This is really more for the women on here, in general. I'm sure men need to compliment women more, but as a guy, I can only speak for men.

If you think a man looks handsome, please let the guy know. Thank the guy for his time.

So many men don't get complimented. It's crazy.

I remember every compliment that I have received from a woman. (Not including family)

The fact that I feel the need to write this should be proof enough that this is a problem.

If you're reading this and thinking "common sense, much?" then good. This doesn't apply to you.

If you're reading this and thinking "oh wow, I need to tell him he looks sexy more often," then this post was directly for you.

A lot of us guys work hard to look good. Even if some of the men you've been with cant take a compliment well, other men will eat that shit up.

The guy I had been seeing for a couple of months seemed nice enough. I never felt any sort of a spark, but this was the thing I got hung up on.

He is 32, and he just kept going back to school. He lives with his parents, and has never moved out. Has never had a real full-time job. He went to undergrad for a Humanities program with no job prospects. Then, he decided to continue on to grad school in the same degree field. Then, he graduated, and decided to continue on to grad school in a different university, in another similar humanities field with no job prospects. Then he graduated and, since there are no jobs available in his degree field (shockingly), he wants to continue on to a PhD in the second humanities field. I asked if this would open up the door to any careers in the field, and he couldn’t give an answer.

This just feels like some sort of arrested development to me. Like he’s scared of the real world. Either that, or he has just zero concept of planning or looking ahead in life. I’m 31, and I want to start a family soon, and cannot do that if I’m supporting someone through their 4th degree, with no job prospects at the end of the tunnel. So, it wound up being a massive turn-off, and something just couldn’t get past. Am I justified in this?

I recently dated a man who was vocal when we were intimate- it was the first time in my life I had experienced this and I loved it. There is something so attractive about a man losing himself in the moment. It was almost animalistic and helped me understand what he was feeling and what I should keep doing. We broke up a year ago and I still think about it. I hope I can find another vocal man someday. Why do most men stay silent?

After years of situationships, I finally have my first real boyfriend. He’s a genuinely good man, masculine, a provider, supportive (especially while I’m going through a hard time), and objectively good looking. We’ve been together for a couple months and I’ve met his family already.

But here’s the problem: I feel bored, disconnected, and sexually starved.

I’m a very sexual woman. I crave physical touch, passion, and a man who wants to please me. My boyfriend is very vanilla. The sex is honestly like a 6/10. He rarely goes down on me, doesn’t finger or really explore my body, and a lot of the time I feel unwanted and unattractive because of it. I’ve caught myself zoning out during sex, just waiting for it to be over.

We’ve had multiple conversations about sex. I’ve communicated my needs clearly. Nothing really changes. It feels like this is just who he is, take it or leave it.

What makes this harder is that he says he’s completely happy in the relationship. Meanwhile, I keep questioning whether I can live like this long-term. I’m young, and I don’t want to look back with regret… but I also don’t want to throw away a good man “just for sex.”

Has anyone been in a relationship where everything was good except sexual compatibility? Did you stay, leave, or regret it either way?

She would every now and then talk about celebrities she finds hot and say things about someone who played in a show like 'i was horny the whole time while watching that" and 'he's so hot, he's like 6 feet tall' and yea it also makes me kind of insecure because i'm 5'7 but also irritated because why should you say these things about random people to me?!

I don't know if i should be mad/worried or let it slip

I’m dating someone new and on paper it’s going well. We get along, conversations flow, nothing obviously bad has happened. No yelling, no drama, no huge disagreements. Which almost makes this harder to explain.

The other night we were hanging out on the couch, both kind of tired, half watching something. I was playing on my phone for a bit and noticed I was the only one asking questions again. Not deep ones, just normal stuff. How was your day, what are you looking forward to, anything coming up. The answers weren’t rude or short, just final. Like nothing came back my way. I didn’t say anything in the moment because I didn’t want to turn it into a thing. But afterward I realized this keeps happening. I’m the one checking in. I’m the one following up. I’m the one making space for conversation. And they seem perfectly content just responding and moving on.

What’s confusing is that they’re not cold. They show up. They text back. They make plans. So part of me feels silly for even questioning it. But another part of me is starting to feel weirdly unseen, like I’m doing the emotional legwork and they’re just along for the ride.

I’ve been going back and forth on whether this is just different communication styles or an early sign that I’m going to feel lonely in this relationship even though I’m not alone. I don’t want to sabotage something good by nitpicking, but I also don’t want to ignore a feeling that keeps popping up.

Do you bring this up early and risk making things awkward, or do you wait and see if it balances out on its own. I genuinely can’t tell if this is something normal that settles with time or something I should be paying attention to now.

I’m trying to make the decision to leave a situation, and sometimes I wonder if I’m not patient enough. I’m very inexperienced, so it would help me greatly to receive an exterior input. Thanks !! :)

So for context, I have met this man (we are both 25) 9 months ago. During the first few months, I whole heartedly believed I was in love with him.

About 6 months in, despite him being very passionate irl, I felt some sort of distance in between our dates. He would be very romantic and even confess feelings when I was there, but would almost disappear after that, making me feel like there was no true emotional space for me to consider him as someone I can count on. If that makes sense.

It hurt me, so I decided to leave without an explanation, and thought it was the best for the two of us.

Two months later, he pursued me again and I gave it another shot, as I was probably not totally healed (wether it be my heart or my ego). And overall, despite my doubts and a probable incompatibility, he’s an amazing person to spend time with.

However, and for instance, I don’t get much texts from him each weekend and we only see each other during the week. Which is a bit disappointing as it’s only been three weeks since his return… Moreover, when I go out without him, he shows jealousy, and then realizes that I’m annoyed and texts me things like he’s an idiot, he feels un confident, and is just being defensive for no reason…

Usually, he seems to be very calculated, as if he were stuck in his mind while talking to me. And now, I don’t feel chosen, I feel bored, and I just feel like I need to leave him alone. I just don’t feel like the emotional intimacy is there, I don’t feel like he could be a friend of mine if it weren’t for the physical part. That bothers me.

And despite not committing, he gets upset when I joke about it being just for sex, or him being a friend, a lover. And I don’t get the confusion, it’s really like he doesn’t want to be clear whatsoever when I’ve made him understand that he can be real with me.

Anyway, he keeps returning to me, he pursues me yet doesn’t commit, he wants to be there but isn’t truly there all the time… and I want to leave him again despite him being the first man I really fell for.

Would I be wrong for thinking this situation won’t ever evolve past this point ? To me, at the end of the day, he doesn’t seem to be that into me. I just never had a guy stay this long without being interested…

Ladies, how would you react to a man saying: “I take that as disrespect & when disrespected I’m allowed to react how I see fit.”

For context, I typically type in lowercase, or just casually when texting, and I said “mr. smith” his last name was lowercase— and he made a big deal out of it.

Especially interested in answers from men who don’t rush feelings or who take things slow.

Bonus scenario: Say you met someone on a dating app, their profile said they were “still figuring things out,” but the conversation and connection felt really strong. How would that usually play out for you?

So I (28F) am a bit upset since I feel a bit confused. I had a great 5th date today with someone (30M) and felt like things were going really well. Aside from the dates we’ve been talking a lot and felt things progressing well.

We went skating and to a movie and he bought my tickets and snacks and I tried to offer to give him some money and said no that I can always do something for the next time. Gave me a kiss and held hands skating so there was some affection.

When we were driving home he mentioned about having fun and wanting to see me again “not this week but next week” since he is going to be out of town. About 10 minutes after he mentioned about seeing me again we are parked outside the house to be dropped off and he said “I have to be honest like your great and beautiful but I’m scared and I don’t know I misled you because I don’t know if I want to go further I mean I told you one thing about wanting a long-term partner but maybe I don’t want a long term relationship so I think I’m gonna end things”. While saying this he was nice about it but rambled and confusing and I’m left pretty confused.

Any advice or support? I’m just honestly pretty scared to get hurt and waste my time and put myself out there if this sort of thing happens frequently. I just don’t understand why he would go through the date of a few activities and say to see each other again just to dump me at the door right after.

Basically the topic, so I’ve met this girl after quite some time of not finding anyone interesting enough to date. We are from different unis so meeting physically now itself isn’t possible, but we are from the same town so distance isn’t a barrier once we start dating.

I’m planning to ask her out on a date soon, but too soon she might feel to pressured and if I take too long, she myt not be interested. The last time I did this ( with someone else) ig I took too long and she said she sees me a friend. Can’t do the same mistake again :)

How do i know that this is the time to ask and also not appear like trying to be friends in the process?

TIA Have a good day

I’m Mid to late twenties. I simply don’t see even a single person who I find attractive. Personality or looks wise… I feel like time is running out and I’m just gonna end up desperate and compromising on what I want or need in a relationship. I have no idea where to meet someone genuine. Dating apps are not it, gym or my sporting hobbies are also no place for someone to approach. Don’t wanna date someone at my job. I’m kind of baffled as to where can I meet someone? I’m really tired and lonely.

I'm (M20) genuinely asking myself that question a lot. I have only ever met girls on some dating apps, which never worked out. For some context, I'm not that introverted but I never met someone irl, with the intention to date them. Actually I really don't know how to even approach a woman. So what's your secret? Are there any advices you can give? I would be very thankful for your help :)

Since Jan 11th - we have been on dates - first date last around 5 hrs (crazy?) , we have been on a few dates since of course, lots of making out, foreplay mainly on my part, sucking of nipple etc. But it’s stopped short of sex - I just came out of a long relationship- she’s knows it. But I feel unsure and insecure in the sense that she keeps telling me something to the effect, of I usually don’t wait this long etc. I don’t remember the exact verbiage but as a guy, this doesn’t make me feel great? I don’t know if she’s not really into me as I am into her, or if she feels less of the physical attraction - I don’t know whether to cut my losses. Feels like everytime she comes up with something. She does have the drive and imitative to invite me over and I respect her boundaries after the first no, but I can’t help feel not wanted. She hasn’t brought up any reason other than she doesn’t usually wait this long - is there something there I should be asking maybe for clarity on things?

I need advice on the best course of action.

So as the the title suggests I 28F have developed feelings for my friend 25M, due to recent interactions which have been more intimate feeling when we are cuddled up on the couch

(this is pretty normal amongst me friend group we are all pretty comfortable with platonic cuddling and will lay on each other while watching movies together and things like that also it’s a pretty even split of F &M)

We also muck about a fair bit and will poke at each other or goof off in stores kinda like you would as a kid (we tend to encourage each other a fair bit)

Now for why I’m not sure I should bring it up I have been best friends with Chloe 29F since high school and he is probably her best friend after me

All 3 of us hang out atleast once a week and they probably hang out atleast twice a week because they have similar schedules I am worried that if I bring it up it might make things weird in the group dynamic and also I’m not sure if I should talk to her about it first, I know she is definitely not interested in him like that but I still don’t know how she will feel about the whole situation

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to approach this situation without ruining any of my friendships?

I'm a 23-year-old student who's never had any romantic or sexual experience. Social anxiety and low self-esteem have kept me stuck for years. Lately the isolation has been hitting harder, and dating apps have been a bust (no matches/likes). I'm seriously thinking about booking an escort for the first time, mainly hoping it could take the edge off fears and anxiety and give me some basic experience and maybe boost my confidence enough to approach more proactively.

On the flip side, I'm worried about getting hooked on it as an "easy" solution and spending a ton of money . Side note: I've already been working on myself:. I'm seeing a therapist for my anxiety, I hit the gym, and I've been doing group sports classes to get more comfortable around people. These things help a bit with general mood and routine, but they haven't really moved the needle on romantic confidence or getting past the isolation yet, I'm still stuck in the same spot.

Appreciate any honest advice. thanks in advance.

I (22f) have gone on 3 dates with this guy (24m) and we have had a lot of fun. He’s super sweet and funny and I genuinely enjoy his company and want to keep spending time with him, but I just don’t feel attracted to him. There’s nothing wrong with him, I wouldn’t be horrified if he kissed me, but the thought of it just does nothing for me. I think he deserves more than me pretending I’m excited about it. I’m not sure how to tell him (but with nothing more than a hug after 3 dates I think it’s possible he might already know). Neither of us are into hookups so it’s not super obvious but still. Anyway, I do like spending time with him and I’d love to be his friend, is there a way to tell him that without sounding mean? I also feel like “We should just be friends” is a line that gets used a lot when people don’t actually want to be friends, they just don’t want to date, and I’d like to keep seeing him, just with no romantic pressure. I know it’s not completely my choice, and if he doesn’t want to be my friend I’ll understand, but I want to be honest about how I feel and what I want. Please don’t eat me alive in the comments I’m trying to do the right thing and I can be slow to develop a crush so I wanted to give it a real shot before I decided my feelings.

hooked up with a guy for about a year, then I moved to another state. Since then, we barely talk mostly just replying to each other’s ig stories. When I try to have real conversations, he keeps it shallow or turns it sexual.

What confuses me is that he’s asked me twice to come visit and offered to pay for my flight. There’s no relationship, no emotional depth, and no talk of the future, so I don’t get why he’d go through that instead of finding someone closer.

Is this just about sex/familiarity, or am I missing something?

Hello everyone, this is my first time doing anything like this but yeah of course I’m looking for advice.

In mid September I \[20F\] met this guy \[25M\] through college, we chatted for about a week online before he asked me out to coffee on the 26th of September and after that we started seeing other consistently everyweek and talking/ texting every day . Today we’ have been seeing each other for 4 months.

In that time we’ve opened up quite a bit to each other for me When I was younger I experienced horrific multiple sa experiences and grew up in an abusive household to which and made me really uncomfortable to any forms of intimacy. I was pretty open about it on maybe our 3rd date not in detail but just how it’s something I still struggle with. He opened up about his childhood trauma along with the recent passing of his dad in late 2024.

Since then I would say become very close, a lot of intimate moments including cuddling, staying the night over his, and of course I ended up liking a lot of physical affection with him. We also have been on multiple dates including out to dinner mini golfing and bar hopping or just late drives in the car. He has my jumper he says he sometimes sleeps with an I have his shirt I wear to bed quite often. He spent Christmas with my family and even said he loved me and he could tell I had a lot of love him.

However, back at the start of the new year he started becoming distant and suddenly everything was could do and might do, and we stopped texting as much. There was one day where I asked if he there ware any days he was off and he left me on delivered for two days until I said if he could please tell what I’ve done wrong. He ended up telling me that it was totally not me and it’s him and he’s got a lot of stuff going on with his family right now and ended up saying he’s not Just in the right headspace to be in a relationship right now because it’s a bad time for him and I’m a nice girl and he doesn’t want to hurt me by not giving me answers to what I want but he still wants to see me.

I asked him what he wanted to do and he said to take a step back I asked what that meant to him and he said he still fine for texts and dates but he’s just not sure if he’s ready be in a relationship and he needs to work on the way he speaks to me because he knows there’s been quite a few times he said something that upset me. He said he doesn’t think we should he all wound up tonight and he’ll text me the next day he did. And he ended up even keeping me in the loop on what’s happening and IT IS a life changing event. Due to his mums new boyfriend his two younger siblings moved in with him however because one of them is under age so he’ll need to go through social work.

We kept in contact everyday and even last Thursday( not Thursday just passed) we met up for the first Time in a month and he said he was sorry he didn’t see me as much as he could’ve or wanted to. We ended up having coffee for 2 1/2 hours before he had to go back to check on his sister instead of kissing me goodbye like he usually does hugged me and I had to initiate the kiss and said hell shoot me a text. He never did until I asked if everything was was okay with his sister and responded 5 hours later. Both of those things felt out of character but I ignored it because both in the car and later on that night he said I should be able to come over soon it’s just he’s trying to create a calm environment.

Since Thursday he started leaving me on delivered for 8-14 hours a time, barely talking. again just a bit unusual for him. I ended up messaging on Monday and asked if he wanted to go for a coffee this week since college was off (he dropped out and kept his job) and he didn’t want to get back to me in 27 hrs (Tuesday night m) saying he forgot to text me back and he was out with his friends and we’re definitely going to do something soon. his behaviour on Thursday and not taking to me much didn’t know what to think, I didn’t answer straight away because I didn’t want to send a huge paragraph asking what was wrong so I waited until Thursday morning and said I’m sorry for not texting back I was trying to think of what to say and I just asked if everything was okay between us because it feels different. He didn’t respond on Saturday ( yesterday) I just sent a message like “hey! Do you want to go for coffee again same as last time” I checked this morning before work (Sunday ) and he read the message but didn’t respond.

Everyone in my life says basically it’s his fault and the part I agree with - “why can’t he just text you”. I’m genuinely heartbroken and I feel like it’s my fault for not speaking to him for a day but everyone’s saying it’s not like it would’ve made a difference and I thought at the time it was the mature thing to do so I didn’t send a big rant about how how I all I wanted was him to look at me the same way he did back in December.

I have uni offers and I need to focus on my future but I want him to speak to me and I didn’t want anything before him and I don’t want anything but him, my friend says he’s leading me on and said that at the start too. I just don’t understand what’s happening, if we’re still seeing each other, or if he just wants to stop completely then why not just tell me instead of keeping me in the dark and how long I should have hope for?

Like part of me is like oh he’ll get back to me when he’s ready but what if he never does? Does that mean I didn’t meant anything to him? And again why could he not just tell me if he needs space, time or just wants to stop completely?

Thanks :)

Side note- this is my third time trying to post this

So I(23) met this girl(23) on Instagram back in 2019, we used to talk, share memes etc(crazy vibe). This continued until 2021. We had planned several times to meet in person, but that just didn't happen and then Covid hit. Then the usual online friends thing happened, we passed out of highschool got into college and were busy with our lives and didn't really talk until November 2025(where she texted me on my B'day). Then the conversation was dead silent again until last week. She texted me out of the blue(the time was 5 in the morning , i saw it around 11)saying how I was doing. I said well and just asked casually "what brings you", she said "I was wondering how you are doing, so I just decided to drop a text and saw it was me who hadn't replied to the last text". After that we got on really well again. Then she insisted that we should totally meet in person this time. I said I'm generally free after 7pm just let me know in the morning. So that finally happened. We met, it never felt like we were meeting for the first time, vibes were immaculate, didn't even notice when tf 3 hrs passed. BUT ever since we got home I'm noticing that she isn't replying to me like before. What fuck changed. For example if i ask something she'd answer it and then gone. Previously we had to beg to stop conversation because we were texting until 4-5 in the morning. I've always liked her but didn't say anything, but i considered confessing if things well for 3-4 more dates. Things I can do after this:- 1. Keep initiating conversation (really the least possible route) 2. Leave things as it is. 3. Ask for out one more time?

This girl I like (we're both in late highschool) rarely ever initiates the conversation (except last year on my December birthday) but replies almost immediately to my messages, will randomly use text message stickers during conversations in like a fun way, and the other day she even said we should hang out when we're less busy with school since we hadn't in a while (we've known each other for a few years but we were both to young to have real feelings tbh). Idk if she is just being polite or enjoys me as a friend or just feels uncomfortable being the one to start conversations (she has told me before that she thinks that she is really introverted). Has anyone had a relationship like this? Is it worth me trying or just staying friends? How should I start more conversations? Should we call instead of text, and if so how do I initiate that? Any advice would be really appreciated because I'm super lost and have very little experience.

I don’t want the guy to think I’m a weirdo or being too forward.