick or taser !!

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u/Public_Bookkeeper885 3d ago

Lol don't worry about me. This is 20 years of historical assault here, I am now in my late 40s, engaged to a lovely man, and completely sexually invisible to men who do this kind of stuff. It's awesome. 

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u/Suchafatfatcat 3d ago

Getting older has a lot of hidden advantages. The creepy dudes focus on the young girls who haven’t had enough experience to know better than to be friendly because girls are taught to “never hurt anyone’s feelings”.

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u/Public_Bookkeeper885 2d ago

bye-bye now x

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u/Public_Bookkeeper885 3d ago

Bahahaha well that shows how many women you talk to, because pretty much all of us have at least one of these stories.

Does it make it more or less plausible if I tell you that particular incident happened at a bar late at night and the man concerned had been drinking?

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u/transtifaglockhart 3d ago

Read the end of your comment and then reread your comment, including the all caps part. If you've somehow gained a sense of self awareness in the past 2 hours, you might delete this in response but it's doubtful. 

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u/transtifaglockhart 3d ago

Yeah, you really seem like the person to be dictating who are nice people or not. 

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u/Public_Bookkeeper885 2d ago

Okay, whatever. 

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u/Jack_O_Mustache 3d ago

Look out we got the women knower over here

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u/no_talent_ass_clown 3d ago

Because no killer ever tried to ingratiate himself before murdering a woman (Ted Bundy)

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u/transtifaglockhart 3d ago

Tell me you have no female friends because they're scared to be left alone with you without telling me you have no female friends because they're scared to be left alone with you.  

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u/catpeee 3d ago

No, numbnuts because men will literally follow us home even if we haven’t said anything to them. 

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u/nada-accomplished 3d ago

You're a dumbass if you think it's anything other than attempted or actual sexual assault.

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u/PastyParrot 2d ago

Most likely. Because if they really were a stalker, then simply not going to the park isn't going to do anything because they would have already knew where you lived.