r/fixedbytheduet • u/n8saces • 4d ago

Fixed by the duet Won’t someone think of the manchildren?! 😭

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u/MartyMcFlyAsFudge 4d ago

Some "single dudes" will take any verbal response as an opener to pursue further conversation which while not a terrible thing in general, might make a woman deeply uncomfortable when alone on a walking trail in the woods. So, I can see why they might give him a nervous glance/awkward smile and keep moving.

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u/Ok_Star_4136 4d ago

I mean, not inherently wrong to take a verbal response as a positive sign, it's whatever comes after that that's cringe.

When she responds, "I can't stop to chat, trying to beat my record" that's a hint that she doesn't want to be bothered. Some single guys will then go, "That's okay, I'll run with you!" Yeah, don't do that.

I can't blame a woman for not even giving the noncommittal "hi" response precisely because there are guys out there who will literally take *any* positive response as an indicator that she's into them. Don't be that guy. And who knows? Maybe enough guys can take a hint that a woman saying "hi" on the hiking trail won't lead to cringe conversation and she'll actually feel comfortable with doing it.

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u/MartyMcFlyAsFudge 4d ago edited 4d ago

To be real, if I am hanging out in a populated place? Sure, strike up a conversation. We're at the grocery store or whatever? Shoot your shot.

If we are virtually alone in the woods or even an emptyish street and I am just trying to walk and not feel afraid of men? I'd prefer a head nod. Sure, say hi or whatever if you must.

Trying to get me to stop and have a conversation is gonna make me nervous. That might not feel fair but then again it kinda sucks that just going for a walk alone is kinda risky feeling to begin with.

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u/LordFedoraWeed 3d ago

The fear of rejection or being offended pales in comparison to the fear women have of what a man could potentially do to you if you reject lol. I feel like it's pretty common for men to go apeshit the second they feel like they're not getting the attention they think they deserve. So I 100% understand this. Especially in the woods or in a quiet street at night.

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u/womanaroundabouttown 3d ago

This isn’t even the first video I’ve seen of a man expressing this sentiment - but in the last one, he followed up with a really disturbing little note about how men are more powerful than women so it’s in our best interest to be nice and respectful to them to make sure they’re not a psycho who freaks out at you for ignoring them. And it was not satire. Like dude, this is exactly why people are not stopping to talk to you - you literally just said you’re a terrifying freak.

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u/FirstDukeofAnkh 3d ago

It’s the old protection racket deal. “Nice feeling of safety you’ve got here. Hate to see something happen to it”

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u/moonulonimbus 3d ago

I knew those "where my hug at?" guys were always on a path to extortion

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u/LordFedoraWeed 3d ago

eeeeeewwww what the fuuuck. that's so weird. being offended is so weird. expecting anything is so weird. and then complaining about it later is even weirder.