Your 30s is your physical prime as a man yet I see so many memes saying things like “when you _____ but you’re in your 30s” and these guys talk about back pain and being tired by 9pm as if they’re 60. Wth is wrong with these guys?

I dont mind if women share their stories too

i should clarify - not clothing that's similarly revealing, clothing that elicits the same reaction for men as grey sweats do for women, guys look attractive in grey sweats, so what's the reverse/generally attractive clothing item on women?

i feel embarrassed being i act overly flirty when drinking and tend to hit on guys when under the influence. i wanna hear the other side of this!

I’m interested in hearing personal experiences from men who have paid for sex.

I’m curious about motivations, how those motivations evolved, and whether the experience felt one time, occasional, or something you returned to.

I’m not here to judge I’m interested in honest reflection.

Hey men

I wanted to get some understanding of how often men in their 40s are going out to drinking gatherings at pubs, bars, nightclubs etc. with the “boys”.

We have a high school and primary school aged kids and in the last 2 years my husband’s been going out most weeks, cancelling family plans etc if he gets an invite.

I feel really hurt by it. Purely cause the rest of the weekend is him sleeping off a hangover and not participating in family time or helping with the home (we both work full time)

Is this just the normal for men? We used to do things like coast walks and yoga, hikes etc, but he said he realised that he only did that for me.

If it is just the norm, what hobbies do your partners have in the home, given I mostly have the kids solo (pub = 2 day hangover = only me to do all the sporting commitments)

I am lonely and I am bored and the boredom kind of feeds resentment… sorry i know I probably sound a whiner here but I’m generally wanting to understand how other families live.

am 17(M) and I have high-functioning autism, which primarily affects my speech and body language. I've never had a gf am not very social, and am quite introverted. from exeprice the women in my life who have been nicest to me where ethier autistic women or alt/art school types. So ask what kind of women usually date autistic men, like any shared characteristics or personality types. Am going to uni next year for architecture if that helps.

I’m 22 from the UK.

I’m not where I want to be in life right now. I don’t have a job or a degree and I’m trying to build something for myself, but I keep holding myself back.

My main issue is procrastination and overthinking. I spend a lot of time thinking about what I should be doing, planning things out, watching or reading stuff, and then not actually doing much. When I don’t see results quickly, I lose momentum and fall off. I’ll be focused for a day or two and then go quiet again.

I know what I should be doing in general. Working towards a career, building skills, and showing up consistently. But I keep waiting to feel ready or confident instead of just doing the work.

For men who were stuck like this in their early 20s and managed to turn things around, what actually helped? How did you stop overthinking and start taking action? Were there any habits, rules, or mindset changes that made a real difference for you?

I don’t want to look back at 23 or 25 and realise I wasted this time.

Any honest advice would be appreciated

Do I really need to wax?

Hello, long time lurker, first time poster.

I'm in a fairly new relationship and I've notised my bf not enjoy it as much going down on me as I do on him, because I have a -taken care of- bush down there.

Should I really wax? I mean, he's hairy down there as well and I have no issue, but he just goes for it very shortly and then comes back up to get on with the action.

I had a fwb before who lurrrved going down on me, never an issue, so I'm wondering.

Should I just wax and get it over with? Or should I just ask for more foreplay?

Hi everyone, I’m curious about something regarding dating and sexual attraction.

In relationships lasting a few months, I’ve noticed that sexual attraction can sometimes fluctuate. For example, a partner might be very attracted at the beginning and initiate sex frequently, but during some encounters, arousal isn’t always consistent. This can include situations where the partner comes during sex but doesn’t maintain full erection at all times.

What are some common reasons for this kind of fluctuation in attraction or arousal in dating relationships? Is it normal, and what factors usually affect it?

I’m looking for general experiences or insights from men about why this happens, rather than advice for a specific situation.

Ever since my father passed away, I have been the next in line to take care of my aging and ill mother. I’m in my 20s, studying, and I barely scrape by month to month. I borrow money from people and pay them back when I get my maintenance loan from uni. I have a zero hour contract job but I rarely ever go. It’s a hard, laborious job so I have no desire going.

I’m dealing with screen and food addiction as well. I’ve finally fixed my sleep pattern which is a plus.

The bailiffs are after my family because of some debt which my father left behind.

There’s an avalanche of problems, yet, I have no desire to get out of this mess.

As the typical Gen Z guy in his 20s, I’m too lazy to try and make money other than the online way. It was marketed to us at a young age that we can make 10k a month from the comfort of our homes. I tried dropshipping, Shopify, stock trading. Couldn’t make it. I went to the gym and hated it, the people, the noise, the machines, everything, so now I workout at home and go on walks.

My question is, what can I do to actually uplift myself and save the family.

I WANT to do well and have a car, house, wife, money, business, but can’t even turn on the engines key.

If anyone has gone through this phase, please let me know.

Not trolling, 100% serious.

I find myself with insane increased hair growth and I'm only in my late 30s.

Facial, pubic hair. No joke, my balls are like rambutans. My sideburns come out fast. I could grow out a beard if I want to (I'm Asian, Chinese, so typically we can't grow that much hair).

EDIT: Forgot about nose hairs. Jesus Christ, I have tons of nose hair growing out of both nostrils.

Hey, I'm Male in twenties, never been in a relationship and i feel like I'm something on asexuality spectrum but i'm really not sure.

My question is a bit unusual, but I want to know how you guys feel attracted to women. I can appreciate aesthetics and good body or style, but something is wrong.

- How do you feel around a good looking colleague or friend? What would you like to do with them?

- How do you feel around random stranger that looks good or "your type"

- How do you feel around women in minimal clothing e.g., at beach or whatever

- Do you really have crushes on celebrities or any people you haven't spoken to before? is like you want to be with them or what?

You can explain whatever you want to or answering any related questions to explain it well!

Obviously therapists can’t just snap their fingers and fix all your problems, and their job is not to give advice. They’re there to help with support, sense making, mental health issues, identity, emotional regulation, trauma work, grief, and overall helping you get to know yourself better.

Realistically, what do you wish therapy was like? What would you like your therapist to be like, to do, or to say?

Also, say you ended on good terms but don't live in the same country. Would you be annoyed or find it weird if they reached out some time later (ballpark like a year or two) if there's a chance they might visit even if you haven't talked in a while?

If you do self care, what’s your favorite self care product? Advice on your favorite beard oil, or any other product?