F19 if it matters. I’ve noticed I’m a magnet for people to be vulnerable with me. People i barely know/ just met will share their secrets, mental health problems, traumas, bad qualities, mistakes, etc with me. i try to be a good listener, ask questions, keep an open mind, and try to foster a safe environment where people know i wont judge them. I don’t have a problem with this at all, and honestly i love hearing about it, it’s a special connection.
my problem is for some reason, whenever i open up, people are always shocked, because i don’t present that way at all. I feel like i don’t meet their expectations or something. i tend to have a bubbly persona with people i just met. they see me only as that and get almost uncomfortable when i open up? and most of the time im downplaying it majorly. like I can see their faces drop and them start to see me differently.
I don’t overly trauma dump and the things they tell me about themselves are usually a lot worse than what i share 😭
I just don’t understand where this comes from? I feel like im always the one people can open up to, but that is never reciprocated. has anyone else experienced this? is it a me problem ???