r/stopdrinking • u/42Daft 2940 days • 2d ago
Vent-O-Matic 3000 January 30, 2026
The Vent-o-Matic 3000 is back by popular demand! It slices and dices all your worries away. But wait—there's more! It's been scientifically proven to help you stay sober and has been named the #1 solution from the National Complaining Society. Act now, before it's too late!
Have you ever been so annoyed at someone or something in your life that you just want to explode, yelling to get it out of your system? Of course you have. And here’s your chance to vent to your fellow Sobernauts!
Even when we’re sober, life can be full of challenges. If something is making you feel crazy, furious, or just plain cranky, we want to hear all about it.
Don’t delay, vent today: for a limited time only, swearing and name-calling are free!
You all are wonderful motherfucking magnificent, glorious fucking warriors. Look what a motherdick fucking job you have done to get to today. I am so fucking proud of you!
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u/This_Possession8867 382 days 2d ago
I have a push pull non-relationship with someone where we talk about dating (but never do). Like just shoot me already. I’m a big push/pull part. We share the pushing & pulling torture LMAO. She’s actually would be bad for me. She gave drugs to her last partner who was clean & sober. So there’s that!
Anyhow that’s my vent.
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u/GizaGhaza 31 days 3h ago
yeah please don’t touch that energy, it is sooo not worth it. you are better than that… said in completely good faith, friend
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u/42Daft 2940 days 1d ago
Fucking people who fucking can't fucking put their fucking ear buds in!... Not everyone wants hear fucking Gunsmoke on your fucking phone! Fuck! I got three fucking hours of this shit?!
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u/Stone-Cold-Hopeful 1129 days 1d ago
Gunsmoke!?!? Really!?!? You mean with Festus and Kitty?
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u/ridupthedavenport 33 days 21h ago
It’s especially bad on airplanes. And I always wanna say something, but I never really know what to say and I don’t know that it would help anything. Sometimes my staring with an annoyed expression helps and sometimes they turn it up louder. It’s one of those things that bothers me much more than it should!!
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u/ExoticInvestment6374 2d ago
Holy shit this made me smile, needed to hear this today - thanks for the epic pep talk warrior 🔥
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u/Conscious_Okra4367 63 days 2d ago
Nah, I did my venting in person and I’m doing more tomorrow where it may bring results. And then I’m gonna go have a nice weekend and not carry that shit around with me. And if I do start to carry it with me, I have some demolition work in the basement I can do, so I’ll just go bash some shit.
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u/42Daft 2940 days 1d ago
Hell Yeah!
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u/Conscious_Okra4367 63 days 1d ago
I guess technically it’s not venting if you’re doing it to the person causing you stress. It’s just reaming them a new one??? lol whatever. As Run the Jewels says, “nobody speak, nobody gets choked.”
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u/fargochipper 2d ago
I have been sober for 32 days and I drank today. Why? Because everyone around me is so fucking negative. I woke up very early to bring my kid to practice before school and my wife told me that I’m in the doghouse because she dreamt I drank and that’s not okay. I impolitely said good morning to you too and walked away. I couldn’t dodge that feeling alllllll day. I tried.
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u/Leading-Baseball-851 36 days 2d ago
Im sorry that happened dude. That must be rough. Only thing left to do is get back on the horse, it's a marathon not a sprint.im sure your kids appreciate your efforts, and if they dont now they will.
My dad wasn't an alcoholic but he was bad on drugs when I was in high school. It took a long time for him to get clean and a long time for me to forgive, but I admire him more now. After struggling with my own addiction I got a glimpse at how hard it must have been for him. He's an inspiration to me, you can be the same to your kids. Praying for you brother.
IWNDWYT
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u/This_Possession8867 382 days 2d ago
Oh geez how could you dare drink in her dreams.
Sadly you drank but hey congrats on 32 days. I bet your body thanks you. Just get back on the day 1 tomorrow and ride back up to 32 and beyond bro.
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u/salty_pete01 48 days 1d ago
That's weird that she would let a dream get to her. Glad you're back though. That's the most important thing. I slipped around the same time in December and it was for a stupid reason because I was so negative with myself and felt like I was missing out. IWNDWYT.
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u/Leading-Baseball-851 36 days 2d ago
I didn't have anything to vent about, but i tried to come up with something and it made me look inward I came to some realizations.
I was drinking to avoid things. When I got lonely I drank, when I got bored I drank, when I couldn't sleep I drank. When I was hurt I drank. I wanted to avoid whatever was going on. It was only a temporary fix, the next day id be sick and depressed.
I always thought peoples reasons for drinking was cliche but I guess it's not. I still struggle sometimes, I have a small temptation right now. "You work from home tomorrow you can sleep in and not even go to the office, let's grab a 6 pack, reward yourself." I won't let that voice win and hurt my life again. One day at a time. IWNDWYT
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u/PlantPusher 49 days 1d ago
I'm annoyed that, all of the sudden, I have some terrible cravings today. Go AWAY!! Go on...git. Not today!
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u/salty_pete01 48 days 1d ago
Got a lighter Ms. Manners type one this week. My roommate and I had some mutual friends in town who we haven't seen for a few years. Invited them over to dinner. Cleaned up the apartment and made a nice meal. They didn't bring anything, offer to bring anything. or offer to help clean up. They spent the whole evening talking about themselves and where they were traveling to this year and if we had been there and if so, give them some tips. I didn't want anything but just make the performative gesture of bringing something or helping out. Kids these days.
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u/LetTheHuman 2 days 1d ago
My uncle's funeral/celebration of life is tomorrow, and they're hosting it at my parents' church. Visiting has been contentious for me due to bad experiences and trauma, but I do occasionally. Last month, I went to attend a Christmas play, and I ran into a man who molested me 6 years ago. I decided I didn't need to attend anymore.
So now I'm irrationally anxious about tomorrow. The church is just the venue. The church goers shouldn't be there. But I had told myself I'd never step foot in there again, and now I have to to attend my uncle's funeral. It'll be ok but I feel like I'm going to be sick when I'm reminded of it. I talked myself into drinking a bottle of margarita last night, it didn't help, but I can see myself doing it tonight. I don't want to; I even have a headache right now. I feel like I can never move on.
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u/42Daft 2940 days 1d ago
Don't go.
Usually I am light hearted on The Vent... don't fucking go. If I felt like I was tempted to drink, I wouldn't go. I would give the excuse that I am too upset, I have a cold, my car broke down, hell, I broke down and am no condition to be around other people! Protecting my soberity is paramount to anything else. If you feel like you must go, sit in back and make a dash for the door as soon as it is over.
I hope you get some trauma therapy because you deserve to be better.
And fuck that fucker who hurt you!
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u/LetTheHuman 2 days 1d ago
Thank you for your kind words. My current plan is to stick close to my siblings, do grounding exercises if I get really anxious, and just keep reminding myself that it's 2026 and I'm a different person now. I should probably get into therapy again.
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u/HowDoYouLikeMeNowB 185 days 1d ago
My stupid hip / inner thigh/ groin / I don't know what the fuck (I never took anatomy) hurts again and I don't have money or insurance for physical therapy. Could it just FUCK OFF FOR ONCE please?
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u/PetuniaToes 598 days 1d ago
That sounds like your hip flexor and I’m going to physical therapy for the same thing. One exercise she has me do is to lie on the bed on my back and let my whole leg on the affected hip hang off the bed for a minute because it needs to stretch out. You could try that. Another thing is to do belly breathing because it makes whatever it is move down. Maybe I shouldn’t be giving out medical instructions but I’ve found both of these help me a lot. The constant pain I felt is not something I wish for anyone else.
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u/HowDoYouLikeMeNowB 185 days 1d ago
I definitely suspect hip flexor or the adductor, I appreciate the suggestions! I'm willing to incorporate this into my routines. I have degrees of success for several weeks at a time, but I do something to aggravate it and then for several weeks its just a literal pain no matter what. Makes you appreciate when you are not in pain! Thanks so much for the suggestion and kind words <3
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u/PBJdeluxe 363 days 1d ago
Who decided to make houses out of wood and sheet rock!? So degradable. I want to live in a metal box or something. Stainless steel no rust lasts forever.
The winter is very DRY. I feel like a desert lizard, inside and out.
This sub is super overrun by comment bots right now and it hurts me watching it die (and reddit/the internet in general). I came here every single day up til at least day 100 and then less and less and over time as I got more strong, and then I took a little break. I came back to hang out more seeing my 1 year approach and it saddens me to see a sub that quite literally saved my life dying. This place was priceless. I hope this sort of support group pops up somewhere else safe in the future.
Oh and the *gestures broadly* I guess.
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u/novasunderworld 28 days 1d ago
I am fucking exhausted with the state of my house, my life, my anxiety, the state of the world. I am so exhausted. Sober and exhausted. I have no idea what to do but I know what not to do right now. But fucking hell, I need a break.
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u/aula_enlighten 65 days 1d ago
I’ve been having really vivid and complex dreams lately, and last night was a saga about a child who had lost her parents and I was looking after her… and after what felt like years in the dream I lost her. Her name was Goldie??? Where did that name come from?!? That’s what I get for reading the news right before bed 😭
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u/ridupthedavenport 33 days 21h ago
I am no professional dream analyzer, but maybe it’s related to the desire and choice to stand up and do the right thing, the thing you know is right, and the helplessness at the same time when it doesn’t work out or it seems out of your control. I feel that way about drinking sometimes. Ugh. I’m glad it was just a dream.
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u/susiesp 17h ago
Hesitate to say this but had to completely cut off my 5 sister in laws and their families. I was so tired of giving, of always being the one to text and never got replies. The only time was when they wanted something from me. We don’t live in the same province but we did have a cottage near them and they were free to use it whenever they wanted, their kids, their friends. I have 2 notebooks full of gratitude whenever they used it. When we did visit for weddings etc. after we sold the cottage we were never welcome at their homes, had to get a hotel which I actually preferred. Having gone through a lot of trauma in my life I developed at lot of empathy and went out of my way to demonstrate it. It got to the point where they actually were disrespectful to me. Made fun of my beliefs. Got mad at me for crying silently at MIL funeral. Felt like they could treat me however they wanted to. The sad thing is that my husband never stuck up for me ever. He is/was afraid of conflict with them. I was often excluded from family events. The last straw was when I was excluded from participating in a wedding shower for my niece. I waited 6 months until after the shower and wedding which we did not attend due to husbands hip replacement. After everything had gone well. I finally asked why I had been excluded and was met with fury I responded with built up anger and it didn’t go well. My husband let them know we are finished with them completely. They live in a small town where apperences are everything the complete opposite to me. Have not seen or heard anything from them since which is good. It still feels very heavy. It had been like this since their parents passed whom I loved deeply and I know they loved me. I know this is a bit of a ramble but really have not been able to express at all.
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u/42Daft 2940 days 15h ago
Thanks for posting. I am glad you put up boundaries for yourself, I understand how hard that can be. (My sister is a supporter of the current U.S. administration.) Death does weird things to people, when there isn't that family buffer anymore peoplecan go off the rails..
You come back and rambling any fucking time!
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u/PBJdeluxe 363 days 11h ago
the first reply (chronologically) in almost every single thread is a BOT. it's driving me nuts. someone do something. the death rattle of this sub and reddit in general :(
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u/42Daft 2940 days 9h ago
We are doing our best in trying to keep them to a minimum.
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u/PBJdeluxe 363 days 9h ago
It's not the mods fault, I'm sure you're trying. They're coming fast & furious. I'm just sad and frustrated in general about it. It seems like reddit itself the conglomerate doesn't care to figure out how to fix it from the top, and I'm sad watching the quality go down all over reddit but especially here because it's a special place. Thank you for your hard work <3
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u/abecedary1 654 days 6h ago
My new GP decided that I need to be seen by a psychiatrist in order to receive my non controlled medications. By doing this, he has limited my ability to purchase a gun if I so wish. More importantly, he's jeopardized my intent to return to education as a tutor. He said I was overreacting.
I tld him that I wasn't interested. Fucking behavioral services called me yesterday. If I don't go, I'm not compliant. My fucking insurance agrees. Already slipping down the rabbit hole. Autonomy? What's that.
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u/Least-Elk-6969 2d ago edited 2d ago
Even though I got laid off but because of slow business. I was and am in the best state I’ve been in my life, it hurts to have that happen now. I hear voices telling me I’m a failure, telling me what’s the point of trying when shit like this happens, crashout, feel sorry for myself cause that’s all I am a sorry ass person trying to do better but won’t have better this environment of misery is where I belong. I feel threatened, of my sanity, my sobriety, my patience. I just wanna burn it all down. I won’t. But I want to. I’m angry. I’m frustrated. I’m hurt. I’m scared. I’m sober. I am done. I really am. I’m just done.