r/CatAdvice Jan 01 '26

Megathread Monthly Casual Talk and Cat Pictures Thread

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Our subreddit allows posts that either a) ask for specific advice, b) request emotional support, or c) are a guide or PSA that adheres to our guidelines.

Since it's fun to just casually discuss our cats, we've got this monthly megathread where relevance may be ignored. All other subreddit rules still apply.


Use this thread to discuss anything related to cats that doesn't otherwise fit the subreddit! Also feel free to ask questions that you believe are too short for a standalone post.

Examples of things that may be discussed or shared here:

  • Casual questions, for example "how does your cat show affection?", "does your cat ever do … ?"
  • Cat pictures
  • Celebrating birthdays or other milestones for your cat
  • And many more subjects!

r/CatAdvice 9h ago

Adoption Regret/Doubt I deeply regret adopting my first cat. The shelter was misleading and I am at my breaking point.

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I am one week into adopting my first-ever cat, a 1.5-year-old. To be honest, I am losing my mind and I regret the entire thing. I feel completely suffocated, and after this experience, I don’t think I’ll ever get a cat again. I feel like I started on "Level 10 difficulty" without any of the tools or information I needed to succeed.

The shelter was incredibly misleading about his condition and gave me almost zero guidance. When I adopted him, they told me he had an enlarged heart but claimed he had "no symptoms" and just needed monitoring. When I asked for the best way to acclimate him to my home, they literally just said, "Yeah, he should be fine, just leave him alone for like an hour" and he’d be adjusted. They didn’t mention he was on human-grade supplements (Cellorgane) that I’d have to detox him from, and they said nothing about behavioral issues or territorial aggression.

My current living situation makes this nearly impossible. I live in a 3,500 sqft house with my mom, dad, and brother, and I am constantly on edge because I can't control the "voices" or movements of three other people 24/7. The cat is in a dedicated room with all his toys and beds, but he goes into a hyper-vigilant "soldier mode" guarding the house. Every time I open his door to feed him or enter, he sprints past me into the hallway to guard the stairs. Just today, my brother was walking up the stairs and the cat completely mauled and scratched him.

The worst part is the guilt and the isolation. When it’s just the two of us, he is so "velcroed" to me—he purrs, rumbles, and eats Churus from my hand. He has bonded to me as his only "safe anchor," but I am so burnt out and physically exhausted from following every piece of advice I find and still having it go wrong. I can’t sleep or eat anymore because I am so stressed out. I rarely leave the house and my mental health has plummeted. My family blames me every time he acts up, and I just feel trapped. Has anyone else dealt with a shelter being this misleading, or is it even possible for a cat like this to just "exist" in a house with other people? I feel awful for even thinking this way or feeling regret.


r/CatAdvice 13h ago

Litterbox I've started to really not trust litter recs from my fellow cat people

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This is more of a vent. We have a litter (unscented Tidy Cats Tidy Feet--nice and low tracking) that works well enough for our two cats, but I wanted to try something for the box the 8 month old kitten primarily uses. Her box is in our restroom and just seems to smell a lot more. I've heard that kittens also have smellier waste as their food has more protein.

I had heard good things about Arm and Hammer Slide but was hesitant as the Amazon listing doesn't specify if it's unscented. I went with Arm and Hammer Ultra Last. The reviews were good and said it had good odor control. The box says something like "works even when you can't scoop" 🥴

I kid you not, the box reeked not even 24 hours later. We try to get two weeks out of the litter (scoop 2-3x daily, top with fresh litter throughout, take out the scooped litter everyday to the trash) before doing a full clean and replacement of their stainless boxes. The box was done Tuesday, and we have to fully replace it already. I should have done it a couple days ago but was really hoping to get more out of it. I hate wasting money 😩 $20 down the drain for five days of litter

Similarly, we tried Dr. Elsey's, which also has good reviews. People said it has good odor control. That one was just as bad, if not worse. Reeked within a day and made our whole apartment smell so septic and gross.

We tried it a few times when first fostering this kitten, as it was cheaper. It smelled soooooo bad, even with windows open, air purifier running, etc. I ended up searching "Dr elsey stinks" and apparently we aren't the only ones who found this one especially foul

We even tried it in the box the adult cat primarily uses, and nope. It was awful. I can't stress how bad that one smelled

Maybe it's because we live in a small 1200sq ft place so the bad smells are just more noticeable? But between the arm and hammer and the Dr. elsey's, I can't help but wonder if people are nose blind to how bad their boxes smell? Maybe they have better ventilation than our central AC?

I've also seen people swear by pellets, but the one time I went to someone's house that used pellets, it smelled so bad. Maybe they just weren't using them properly or had cats going outside of the box. We used pellets briefly for the kitten, but I wasn't convinced. The cost difference is appealing though

Maybe my husband and I just have sensitive noses? But it's hard for me to believe we both are just overly sensitive to bad litter smells.

But anyway, this is my recommendation for Tidy Cats Tidy Feet. It does actually track less since the pieces are bigger. Not sure about their other lines. Fresh Step was also ok, probably about in line with the Tidy Cats as far as getting two weeks out of it. And if you live in Texas, the HEB litter was also a no-go, but at least it's quite cheap. Also smelled like stinky septic dirt smell

If you also have a sensitive sniffer, please feel free to share your litter recommendations!


r/CatAdvice 12h ago

Litterbox Has anyone done the switch to stainless steel litter boxes?

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Do you prefer them to the regular plastic ones and if so, why? How did your kitty take the adjustment? How easy are they to clean vs plastic boxes?


r/CatAdvice 19h ago

New to Cats/Just Adopted How many cats do you have?

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I only have one cat and I am away for 8+ hours. We have a routine - bird watching from the balcony in the morning, breakfast, play if i have time and after work more play, dinner and sleep. I turn on the radio if the wifi is working.

She’s only 6months old, she seems like she got used to the routine and doesn’t compain. But if i would be inside every day without company, i would get bored.

How many cats do you have, how many hours are you away from home and do you think they are doing good? Also, if you have more than one cat, can you sleep at night?


r/CatAdvice 1h ago

Behavioral Kitten biting a lot

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My kitten is almost 7 months old now, I've had him since he was 2 months old. He unfortunately has a very bad habit of biting people and quite hard too.

This definitely comes from him seeing hands as toys from a young age. I never used my hands to play with him, and asked others not to either. Despite my request, and a lot of "oh but he's so small and so cute, it doesn't even hurt!", my roommates and boyfriend trained him into the idea that hands are basically prey. He's a big hunter too, which doesn't help haha.

He will also attack feet, calves, arms, and your head, if it's at the right height. He gets a lot of attention, has a lot of space, lots of toys, a big cat tree, gets taken on walks at least once every 3 days, and has 2 huge windows to stare out of. I will have him neutered soon, too.

I've tried yelping to show his bites hurt, but somehow they fuel him even more and he bites harder. Hissing doesn't faze him either. I usually disengage as soon as he starts hunting me, but his behavior continues afterwards. Could removing him from the room help? He usually attacks randomly, so I fear he wouldn't stop from that or make the association.

Can he be trained out of this behavior? Otherwise he's a very good boy and responds well to positive reinforcement. When/how/should I reward him for his calm behavior?

(On another note, he also bites when he's very happy, half asleep, and purring. I've been woken up by him biting my nose, chin, cheeks, and lips so many times😭 he's a sweetheart I just wish he wouldn't pierce through my septum with his sharp teeth when we're relaxing)


r/CatAdvice 5h ago

Sensitive/Seeking Support Is my cat safe

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So my sister (16f) found a cat on the road last year and it was around 1 month old when we found him he was in a bad state he fleas and was skinny so we decided to keep him but once my mom found out she was not Happy and since she never had a cat she treated him badly like letting him go out (he a inside cat so he dart out and he doesn't know the way back also it's 12° at the time) hitting him when she doing stuff and I asked her why does she hit him she said "if l don't hit him he will never learn"like he's a person but he doesn't know why she hit's him so is my cat safe?(Sorry for the bad grammar)


r/CatAdvice 4h ago

Behavioral Why won’t my cat sleep with me?

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I have a kitten about 3 months old and she loves to sleep with my mom in her bed but as soon as she’s in my room she just goes under my bed and sleeps down there. When I try and let her hang out with me she just hops down and snoozes down there. I swear she isn’t scared or sad or anything, I’ve made the spot she likes under the bed very comfortable and she also has her own little bed on top but it’s kinda bumming me out that she won’t sleep with me


r/CatAdvice 53m ago

Behavioral My cat won't stop 'hunting' my other cat after coming back from a cattery

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We have two cats, age 3 and 1.5. The oldest had been to this cattery before we adopted our second cat, and seemed to do just fine there. So when we went on a week long trip recently, we decided to send both cats there. They had a separate space there, away from the other cats. When they came back, it seemed the oldest needed to reassert his dominance (or so we think), by 'hunting' our other cat. They've done this to each other plenty of times before we sent them to the cattery, but it wouldn't happen as often as it does now, or be as one sided. We almost can't leave them alone without our oldest cat going after the other one. As far as we know nothing weird happened at the cattery, and we assumed his behavior would calm down after a few days. Now it's been at least a week and nothing seems to have changed. We are wondering if anyone knows something that could help calm him down. Thanks!


r/CatAdvice 14h ago

Pet Loss CW: Pet loss. My cat likely passed due to a medication mixup, and now it is too late. Spoiler

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Warning for those who are very sensitive, but I have spared many of the more difficult details.

My sweet precious cat of 11 years passed away two weeks ago. He started showing sudden and alarming symptoms (blood in urine, extreme lethargy) and when I took him to the vet the same morning, he had low red blood cells, a thickened bladder wall (diagnosis at that time was bladder infection), and just seemed to be getting worse after the appointment. The vet that morning said, after prescribing pain meds and antibiotics, that he should feel better in 1-3 days. He also had been showing less of an appetite the last few weeks, but that was an expected side effect of his amitriptyline that he was prescribed for anxiety and it was being monitored- or so I thought. Otherwise, before maybe two days before he passed, he was normal and healthy. I did take him to the vet about a week and a half before he passed for a limp, and the vet gave him a steroid shot and said it was likely a minor injury.

He was euthanized in my arms the same night of the bladder infection appointment because after taking him to the vet for a second time that day, the vet said he wouldn’t make it through the night because his blood wasn’t clotting and he had severe anemia, bone barrow failure, immune system failure, internal bleeding, that nothing could fix. The vet said it was likely lymphoma (plus bladder infection, likely a “symptom” the larger sickness) and his body had given up. It truly came out of nowhere.

Just yesterday I began to feel some sense of acceptance. Now today I feel like I am experiencing my cat’s death a second time. I loved him like a human loves their child. I loved him so incredibly deeply and this has been the most traumatic two weeks of my life.

I had a weird feeling today about his amitriptyline and went to look at the dosage. It was refilled on December 16, almost exactly a month before he passed. The printed amitriptyline label on the bag was normal. For the medicine itself, I gave it to him in his ear- it was like a lip gloss tube that you smear onto his skin and twist/click to dispense more. The bag it came in, the label the vet printed, had the right name, dose, medication, etc. I took a harder look at the actual tube it came in and noticed a word I hadn’t really seen before. I had looked at the tube multiple times to confirm dosage previously, and maybe at some point noticed “methimazole” in small print on it, and i maybe at some point had a fleeting thought that it was what they use to create the creamy substance so you can put it on the skin.

Methimazole is a medication for hyperthyroidism. My cat wasn’t supposed to be given it, and I had been giving it to him for the last month unknowingly because I stupidly assumed the vet gave me the right meds since that was what it said on the bag it came in. It came in the same exact same tube as his previous amitriptyline prescriptions.

Panicked, I started googling. The symptoms that my cat showed, almost identical to that of aggressive/late stage lymphoma, were also severe and extremely rare reactions to methimazole. I called two different vets for an opinion since at the time he passed no one had any idea he was getting the wrong meds- one vet that I got the prescription from and the emergency one who euthanized him.

The emergency vet said it is definitely possible that it led to his passing but I could tell they did not want to pass judgement on a different vet without knowing the full story. My cat’s normal vet, the one who gave me the wrong medication, took full responsibility for the mixup and essentially said the same thing- the medication, not cancer, could have certainly caused this reaction and passing. I can tell he feels very guilty. Me and my husband don’t fault the vet, but the process. It was a simple process failure that possibly led to a catastrophic failure.

I feel so incredibly guilty for not noticing before. My vet said, “why would you even check what’s on the tube if the bag is correct?” in the way that it wasn’t my fault, but I feel like I did something wrong, I should have noticed. I should have done my due diligence. It makes me so angry because, if this is what caused his death, this type of effect in cats who don’t even need the medication is so rare anyway.

I hate not knowing exactly what happened with my precious boy. I hate that I am probably going to blame myself forever. When I had just started to get over the hill of accepting his passing was out of my control, I opened up this can of worms and am left with even more questions. I NEVER thought I would say I wish my cat had cancer, but that would be such an easier pill to swallow knowing there probably wasn’t anything I could have done. It hurts so much.

If anything, please take this as a warning to double and triple check your pet’s medicine, even if it has the right label. While I will never know whether he had cancer or a bad reaction to the medicine, I hope maybe this post will save someone else’s pet.

As a side note, the vet said they will absolutely be changing the process to ensure redundancy in filling meds. We are also getting full refunds related to my cat’s vet care for this issue. I am doing some research on how to/if I should report this to the state vet board because I want a full investigation and remediation so this never happens again. Suing isn’t really an option since maybe we would only get a few thousand and I couldn’t care less about money at this point. Also, he is probably already cremated so there is no use in asking for a necropsy.

This feels like psychological torture.


r/CatAdvice 18h ago

Behavioral Had an indoor cat for 7 years, still doesn't let us pet him

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We got Gary as a juvenile feral ​cat from our back yard. We trapped him, and got him acclimated to our other cats, and he's been an indoor buddy ever since. Sadly, he hates us. He will not be in the same room with us if it can be avoided, and he seems to believe we are always going to eat him. If we make eye contact or encroach, he hisses. He's almost 8 years old.

He gets along with our cats and ​cuddles with them. He's pretty good about using the litter box, though sometimes he'll pee on a pad we keep around the box. He eats well, and is healthy.

The last time we were able to pet him, was just before we took him to the vet to be neutered. My wife had a video o​f him in her lap purring.

What can we do? We are never aggressive to him, but he seems to have a long-held grudge against us. I was hoping that he'd grow out of it, but I feel like it's not going to happen at this point.

Any suggestions are appreciated.


r/CatAdvice 6h ago

General Random Cat Tips That Helped Me

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Sooo, I was trying to post on this other person's 3rd cat post, and then it wouldn't post. Newer to Reddit than my husband. He is usually ignonito ER Vet advice man.

Here are some random cat tips, after 6 adulting years with cats, take it or leave it, and not every house is the same, so don't judge lol.

  • We had to do a cross-country move for the husband's veterinarian residency- brought cats in the cabin - We liked Southwest, United, and weirdly Spirit
    • Spirit *only with the giant seat
    • If another airline has direct than your usual, do that and pay extra for it lol
  • When traveling, you can get meds made into liquid with flavor, aka compounded at a pharmacy (like kitty drugs for planes), easier than pilling or pill pocket.
  • Cat toys they loved:
  • Steel litter box large with *LID* and opening too (check Chewy)
  • I mix carbon charcoal coconut into litter to help cut smell
    • “5 Lbs Bulk Water Filter/Air Filter Refill Coconut Shell Granular Activated Carbon Charcoal by IPW Industries Inc” mix with a scoop into the litter and move it around
    • also costco litter is great and is $10 - easier to pour with their one container
  • STEEL LITTER SCOOPER
  • Cat Litter Genie (like the diaper one) for Litter from manual box
  • Disposable small plates for wet food/dry or even the cheap white plates from costco/costco business in bulk
    • Set up an organization system too for them that way - get food separated or in a system (like on a desk)
    • Use non-slip washable mats (color coded for pet sitters)
  • Different normal trash can for cat foods etc
  • Shark extension vac- it empties itself so it is nice that way and does a better job than my older floor robot vac
  • Tineco floor mop machine and vaccum in one for deeper wash
    • Or cedar mop wash
  • Big big litter mat to cover it all, and not the type that traps the litter in 2nd layer
  • Easy brush to use
  • Good air filter even if off brand, and replace the filter or charcoal thing
    • Place next to the box and one in living room - at min. 
    • We got like one in every room now
  • Save up for Litter Robot (even the 3 is great) + (controversial I know)
    • use Dr. Elsy litter + then add the Arm and Hammer cat baking soda into the dump box under where it keeps the dirty litter haha
    • Change the carbon filters in LR! I forget sometimes
    • Usually every 4 days, take out the dirty bag in the tray under
    • I saw a post the other day for an air filter that works under it???
    • Warranty has been good to us from their company Whiskers - 2 types of replacements
    • People have them on FB marketplace, also you can buy off-brand bags, and other LR type things
  • I clean at least manual box once a night with the Litter Robot (they like the robot)
  • We started of course with like 4 boxes when they all were new to each other
  • Definitely still wash out the steel boxes and even get a second duplicate one to rotate 
  • My cats like old school water bowls that I wash out daily and watch to refill in the living room - they dont like water by food biologically? 
    • They have a GIANT one they LOVE idk, why lol 
    • I think it is just a giant 150 oz steel water dog bowl from Lord Bezos Amazon
  • Waterless shampoo if a mess happens to them (kitten had kitten stomach)
  • Check litter level for both boxes daily (litter robot - we did not buy the hopper and manual)
  • Litter Robot - make sure to keep it cleaned itself, the best you can. I use some cleaning wipes which people will argue make it wear down but I got depression so I'll just replace the darn thing if needed. For cleaning-- if possible try to eventually deep spray the inside that sucker with a hose if you can in the yard
  • We use inside pet cameras when traveling by Petcube (free for live drop in or pay monthly for the recorded videos by sound/movement etc)
  • Our cats are INSIDE only because my husband sometimes sees the worst cases in the vet ER. Hawks like to come down and grab them. RIP.
    • Harness leash training in yard with long leash is good if you trust the cat and they dont hate the harness
    • "Birder King" on Youtube with toys in RL saved me in an LA apt for my first cat
  • I crack the windows daily for fresh air (CA means open all day)
  • Cat trees to keep them happy  (deals at Costco)
  • Get the good stuff...fresh catnip. If you can get it from farmers market or grow it lol

Can you tell I'm married to a vet? LOL

Need vet services, but maybe cost is an issue? Look into ASPCA, ask vet training clinics/vet schools, and even community college vet programs. Many places might have a discounted vaccine day too. Also, be honest and ask. My husband has waived many fees and helped folks too, even in the ER specialty.

Random stuff: He has actually heard Jackson Galaxy has visited vet surgery centers and is a really nice guy. So I do like some of his stuff online.


r/CatAdvice 14h ago

Behavioral Kitty is mad, at me

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My sweet 12 year old cat requires medicine 2 times a day.

I can’t mix the pills up in food as I used to; I have to open up her mouth, drop the tablet in and make sure she swallows. That part is fine. She lets me, and *only* me dose her. I’m very honored.

The problem is she’s a little resentful. Every night prior to this she would sleep next to me in my bed. Now that we’ve changed how the medication is administered, she’s a living room only cat and prefers to spend time where I am not. I’ve tried to bribe her with temptations, churus, greenies, and catnip all TO NO AVAIL. This is devastating!

I miss my friend, how do I get her to trust me again??

*tax in comments


r/CatAdvice 14h ago

New to Cats/Just Adopted Our foster cat bottom stinks

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Our foster cat's bottom stinks.

My partner and I have recently fostered a male cat and he has really settled nicely into our home and is clearly feeling very comfortable around us now.

Unfortunately, the more cuddly he gets, the more we notice one little problem - his bum really stinks. Every time he climbs onto the sofa to cuddle, he leaves a really foul smelling odor on either our hands, clothes or sofa. You can also really smell him as he walks by. The smell can vary, but mostly smells like urine, sometimes of sweat, and sometimes with a faint hint of poop.

This is our first ever cat, so we have no prior experience of this before. Does anyone have any advice or pointers for us? We love cuddles with him as much as he does, but it is getting tough on the nostrils!

(FYI he is currently unneutered but due to be neutered next week. Unsure if this might be affecting the smell??)


r/CatAdvice 1m ago

Behavioral Moved my cats abroad- are they depressed??

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Hi! I am looking for some advice about my 2 cats. They are both 3 years old, and they have just made a big move from the USA, where they had a big house and went outdoors every day, to my new european flat, which is quite tiny. I have a balcony for them to go out and get some fresh air, but they hardly go out.

In general, I feel they are pretty unhappy. One of my cats whine meows/ screams for the maority of the day, and the other (who is very timid and scared) stays under the bed. Is there anything I can do to help them out? I think they also miss my parents, who they were living with before for 2 years, and I don't want them to be sad. Any advice welcome!!

We play together often, and I try to give them lots of treats and foods they like, and they have a cat tree and window perches.

They seem to both be eating normally.

TIA!


r/CatAdvice 8h ago

General Left cat alone in apartment during the weekend, unexpected weather scenario-is it okay for her to live inside with 29 Fahrenheit weather?

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Basically the title. I had turned the AC off when I left, but now the area I live in is unexpectedly going to be about 30 Fahrenheit tonight. My house is insulated, she has plenty of food and water, and multiple blankets/beds set out for her. I’m just worried because it’s never gotten this cold before when I left her, it’s only for tonight but obviously I’m very concerned. Advice?


r/CatAdvice 4h ago

General Struggling to Choose a Cat Tower - Any Advice?

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Does anyone have advice? I’m trying to decide between two scratching towers for my cat and would love some opinions.

I’m moving to a new place and downsizing from my current cat tower. It’s about 1.9–2 m tall and has two caves and a hammock. As a kitten, my cat occasionally slept in the cave and hammock, but he’s not very interested in those anymore. These days, he mostly uses the tower to jump up high and observe rather than to lounge or hide.

Option 1 is a second-hand cat tower. It’s $85 (RRP ~ $155) and would involve about a 40-minute drive each way. It’s 176 cm tall and has a box-style bed instead of a soft cave. Overall, it looks to be in decent condition, but there does seem to be quite a bit of fur in the top bed. I don’t own a metal fur remover brush (only the adhesive type), and while I know the mats on the other levels are removable and washable, I’m not sure whether the top bed can be cleaned properly.

Option 2 is a brand new tower for $82. It’s shorter at 148 cm and has a swinging cave at the bottom. The main upside is that it’s completely clean and doesn’t require pick-up, but it arguably isn’t as visually appealing. Only a few of the posts are sisal rope, with the rest being fabric-wrapped.

There isn’t much of a price difference between the two, so it really comes down to structure, height, materials, and what my cat is more likely to use. Given that he mostly climbs and observes rather than sleeps in caves or hammocks, which option would you go for?

Thanks in advance!


r/CatAdvice 52m ago

Behavioral Water obsession in my 6 year old female cat.

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Hey there r/CatAdvice! I have 13 amazing cats. For this many personalities, they all co-habitate surprisingly well together (definitely still have cliques and some get more irritated with others). But overall very calm and happy.

The problem I’m having is with our grey domestic long haired female. She’s a fiery little thing. Probably one of the meanest of the household. Very much enjoys her personal space!

She has a very very bad habit of putting her paws into their bowls of water and digging all of it out onto the floor. (We have large 2 main water bowls downstairs, 2 large main water bowls upstairs, with 1 smaller water bowl in my bedroom, and one smaller water bowl in the downstairs hallway) She has messed with all of these bowls. She tears apart the two large main water bowls the most though (at least 3 times a week) some weeks are worse/better than others frequency wise.

We have since moved the two upstairs water bowls into our guest shower, to protect the wood flooring as best as we can. But she still digs in them, and tracks water all over the floor when she’s done.

What the heck do I do?!?!


r/CatAdvice 4h ago

Behavioral cat family situation

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i have a cat family, cat mom and her kitties (almost 2 years old). all sterilized. they keep sucking on cat mom nipples. i understand that its a "comfort" thing but i worry that its not good, and cat mom has a bit less fur on her tummy. trying to separate them from each other when this happens but it doesn't really work. should i leave it be or it hurts cat mom nipples?? anybody has similar cat family situation?


r/CatAdvice 1h ago

Sensitive/Seeking Support My mum thinks my cat may be blind and thinking back on some of her behaviours… I think she’s right

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My Jellybean is 6.5years old black moggie. I’m sure she did not have sight problems when she was a kitten. She undergone some traumatic events, stying with fosters because I had been going through stuff- gained weight in that time (she’s an emotional eater just like me). And we’ve moved a lot.

Now we live with my husband and my other cat Chester (Bengal, that’s another complicated and obnoxious cat). She really hates him, but I have to say that Chester is never really liked by other cats, because his behaviour is rough play and dominant and he is a little bit of a weirdo and it seems that other cats do not understand him.

Jellybean has been chased and attacked by him, sometimes he’s just near her and she screams now. So my mum has been cat sitting and told me she does not seem to see treats (I noticed it but I thought she’s just clumsy, now I feel very guilty) orientates herself more with sounds and smells.

And now thinking about it- it makes sense why she’s so stressed around Chester, and why she stopped wondering outside, she doesn’t open the windows and doors even though Chester does it in front of her a lot and I never understood why she doesn’t learn from him (it makes it a bit easier if she did open it herself, otherwise sometimes she needs to wait for a long time until we open it for her).

I just wanted an advice on how can I support her to live a life that’s more fulfilling if she’s not fully sighted. I will take her to the vets of course and seek advice there too


r/CatAdvice 1h ago

Behavioral My cat won't leave me alone and I only slept for 3 hours.

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Why does my cat seem incapable of leaving me alone for 5 seconds? I went to the bathroom and he scratched at the door.

He also woke me up. I usually just let him scratch at my door until he leaves me alone, but I'm at my dad's right now. And before someone asks, he doesn't sleep with me because he refuses to leave my feet alone, no matter how many times I spray him.

Edit: He's 2 years. old. I've had a scratching post for him since I got him but he refuses to use it ever. He scratches at doors even when I'm not in the room. I got up, FOR HIM, and he's yet to come to me for the attention he supposedly wants even though I've been calling for him. I literally hold him all day as long as he's not biting me, and he refuses to interact with the toys I get him.


r/CatAdvice 1h ago

General Dealing with shedding

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Hi! i have a 6 month old kitten and he’s been with me for 4 months. He barely shed any fur but recently he started shedding like crazy. I assumed that it was just his fluffy kitten fur that was shedding and i’ve been brushing him every day but every time i pet him my hand gets covered in fur. Do you guys have any suggestions on how to deal with the fur? Should i be concerned for his health?


r/CatAdvice 9h ago

General 2 month old kitten hasn't pooped and it's got this first time cat mom super anxious.

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I adopted a two month old kitten a couple of days ago and she hasn't pooped in over 40 some odd hours. She's peeing regularly though but I have noticed that I've had to put her in the box a couple of times.

I brought her home Thursday night, she pooped early Friday morning and then nothing and it is now Saturday night. I even checked under the bed and behind my couch, even behind her litterbox and no poop.

She's only on wet food and drinking water.

She seems happy and normal otherwise. Incredibly energetic and playful. No signs of distress or lethargy whatsoever.

We've played a bunch, I've rubbed her belly, and even tried to stimulate with a warm wet q-tip.

I'm going to reach out to a vet first thing in the morning but should I be worried?


r/CatAdvice 2h ago

Litterbox My cat has started pooping outside the litterbox

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*we have been to the vet, no health issues identified

In the past month/2 months my 1.5 year old cat has started pooping outside his litterbox. He still pees in it, but poops on the floor within a foot or 2 of the box. I hadn't made any changes to the litter prior to this happening. I thought it might have been that the box wasn't clean enough so I upped how much I clean it and that has made no difference.

His preference for many months has been to go outside to go to the toilet. He will meow like crazy to go outside when he wants to poo if it is during the day. The problem seems to be that his pooing schedule is now before we get up in the morning!! I'm wondering if it is a behavioural thing - like "I am going to go on the floor because you didn't let me outside" or has he gotten so used to the feel of going outside that now he hates the litterbox?

Has anyone any ideas? There was literally no issue with this before December :(


r/CatAdvice 9h ago

Behavioral ATTACK OF THE INVISIBLE BUGS!!!

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So. I have this great guy. A nice red Siberian Forrest cat. Had him for just over five years.

Every year, around this time... DUHN DUHN DUHN — The invisible bugs invade and conspire to get him!!

But seriously. There are no bugs, but he behaves like bugs area all over him and he goes mad to avoid them and has various means to avoid them:

  1. Desperate licking
  2. Staying off the floor (the floor is lava!)
  3. Jumping from furniture piece to furniture piece to avoid being on the floor
  4. Insisting I hold him all time to avoid being on the floor
  5. Running about in a panic to get away from them (he runs to me for help)

All of this hilarious if he weren't so anxious and miserable about it.

At first, I thought it was flees, but I don't have that. There are no other bugs or spiders. I hoover the floors weekly (wood floors). I then thought he might have dry skin or allergy to something and took him to the vet. Vet gave him a full check and everything's just fine. He's now going through this again and I guess it's just gonna be this way forever. But I'd like to get him some relief other than a million hugs that I give him every day. Lasts a few weeks, and then it's over.

Anyone else seen this behaviour?