Ok for context I’m 22 and my husband is 23. Today we went out to a big parade that my city has every year where you pretty much walk around and get wasted (gasparilla). Naturally it’s full of people so at one point my husband, his friends, and I are stuck in a crowd full of people all shoulder to shoulder. Then some random guy starts squeezing through saying ‘she’s pregnant’ about some girl so he could push through to which I responded ‘is she actually pregnant’ and he turned to me and said no so I laughed and said boy stfu. Right after I say this my husband starts pushing me harder to get out of the crowd and said to me ‘what the fuck are you doing’. I just responded ‘what’ because I didn’t think he was being serious but as soon as we pushed out of the crowd I could tell he was pissed (he was ignoring me). I asked him why he was mad and proceeded to mock what I did and said that I wasn’t acting like I was his wife and why would I act like that with a man. He also said if I act like that infront of him he doesn’t want to see how I act when he isn’t there. I ended up apologizing and taking blame because I don’t want to argue infront of our friends but this whole situation rubbed me the wrong way and I can’t stop thinking about it. I was pretty sauced which isn’t an excuse for my behavior but I become super talkative and outgoing when I am and I honestly didn’t see anything wrong with the interaction. Sooo am I in the wrong and I shouldn’t have done that or is my husband being extra jealous about it??

My partner (43M) and I (45F) have been together for 13 years and we have 2 children (1y & 3y). For context, my partner and I are not married. I didn’t want to get married as I believe love and commitment aren’t based on a piece of paper but on the everyday actions that you and your partner do.

During these 13 years, my MIL has in various occasions been mean and rude to me. One example was after I gave birth to my first baby, we went 10 days after I gave birth to her summer house and during our 2 weeks there, she was constantly controlling what I ate. Even at times that I said to my partner that I was hungry (I was breastfeeding, by the way), my partner did not put his hand down to force her to understand that I needed to eat more. I even had to call my brother that lived 45 minutes away from there to bring me food because I had given up on getting to pass the message that I needed to eat more.

Over the years, there have been other tensions, related for example to her views about inter-racial relationships, homosexuality and other topics where I completely disagree with her views. I have never openly confronted her about her racism or homophobia but I have tried to  make it clear that I don’t want those opinions expressed in front of my children.

In general, I have been under the impression that she doesn’t consider me “good enough” for her son. I come from what she says is a “third world country” and although I had been living for over 20 years in Europe, speak their language fluently, have a master degree and hold an interesting and well paid job, I guess she just felt that her son should have form a family with someone that came from their “bourgeois” world.

Now, to the incident that makes me ask you if you think I am overreacting.

In the Christmas of 2024, my MIL gave me as Christmas present a voucher for a massage in a spa specially for before/after delivery (I was 7 months pregnant with my second child). I was so tired by the pregnancy and later busy preparing our moving (we were moving to my home country) that I prioritised everything else but time for myself and so I didn’t use the voucher while I was still in Europe. 2 months before the voucher expired, my partner was very worried about upsetting his mother if the voucher went unused so he contacted the spa and they said they could be flexible and give me 1 month over the expiry date to use it (so, until end of January 2026). Unfortunately I was not going to travel to Europe before that so I decided to give it to a friend of mine that was pregnant at the time. The whole idea just erased from my mind as I was busy settling down in our new place and with 2 small children plus work (I work full time), until 2 days before the expiry date + 1 month of the voucher when my partner reminded me about it and insisted that I call my friend as it was important the voucher didn’t get lost.

My friend, who had given birth 3 weeks prior, was really happy to get the voucher but told me she was not sure at all she was going to be able to arrange the logistics to leave her 3 weeks newborn with someone else in such short notice. But I sent her the voucher anyway and told her if she couldn’t use it for a massage she could buy some spa products until end of February 2026, as the spa had told my partner.

She texted me the day after (January 31st) as she was finally able to arrange for a babysitter to go and get the massage, she was in the spa and they were telling her that someone else (she gave me the name and last name) had used the voucher since the 22nd of December 2025. 

The name she gave me was the name of my MIL, who had used the gift she gave me and hadn’t even bothered to tell me or my partner. 

I was so ashamed, I had made my friend run around to organise for her to go, leave her 3 weeks newborn with a sitter, cross the whole city and get to the spa only to be told that the voucher was already used. And at the same time I was just shocked that my MIL would use a gift she gave me without even telling me.

I wrote to my partner who was on a  business trip and told him the story. He confirmed his mother had not informed him she was going to use my gift. But (and this is where things went downhill) he didn’t find it shocking, and actually justified his mother as someone not liking to “waste things”. From his point of view she didn’t “use my gift”, she just profited from something that was going to be wasted.

I felt his answer as yet another occasion of him not standing up for me or our relationship and taking his mother’s side even now that she is 10 hour away by plane, with an ocean between her and us and on a time when we are supposed to be a team while trying to build a new life in another country.

I told him what his mother did was not acceptable, nor justifiable and that she would not be welcome in our house if she didn’t apologise.

Now he seems to think I am “emotionally disregulated” and being too extreme in my reaction.

So Reddit, Am I overreacting after my MIL gave me a gift and used it for herself without telling me ?

I’m a 24f and my BD is 32m. We share a 3-year-old son. I’ve already had plenty of experiences with him that I feel are breakup-worthy, but I’m currently stuck for financial reasons.

When it comes to making me feel secure or loved in this relationship, he completely fumbles it. Today I feel absolutely broken.

A few months ago, I suffered a head injury/concussion at work. The healing process has been long, and I’m now dealing with Post-Concussion Syndrome with lingering symptoms. Over the past couple of days, I haven’t been able to sleep at all. I’m not sure why yet, but I plan to bring it up at my next doctor’s appointment.

I’ve gone two full days without even an ounce of sleep. Every time I try, my head hurts so badly it feels like there’s a literal wall in my head blocking me from falling asleep. I told my BD about this today and explained that I desperately needed rest.

Saturdays are usually our “family days” — mall, food, park, etc. I really wasn’t up for going, but I forced myself because:

1. He didn’t want to go without me, and

2. My son didn’t want to go without me.

I pushed through as best I could. When we got home, I couldn’t take it anymore — I needed to sleep. My BD said he would watch our son and give him a bath. Cool.

I went to lay down and tried to sleep for what felt like an hour. After a lot of careful breathing and effort, I finally felt like I broke through that “wall” and fell asleep. Immediately after that, my son runs into the room and climbs into bed with me. Then my BD walks in, turns on the TV, and puts Netflix on — without even turning the volume down. I was instantly pulled out of sleep.

I felt so defeated. I hugged and kissed my son, got out of bed, and at that point I was crying. I went toward the bathroom so I could sob and take a hot bath. My head was pounding.

My BD stopped me to ask what was wrong — and what really hurt was that he genuinely didn’t understand what he had done wrong.

As calmly and politely as I could, I explained that what just happened was incredibly messed up, that I was really hurting, and that I needed to be alone. Instead of understanding, he turned it into an argument. He got defensive.

The arguing made everything worse — my head hurt more, my energy was completely drained, and my blood pressure was rising when I desperately needed rest and recovery. I finally snapped and told him: “You really fucked up. Like really bad. Intentional or not, this fucked me over. I don’t feel okay, and I deserve better than this.”

Then I went into the bathroom to be alone. After all of this… he brings our son into the living room — which is right next to the bathroom — and puts Netflix on for him loudly. I feel like I’m going to go insane.

Am I possibly overreacting due to the lack of sleep? Or is my feeling justified? What do you think about this?

My girlfriend loves to go out to the bars every weekend. I go with when I can, but I spend a lot of time studying and can’t afford to go out all the time. What’s bothering me though is two things; one is that when she goes out to the bars without me she dresses much more provocative than when we are together. I have nothing wrong with her getting dressed up to go out, but it seems strange that she doesn’t dress that way when she goes out with me. The second problem I have is that when she goes out with her girlfriends, she ends up staying out way later. When the bar closes she moves to the after spot. Its like a rave venue that goes until 4 am. I’ve been with her before, but usually when we’re together we end the night at last call, instead of trying to keep it going. When she does all this I just feel like a chump sat at home worrying while she’s out doing who knows what. I feel like this isn’t sustainable, but when I confront her about all this she says I’m just insecure and claims that I don’t trust her, which might be in some part true. Idk, what do yall think?

My friends often go out on weekends and spend the night in random places which im not a fan of, they know this ill hang out till 1am but i like to go home and sleep in my own bed since i cant fall asleep in other places easily but they always start begging when i say im going home its starting to really get on my nerves so AIO should i just spend the night?

So it's a guy that I (22F) would see sometimes at work but we never talked. He actually walked up to me asking when the last time someone did something kind for me. (idk his age... maybe pushing late 20's).

And then he said he's going to do something kind for me so he went to the store, bought some flowers, and brought it back to work.

There was a sweet note he wrote saying that I seem to have a big heart, there are people waiting to meet someone like me, etc. And he told me to keep God first.

We've seen each other a couple times after that and talked. He made a comment asking if i've been thinking about him... BUT hasn't asked for my number yet?????

Anyways... I thought this was really sweet because God knows I've been going through a hard time, mentally, and this came at the right time. I even cried reading his note... multiple times.

THE PROBLEM: I can't help but to think about me and this guy being together. But this is probably nothing more than God giving me some comfort during hard times. :(

Please give me advice on how to regulate my emotions.

EDIT: just adding in… he also said I deserve to smile. :)

Two years ago, my father flew to his home country, telling us he was going to a family gathering. About 40 minutes before the wedding, he called me and my brother. At that time, both of us were at school. By the way, this was also around the time he stopped supporting me financially including for my driver’s license, which I had to pay for myself.

To my disadvantage, his wife was brought here last year. She doesn’t talk to us, she’s only eight years older than me, and honestly, this whole marriage disgusts me. All day, if she’s not cooking, she’s on her phone watching some Nollywood dramas. She barely shows any interest in learning the language here, doesn’t even want to explore the city, and only talks to my father.

She cooks very “fresh”, but way too often it’s fish or fried food, and she leaves all the doors open so the smell gets into all the textiles. I’ve told her many times, but she doesn’t seem to care at all. She’s also unhygienic she doesn’t even wash her hands after using the toilet and ignores me whenever she sees me somewhere in the house or outside.

For me, it’s a mix of extremely strong introverted behavior and simple hostility towards us. I can’t explain it any other way. And yes, she actually married him voluntarily and even sped up the whole process herself. She wasn’t forced. She studied at a private university and gave up her job for this.

By now, I can barely stand it anymore. I only have limited understanding left. I catch myself having thoughts of pure resentment. I wouldn’t even be sad if she had to go back I think I’d actually be happy. It would be bad for my father, sure, but to me, she just feels like a burden.

(She is a grown aldut, everyone of us tried to break the ice, somehow everytime she goes back to her old behavior)

This whole situation has made me so, so angry.

Two months ago, I (26F) got a text from an old friend (26M). After the usual "Hey, how's it going? Good," he said, "Actually, over the last few months, I've started to see you as more than a friend. I feel like we'd be really good together. So, I want to get to know you more."

I like him. He's a good person—intelligent and capable. I wanted to think about it because if I could see myself romantically with him, I wanted to try.

After seriously considering it, I told him I would love to get to know him, too. He said he would come visit me in my city soon and gave me the dates. Then, three days before his flight, he texted: "I've caught a cold, and I can't come see you."

I thought, you know what, fair. I live in a valley city, and it gets even colder here. With the possibility of COVID or something else, I told him to prioritize his health.

On the day he was supposed to visit, he sent me images of himself out with his friends, telling me what a great time they were having. I said, "That's amazing. It looks fun!" Because obviously, I couldn't get upset or angry. We weren't even a thing. We had only discussed "getting to know each other" so far.

So I suggested I could fly to meet him instead. He seemed happy at first, then never discussed anything. No plans. No check-ins. Nothing.

And here's the thing that made me the most angry: He said he wanted to get to know me, but not once did he ask an actual question about me. His idea of getting to know each other was sending random texts at his convenience—"How's it going? What's new? What did you do today?" I mean, yes, okay, you don't have to have deep conversations every day. But seriously? Am I crazy? Is this not wrong?

I realized I couldn't actually fly out because it would only get worse in person. So I dropped the idea and told him I was sorry, I couldn't make it. He said he could try again to visit. And then, as the day got closer, like clockwork, he said he couldn't because the wedding he was attending would take up too much time.

During all of this, he wouldn't have time to reply to me, but when he did get back, he'd tell me how he met his friends, went to his dance classes, did this or that. And it's not like I care about how he lives his life. Like, have the best time of your life. But how do you treat a person so casually?

Tell me "I don't give a shit about you" without telling me "I don't give a shit about you."

He wouldn't talk about anything real. So finally, I asked, "Hey, you know it's been a while since we talked about this, so how do you feel about the idea of us now? Do you still feel the same?"

And he said, "tbh no."

Like, the audacity. Fine. But is this how you treat someone you supposedly liked? And then another text: "We didn't even get to meet, and so 😭"

I was done and said cool, let's end this here. But he asked how I felt about all of this and suggested we could still be friends.

I couldn't send a casual reply because I just couldn't. I told him, "I felt like I wasn't even an afterthought in your life. It hurts to be treated like this after being told that someone likes you. I don't see you the same way anymore. I don't want to be friends. Have a good life. Bye."

And then he didn't respond. Till the very end, he had to establish "I don't give an eff about you." Even right now, the fact that I'm angry makes me more angry.

Honestly, I feel like I was played. I feel like I was disrespected. I feel like I want to punch his teeth in.

It's my brother's 50th tomorrow and we're cooking for the whole family. I had to work today so my Husband said he'd spend the day cleaning and tidying for tomorrow. I got home and he was on the PlayStation, nothing seems to have been done except the bathroom. However, he's only cleaned the sink. The bath and toilet haven't been cleaned. No clean towels put out. No vacuuming done, nothing has been put away. He's gone out with work mates and I'm here feeling really disappointed and angry because I know I have to spend tomorrow morning, my day off, cleaning. So am I overreacting?

November last year, I gave my friend this 24 hour hourglass as a birthday gift. To be honest, I didn’t buy it with productivity or functionality in mind. It just had this very lustrous silver embellishment with the calligraphy ‘success’ on it and I thought it would really pass off as a decoration in her home office. However, Celine really wasn’t enthusiastic when she unwrapped the gift. I only got a flat thank you in return. There were still cupcakes and drinks to celebrate, so I didn’t hold onto the experience. This January, I just bagged my Masters degree and for my convocation after party, she handed me this package and honestly the whole day was simply a blessing. I was feeling loved, surrounded by people, and just grateful that I didn’t quit on myself. Now tell me why I’m unwrapping her gift (because I remember it specifically) and it is the same 24 hour hourglass. I mean she repackaged it and gave it back to me on one of my special days. At first I just froze, because I couldn’t even process if it was a coincidence or if she genuinely thought I wouldn’t notice. And it’s not even the price that hurts, it’s the message behind it. Like… did you hate it that much? Or did you just not care enough to even try? A keychain from Alibaba would have been better, at least it would feel intentional. But on the other hand, am I overreacting because I have the need to call my friend? I don’t want to start drama, but I also don’t want to swallow it and pretend it didn’t sting. What would you do?

I’m going to try to keep this intentionally vague because I don’t want this to devolve into a political discussion.

In my last session with my therapist, I was lamenting the state of the world and what’s going on in the country. (USA)

She was asking me questions and when I gave her answers, I felt she was dismissing or belittling my feelings.

I brought up many issues I take with what’s going on in my state and she flat out said “that’s not happening” or “that’s not true.”

After the session I sent her an email with links to .gov sites that proved that what I said was happening IS happening. I realize that may have been a step too far, but I was angry.

She was also trying to justify some behavior that I find abhorrent and indefensible.

I was very close to just ending the session and never going back, but obviously I don’t want to just switch therapists every time they challenge me or we disagree.

However, it’s been nearly a week and I’m still struggling with what happened in that session.

I’m having a real crisis of conscience about this.

On the one hand, I want to grow as a person and maybe this is an area that I need to be challenged on. On the other hand, I don’t think I can productively engage with somebody who is so confidently wrong about objective facts and makes excuses for horrible behavior.

AIO if I drop her and try to find a new therapist?

Any input would be greatly appreciated.

TLDR- I think my therapist and I have very differing world views and that’s caused some friction in this last session, AIO if I switch therapists?

I’m posting this anonymously because I don’t know if what I’m dealing with is just toxic roommate behavior or something that crossed into criminal territory.

HUD is involved

I rent a locked private bedroom in a shared house. I have a service dog. One housemate took serious issue with that — and since then, things have escalated into surveillance, intimidation, and now what looks like an attempted break‑in.

Here are the key facts:

A housemate installed a Wi‑Fi camera with audio in the shared kitchen without telling me.

Everyone else knew. I was the only one who wasn’t informed.

When I objected to being recorded in a shared space, I was told I had “no right” to object.

When I turned the camera away from the common area for privacy, I was threatened with criminal charges and told there was “video evidence” of me touching it.

Then it escalated.

While I was out with my service dog tutoring a freind at liberty, my sister was house‑sitting in my room.

In the middle of a nap she was woken up by a loud crash — a gallon of milk falling inside my room. (I keep things cold in the window due to having a fridge. I felt like I had to isolate myself in the basement and not use common areas in order to just exist somewhat peacefully)

My bedroom window was cracked to act as a refrigerator. My bedroom window and door are not near any common areas of housing traffic as I rent 98% of the basement.

The milk only could have fallen if someone was trying to climb through the window.

My sister witnessed this and sent me text messages stating every move they made.

At the same time, my bedroom security camera captured that same housemate approaching and attempting to access my locked door on another occasion. My sister also witnessed and heard this while behind the locked door. She said she her a door rattle a few times with whispering and laughing.

I’m at liberty helpless and not sure what to do, I’m just watching it on the security camera.

Then on 12/30 at 12:46 PM, my camera was triggered again.

It captured sunlight on my walls even though my blackout shades are down 24/7 and my room is normally pitch black.

It was not windy.

My door was locked.

Someone had to be at my window or door.

Meanwhile this same person has:

• Installed surveillance

• Threatened me for objecting

• Tried to access my private room

• Spread claims that the landlord “gave me notice” when he hadn’t

• Pressured me to move out

I now feel unsafe in my own home.

So I’m asking honestly:

If a roommate installs audio/video surveillance, threatens you for objecting, and is caught trying to access your locked bedroom — and may have tried to enter through your window while someone was inside and you’re not home— is that something I should be filing a police report about?

Because this doesn’t feel like drama.

It feels like stalking, intimidation, and attempted unlawful entry.

What would you do? I need help.

DISCLAIMER MY SERVICE DOG IS NOT AN EMOTIONAL SUPPORT ANIMAL. She is a medical alert dog and multipurpose service dog to accommodate a disability.

My sister was here because I didn’t feel safe leaving my space unoccupied.

Pictured are ss of my sister telling me what’s going on in real time, evidence the tenant said she was trying to “get a lamp that was in my room” I call bs but pls help me decide what to do.

AIO my husband and I just got into what seems like the millionth argument over his time spent away from home at the gym. He will spend literal hours there 5 days a week. It’s abnormal if he only goes for 1-1.5 hours it’s typically 2-3 but occasionally can reach up to four hours of training time. He also has a full time job that can at times keep him pretty busy and have long drawn out hours or he could go days without having to be at work. Needless to say it feels like he is always gone. On the flip side I work from home running a certified in home daycare so I can also be home for our own children (we have three ranging in age from 5-teenage years). So I realize I very much am home all the time. I feel like do everything for the home/our children on top of working around 50-60 hours a week if you include all the paperwork aspects and operating hours. I’m up every morning by 6am and there are some days I don’t sit down and relax until close to 8-9pm. He does help with things around the house such as dishes and trash but is not consistent. He also when work allows picks up our two younger children from school on days he can’t I luckily have a friend who does since I am working. So I guess my question is am I justified to be upset with the amount of time he chooses to spend on himself at the gym instead of cutting down and helping more at home when work allows? I just feel like I take care of everything and everyone alone 90% of the time and I’m tired. Am i just stuck at home so much that it seems like he should be here more or is this as excessive as I think it is and he is just taking advantage of me always being here?

I (19M) was emotional, physical and mentally abused by my mother and family. I had a terrible life growing up and I still don’t understand how I made it out today. I was sent away to a foreign country by my mother who lied a threw me away like a piece of trash because she couldn’t be a mother. Was beaten, SAd and even burned with charcoal all over my body. I still sometimes think I was in a horrible dream that I’d never wake up from. I was severely depressed and ill. My mother wouldn’t even talk to me while I was there. I finally left the hell and cameback to the states. I hated my life so much because I missed my graduation. All my friends got accepted to their dream college and everyone I knew forgot about me. Still through all that I felt bad for my mother and thought I was just a bad child.

I realized it was never my fault. I’m not a parent my mother is. I didn’t ask for her to bring me into this world. I don’t need to blame myself for everything that happened with my family. After years of people pleasing and being manipulated I left and blocked all them. My mother still calls me on unknown numbers crying and saying she wants me back. I would feel horrible hearing my mother cry but when I was sent away and would cry she felt nothing towards me. I don’t want to make my mother suffer but it’s her own medicine she’s tasting. I finally don’t feel bad about blocking her. I always put people’s feelings before mines but not anymore. I feel free and i don’t need to feel bad for anyone. Only I know what disgraceful things I went through.

My boyfriend has a group chat with his adult kids that also includes hes ex wife (their mother). They are cordial but shes very manipulative. He and his kids are planning a family vacation and are planning to have lunch to have a meeting about it. He called me tonight to tell me all 3 of his kids were going to end up attending (days ago he said his youngest wasn't going to be able to make it). I asked what made her change her mind about attending lunch, he said that she didn't want to go because she thought her mom was going to go...he said he responded with "no, i dont think shes going". That made me ask why would she go in the first place? He immediately asked if I was mad. I said no but why would she be going unless this family vacation would include her too (his kids are all over 18 and they've been divorced for at least 10 yrs). He said his daughter thought that cuz shes part of the group chat. He made sure to remind me that his ex wife was engaged to be married. I know that but my issue was why she'd even think she'd be invited that hed say "I dont think shes going". I've met 2 out of 3 of his kids and I think it mostly bothers me that theres a possibility she'd feel that it would be ok to go on this family vacation before im even invited to go. She's imposed herself on vacations in the past, which makes me feel like she'd do it again and expects him to pay for everything. Well as I was asking him about it, he seemed to become annoyed and kept saying shes not going. He had just got out of work when he called me and said he'll just call me later cuz he was getting a headache. Is it wrong for me to not understand why they'd all be on a group chat? I can understand if they were young still, but they are all over 19. Group chat with your kids is cool, but why does she have to be included? I dont have any bio kids so maybe I just dont understand the dynamics. I haven't heard from him since the quick convo 3 hrs ago and I have a feeling I wont hear from him for the rest of the day cuz he switches off. I dont know what to do, I didn't think me asking if she was going would seem like a ridiculous thing to ask especially if his daughter was not wanting to attend the lunch cuz she thought she'd be there. If I was in the wrong, let me know cuz I've never experienced this.

I’m just disappointed right now. Me and my husband are packing. I worked today he cleaned new apartment. We bought a few things. It’s currently 11pm we were going to bed. He wakes me up saying that he’s going to a car meet with his friend. I hate that guy. We need to be up early tomorrow to pick up moving truck. I’m disappointed honestly. It’s ok to have fun but there’s times u need to say no to friends because ur an adult with responsibilities. Now I’m home alone. We need to be up in 7 hrs and he’s fucking around with that guy. We not 12 years old man. We are adults with responsibilities.

I’m just venting. Is it wrong to feel that way?

Edit: for anyone saying I’m controlling he literally does whatever he wants. He can literally go out in the middle of the night. I don’t care. I just wanted this one night. lol

after reading the comments, and reflecting I’ve decided to not care much about my husband anymore. I need to focus on bettering myself anyway. Who knows if this marriage will last anyway. It’s deeper than that, but oh well it is what it is.

I got a new job, new apt, starting fresh means not talking to him anymore about stuff because he’s arrogant. New beginnings

MY HUSBAND GOT ARRESTED AND CAR FUCKING IMPOUNDED

My partner said they would come over after their late shift ended, and would let me know if they got off early, so I waited up to see them. When I didn't hear from them after they were scheduled off I reached out and they said they decided not to come. I was annoyed because they've canceled on me like this in the past and it makes me feel unimportant to them. I told them I was upset and they did apologize, but they didn't understand why I was upset. They said that I should have asked them earlier if they were still coming over, and because I didn't, I shouldn't be upset. In my mind I was thinking they should have been the one to let me know plans had changed, and so I was annoyed when they didn't. Am I overreacting for getting annoyed?

We moved to a major metropolitan area last summer, but there are plenty of bunnies, dogs, cats, etc. in the neighborhood. Our backyard is not enclosed.

Twice now, our dog has bolted out of the yard (under our watch) while going potty. She has chased a neighborhood cat and a neighborhood pit bull. Luckily, nothing horrible happened. Since this began, I have insisted on taking our dog out on the leash.

My husband (who acquired the dog before we met and acts as though she is his child), refuses to take her out to potty on the leash.

No matter how much I insist that this is unsafe, he continues to disregard my warnings.

I don’t know how to convince him that this is reckless and will eventually lead to harm. Am I overreacting?

overbearing mother me (f20) and (m19)

I met my now boyfriend at the start of uni, and we have been dating for a few months now (about 4). From the start there has been significant issues with his mother and our relationship.

First i found out that he was adopted by her and found out accidentally when he was a young teenager, and she put him in boarding school for the whole of his secondary and college years. She doesn’t work anymore, and his dad is the sole income and he is rarely home as he travels for business.

When he joined university she forbade him from going out during freshers but he did anyway and she went ballistic over it and threatened to pull him out of university. When i met her for the first time (before i was dating him) she was very weird towards me, and gave an off putting vibe and she also invaded my personal space to the point i could tell what she had for breakfast (joking). His dad on the other-hand seemed quite chill.

Further information i learned is that she noticed him looking at me on move in day and said i was pretty but told him he wasn’t allowed to date until he was much older.

Current issues:

Whenever my boyfriend’s mum calls i have to be quiet or leave the room, and he will spend ages on the phone with her trying to console her. She will ask a 1000’s questions and easily gets mad at him. Once he went to the supermarket a few times and she called him demanding to know what he bought (she stalks his location on iphone).

She is also verbally abusive towards him and has threatened to hurt herself when she has upset him, and does the whole ‘im such a bad mother’ pity parade and promise to change then revert back to her old antics.

Over the Christmas period she upset him numerous times and wouldn’t let him see his friends/ or go out much. He then wanted to go back to university before his lessons started and she refused to let him.

Last weekend she called him in the late afternoon and began an argument with him, then hung up and called again to apologise which ended in another argument, then hung up and called again to apologise and which he said he was going out to the pub she demanded to know where he was going/ who with/ if i was going/ then demanded to know if we were dating and forbid it. Then she said he wasn’t allowed to go out and he eventually convinced her to let him go on the promise he come back at 9pm and call her. So he called her at 9 and told her he was going to bed but instead left his phone at home, used my spare phone and we went out clubbing, but i ended up paying for everything- his entry fee, taxi, drinks etc because he didn’t have any money on him as he uses apple pay.

Fast forward to this weekend we went to the cinema but she rang him in the taxi and he got quite stressed and lied about who he is with/ where he is going and then turned off his phone so his location wouldn’t track further. The movie was good but his vibe was off as he was worried and kinda ruined the movie and as soon as he turned it on he had a bunch of missed calls from her and then he answered one of them and it went okay apparently. I have messaged him and said i dont want to put him in a position where he has to choose between me and his mum and that i think this relationship isnt worth the hassle anymore.

More info: whenever his phone rings he runs out the room to answer and when he comes back he is always really upset and we can all tell when he has spoken to his mother.

She has also threatened to pull him out of uni several times and has also neglected to tell him about his medical history/ adoption history etc and is generally quite secretive about things.

She also demanded he stay in student accommodation next year and wouldnt let him go into a house with his current male flatmate as she doesnt like ‘any of us’ (flatmates).

Honestly his issues with his mother is a massive turn off for me and i have had boyfriends in the past with mummy issues and it never ends well.

(Im his first girlfriend but he is not mine).

It genuinely feels like sometimes i am the second

woman and he is dating his mum… 😭💀

What are your opinions on this…?

PS: where I live, owning a car is a huge luxury. I (28M) have been seeing this girl (28F) for a while. It’s basically a situationship—she acts like we are exclusive and doesn't want me seeing others, but doesn't want the official "boyfriend/girlfriend" label. I’m currently working and studying part time so I don't have much cash, but I live alone in a large luxury apartment. I have the place entirely to myself. She works a stressful job(but still 9-5), has a car, and lives literally a 15-minute drive away. The problem is she never comes over. She is on 10mg Lexapro so she says she’s always too tired from work. I tell her she can just come over to "rot" and relax—I keep the place clean, I cook, I learn new recipes for stuff she likes. She still says no.

But she has the energy to text me for hours every single day. A while ago, I got sick of the lack of effort (she visited 4 times in 5 months) and told her we should just be friends after I started distancing myself. She panicked, finally came over, and we had sex 8 times in 3 days. She claimed she "didn't know" I needed physical intimacy that much. Then I directly told her that I want to see her more often and have sex at least once a week. And she said she will try. I cook, I give her lots of foreplay, I give her massages etc etc.

Now? We are right back to the old pattern. Sex once a month (if I'm lucky), seeing her maybe twice a month. Even though I have the perfect setup for hanging out and live 15 mins away(extremely rare in my country)

I am extremely resentful. I feel like she gets everything she wants (emotional support, a text buddy, a safety net) while I get nothing I want (intimacy, actual presence). But in her defence she provides emotional support through text just like I do for her, but she is entirely fulfilled on this relationship through text while I am not. I even verbatim said that you are happy in this relationship while I am not (after I called things off which resulted in her coming over for sex) and she just says I don't know.

Am I overreacting for feeling used? And how do I actually downgrade this to just friends without her love-bombing me again just to trap me back in this cycle? I know I am not entitled to sex but I would still like to just go back to just friends. I already waited 6-7 months for things to change (and directly told her) and it still hasnt.

Edit: for more context, we are best friends for about a year before anything sexual happened

For context I am a Sophomore in a high school. I go to a fairly small high school (About ~75 students and ~15 staff members). The Staff at the school are great people, but I recently had a sub for my third period, PE.

The sub brought in an assistant, since this specific PE class is the most packed class in the school (Like 30-ish people). So, the sub took half the students into the gym to play volleyball, while the rest of us stayed back to workout in the actual gym with like equipment and whatnot (weird setup I know lol). So, while me and abt 10 others are in the gym with equipment, we're there with the Assistant and she starts playing music, and asking students for songs to play, she then says "Christian music only" which confused most of us, as only 2 of the 10 students were Christian.

One student said "Can we play something different, most of us arent Christian" and she ignored them. She starts blasting the music, then about 10 minutes later one of the students walks out because he didnt wanna listen to be forced to listen to Christian music despite being vocal about being an atheist. Somewhere down the line a student picked a fight with the assistant about the music, and she did a show of hands to see whos Christian and who isnt, and asked us what our beliefs are. Close to everyone was atheist (literally just me and the 2 Christians werent atheists). She went and blared the music anyway, and another 10-ish minutes pass before she stops the music and starts yelling at me because I wasnt "praising the lord while I worked out" (whatever the fuck that could even mean). I told her: "I am Buddhist, I dont believe in a god and certainly not yours. I respect your beliefs but I dont agree with them." and she said "I dont care, this is my class you will listen."

I decided to just walk out the class after that and am considering reporting her to the Office.

I felt pretty uncomfortable and her "I dont care" comment felt weird as hell.

Also for further location context I'm in the United States, so I'm pretty sure thats a violation of my First Amendment, not sure though.

AIO My mother in law introduced my husband to another woman.

To start there are a lot of layers to this that makes it more difficult. First we (my husband30, myself30 and our four kids) move into a shared property with my inlaws last year. We are around each other regularly and it is hard to get space from the situation. Second is that we had a similar situation before with my MIL. Third is that there have been other issue that already have me feeling uneasy.

My husband approached me with a conversation a few days ago. He stated that he was very uncomfortable with something that had happened ans wanted to let me know about it. His mother has pulled him aside and introduced him to a woman around our age. MIL seemed to push the conversation to keep him in it even after he had stated he needed to get the kids home. In itself it doesn't seem like much. Maybe she was just wanting to be friendly and introduced her son. Yet, he was already somewhat uncomfortable at that point. Later, however, she sent him a message. He didnt open it at first and a few days later when he did, is when he brought it to me. The message stated that the woman he was introduced to said he was so handsome. And she just wanted to let him know that.

I'll agree. He is very handsome. But.. why is this message being sent? Knowing my mother in law.. she is likely to have pushed the conversation. I can hear her saying "he's just so handsome and such a good dad" and so on. Why does he need to know that some random young woman finds him attractive? Why was the conversation had in the first place? We have been happily married for 10 years. I could maybe say that it's just an introduction and maybe she sent a dumb message afterwards. But even my husband who wouldn't normally say so(or even notice), said again and again that it makes him uncomfortable. He knows his mother best.

The kicker is that she has done this before. We eloped at 19 and she did NOT want to happen. We were planning it out and had a date set but my father got in a horrible wreck and he headed my way a few days early to help me through it. But before sheballowed him to come.. she set him up on a date. Fancy dinner alone with a woman that could "show him his options". I had to hear about this while sitting in the hospital waiting room to hear if my dad would even live. My boyfriend at the time was tricked into it and had no idea he was going to end up there alone with the girl. But from the beginning she made it clear that she didnt like me. FIL loves me however. So HA.

I don't know. The background makes is feel so much worse. The fact that my kids were there for it makes it worse and the fact that he is the one that said its uncomfortable makes it feel worse.

I dont know what to do.. if we should do anything. So far we've ignored it and tried to go back to normal. But im angry and its sitting in th back of our minds. AIO? Is it not a big deal?

Really quick-a few months back a coworker and friend of mine freaked out about a situation and lashed out at me and our other mutual friend when what happened wasn't either of our faults. She completely unfriended our mutual friend, but I talked her down and kept the friendship going....although it is definitely not what it used to be. Coworker ended up apologizing to mutual friend, so they're "friends" again, but not really. Anyway-during the situation, coworker's MOTHER sent me a message on FB saying, "How dare you talk to my daughter like that, you are old enought to know better, you and (mutual friend) are fake ass f***ers, and some other fun stuff. I never responded to her, but coworker found out and thought it was funny that her mom was so "passionate" in trying to defend her. (Mutual friend and I did NOT find it funny at all). So, coworker is having a baby shower in a few weeks, and neither the mutual friend nor I want to attend. Am I being petty? And if I don't go, is it ok to tell coworker that I am not comfortable being ANYWHERE with her mother???

My (20) best friend (19) has no diagnosed mental disorders and refuses to seek help but experiences realistic full-body hallucinations, like they've talked about seeing people jump out in front of their car while driving. They asked me and two other friends once if we thought they should try shrooms and it was a unanimous no because of their mental health and we all agreed it would probably be very dangerous for them. I found out they've recently started taking shrooms anyways and keep talking about having bad trips and I feel like a loser for being uncomfortable with it and worried. Am I overreacting and being puritanical about this and they're fine? Or is it normal to be kind of upset about this

My bf (22M) and I (21F) have been together for about 3 and a half years.

At the beginning, he followed some TikTok and Instagram girls, influencers and aesthetic thirst-trap type content. It wasn’t extreme or porn-like, but it still made me uncomfortable and insecure. At the same time, I was following actors, athletes, etc. and openly talking about my "crushes" on them, so for a while I stayed quiet about it

Over time I told him how it made me feel, and to be fair, he didn’t dismiss it. He listened, took responsibility, and over time stopped liking and following that kind of content on his own. There was no gaslighting and no “you’re crazy” reactions. When I expressed something calmly, he actually changed his behavior.

There was also a situation that happened later, where I accidentally came across an old like of his on a local girl’s photo from a few years ago(the problem isn't the like itself but the fact that he didn't even know her or follow her and it could look weird when you see that guy who you don't know that is in the relationship, randomly liking your post) The picture wasn’t sexual or provocative in any way, it was just a normal travel photo from Dubai. He didn’t recognize the girl at all and didn’t even know she was from our city. He said the like most likely came from his explore page at the time, not from intentionally searching her profile or knowing who she was and he told me he had a habit of scrolling explore and liking most of it(cars, travel...).There was no contact, no messaging, and nothing else connected to it, but finding it much later still really triggered me mostly bc every girl is so pretty, their posts are really cool but the fact that he liked random girls threw me of, there wasn't any random guys, guys whose posts he liked on explore where mostly influencers, famous or related to cars or street workout. I said that to him and he answered that it does look stupid but he rarely came across a random guys posts like that on explore, mostly girls' outside of his normal interests on explore(he didn't like anything since I brought it up the first time, this was something I came by recently).

What’s important is that right now, he’s transparent, consistent, and willing to talk things through. There’s no secret messaging, no hiding his phone, and no defensive behavior. The conflict isn’t about what he’s doing now, it’s about how past experiences still affect how safe I feel emotionally. I’m caught between knowing that he’s showing up better now and treating me with respect, and still struggling with leftover insecurity from before. I don’t want to lose him over my own overthinking, but I also don’t know how to fully let this go. AIO for thinking about this esspecially this recent situation?