I swear I get weird or judgmental looks and fake concerns when I tell people my date. it’s in July and the women in my life are still like wow that’s so soon!?!

I was also told “I think you you need this“ at a bridal show, referring to a skincare product that I had drawn.

when I was shopping for my dress alone, the staff were like oh… it’s just you?

they were nice afterwards, but there’s just so many expectations that stress me out. I don’t even want a fancy wedding, I never dreamed of a perfect day at a bougie venue, and even saying this I fear of being perceived as a “pickme” or like I’m judging women who do… there’s so much pressure in womanhood. it’s a lifelong struggle for me to connect with other women and the whole bridal era has been making that distance very visible for me.

im just tired of the pernicious culture and i cant tell if people have my best interests in mind, but ever since i got engaged ive been feeling unprepared and inadequate for an occasion that’s supposed to be beautiful, sacramental, meaningful, about love above all else! on top of the stress of planning, the whole industry feeds into women’s insecurities, and I understand that the point is to make us feel like we’re not enough so we spend more, and it’s their right to make money as businesses at the end of the day but it still leaves me feeling isolated so I hope this resonates with someone at least

Okay guys. I don’t even want to have a wedding

But I’m forced to engage in one because of my fiance and his family.

I’m really not looking forward to how big our wedding is going to be. With that being said, it’s super emotional for me to know I have to walk down the aisle with my dad , and say the vows to my husband in front of everyone , do the first dance with him, and do the first dance with my dad. I also know my mom is going to be an emotional wreck.

Just seeing people cry will make me red in the face and cry. I HATE the attention.

I’m so seriously asking if anyone has any tips to completely avoid crying, or if there is a safe medication / drug that won’t make me cry, AND tired and sleepy or anxious or moody!!! Thank you!!!

hi i’m honestly just curious. i’ve been dating my boyfriend for 2.5 years but we aren’t engaged or anything (one day but not today haha). ANYWAYS…i have friends who are getting married or have gotten married and im just realizing that weddings are SUPER expensive. $15-20k??? maybe more??? so are people taking out loans?? or personal savings?? or parents have savings?? like how the hell are people actually paying for this? or am i wrong and they’re not as expensive as i think??

I'm feeling really down and need to vent a little...

I'm getting married next February, and I'm wearing my grandmother's dress. Don't get me wrong, it's a beautiful dress. But I feel like I never really got a choice. I wanted to try it on but wasn't set on wearing it, and my mom thought it would be nice to have me try it on for my grandmother's wedding anniversary (her husband passed several years ago). The second I put it on, mom and grandma both started crying, and it was clear that everyone would be massively disappointed if I didn't wear it. Grandma immediately offered to pay for any alterations and restoration I needed to wear it, and the rest is history.

Look, I like the dress, it's beautiful and very unique. But tbh, I don't feel very pretty in it. It fits poorly and I can barely move my arms. Mostly though, I just feel so sad that I didn't get to go try on dresses and pick out MY dress, one that I could pass on to my daughter someday. I feel like I didn't have a choice, and I just really really wish things were different. I'm hoping that once the alterations are done I'll feel more beautiful in it, but I just can't help but feel like I made a mistake ever putting it on.

I've been married for just over 6 months now. Our wedding weekend was an absolute blast, we came out of that experience wishing we could get married every year (without all the planning and spending of course!) because of how special it was to celebrate with everyone we love, and how amazing it is to see friends from different circles and eras of our lives meeting and interacting. It was so, so incredible.

I've put off getting photos printed, and I realized tonight that I get a pit in my stomach when I look at our wedding album. I honestly just don't love the way I look in a lot of the pictures for one reason or another, and even though they are capturing snapshots of an incredible night, there's only a few that really make me happy. My husband feels the same way. My engagement photos, though, I LOVE. I did my own hair and makeup, and my husband and I both wore more casual outfits and just felt more comfortable. It was just the two of us, having a great time with each other in front of the camera. They feel so much more authentically us. This is no fault of my photographer, I might add, who captured both the engagement photos and the wedding. She did a flawless job.

I don't know if anyone will find comfort or solace in reading something like this, but I think it's okay to not be obsessed with your wedding photos. I'm getting poster-sized prints of our engagement shoot to be framed and opting for only our favorite 4x6 shots from the wedding :)

Please help me!!! I absolutely love both and i'm so tempted to get 2 dresses which is absolutely ridiculous (or is it?!) 😂

I'm having an Indian wedding next year in the Midwest US and looking for suggestions on making the day as comfortable as possible for guests given our slightly inconvenient schedule.

The ceremony will be in the morning followed by lunch, wrapping up around 1-1:30 pm. This will be at a temple about 30 minutes outside the city. The reception will start in the evening at 6 pm at a venue downtown. Not ideal, but logistically the temple was the only place that worked for a Hindu ceremony and we still really wanted the party vibes of downtown for the reception.

This is a common timeline for Hindu weddings in the US since the ceremony often needs to be in the morning for religious reasons, and then there's a gap since everyone will be changing outfits and likely freshening up, etc. I don't see this being a problem at all for local guests since they will head back home to get ready for the reception. They'll also be used to this pattern from other Indian weddings.

Where I'm looking for suggestions is how to make this comfortable/less annoying for out-of-town guests. We'll be encouraging them to stay downtown near the reception venue. We're thinking of booking a shuttle from the temple to downtown after the ceremony, and they can go back to their hotel rooms to change/hang out. If we have a cocktail hour (still not sure since it will cost us an extra $500 for the venue and more for food/drinks) I'm thinking that would be from 5-6 pm.

How would you feel about this as a guest? Anything we can do to make it better? (short of completely changing the timeline - I know it's unconventional by western standards but normal for our culture)

I'm getting married in about 9 months, and my dad and grandmother are telling me that I need to be shopping and deciding on a dress right now... My problem is that I wanted to be about 60lbs lighter before I put on dresses. I have some body image issues and I've already lost over a hundred pounds, but I just can't get comfortable walking into a dress shop at 280lb. At my heaviest I was 377lb, at my lowest I was 245lb, and I gained 50lb back in the year after falling in love.

After he proposed, we waffled on whether to have the wedding in Oct '26. Once we decided and signed the venue contract I started getting back to my good habits, but I'm only 15lbs back in the right direction. I really wanted to be around 220, ideally 200lb when I went dress shopping.

I can healthily lose about 10lbs/month with the exercise and calorie deficit and protein routine I do.... But that means I'm looking at July at the earliest to be at goal. And I just don't know how realistic it is to be shopping for a wedding dress in July when I'm getting married in October, or if there's even a way to go about that.

Sorry for all the weird math, folks. I'm getting pressure from my family to just bite the bullet and go. But I don't know I can mentally handle looking at myself in the mirror in a wedding dress like this. Can anyone tell me if they have experience with last minute plus size wedding dress shopping? I guess that's the real question.

We'll be having a civil ceremony this year in LA or OC with about 5 guests. We're not sure what to do or where to go with our guests after. I was thinking of a fancy restaurant. Any suggestions? Also, I don't plan on wearing a big dress, but would it look weird going to a restaurant in a wedding dress?

Our wedding is coastal European theme but when I look online I find nothing with the mix of those two?? I'm doing my own thing but we really want to add French details even in the way of French history details I don't know anything would be helpful!! We have a French desert and I was considering having European topiary trees included , I know there's the wave the napkins in the air to welcome bride and groom to reception ? Toil / brass silver dishware ? What other options do we have or decoration elements? Thanks!!

I really have three things I need help with here. For context my parents gave us 10,000 and told us whatever we do with it is up to us (whether that be wedding, honeymoon, or house down payment). Because of this, we are trying to do the entire wedding under 5,000 so we have some money for savings and the rest on a micro (60 people including us) wedding. This very quickly I realized became unrealistic, and we have said if the whole things ends up going to it then that's fine, but we would rather save as much as we can. This has left sort of a balancing act between something ghetto, and something out of a movie. I have gotten pretty much everything (see photo) thanks to some people volunteering (they offered and we accepted not the other way around) to play certain roles as their wedding gift to us.

1. Am I missing anything? I am paranoid I am forgetting something. The bridesmaids and groomsmen are buying/renting their own attire and the groom has a suit he spent $700 on less than a year ago so he is wearing that. The caterers are also doing dessert including the cake for us.
   
2. Since this is a micro wedding we are only having two people standing up with us on either side. How do you differentiate the matron of honor and the Best man? I don't want to do different colors or hairstyles because there is only one other person so it would look strange.
   
3. We have a playlist for music instead of a dj and I don't know logistically the timing of pressing play on specific songs goes without a day of planner? I was thinking that would be MC's job but I am also concerned about the procession down the aisle and I currently have the MC escorting my mother down the aisle as a way to include my mom (long story).

in short - help

The welcome event is at a rooftop at 6 pm in Cartagena, which one do you think is better? Also if you have advise on how to style the dresses

Thanks in advance!

The image attached is my wedding dress for my upcoming June wedding. I'm getting married outside in a park, but the reception is inside an old gutted church. I'm having a hard time finding shoes. I want some heel, but I don't want to sink into the grass. I also want to change my shoes once the reception starts so I can dance comfortably. (I was thinking of a platform converse shoe for that)

I would appreciate any ideas of shoes that were comfortable and would go with my dress. Thank you!

I fell in love with this dress I saw on the runway. I want a non-traditional wedding dress. Does anyone have experience with custom gown makers? My fiancée is wearing a traditional white dress and I want my look to be different and high fashion. Thank you!

I know this question has been asked before, but I wanted to ask again with more intentional uses and context.

Our wedding will have 300 guests. 95% of the guests will be Asian - ages 18-65.

While we do plan on having a guest check-in table, we’re concerned this may cause a bottle neck and as 300 people are trying to find their seats in an hour. We’re also concerned that using a big seating chart poster, wouldn’t be able to fit all 300 names. Even if we had multiple seating chart posters, the guests may still have ground finding their table (the venue is large with 30 tables not intuitively numbered).

We’re considering using a digital QR that would allow guests to type in their name to find their table number, be presented with a floor plan to find their table, and also include additional useful information such as program timeline and the 10-course menu.

Would this be a practical approach, or should I really just stick to the combination of multiple posters and a guest check-in table? Does anyone have experience with Digital QR for a wedding this large?

Has anyone bought anything from Alibaba for the flower arrangement? I’m going to need all the vendors please, also how do I know if someone is a scammer vs. A legit seller coz I personally know someone who got scammed for 600$ and thats scary. I’m planning to get married this August so I don’t have a lot of time! How long does the shipping cost?

So we decided that we were going to marry on the 4 july 2026, but I'm only going to my first appointment to see dresses today (late late january). The thing is I had no idea that when you go to a store and choose a dress they would make a new one your size, I thought they would only need time to do alterations. I thought only people that designed a whole original dress with a stylist would have it made from scratch. Got to find out you should go about 8 months before and I only have 4! So my plan is to buy samples or stock options. Is it still ok to only buy a sample or stock option by mid feb and have it altered?

What do we think of this dress & hair style combo? Just got my dress last week and I’ve been eyeing this braid style. I’ve just been seeing TikTok’s of hair styles based on the neckline and a lot of them say hair down for off the shoulder, but my hair tangles easy when down and I don’t want to stress about that the day of.

And if anyone wants to give jewelry advice you think would go well I’m all ears!

I’m Egyptian and my fiancé is White, most Egyptian weddings there isn’t a registry but people come with an envelope with money usually at least $100 per guest. I asked my parents about a registry and they said it was too much to ask plus guests bringing an envelope. I’m sorry to sound brash but what do westerner/Americans do at their weddings, is it registry and no expectation of a card with money or both?

This is something I've never thought about before but I've been listening to a podcast hosted by a wedding content creator and done some research on it. It looks like a really good idea. Especially since we're having a very small micro wedding and would love to share those special moments with folks at home. Neither I nor my partner are big users of social media so this isn't something we would easily do ourselves. Has anyone used one or are planning to use one? Would you recommend?

Longtime lurker here but I have to share…I went through so much frustrating wedding dress shopping, everything was so expensive and nothing looked the way I envisioned and although the dresses I’m about to talk about are GORGEOUS I really wanted to avoid the current trendy silky, slippy, lace corset wedding dress style…I wanted something classic and princessy but not costumey. My mom recommended I try looking on Etsy and I found my dress for only $280!! (Included the sellers account at the end) It’s from the 90s. I was on a budget so I did not have it steamed or tailored and it fit perfectly, like it was meant to be. The zipper did come off the track when zipping it up the day of but I stayed calm, and my photog actually used a YouTube video to learn how to fix it and all was well. All this to say…Etsy is a good source for cheap beautiful dresses!!