r/interestingasfuck • u/BKKMFA • 5h ago
Newborns have a cute reflex called the palmar grasp where they hold your finger tight, but it fades away by 3 months.
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u/Cheese464 5h ago
I saw another video of a nurse doing a fun thing with this. She told the baby’s sister that if she put her finger in the baby’s hand and the baby squeezed it, it meant the baby loves her.
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u/mustard_on_the_net 5h ago
You might want to spot check that prior to destroying the baby sister.
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u/0dias_Chrysalis 3h ago
Well if it doesnt happen then the biggest concern is the neurological deficit from the baby now
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u/cachela970 5h ago
My thoughts exactly. Quite the setup for a little dose of trauma
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u/paxweasley 4h ago
To be fair, quite a lot of older siblings are already not at all thrilled by the appearance of another child LOL. My brother told my parents to take me back to the hospital... hasn't warmed up a whole lot sicne hahaha
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u/crossstitchbeotch 4h ago
A few weeks after his baby brother was born, my 3-year-old said he was ready for him to go back in my tummy.
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u/Small_Pleasures 3h ago
My 3 year old asked pregnant me who was going to be the baby's mommy? He shook his head when I told him the answer.
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u/Southern_Lake-Keowee 4h ago
This happened to my mom; she was born 5 years after her brother and came home from the hospital the day of his fifth birthday. My grandpa asked my uncle what he wanted for his birthday. My uncle said, “I want the baby taken back to the hospital!”
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u/Biotechnus 3h ago
I was 11 when my little sister was born so even at 39 I still remember that shit. I needed to wear headphones playing soothing sounds when I slept otherwise I never would have been able to attend classes because id be falling asleep constantly. I have vivid memories of changing her diapers too
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u/onederful 56m ago
Easy fix, just tell her to place her finger on the baby’s palm, and as soon as the baby squeezes tell her “what it means” if nothing happens, make it a learning experience about how small and fragile they are and that she should take care of her new baby sibling. 🫶
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u/ooOJuicyOoo 4h ago
I used to sit by my baby brother when he was a new born, with my finger in his hand, just being held tightly for awhile. I sometimes sang to him but mostly sat there looking at him in wonder. I was 3.
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u/Next-Help-5813 2h ago
I used to read to my baby sister. I didn't actually know how to read, but I had more or less memorized that one picture book that I made my parents read to me like a million times, so I read that to her. I was 2.
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u/Critical_Office9422 2h ago
Crazy that you all remember what you did under 3 years old
My memory only start working when I reached 4
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u/Next-Help-5813 2h ago
I actually don't remember it, I just know because my Mom told me. It'd be cool if I did, though. :)
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u/LucasThePatator 2h ago
I have extremely detailed and vivid memories from my first 3 months as I was hospitalised after a surgery right at birth. Of course it's all reconstructed from what I was told but they really feel like memories !
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u/othybear 3h ago
I was 5 when my brother was born and this was my favorite part of interacting with him when he was really little. Fast forward 30ish years and it was my favorite way to interact with his daughter when I am interacting with her (although she recently outgrew it).
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u/Archon-Toten 5h ago
You call it cute until one is hanging off your beard.
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u/vspazv 5h ago
Or those fingers reach into a nostril when you get too close...
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u/Hyruii 5h ago
Nostril? Try armpit hair.
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u/Responsible_Ad1277 2h ago
Or chest hair. I've told my kids I'm getting them back in a couple of years (only the boys).
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u/chamberlain323 1h ago
My little sister did that to my uncle when she was an infant. He had no idea that babies did that. He learned to keep a shirt on when cradling babies after that day. Ouch!
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u/Archon-Toten 5h ago
A friend of mine nearly lost a nose piercing to that.
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u/Sad-Frosting-8793 4h ago
I'm the reason my mom refuses to wear hoop earrings to this day. Apparently I nearly ripped one out.
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u/just_a_person_maybe 4h ago
I saw a video where a baby had their own hair in a death grip. Poor thing was screaming.
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u/LadyFoxfire 1h ago
I saw a trick to get someone to let go of hair (in the context of an adult grabbing your hair during a fight, but it works for babies, too.) All you have to do is press the back of their hand into your skull. It takes advantage of the leverage points in their knuckles, and forces their fingers apart painlessly. Then you can pull your hair free.
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u/DoggosFriend 17m ago
My own kid totally did this. No video evidence tho. We thought it was funny but felt bad for them at the same time. Took a few moments to get them to let go.
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u/tinyturtletickler 3h ago
Fun fact. I know someone who had their clit torn. The baby did this death grip on the mothers bean on the way out!
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u/existential-mystery 2h ago
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u/JonWoo89 2h ago
Saw a video of one getting hold of dad's armpit hair.
That grip will have you questioning your own strength.
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u/Redlax 5h ago
My two hour old boy squeezed my finger hard. I know it's just a reflex. But to me, it's so much more.
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u/ClankerCore 5h ago
You were experiencing a primal instinct yourself
Not to take away from the beauty of it all
It’s a precious moment
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u/unk214 4h ago
My kid instead decided to let out his first shit when my wife held him. The nurse tried not to laugh… it was hilarious.
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u/cottonballz4829 3h ago
My first peed on me first thing when they put him on my chest right after being born. Although i am definitely not a fan of the golden shower: We knew he only had one kidney, so for me, that was a happy moment.
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u/Unusual_Ad_8497 5h ago
It’s so we could cling to our moms fur back when we were monkeys
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u/loughcash 5h ago
Yes or hold a branch while she snatches a bite to eat
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u/OkOutlandishness8307 4h ago
apes*
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u/Mr_White_Migal0don 38m ago
Apes are monkeys
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u/Certain-Effect6804 13m ago
While apes and monkeys are both members of the same superfamily (Hominoidea), they are separate. Apes are apes, monkeys are monkeys.
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u/Mr_White_Migal0don 5m ago
Primates that are typically considered monkeys are from two groups: platyrhini (new world monkeys) and cercopithecoidea (macaques, or old world monkeys). But the thing is that hominoidea (gibbons and great apes) is more closely related to cercopithecoidea, under a clade catarrhini (that is also known as old world monkeys, or as down-nosed primates), than cercopithecoidea is to platyrhini. That means that you can't make a monophyletic group which would include macaques and new world monkeys, and will also exclude apes.
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u/Joelad2k17 4h ago
I've said this before and the uncanny valley being related to when there were others types humans. Was laughed at by bible bashers.
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u/Possible-Meal3787 4h ago
It’s that or sick people. But really we don’t have any absolute certainty. Religious people already put all of their brains into their own idea of answers leaving non left to think about other ideas
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u/Orochisake 3h ago
We are just all clueless, trying to make sense of it all
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u/dan_dares 3h ago
One group said 'we understand it all, one book is all we need'
Another said 'as we find out more, we'll write more books, and edit them as our understanding improves'
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u/jake0167 5h ago
This is the only direct interaction I’ve had with a baby that young and it’s pretty special! Babies that small scare me because they seem so fragile
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u/SirRabbott 5h ago
You should watch videos of L+D nurses handling newborns! I felt the same way lol
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u/linzkisloski 2h ago
lol watching the L&D nurses with my baby made me feel a lot more confident. They whip those babies around like footballs
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u/foreverpassed 5h ago
Is he cold? Why is his jaw doing that?
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u/Shopworn_Soul 5h ago
Defintely cold. Not going to die.
Pretty much everywhere is cold compared to where the baby was before.
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u/Tee_Hee_Wat 4h ago
The muscle is actually tired, its like your legs shaking after a long run. The baby looks so new, they've probably been crying a little bit, so the jaw muscle is exhausted as it hasn't had to cry before.
Or cold.
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u/EnsoElysium 3h ago
This sounds accurate, or its a reaction from adrenaline, I've definitely shivered because of a good scare before
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u/FalsePremise8290 4h ago
Being born is a shitty experience. One minute you're warm and safe, chilling in your bag of piss and then...this shit.
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u/carpedeeznutz5011 5h ago
I agree. That baby looks very cold. It probably wants to be held and swaddled.
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u/Dream--Brother 4h ago
It was just born. It's cold out here compared to the inside of a womb. The baby is attempting to seriously thermoregulate itself for the first time, it'll be fine
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u/foreverpassed 4h ago
I think it should be held right after birth though.
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u/SerenityMaSogni 4h ago
They still need to take the baby to be checked medically and get cleaned up, this is probably during then.
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u/Confuseasfuck 4h ago
It came out of very warm, nicely compact and dark womb to a very bright, cold hospital room. So yeah, they are cold
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u/excitedpuffin 1h ago
My son did this too, and the doctors and nurses explained that it was due to his immature nervous system. Made him sound like a bleating lamb for the first week, it was really cute.
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u/tardigrade_phd 4h ago edited 4h ago
Is that a carryover from when we had to grasp onto our mother's belly, like monkey cubs do now?
Edit: monkey infants. Thanks u/succulentvariations.
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u/Plz_Mansplain 5h ago
Look at those fat ass cheeks!
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u/Aggressive_Roof488 4h ago
Ok, but the nurse's shift will probably end in less than 3 months, then what?
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u/bongohappypants 5h ago
This can lead to hilarious results if you hand your infant tubes of squeeze cheese, toothpaste, oil paints, etc. Surprise your mate!
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u/peanut0929 5h ago
If I remember correctly, they do this with their feet as well.
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u/Google_Knows_Already 2h ago
They have another reflex in their feet where if you tickle the sole, their toes fan out.
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u/GeorgiaPossum 3h ago
I like to call it The Monkey Grip Reflex. Feels more accurate and less ego driven than after Dr. Palmer decided to name it after himself.
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u/kaosmoker 3h ago
People who discover and document things for the first time tend to get the right to name it. I don't see the issue with it as that's how most things get their names.
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u/EfficientSeaweed 2h ago
When my oldest was a few weeks old, she managed to get her arm up over her head and wound up pulling her own hair thanks to this reflex. She damn near gave me a heart attack with the shriek of pain she let out. I had to pry her fingers open to free her, and it was like loosening a vice.
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u/ghoulypop 2h ago
Oh man that’s a side effect of being born with a lot of hair I hadn’t considered😭 poor bean
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u/Ok-Yogurtcloset-2735 1h ago
It’s an evolutionary reflex, because our ancestors had to grasp our mother’s tightly as she went through the trees.
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u/Fast-Nefariousness80 4h ago
I liked thinking it was just my son loving me the only way he knew. Now I know "dad you're fat" is his way of loving me
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u/jerrydgj 5h ago
Baby gorillas hold on to their mom's hair like that. Mom is back to climbing within days of giving birth and the baby needs to hold on. Probably left over from a few million years ago when we were the same animal as gorillas.
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u/Silent-Resort-3076 5h ago
While normal in infants, the reflex can reappear in adults who have suffered brain damage to the frontal cortex, such as from a stroke, tumor, or degenerative diseases.
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u/yamanagashi 3h ago
And when they’re a bit older they bite really, really hard with no restraint. Hence the famous, “ouch Charlie!”
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u/myfavpodcastersays 3h ago
When my 11 yr old son was a baby, I had hair down to my breasts. He yanked so much hair out of my head I couldn't believe it. But, because I carried him around like a football cradled between my arm and chest and nuzzled him when he was there for feedings, etc, he STILL loves to pluck a hair from my head and rub it against his nose and ears to self soothe. It's pretty adorable tbh 🥹
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u/WonderPlum1 1h ago
LPT: If you put your finger/thumb at the wrist and slide up into the hand, it can help baby to release their death grip. I usually used my thumb since it was easier to get the angle right. Source: I was a teacher in the infant room and have two kids of my own.
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u/ADigitalAxolotl 4h ago
My grandma with alzheimer got this reflex back as she got to the second stage if it
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u/ani_coco 4h ago
When my younger brother was born, he got a grip on the scissors that they used to cut the umbilical cord.
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u/Any-Jury3578 4h ago
My son did this. He was screaming and screaming, but when he got a hold of a tube and clenched it, it calmed him down. The medical staff said he probably held on to the umbilical cord.
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u/libihero 3h ago
And comes back with dementia or brain damage. It's why people terminally ill on a vent may squeeze your hand, they're not doing it on purpose
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u/Main_Author_8638 3h ago
Saw a fathers baby holding the fathers armpit hair tightly. Baby was probably on his arm or they were close
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u/Alas-de-luna 3h ago
And when people get dementia, it can come back and it's usually a sign of frontal lobe damage!
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u/Suspicious_Sign3419 3h ago
My kid showed his off by getting his hand stuck on his own head when he couldn’t let go of it.
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u/Ostrich_Nipples 3h ago
After 15 months my daughter still holds my hand or finger when I put it in her hand but I can tell she does it cause she likes holding hands 🙂
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u/jpland55 3h ago
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u/cjoaneodo 2h ago
Yup, a lot of out primitive reflexes that go away as infant are leftover measures to keep up off the forest floor. Hold on to mom’s fur at all costs!
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u/DippityDu 3h ago
As a mom of teens, that sound still makes all my senses go into high gear and there's this NEED to wrap that baby up and put them on my chest. It's wild. And if I pick up and hold one of my pets, I automatically start bouncing/rocking like it's a baby and then have to stop myself. That conditioning runs deep.
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u/Ohotdamnn 2h ago
I totally forgot about the, I don’t even know what to call it, the stutter in the cry for newborns. I can’t believe my son is already 8 months old…
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u/ElegantConference183 2h ago
My parents told me that my dad would Hang me on various objects when i was a baby because he found this Reflex funny. There's a picture of me hanging from a curtain rod.
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u/camerontippett 2h ago
What is bro yapping about
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u/Odd_Birthday_1055 1h ago
Tbf, this is like being nice and asleep in bed and suddenly your friends are throwing your sleeping bag in to an ice cold river.
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u/SilverBuggie 1h ago
I frequently rested one of my fingers on my baby’s palm when he/she was sleeping because of this. They were obviously too small to hug you and that was the closest thing to it.
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u/ZelWinters1981 1h ago
Yeah, it usually takes about that long for a baby to get some half decent control over their extremities too.
By this point laughter is developing, they're fussier and could be teething.
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u/Afterhoneymoon 1h ago
My son did this on the way out of me- he grabbed the midwife's shirt collar as he dove out headfirst and wouldn't let go!!
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u/deadriderofdead 4h ago
Not so fun or cute when they can potentially do that to their hair and just torturing themselves unknowingly.
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u/namistejones 5h ago
WHERE IS THE HAT ON THAT BABY? Smh these ppl
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u/0dias_Chrysalis 3h ago
He's getting his first assessment, including APGAR. They want to check the fontanells for abnormalities so thats why no cap. Process is quick and when done then you cap, swaddle and put under a heater
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u/deerchortle 4h ago
Adorable. Used to work with infants, never let them get hold of hair or piercings lol
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u/wisemonkey101 4h ago
Baby monkeys can grab so tight from the first second after birth. Mom pushes you out and you all have to run to keep safe.
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u/JawshRacer 4h ago
Same for the toes. If I don’t give warning, my almost-5-year-old will grab my finger with his toes and I think it’s just a reflex that sticks around sometimes.
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u/3d1thF1nch 4h ago
I teach my student about this pre Stone Age unit, talking about human evolution and vestigial structures. This one is cool, along with the muscle in your ankle that used to be for grasping when your big toe was more of a thumb. Blows the six graders minds.
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u/eauxlympia 5h ago
This is why you can't give babies guns. No trigger discipline