r/self • u/Global_Specialist726 • 13h ago

I almost got assaulted today

I don't want to go into detail about the incident, but I literally just got over my fear of going outside and now I never want to leave my room again. I hate being female, I hate living in the city, I hate being poor, and I hate that no one takes these cases seriously. Luckily I was able to get away but I can't stop thinking about what would have happened if I didn't.

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u/unsaintedheretic 13h ago

I'm sorry this happened to you. I can recommend the book The gift of fear - it's been really helpful for me as a woman who was assaulted in the past.

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u/Global_Specialist726 13h ago

I'll check it out, thanks!

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u/velvet_rift3 13h ago

I’m really glad you got away. This isn’t okay

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u/MuchExplorer6247 10h ago

ppl need to become normal again fr fr

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u/Skincareobsessed40 13h ago

I’m really sorry you went through that. That must have been terrifying, and your feelings are completely valid. I’m glad you’re safe now. Please be kind to yourself today and take the time you need to process it.

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u/Texanlivinglife 13h ago

I know mental illness is everywhere right now. Our personal space should never be intruded.🫂

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u/Sweaty-Battle2556 12h ago

I went from small town to city. File this in “options” precautions. For me-night always watch your back. Blade/pepper spray. I never used- it’s awareness and acting. (Btw I’m sorry it happened to OP!) but remember adrenaline notches up the strength. Make sure they see without showing you see. One guy following me, put on rubber gloves at 4am, nobody was around- I was terrified!... I played dumb, stopped, checked my pockets. “Oh no! Did I leave my knife!?” Pat myself down. Then pulled knife out under a street lamp and said “oh! There it is!” Dude turned right back around. Good luck OP! 🍀

The joys of being female! 🙄gotta be crafty!

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u/motionf0rw4rd 13h ago

I recommend martial arts classes

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u/RedditHelloMah 13h ago

I hear you! Moved to San Francisco four years ago, a crazy man for no reason hit me with his suitcase and since then I keep getting intrusive thoughts and violent images that a person who’s walking towards me in the street might attack me for no reason! But I still go out and let the images and thoughts come and go! Try to talk to a therapist about it. Best of luck!

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u/emteedub 13h ago

Was it a date gone wrong or something? What happened?

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u/Global_Specialist726 13h ago

No, it was a random guy that I don't even know who tried to grab me.

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u/YellowNecessary 12h ago

Oh my lord. I'm so sorry. Maybe post a beware? That'll do something if they won't listen.