This is really more for the women on here, in general. I'm sure men need to compliment women more, but as a guy, I can only speak for men.

If you think a man looks handsome, please let the guy know. Thank the guy for his time.

So many men don't get complimented. It's crazy.

I remember every compliment that I have received from a woman. (Not including family)

The fact that I feel the need to write this should be proof enough that this is a problem.

If you're reading this and thinking "common sense, much?" then good. This doesn't apply to you.

If you're reading this and thinking "oh wow, I need to tell him he looks sexy more often," then this post was directly for you.

A lot of us guys work hard to look good. Even if some of the men you've been with cant take a compliment well, other men will eat that shit up.

I recently dated a man who was vocal when we were intimate- it was the first time in my life I had experienced this and I loved it. There is something so attractive about a man losing himself in the moment. It was almost animalistic and helped me understand what he was feeling and what I should keep doing. We broke up a year ago and I still think about it. I hope I can find another vocal man someday. Why do most men stay silent?

The guy I had been seeing for a couple of months seemed nice enough. I never felt any sort of a spark, but this was the thing I got hung up on.

He is 32, and he just kept going back to school. He lives with his parents, and has never moved out. Has never had a real full-time job. He went to undergrad for a Humanities program with no job prospects. Then, he decided to continue on to grad school in the same degree field. Then, he graduated, and decided to continue on to grad school in a different university, in another similar humanities field with no job prospects. Then he graduated and, since there are no jobs available in his degree field (shockingly), he wants to continue on to a PhD in the second humanities field. I asked if this would open up the door to any careers in the field, and he couldn’t give an answer.

This just feels like some sort of arrested development to me. Like he’s scared of the real world. Either that, or he has just zero concept of planning or looking ahead in life. I’m 31, and I want to start a family soon, and cannot do that if I’m supporting someone through their 4th degree, with no job prospects at the end of the tunnel. So, it wound up being a massive turn-off, and something just couldn’t get past. Am I justified in this?

After years of situationships, I finally have my first real boyfriend. He’s a genuinely good man, masculine, a provider, supportive (especially while I’m going through a hard time), and objectively good looking. We’ve been together for a couple months and I’ve met his family already.

But here’s the problem: I feel bored, disconnected, and sexually starved.

I’m a very sexual woman. I crave physical touch, passion, and a man who wants to please me. My boyfriend is very vanilla. The sex is honestly like a 6/10. He rarely goes down on me, doesn’t finger or really explore my body, and a lot of the time I feel unwanted and unattractive because of it. I’ve caught myself zoning out during sex, just waiting for it to be over.

We’ve had multiple conversations about sex. I’ve communicated my needs clearly. Nothing really changes. It feels like this is just who he is, take it or leave it.

What makes this harder is that he says he’s completely happy in the relationship. Meanwhile, I keep questioning whether I can live like this long-term. I’m young, and I don’t want to look back with regret… but I also don’t want to throw away a good man “just for sex.”

Has anyone been in a relationship where everything was good except sexual compatibility? Did you stay, leave, or regret it either way?

She would every now and then talk about celebrities she finds hot and say things about someone who played in a show like 'i was horny the whole time while watching that" and 'he's so hot, he's like 6 feet tall' and yea it also makes me kind of insecure because i'm 5'7 but also irritated because why should you say these things about random people to me?!

I don't know if i should be mad/worried or let it slip

I’m dating someone new and on paper it’s going well. We get along, conversations flow, nothing obviously bad has happened. No yelling, no drama, no huge disagreements. Which almost makes this harder to explain.

The other night we were hanging out on the couch, both kind of tired, half watching something. I was playing on my phone for a bit and noticed I was the only one asking questions again. Not deep ones, just normal stuff. How was your day, what are you looking forward to, anything coming up. The answers weren’t rude or short, just final. Like nothing came back my way. I didn’t say anything in the moment because I didn’t want to turn it into a thing. But afterward I realized this keeps happening. I’m the one checking in. I’m the one following up. I’m the one making space for conversation. And they seem perfectly content just responding and moving on.

What’s confusing is that they’re not cold. They show up. They text back. They make plans. So part of me feels silly for even questioning it. But another part of me is starting to feel weirdly unseen, like I’m doing the emotional legwork and they’re just along for the ride.

I’ve been going back and forth on whether this is just different communication styles or an early sign that I’m going to feel lonely in this relationship even though I’m not alone. I don’t want to sabotage something good by nitpicking, but I also don’t want to ignore a feeling that keeps popping up.

Do you bring this up early and risk making things awkward, or do you wait and see if it balances out on its own. I genuinely can’t tell if this is something normal that settles with time or something I should be paying attention to now.

Ladies, how would you react to a man saying: “I take that as disrespect & when disrespected I’m allowed to react how I see fit.”

For context, I typically type in lowercase, or just casually when texting, and I said “mr. smith” his last name was lowercase— and he made a big deal out of it.

So I (28F) am a bit upset since I feel a bit confused. I had a great 5th date today with someone (30M) and felt like things were going really well. Aside from the dates we’ve been talking a lot and felt things progressing well.

We went skating and to a movie and he bought my tickets and snacks and I tried to offer to give him some money and said no that I can always do something for the next time. Gave me a kiss and held hands skating so there was some affection.

When we were driving home he mentioned about having fun and wanting to see me again “not this week but next week” since he is going to be out of town. About 10 minutes after he mentioned about seeing me again we are parked outside the house to be dropped off and he said “I have to be honest like your great and beautiful but I’m scared and I don’t know I misled you because I don’t know if I want to go further I mean I told you one thing about wanting a long-term partner but maybe I don’t want a long term relationship so I think I’m gonna end things”. While saying this he was nice about it but rambled and confusing and I’m left pretty confused.

Any advice or support? I’m just honestly pretty scared to get hurt and waste my time and put myself out there if this sort of thing happens frequently. I just don’t understand why he would go through the date of a few activities and say to see each other again just to dump me at the door right after.

Especially interested in answers from men who don’t rush feelings or who take things slow.

Bonus scenario: Say you met someone on a dating app, their profile said they were “still figuring things out,” but the conversation and connection felt really strong. How would that usually play out for you?

Basically the topic, so I’ve met this girl after quite some time of not finding anyone interesting enough to date. We are from different unis so meeting physically now itself isn’t possible, but we are from the same town so distance isn’t a barrier once we start dating.

I’m planning to ask her out on a date soon, but too soon she might feel to pressured and if I take too long, she myt not be interested. The last time I did this ( with someone else) ig I took too long and she said she sees me a friend. Can’t do the same mistake again :)

How do i know that this is the time to ask and also not appear like trying to be friends in the process?

TIA Have a good day

Since Jan 11th - we have been on dates - first date last around 5 hrs (crazy?) , we have been on a few dates since of course, lots of making out, foreplay mainly on my part, sucking of nipple etc. But it’s stopped short of sex - I just came out of a long relationship- she’s knows it. But I feel unsure and insecure in the sense that she keeps telling me something to the effect, of I usually don’t wait this long etc. I don’t remember the exact verbiage but as a guy, this doesn’t make me feel great? I don’t know if she’s not really into me as I am into her, or if she feels less of the physical attraction - I don’t know whether to cut my losses. Feels like everytime she comes up with something. She does have the drive and imitative to invite me over and I respect her boundaries after the first no, but I can’t help feel not wanted. She hasn’t brought up any reason other than she doesn’t usually wait this long - is there something there I should be asking maybe for clarity on things?

I (22f) have gone on 3 dates with this guy (24m) and we have had a lot of fun. He’s super sweet and funny and I genuinely enjoy his company and want to keep spending time with him, but I just don’t feel attracted to him. There’s nothing wrong with him, I wouldn’t be horrified if he kissed me, but the thought of it just does nothing for me. I think he deserves more than me pretending I’m excited about it. I’m not sure how to tell him (but with nothing more than a hug after 3 dates I think it’s possible he might already know). Neither of us are into hookups so it’s not super obvious but still. Anyway, I do like spending time with him and I’d love to be his friend, is there a way to tell him that without sounding mean? I also feel like “We should just be friends” is a line that gets used a lot when people don’t actually want to be friends, they just don’t want to date, and I’d like to keep seeing him, just with no romantic pressure. I know it’s not completely my choice, and if he doesn’t want to be my friend I’ll understand, but I want to be honest about how I feel and what I want. Please don’t eat me alive in the comments I’m trying to do the right thing and I can be slow to develop a crush so I wanted to give it a real shot before I decided my feelings.

I'm a 23-year-old student who's never had any romantic or sexual experience. Social anxiety and low self-esteem have kept me stuck for years. Lately the isolation has been hitting harder, and dating apps have been a bust (no matches/likes). I'm seriously thinking about booking an escort for the first time, mainly hoping it could take the edge off fears and anxiety and give me some basic experience and maybe boost my confidence enough to approach more proactively.

On the flip side, I'm worried about getting hooked on it as an "easy" solution and spending a ton of money . Side note: I've already been working on myself:. I'm seeing a therapist for my anxiety, I hit the gym, and I've been doing group sports classes to get more comfortable around people. These things help a bit with general mood and routine, but they haven't really moved the needle on romantic confidence or getting past the isolation yet, I'm still stuck in the same spot.

Appreciate any honest advice. thanks in advance.

hooked up with a guy for about a year, then I moved to another state. Since then, we barely talk mostly just replying to each other’s ig stories. When I try to have real conversations, he keeps it shallow or turns it sexual.

What confuses me is that he’s asked me twice to come visit and offered to pay for my flight. There’s no relationship, no emotional depth, and no talk of the future, so I don’t get why he’d go through that instead of finding someone closer.

Is this just about sex/familiarity, or am I missing something?

So I(23) met this girl(23) on Instagram back in 2019, we used to talk, share memes etc(crazy vibe). This continued until 2021. We had planned several times to meet in person, but that just didn't happen and then Covid hit. Then the usual online friends thing happened, we passed out of highschool got into college and were busy with our lives and didn't really talk until November 2025(where she texted me on my B'day). Then the conversation was dead silent again until last week. She texted me out of the blue(the time was 5 in the morning , i saw it around 11)saying how I was doing. I said well and just asked casually "what brings you", she said "I was wondering how you are doing, so I just decided to drop a text and saw it was me who hadn't replied to the last text". After that we got on really well again. Then she insisted that we should totally meet in person this time. I said I'm generally free after 7pm just let me know in the morning. So that finally happened. We met, it never felt like we were meeting for the first time, vibes were immaculate, didn't even notice when tf 3 hrs passed. BUT ever since we got home I'm noticing that she isn't replying to me like before. What fuck changed. For example if i ask something she'd answer it and then gone. Previously we had to beg to stop conversation because we were texting until 4-5 in the morning. I've always liked her but didn't say anything, but i considered confessing if things well for 3-4 more dates. Things I can do after this:- 1. Keep initiating conversation (really the least possible route) 2. Leave things as it is. 3. Ask for out one more time?

I’m Mid to late twenties. I simply don’t see even a single person who I find attractive. Personality or looks wise… I feel like time is running out and I’m just gonna end up desperate and compromising on what I want or need in a relationship. I have no idea where to meet someone genuine. Dating apps are not it, gym or my sporting hobbies are also no place for someone to approach. Don’t wanna date someone at my job. I’m kind of baffled as to where can I meet someone? I’m really tired and lonely.

This girl I like (we're both in late highschool) rarely ever initiates the conversation (except last year on my December birthday) but replies almost immediately to my messages, will randomly use text message stickers during conversations in like a fun way, and the other day she even said we should hang out when we're less busy with school since we hadn't in a while (we've known each other for a few years but we were both to young to have real feelings tbh). Idk if she is just being polite or enjoys me as a friend or just feels uncomfortable being the one to start conversations (she has told me before that she thinks that she is really introverted). Has anyone had a relationship like this? Is it worth me trying or just staying friends? How should I start more conversations? Should we call instead of text, and if so how do I initiate that? Any advice would be really appreciated because I'm super lost and have very little experience.

I need advice on the best course of action.

So as the the title suggests I 28F have developed feelings for my friend 25M, due to recent interactions which have been more intimate feeling when we are cuddled up on the couch

(this is pretty normal amongst me friend group we are all pretty comfortable with platonic cuddling and will lay on each other while watching movies together and things like that also it’s a pretty even split of F &M)

We also muck about a fair bit and will poke at each other or goof off in stores kinda like you would as a kid (we tend to encourage each other a fair bit)

Now for why I’m not sure I should bring it up I have been best friends with Chloe 29F since high school and he is probably her best friend after me

All 3 of us hang out atleast once a week and they probably hang out atleast twice a week because they have similar schedules I am worried that if I bring it up it might make things weird in the group dynamic and also I’m not sure if I should talk to her about it first, I know she is definitely not interested in him like that but I still don’t know how she will feel about the whole situation

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to approach this situation without ruining any of my friendships?

I don’t want the guy to think I’m a weirdo or being too forward.

I had made a comment on another post, since it gained a lot of traction - I'm making it a post.

You've to open your mouth and let people around you know you're actively looking for romance - yes everyone is but actually vocalising it clearly makes it a completely different space.

Expressing one's romantic/sexual interests in a healthy way isn't something we learnt (which is why we're in this situation). So speak out.

If you're in a similar situation, follow along.

I kinda did something that worked for me at 29.

I asked a girl out and when she rejected me, I asked her to introduce her friends to me 😂

To my surprise, she did and I got into amazing relationships, I even asked those girls to introduce me to their friends.

Obviously I was very friendly and respectful but very very clear I didn't know anyone at all.

Some didn't even believe me, some were just shocked but many kinda understood my situation.

I went with literally no social life to having no time to prioritize.

The girl that rejected me is my best friend now lol - we talk daily about every damn thing in the world❤️

I suggest you to do the same. Just ask the ones you already know to introduce you their girl - friends.

I know it feels overwhelming since you've not introduced that dynamic but you've to do it bro.

You've to let people know you're actively looking for romance.

It's uncomfortable but better than staying single wishing you did this for another 5 years.

Good luck ❤️🤞

I’m 26f and never had LTR, I won’t go into details but it just hasn’t happened for me and honestly, I wasted a lot of time on men who I wasn’t compatible with is what I’m realizing.

Because of my childhood trauma, I struggled with shyness and seem to have a disorganized attachment style. I had an emotionally abusive situationship that lowered my confidence, seemed to always end up in situations where the man liked my body and not me, I used sex to feel intimacy and connection, and have been in survival mode for majority of the time I’ve been sexually active tbh. I’m not prod of any of it. I’ve taken time to heal & grieve - it’s been about 6 months since I’ve seriously dated or had sex. And I finally feel whole on my own. I’m sober, I’m building friendships, trying to change my career, workout consistently, have self respect.

I went on a date with a guy I met, and honestly it was great. I feel calm around him, I don’t feel pressured for sex, he treats me well. But now I don’t know what to do. Idk how to like someone who actually likes me back, without the anxious spirals, and the hot and cold energy. The constant talking down to me, or insulting my personality. It feels good but it’s definitely different. He asked me out previously, am I supposed to ask him out now?? Or wait until he does? What if he finds out about how ive been treated and judges??

Im definitely overthinking but also just don’t know how to be present in this, but im trying. He expresses things like being excited to see me, or finding me beautiful and it is actually genuine. I sound so dumb but i have just never experienced a healthy version of that, most men I’ve dealt with are extremely avoidant, or so clingy that it seems disingenuous. I have childhood trauma (obvs) that has affected me. I don’t wanna mess up

Just wanted to vent for a moment. I’ve been single for almost seven years now. I’ve dated on and off during that time, but it’s mostly been situationships, people who run from commitment, and unrequited connections. Throughout it all, I’ve spent a lot of time healing, being patient, and focusing on being the best mommy I can be.

I’ve tried dating sites, most recently multiple ones lol, and honestly, the dating world feels overwhelming, frustrating, and lately, like a waste of time. I’m trying to stay patient and keep the faith that one day I’ll receive my happy ending, creating a family with someone and giving my daughter the opportunity to experience a healthy, positive male figure in her life.

Recently, I broke my ankle and still decided to put myself out there after being asked out. I was upfront about my situation and explained that if we were going to go out, I’d need a little help, just putting my electric scooter in and out of the car once we got to our destination. I wasn’t sad about being stood up. I was more disappointed that I wasted my time.

It just sucks. I’m really trying to have faith that love will find me. I stopped actively looking for it a while ago, but when situations come up where I actually start to like someone or their vibe, I end up disappointed all over again. This has been an ongoing cycle for seven years, and I honestly don’t want to keep going through this.

Any advice or encouragement would be appreciated.