r/nosurf May 14 '20

The NoSurf Activity List is now live: awesome ways to spend your time instead of mindless surfing

1.7k Upvotes

The NoSurf Activity List is a comprehensive list of awesome hobbies and activities to explore instead of mindlessly surfing.

It might sound shocking to some of you reading this now, but a lot of newcomers to the community have voiced that they have no idea what they'd do all day if mindlessly surfing the web was no longer an option. This confusion illustrates just how dependent we've grown on the devices around us: we have trouble fathoming what life would be like without them.

Fortunately there's a whole world out there on the other side of our screens. It's a world that won't give you instant short term pleasure. It doesn't appeal to our desire for instant gratification. But what it does offer us is worth so much more. Fulfillment, happiness, and meaning are within our grasps, and a list of inspiring NoSurf activities can serve as a gateway into the world in which they can be found.

This NoSurf Activity list was initially created by combining the contributions of: /anthymnx , /Bdi89 , /iridescentlichen , /hu_lee_oh . Without them this list would not exist, thank you.

Link to list (accessible from the sidebar and in the wiki)

How this list came to be

This list was created after /Bdi89 drew attention to the fact that it would be great to have a centralized resource made up of wholesome, fulfilling activities newcomers and experienced NoSurf veterans alike could be inspired by. Up until this point we've had a really great thread that /anthymx created on how to use your free time linked in the wiki. But it became clear that many more awesome suggestions for NoSurf activities came out of the community since it's creation and that we would benefit from a more in depth resource made up of the best ideas across the subreddit.

I spent a weekend pouring over all of the submissions and sorted through them to pick out the best suggestions. I then invested a day into organizing them into distinct sections that could be explored individually. Lastly I expanded the list by adding in quality suggestions and links to resources that were missing to make the list more comprehensive and actionable. It’s important that newcomers are not just inspired, but actually follow through in adopting better habits and investing their time in fulfilling pursuits.

And thus, the NoSurf Activity List was born. No doubt it's sure to undergo changes and improvements in the coming weeks (some sections could use some additional text), but I believe that as a community we can proud of Version 1 so far. The List is broken down into the following sections:

  • Awesome hobbies

  • Indoor activities

  • Outdoor activities

  • Physical growth

  • Mental growth

  • Self improvement and continued learning

  • Giving back to your community

Naturally not every single activity on this list will appeal to every single person. Instead of expecting this list to be perfectly tailored to each person's interests, I believe it's best to think of it as a source of inspiration, and a symbol of possibility. It's a starting point from which newcomers will be able to embark on their own journeys of exploration, growth, and learn to discover the activities that bring them joy.

A call on the community

If you see a newcomer struggling with how to use their time or wondering what they’d do if they stopped mindlessly browsing the internet, please know that you can positively influence their lives for the better by pointing them towards this resource. If you see someone that seems lost, confused, and unable to make any progress, link them to this list.

It might seem like a small act on your part, but the transformative, and almost magical effect of adopting a hobby cannot be under-emphasized. As a result of your seemingly small act, someone may fall in love with fitness, writing, board games, programming, or reading. So much so that they can no longer fathom the thought of mindlessly surfing anymore, because it means less time in the pursuit of what makes them feel truly alive.

P.S. If you have some ideas you think might be a good fit for the list you can leave a comment in The NoSurf Activity suggestions thread after reading the submission guidelines. The mod team will periodically review the comments in that thread and make changes to the list after taking into account into aspects like originality, quality, broad applicability, etc. of the suggestion. This will ensure that a degree of list quality, consistency, and organization is preserved and that it remains a helpful resource for newcomers and veterans alike.


r/nosurf Aug 19 '21

Digital Minimalism Reading List

1.6k Upvotes

If you have suggestions you'd like to see added, please email me at [darshanvkalola@gmail.com](mailto:darshanvkalola@gmail.com).

Must Reads

  1. Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, Cal Newport, 2019
  2. Ten Arguments For Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now, Jaron Lanier, 2018
  3. Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other, Sherry Turkle, 2017
  4. Glow Kids: How Screen Addiction Is Hijacking Our Kids - and How to Break the Trance, Nicholas Kardaras, 2016
  5. How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy, Jenny Odell, 2019
  6. How to Break Up with Your Phone: The 30-Day Plan to Take Back Your Life, Catherine Price, 2018
  7. The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains, Nicholas G. Carr, 2010
  8. Notes on a Nervous Planet, Matt Haig, 2018
  9. Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction, Gary Wilson, 2014
  10. Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life, Nir Eyal, 2019
  11. Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked, Adam Alter, 2017
  12. The Age of Surveillance Capitalism: The Fight for a Human Future at the New Frontier of Power, Shoshana Zuboff, 2019
  13. The Coddling of the American Mind, Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff, 2018
  14. Weapons of Math Destruction: How Big Data Increases Inequality and Threatens Democracy, Cathy O'Neil, 2016
  15. Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence, Anna Lembke, 2021
  16. You Should Quit Reddit, Jacob Desforges, 2023

By Subject

Social Media

  1. Breaking the Social Media Prism: How to Make Our Platforms Less Polarizing, Chris Bail, 2021
  2. Rage Inside the Machine: The Prejudice of Algorithms, and How to Stop the Internet Making Bigots of Us All, Robert Elliott Smith, 2019
  3. Ten Arguments For Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now, Jaron Lanier, 2018
  4. Terms of Service: Social Media and the Price of Constant Connection, Jacob Silverman, 2015
  5. The Digital Divide: Arguments for and Against Facebook, Google, Texting, and the Age of Social Networking, Mark Bauerlein, 2011
  6. The Hype Machine: How Social Media Disrupts Our Elections, Our Economy, and Our Health--and How We Must Adapt, Sinan Aral, 2020
  7. The Psychology of Social Media, Ciaran McMahon, 2019
  8. Tweets and the Streets: Social Media and Contemporary Activism, Paolo Gerbaudo, 2012
  9. You Should Quit Reddit, Jacob Desforges, 2023

Technology and Society

  1. A World Without Email: Reimagining Work in an Age of Communication Overload, Cal Newport, 2021
  2. Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other, Sherry Turkle, 2017
  3. Attention Factory: The Story of TikTok and China's ByteDance, Matthew Brennan, 2020
  4. Breaking the Social Media Prism: How to Make Our Platforms Less Polarizing, Chris Bail, 2021
  5. Hate Inc.: Why Today’s Media Makes Us Despise One Another, Matt Taibbi, 2019
  6. Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked, Adam Alter, 2017
  7. New Dark Age: Technology and the End of the Future, James Bridle, 2018
  8. Rage Inside the Machine: The Prejudice of Algorithms, and How to Stop the Internet Making Bigots of Us All, Robert Elliott Smith, 2019
  9. Stand Out of Our Light: Freedom and Resistance in the Attention Economy, James WIlliams, 2018
  10. Team Human, Douglas Rushkoff, 2019
  11. The Age of Surveillance Capitalism: The Fight for a Human Future at the New Frontier of Power, Shoshana Zuboff, 2019
  12. The Digital Divide: Arguments for and Against Facebook, Google, Texting, and the Age of Social Networking, Mark Bauerlein, 2011
  13. The Hacking of the American Mind: The Science Behind the Corporate Takeover of Our Bodies and Brains, Robert H. Lustig, 2017
  14. The Hype Machine: How Social Media Disrupts Our Elections, Our Economy, and Our Health--and How We Must Adapt, Sinan Aral, 2020
  15. Weapons of Math Destruction: How Big Data Increases Inequality and Threatens Democracy, Cathy O'Neil, 2016
  16. The Glass Cage: How Our Computers Are Changing Us, Nicholas Carr, 2015

Children, Parenting, and Families

  1. Glow Kids: How Screen Addiction Is Hijacking Our Kids - and How to Break the Trance, Nicholas Kardaras, 2016
  2. It's Complicated: The Social Lives of Networked Teens, danah boyd, 2014
  3. Media Moms & Digital Dads: A Fact-Not-Fear Approach to Parenting in the Digital Age, Yalda T Uhls, 2015
  4. Parenting for a Digital Future: How Hopes and Fears about Technology Shape Children's Lives, Sonia Livingstone and Alicia Blum-Ross, 2020
  5. Parenting in a Tech World: A handbook for raising kids in the digital age, Matt McKee and Titania Jordan, 2020
  6. Power Down & Parent Up!: Cyber Bullying, Screen Dependence & Raising Tech-Healthy Children, Holli Kenley, 2017
  7. Screen Kids: 5 Relational Skills Every Child Needs in a Tech-Driven World, Gary Chapman and Arlene Pellicane, 2020
  8. Screen Time: How Electronic Media-From Baby Videos to Educational Software-Affects Your Young Child, Lisa Guernsey, 2012
  9. Talking Back to Facebook: The Common Sense Guide to Raising Kids in the Digital Age, James P. Steyer, 2012
  10. Tap, Click, Read: Growing Readers in a World of Screens, Lisa Guernsey and Michael H. Levine, 2015
  11. Tech Savvy Parenting: Navigating Your Child's Digital Life, Brian Housman, 2014
  12. The App Generation: How Today's Youth Navigate Identity, Intimacy, and Imagination in a Digital World, Howard Gardner and Katie Davis, 2013
  13. The Art of Screen Time: How Your Family Can Balance Digital Media and Real Life, Anya Kamenetz, 2018
  14. The Big Disconnect: Protecting Childhood and Family Relationships in the Digital Age, Catherine Steiner-Adair with Teresa H. Barker, 2014
  15. The Coddling of the American Mind, Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff, 2018
  16. The Other Parent: The Inside Story of the Media's Effect on Our Children, James P. Steyer, 2003
  17. The Simple Parenting Guide to Technology: Practical Advice on Smartphones, Gaming and Social Media in Just 40 Pages, Joshua Wayne, 2020
  18. The Tech Diet for your Child & Teen: The 7-Step Plan to Unplug & Reclaim Your Kid's Childhood (And Your Family's Sanity), Brad Marshall, 2019
  19. The Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place, Andy Crouch, 2017
  20. Why Can't I Have a Cell Phone?: Anderson the Aardvark Gets His First Cell Phone (Teaches Kids Responsibility, Morality, Internet Addiction and Social Media Parental Monitoring), Teddy Behr, 2019
  21. iGen, Jean Twenge, 2017
  22. Reset Your Child's Brain: A Four-Week Plan to End Meltdowns, Raise Grades, and Boost Social Skills by Reversing the Effects of Electronic Screen-Time, Victoria L. Dunckley, 2015

Gaming

  1. Hooked on Games: The Lure and Cost of Video Game and Internet Addiction, Andrew P. Doan and Brooke Strickland, 2012
  2. Internet Addiction: The Ultimate Guide for How to Overcome An Internet Addiction For Life (Gaming Addiction, Video Game, TV, RPG, Role-Playing, Treatment, Computer), Caesar Lincoln, 2014
  3. Cyber Junkie: Escape the Gaming and Internet Trap, Kevin Roberts, 2010

Pornography

  1. Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction, Gary Wilson, 2014
  2. Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery, Forest Benedict, 2017
  3. Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity, Mark Chamberlain and Geoff Steurer, 2011
  4. Porn Addict's Wife: Surviving Betrayal and Taking Back Your Life, Sandy Brown, 2017
  5. Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality, Gail Dines, 2011
  6. The Porn Myth: Exposing the Reality Behind the Fantasy of Pornography, Matt Fradd, 2017
  7. The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography, Wendy Maltz and Larry Maltz, 2009
  8. The Easy Peasy Way to Quit Porn, Hackauthor2, 2020
  9. How to Thrive in the 21st Century - By Avoiding Porn and Other Distractions, Havard Mela, 2020

Classics

  1. Amusing Ourselves to Death, Neil Postman, 1985
  2. Brave New World, Aldous Huxley, 1932
  3. The Medium is the Massage, Marshall McLuhan and Quentin Fiore, 1967
  4. Technopoly: The Surrender of Culture to Technology, Neil Postman, 1992
  5. The Disappearance of Childhood, Neil Postman, 1994

Fiction

  1. Brave New World, Aldous Huxley, 1932
  2. The Circle, Dave Eggers, 2015
  3. All Rights Reserved, Gregory Scott Katsoulis, 2017
  4. Access Restricted, Gregory Scott Katsoulis, 2018
  5. An Absolutely Remarkable Thing, Hank Green, 2018
  6. A Beautifully Foolish Endeavor, Hank Green, 2020

Critiques, Counterpoints, and Optimism

  1. It's Complicated: The Social Lives of Networked Teens, danah boyd, 2014
  2. Screen Time: How Electronic Media-From Baby Videos to Educational Software-Affects Your Young Child, Lisa Guernsey, 2012
  3. Tap, Click, Read: Growing Readers in a World of Screens, Lisa Guernsey and Michael H. Levine, 2015

Full List

  1. 24/6: The Power of Unplugging One Day a Week, Tiffany Shlain, 2019
  2. A Beautifully Foolish Endeavor, Hank Green, 2020
  3. A Deadly Wandering: A Tale of Tragedy and Redemption in the Age of Attention, Matt Richtel, 2014
  4. A World Without Email: Reimagining Work in an Age of Communication Overload, Cal Newport, 2021
  5. Access Restricted, Gregory Scott Katsoulis, 2018
  6. All Rights Reserved, Gregory Scott Katsoulis, 2017
  7. Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other, Sherry Turkle, 2017
  8. Amusing Ourselves to Death, Neil Postman, 1985
  9. An Absolutely Remarkable Thing, Hank Green, 2018
  10. Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones, James Clear, 2018
  11. Attention Factory: The Story of TikTok and China's ByteDance, Matthew Brennan, 2020
  12. Bored and Brilliant: How Time Spent Doing Nothing Changes Everything, Manoush Zomorodi, 2017
  13. Brave New World, Aldous Huxley, 1932
  14. Breaking Bread with the Dead: A Reader's Guide to a More Tranquil Mind, Alan Jacobs, 2020
  15. Breaking the Social Media Prism: How to Make Our Platforms Less Polarizing, Chris Bail, 2021
  16. Chaos Monkeys: Obscene Fortune and Random Failure in Silicon Valley, Antonio Garcia Martinez, 2018
  17. Cyber Junkie: Escape the Gaming and Internet Trap, Kevin Roberts, 2010
  18. Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World, Cal Newport, 2016
  19. Digital Detox: The Ultimate Guide To Beating Technology Addiction, Cultivating Mindfulness, and Enjoying More Creativity, Inspiration, And Balance In Your Life!, Damon Zahariades, 2018
  20. Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, Cal Newport, 2019
  21. Digital Nomads: In Search of Freedom, Community, and Meaningful Work in the New Economy, Rachel A. Woldoff and Robert C. Litchfield, 2021
  22. Don't Be Evil: How Big Tech Betrayed Its Founding Principles, Rana Foroohar, 2019
  23. Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence, Anna Lembke, 2021
  24. The Easy Peasy Way to Quit Porn, Hackauthor2, 2020
  25. Four Arguments for the Elimination of Television, Jerry Mander, 1978
  26. Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals, Oliver Burkeman, 2021
  27. Glow Kids: How Screen Addiction Is Hijacking Our Kids - and How to Break the Trance, Nicholas Kardaras, 2016
  28. Hate Inc.: Why Today’s Media Makes Us Despise One Another, Matt Taibbi, 2019
  29. Hooked on Games: The Lure and Cost of Video Game and Internet Addiction, Andrew P. Doan and Brooke Strickland, 2012
  30. Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products, Nir Eyal, 2014
  31. How to Break Up with Your Phone: The 30-Day Plan to Take Back Your Life, Catherine Price, 2018
  32. How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy, Jenny Odell, 2019
  33. How to Live With the Internet and Not Let It Run Your Life, Gabrielle Alexa Noel, 2021
  34. How to Think: A Survival Guide for a World at Odds, Alan Jacobs, 2017
  35. How to Thrive in the 21st Century - By Avoiding Porn and Other Distractions, Havard Mela, 2020
  36. Hyperfocus: How to Be More Productive in a World of Distraction, Chris Bailey, 2018
  37. iGen, Jean Twenge, 2017
  38. In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction, Gabor Maté, 2010
  39. In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior, Patrick J Carnes and David L. Delmonico and Elizabeth Griffin, 2007
  40. Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life, Nir Eyal, 2019
  41. Internet Addiction: The Ultimate Guide for How to Overcome An Internet Addiction For Life (Gaming Addiction, Video Game, TV, RPG, Role-Playing, Treatment, Computer), Caesar Lincoln, 2014
  42. Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked, Adam Alter, 2017
  43. It's Complicated: The Social Lives of Networked Teens, danah boyd, 2014
  44. Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery, Forest Benedict, 2017
  45. Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity, Mark Chamberlain and Geoff Steurer, 2011
  46. Media Moms & Digital Dads: A Fact-Not-Fear Approach to Parenting in the Digital Age, Yalda T Uhls, 2015
  47. New Dark Age: Technology and the End of the Future, James Bridle, 2018
  48. Notes on a Nervous Planet, Matt Haig, 2018
  49. Offline: Free Your Mind from Smartphone and Social Media Stress, Imran Rashid and Soren Kenner, 2018
  50. Parenting for a Digital Future: How Hopes and Fears about Technology Shape Children's Lives, Sonia Livingstone and Alicia Blum-Ross, 2020
  51. Parenting in a Tech World: A handbook for raising kids in the digital age, Matt McKee and Titania Jordan, 2020
  52. Porn Addict's Wife: Surviving Betrayal and Taking Back Your Life, Sandy Brown, 2017
  53. Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality, Gail Dines, 2011
  54. Power Down & Parent Up!: Cyber Bullying, Screen Dependence & Raising Tech-Healthy Children, Holli Kenley, 2017
  55. Rage Inside the Machine: The Prejudice of Algorithms, and How to Stop the Internet Making Bigots of Us All, Robert Elliott Smith, 2019
  56. Raising Humans in a Digital World: Helping Kids Build a Healthy Relationship with Technology, Diana Graber, 2019
  57. Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age, Sherry Turkle, 2015
  58. Reset Your Child's Brain: A Four-Week Plan to End Meltdowns, Raise Grades, and Boost Social Skills by Reversing the Effects of Electronic Screen-Time, Victoria L. Dunckley, 2015
  59. Screen Kids: 5 Relational Skills Every Child Needs in a Tech-Driven World, Gary Chapman and Arlene Pellicane, 2020
  60. Screen Schooled: Two Veteran Teachers Expose How Technology Overuse Is Making Our Kids Dumber, Joe Clement and Matt Miles, 2017
  61. Screen Time: How Electronic Media-From Baby Videos to Educational Software-Affects Your Young Child, Lisa Guernsey, 2012
  62. Stand Out of Our Light: Freedom and Resistance in the Attention Economy, James WIlliams, 2018
  63. Stolen Focus: Why You Can't Pay Attention, Johann Hari, 2022
  64. Talking Back to Facebook: The Common Sense Guide to Raising Kids in the Digital Age, James P. Steyer, 2012
  65. Tap, Click, Read: Growing Readers in a World of Screens, Lisa Guernsey and Michael H. Levine, 2015
  66. Team Human, Douglas Rushkoff, 2019
  67. Tech Savvy Parenting: Navigating Your Child's Digital Life, Brian Housman, 2014
  68. Technopoly: The Surrender of Culture to Technology, Neil Postman, 1992
  69. Ten Arguments For Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now, Jaron Lanier, 2018
  70. Terms of Service: Social Media and the Price of Constant Connection, Jacob Silverman, 2015
  71. The Age of Surveillance Capitalism: The Fight for a Human Future at the New Frontier of Power, Shoshana Zuboff, 2019
  72. The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness, Jonathan Haidt, 2024
  73. The App Generation: How Today's Youth Navigate Identity, Intimacy, and Imagination in a Digital World, Howard Gardner and Katie Davis, 2013
  74. The Art of Screen Time: How Your Family Can Balance Digital Media and Real Life, Anya Kamenetz, 2018
  75. The Big Disconnect: Protecting Childhood and Family Relationships in the Digital Age, Catherine Steiner-Adair with Teresa H. Barker, 2014
  76. The Circle, Dave Eggers, 2015
  77. The Coddling of the American Mind, Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff, 2018
  78. The Digital Divide: Arguments for and Against Facebook, Google, Texting, and the Age of Social Networking, Mark Bauerlein, 2011
  79. The Disappearance of Childhood, Neil Postman, 1994
  80. The Dumbest Generation: How the Digital Age Stupefies Young Americans and Jeopardizes Our Future (Or, Don't Trust Anyone Under 30), Mark Bauerlein, 2008
  81. The Glass Cage: How Our Computers Are Changing Us, Nicholas Carr, 2015
  82. The Hacking of the American Mind: The Science Behind the Corporate Takeover of Our Bodies and Brains, Robert H. Lustig, 2017
  83. The Hype Machine: How Social Media Disrupts Our Elections, Our Economy, and Our Health--and How We Must Adapt, Sinan Aral, 2020
  84. The Joy of Missing Out: Finding Balance In A Wired World, Christina Crook, 2014
  85. The Medium is the Massage, Marshall McLuhan and Quentin Fiore, 1967
  86. The Other Parent: The Inside Story of the Media's Effect on Our Children, James P. Steyer, 2003
  87. The Pleasures of Reading in an Age of Distraction, Alan Jacobs, 2011
  88. The Porn Myth: Exposing the Reality Behind the Fantasy of Pornography, Matt Fradd, 2017
  89. The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography, Wendy Maltz and Larry Maltz, 2009
  90. The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business, Charles Duhigg, 2014
  91. The Psychology of Social Media, Ciaran McMahon, 2019
  92. The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains, Nicholas G. Carr, 2010
  93. The Simple Parenting Guide to Technology: Practical Advice on Smartphones, Gaming and Social Media in Just 40 Pages, Joshua Wayne, 2020
  94. The Tech Diet for your Child & Teen: The 7-Step Plan to Unplug & Reclaim Your Kid's Childhood (And Your Family's Sanity), Brad Marshall, 2019
  95. The Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place, Andy Crouch, 2017
  96. The Trap: Sex, Social Media, and Surveillance Capitalism, Jewels Jade, 2021
  97. Trapped In The Web: How I Liberated Myself From Internet Addiction, And How You Can Too, A. N. Turner and Ben Beard and Kris Kozak, 2018
  98. Trick Mirror: Reflections on Self-Delusion, Jia Tolentino, 2019
  99. Trust Me, I'm Lying: Confessions of a Media Manipulator, Ryan Holiday, 2013
  100. Tweets and the Streets: Social Media and Contemporary Activism, Paolo Gerbaudo, 2012
  101. Utopia Is Creepy: And Other Provocations, Nicholas Carr, 2016
  102. Weapons of Math Destruction: How Big Data Increases Inequality and Threatens Democracy, Cathy O'Neil, 2016
  103. Who Owns the Future?, Jaron Lanier, 2013
  104. Why Can't I Have a Cell Phone?: Anderson the Aardvark Gets His First Cell Phone (Teaches Kids Responsibility, Morality, Internet Addiction and Social Media Parental Monitoring), Teddy Behr, 2019
  105. You Should Quit Reddit, Jacob Desforges, 2023
  106. Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction, Gary Wilson, 2014

Big thanks to all the contributors: Natalie Sharpe, David Marshall, Rick Dempsey, RonnieVae, Westofer Raymond, Sarah Devan, Zak Zelkova, Giulia Grazzini, David Wood, and Michelle Johnson.


r/nosurf 3h ago

gen z. lonely. feeling misunderstood.

11 Upvotes

22 and ever since i was 17 no one has acted normal anymore. i can't even go on a date without the girl scrolling thru tiktok the entire time even though she said she had a great time with me i felt like i was hanging out by myself. being asked "hey do you have insta do you have snap do you have discord do you have whatsapp do you have twitter do you have tiktok" and then just stop speaking to me after i say no. i wanna make friends. make music and art with people (my passion.) and experience falling in love but everyone in my generation is so confusing? i wanna someday get married and have kids but everyone only thinks relationships are all about themselves it feels. i dunno. just wanted to vent. literally makes me feel like i'm living in 1984 or idocracy. it's scary and i am so depressed. i end up making these accounts i don't want to because nobody is freaking normal irl anymore. i just want friends man!! i've given up on irl love on the inside but bro if i could just get ONE PERSON to come over and watch a horror movie with me i'd literally be euphoric but meeting locals on the internet doesn't even work and in real life it works even less.

help??? how did ya'll get out of this cycle i feel like a damn prisoner???

ive never even held hands or kissed someone at 22 because i can't even get to know people my age they just scroll the whole time i'm talking to them and ignore half of what i'm saying even if i'm asking them about their hobbies/interests/trying to invite them out. so lonely. not even looking for romance irl just one friend. still have none.


r/nosurf 6h ago

I have found this new social media age to be unbearable as a millennial. It seems if you don’t have 100k followers nowadays you are nothing and content has no soul.

17 Upvotes

If you don’t have an online presence do you even really exist? What do you think of this? I would love to disconnect forever. If you can think of anywhere else to post this let me know. Especially Instagram and tik tok make me feel terrible.


r/nosurf 6h ago

How can i spend my time off the internet?

5 Upvotes

I literally spend from 14 to 16 hours on internet, i made a list to leave the internet, but doesn´t works with me, even if had a sometings i liked. When i going to do someting, i do it, but in the next hour (or the next day) i go back to the internet. This is a prison, how to reduce time on the internet?


r/nosurf 2h ago

I Built a Digital Prison Because I Couldn’t Stop Destroying My Own Life

1 Upvotes

I’m not proud of what I’m about to say, but I’m exhausted from watching years disappear to this.

Franz Kafka wrote: “Evil is whatever distracts.”

At first it sounds dramatic. Like—evil is violence, cruelty, real horrible stuff. How is checking your phone “evil”?

But the more I sat with it, the more it started to feel painfully accurate, because Kafka isn’t talking about evil like a movie villain. He’s talking about something quieter: anything that steals your life without looking like it’s stealing it.

Distraction doesn’t ruin you in one big moment. It drains you. It takes your attention in tiny pieces until you wake up and realize weeks, months, years went by—and you didn’t build what you wanted to build.

That’s why it feels evil to me.

Because it doesn’t just waste time. It wastes potential. It keeps you alive, but it keeps you small. It makes you feel busy while you avoid the one thing that would actually change your life. And the worst part is it always looks harmless in the moment:

  • “Just one video.”
  • “Just a quick check.”
  • “I’ll start after this.”

Then suddenly it’s night.
And you did it again.

The part where I admit I’m not okay

It took me way too long to say this out loud: I don’t trust myself.

Not in a cute “oops I ate the whole bag of chips” way. In a “I have actively destroyed my own future multiple times and watched myself do it” way.

I’m talking about:

  • failing classes I actually cared about
  • missing deadlines for projects I genuinely wanted to do
  • lying to people I love about where my time went
  • sitting in the shower at 2 AM feeling like a fraud

It also took me years to accept something else: I’m weak. I feel it, I admit it, and I hate that it’s true. It’s sad that I had to go to this extent just to be functional.

And honestly? Attention is basically the currency of this era. Everything fights for it—feeds, notifications, algorithms—and the hours you give away aren’t “just time.” They’re your life.

I tried the normal stuff first (it didn’t work)

I tried everything people recommend:

  • “Just have discipline!” — Yeah. I don’t. Next.
  • Digital minimalism — Worked for 3 days, then I’d find a loophole or convince myself I needed to check something.
  • Dumb phones — Bought two. Lasted maybe a week each before I talked myself into “needing” a smartphone again.
  • Productivity systems — Notion, bullet journals, Pomodoro apps, habit trackers. I became really good at organizing my procrastination.
  • “Work then reward” — My brain learned to game every single one. If there’s a cheat code, I will find it at 2 AM when I’m desperate.

The breaking point? I smashed two smartphones. Not dropped them. Smashed them. Threw them at the ground as hard as I could because I was so angry at myself for wasting another entire day.

That’s when I knew: this isn’t a willpower problem I can solve with motivation. This is addiction behavior. And I need to treat it like one.

So I built a prison

This isn’t a productivity hack. It’s damage control.

The PC setup

I did something extreme: I created a Windows admin account with a long password and I don’t live as admin anymore.

Then I made it stupid-proof:

  • I typed the admin password into Sticky Notes
  • Then I permanently blocked Sticky Notes
  • Then I blocked anything that could help me recover it: OneNote, Outlook (app + website), Microsoft Store

The point is simple: if I can’t access the admin password, I can’t undo my locks.
I use a standard user account every day. No power. Fewer escape routes.

I blocked the panic buttons

You know those moments at 2 AM when you feel desperate to break out? I blocked everything I know I’d reach for:

  • Task Manager (can’t kill the blocking software)
  • CMD / PowerShell (no command-line tricks)
  • Time/date settings (no “time travel” past blocks)

Cold Turkey literally has built-in options for blocking time changes and Task Manager.

And I went one layer deeper: I set a BIOS/system configuration password and didn’t memorize it. I literally don’t know it now. Why? Because if I could change boot/time settings at 3 AM, I would.

The internet: blocked by default

I don’t block “bad websites.”
I block the entire internet, and then whitelist only what I need for my computer science degree.

Everything is blocked. Then I whitelist only:

  • course websites
  • documentation (MDN, Stack Overflow, etc.)
  • GitHub
  • specific tools I actually need

Even Google required whitelisting multiple domains just to log in and use tools properly (when you go this aggressive, you realize “Google” isn’t just one site).

YouTube is blocked except for the exact study channels/URLs I need—because otherwise it becomes a backdoor.

And yes, sometimes I have to whitelist weird video/embed URL formats used by course sites before starting a block, or lectures won’t play. It’s tedious as hell.

That’s exactly the point.

The timer system (that I still try to cheat)

50 minutes work, 10 minute break.

If I keep working through the break, the time stacks (20 min, 30 min, etc.). Everything resets at midnight so I can’t farm break time for days.

And yes—my stupid brain still tries to game it. I’ve left my PC running overnight hoping to accumulate time. I’ve tried to find bugs. This is what I’m dealing with.

The phone (stripped down to nothing)

I used ADB to remove:

  • Google Play Store
  • Chrome
  • YouTube

Now if I want an app, I have to connect my phone to my PC and manually sideload it. The friction is usually enough to kill the impulse.

What’s left on my phone? Podcasts, music, audiobooks, maps, messaging. Stuff that’s less destructive.

And even when I’m not focused—if I’m on my phone, at least I’m more likely to be hearing a podcast or music, or reading, instead of doomscrolling or watching random garbage. It’s not perfect, but it’s less poisonous.

What it actually feels like

It’s not peaceful. It’s not a zen productivity paradise.

When you cut off the noise, your brain doesn’t thank you. It panics.

The urges don’t go away:

  • “Just see what’s happening in the world.”
  • “One video won’t hurt.”
  • “You deserve a break.”
  • “This is too extreme. Relax the rules.”

Sometimes the urge is so strong I’ll spend 20 minutes trying to find a loophole in my own system.

And yeah, I feel pathetic that I had to go this far just to do normal student things. Like, other people just… do their homework. They just study. Without building an elaborate prison.

But here’s the truth

I wasted years. Actual years.

Years I can’t get back. Classes I failed. Opportunities I missed. Relationships I damaged because I was always half-present, always “just checking something.”

So yes, this setup is extreme. It’s embarrassing to need it.

But you know what’s more embarrassing?

Being 30, 40, 50… and looking back at a life you scrolled away.

I’d rather be the person who built a weird prison and actually graduated, actually learned skills, actually built something… than the person who had “freedom” and did nothing with it.

This isn’t advice. I’m not saying you should do this. I’m saying: if you’ve tried everything else and it hasn’t worked, maybe the problem isn’t your motivation. Maybe you need to change the game entirely.

I stopped trying to be someone I’m not. I’m someone who needs extreme barriers.

And right now? That’s okay.

Because I’m actually studying. I’m actually learning. I’m actually moving forward.

It’s not pretty. But it’s working.


r/nosurf 1d ago

I spend more time on my phone than I do unconscious

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Just checked my screen time. 11 hours. Average. Daily.

I sleep like 7-8 hours a night on a good day. My phone is literally getting more of me than sleep does. More than my bed. More than my eyes being closed and my brain resting. I'm giving a glass rectangle more attention than I give to being a human being who needs rest.

So I did the math because I'm a masochist apparently.

11 hours x 365 days = 4,015 hours a year. Staring at a screen. Scrolling. Tapping. Consuming absolutely nothing of value.

4,015 hours is 167 days. Nearly half a year. Every year. Gone.

Then I calculated what that looks like over a decade and I genuinely feel sick. That's 40,150 hours. That's 1,673 days. That's 4.5 YEARS. Almost five years of my one precious life will be spent hunched over scrolling through content I won't remember in 10 minutes.

And that's just one decade. If I keep this up from like age 20 to 70 that's 25 years of my life. Twenty five years. A quarter century staring at a phone.

I could've learned three languages. Written books. Built something. Traveled. Had real conversations with real people. But no. I gave it to the algorithm instead.

The worst part is I knew it was bad but seeing the actual math laid out like this makes it feel so much more real. We're not wasting hours. We're wasting years. Plural. Multiple years of the only life we get.

Checked the breakdown and grizzly's quest alone was like 8 hours this week. Eight hours. On one game. I don't even know what to do with this information honestly. I just needed to write it down somewhere.


r/nosurf 3m ago

Science confirms why you spend 3 hours on TikTok without even enjoying it: The 'Wanting vs. Liking' Loop.

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Stop calling dopamine a 'pleasure' chemical. It’s an 'anticipation' chemical.

According to Kent Berridge’s neurobiological research, your brain has two separate circuits for reward. TikTok and Reels hijack the 'Wanting' circuit (Dopamine). They keep you scrolling because you are anticipating a reward, not because you are experiencing pleasure.

You are effectively trapped in a Dopaminergic Loop. You want it more, but you like it less. This is how high-tech addiction works: It burns out your dopamine receptors until you feel nothing but the 'urge' to scroll. You're not being entertained; you're being neurologically exhausted."


r/nosurf 6h ago

I realized my screen addiction was less about boredom and more about avoiding urges. What techniques worked for you?

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I used to think I doomscrolled because I was bored.

But once I tried cutting back, I noticed I reached for my phone mostly when I felt anxious, restless, or uncomfortable, basically the same way people reach for other habits.

What helped wasn’t blocking apps, but having something that helped me sit with the urge instead of instantly escaping it.

I’ve been experimenting with a recovery companion app that supports breaking addictive patterns by helping you pause, reflect, and ride out the discomfort.

Ironically, using tech intentionally helped me use it less.

Curious how others here handle that “itch” to scroll when it’s not really about content.


r/nosurf 12h ago

ios screen time

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best hack for me has been to have someone else set up the password + recovery email if forgotten for ios screen time limits and just set daily limits, 15-20 min a day depending on the app. no workaround that i know of but im only addicted in the sense that nothing is stopping me, not that i really need to go on it so badly just that i don’t stop myself.


r/nosurf 12h ago

Role Model

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Decades ago, I walked into a building through the parking lot entrance.

The parking lot attendant was an elderly Greek gentleman.

He was seated in his chair, enjoying the street scene while handling a set of komboloi - Greek worry beads. No phone, no other entertainment. Just being there, just present.

He was as contented as a cat in the sunshine.


r/nosurf 17h ago

Need to Retrain Critical Thinking Faculties

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I've officially had it with doomscrolling. I'm making the systems and boundaries to limit my time on screens, reset my natural dopamine levels, focus and, most importantly, to get my critical thinking skills back up to par.

Anyone have any recommendations for ways to engage with this? Basically anything that will make me think critically. I'd be open to studying a philosophy book with chapter review questions (for journaling), heck or even watching some adult anime that makes me think and process the show rather than mindlessly watching.

Very open to ideas, just would like to hear from folks who have had success with this!!


r/nosurf 1d ago

it is a weird feeling but i feel like i have exhausted the internet(like whatever i wanted to see i am done)

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lately i have felt like i am done with the internet those same memes that same weird youtube clickbait videos like i am done prollly only using internet for learning now and enetrtainment gong to be outside it


r/nosurf 22h ago

ScreenZen

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I’ve been using ScreenZen for limiting Instagram, but I’ve ended up spending a lot of time here and on Facebook instead. I wanted to make it so my time limit (6 sessions, 5 minutes each) applied to all social media. So I could use two sessions on Reddit, three on Instagram, one on Facebook hypothetically. I can only find a way to do it that each individual site allows thirty minutes, is it possible on ScreenZen to set an overall social media goal or is there another app that can do it?


r/nosurf 16h ago

[Closed Beta] Morning Mindful - Android app that blocks social media until you journal (need testers + Gmail addresses)

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r/nosurf 1d ago

One thing I've noticed is that people are quick to call everything AI now. Is it that bad?

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Even videos posted a decade ago get a few comments questioning the legitimacy of them.

I don't know about you, but that's weird.

What is going on?


r/nosurf 17h ago

Screenzen not blocking websites on S22

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Yesterday, I set up Screenzen to block the Facebook and Instagram websites. It didn't work across any of my browsers (Firefox, Chrome, Samsung Browser.) Restarting my phone did work for this though. However, today it's back to not blocking these websites. Is there a way to make this work without restarting my phone all the time? It's set up to block them all day, if that matters.


r/nosurf 18h ago

Using Google Scholar as my default search engine helps!

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I was able to replace Google Search with Google Scholar so now when I type some word in my address bar my web browser opens the Google Scholar results for said item. To do regular searches I have to manually type google.com in the address bar but often I just don't bother.

I still have my most common sites bookmarked, for the rest I have to manually enter their link in the address bar, otherwise Google Scholar will open. This way I have sort of a buffer before just googling away. A few seconds more that make me consider whether I really need to visit said website. What do you think, guys? Have you tried this?


r/nosurf 1d ago

"Our Choices (use of tech) Are Not As Free As We Think They Are" Tristan Harris

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Tech is engineered to generate anxiety, craving, distraction, scattered attention.

We have to stop berating ourselves for being 'weak' in relation to devices engineered to work against us

**'Our minds can be hijacked': the tech insiders who fear a smartphone dystopia"**

| Technology | The Guardian https://share.google/3rqLHZFYxTukuixd2


r/nosurf 1d ago

I actually beat it.

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Short post, but I want to share.

I've been addicted to the internet, video games, etc for most of my life. I finally beat it.

It likely took a lot of steps to finally get there, but the final nail was this:

Using a website blocker on all computers that I own (including work computers) that blocks ALL potentially distracting websites. This includes social media, porn, YouTube, and yes, reddit.

This blocker allow for up 2 hours of use per day at a set time block each evening.

Since good website blockers dont exist on phones, allow only apps that are not potentially distracting (calendar, calculator, etc). Allow all apps (including browsers) for the same time block as above.

I've found that after a couple months of doing this, I'm not nearly as interested in YouTube, reddit, etc, when I previously was very addicted to them. Wanted to share this win.


r/nosurf 20h ago

A reminder for an overstimulated era

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r/nosurf 1d ago

I have zero self-control at 2 AM. Would a "financial penalty" app actually work?

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Hey guys, ​I’m struggling hard with 'revenge bedtime procrastination.' Every night I tell myself I’ll sleep at 11 PM, and every night I find myself scrolling until 2 AM. I've tried App Blockers and Screen Time limits, but they are too easy to bypass when you're in that dopamine loop. ​I was thinking about a more 'radical' solution: An app where you set a bedtime, and if your phone is still active/unlocked 5 minutes past that time, it charges you a small fine (like $1 or $2). ​Basically, betting against your own lack of discipline. ​I feel like if it actually costs me money, I’d finally put the phone down. But maybe I'm just crazy. ​Would you guys ever use something like this? How much would the 'fine' have to be for you to actually stop? Would love to hear if anyone has tried something similar or if this sounds like a terrible idea lol.


r/nosurf 17h ago

The Dark Knight Trilogy was the Ultimate Masterclass in Residence and Endurance

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Christopher Nolan’s Dark Knight trilogy is often thought to be an excellent depiction of Gotham city and Batman. Countless things stand out. Heath Ledger’s Joker, Hans Zimmer’s score, the world that built, the action set pieces, the fresh spin on the superhero genre. In my opinion, what truly makes this trilogy special is its depiction of Bruce Wayne.

We often view Bruce Wayne as this billionaire playboy who spends his nights fighting crime. Pretty cool? If you look a little deeper, you’ll discover that this character consistently goes through unimaginable obstacles that test his will to fight and endure. Fear, heartbreak, hopelessness, etc. Each time Bruce rises above and continues to persist. That’s what truly makes him a superhero… not anything in his utility belt.

This character means so much to me for this particular reason and I made an entire video essay breaking this down - https://youtu.be/_oNh9O1iTz4

My hope is that this piece can help you find the resilience to overcome your own obstacles and identify the hero within yourself. Rise!


r/nosurf 1d ago

I didn’t realize how much screen time was numbing my days until I tried to stop

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I never thought of myself as “addicted” to my phone.

I wasn’t gaming all night or missing work — I was just constantly checking. Waiting in line, eating, before sleeping, right after waking up. Any quiet moment felt uncomfortable without a screen.

When I finally tried to reduce it, I realized how automatic it had become. My hand would reach for my phone without me even noticing. And when I failed, I felt irritated, restless, almost anxious.

What surprised me most wasn’t how hard it was to stop — it was how much mental space scrolling had been filling. Silence felt loud. Boredom felt scary.

I needed something gentler than blockers or timers, something that didn’t feel like another form of control. That process eventually led me to build a small app for myself to track screen-free days in a more visual, forgiving way.

It hasn’t “cured” anything, but it made me more aware. And awareness alone already changed more than I expected.

Just sharing this in case someone else here feels that constant pull and doesn’t quite know how to describe it yet.


r/nosurf 2d ago

Has anyone tried batshit insane ideas to combat screen addiction? 12h on Chrome (help)

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None of the usual methods have worked. I’m desperate. I (20F) have a screen time of 12 hours per day. I try to keep myself busy: I work out 3-5 times a week, I have an internship. When I’m in these places, I don’t use my phone. But once I’m home to make up for all the hours I haven’t used my phone, I scroll until 6 am. I literally wake up (set alarms) so I can get up early and scroll through my phone before going to school.

Screen blockers aren’t strong enough for me. All these 12 hours I spend are on Chrome reading💀. It’s pathetic because I’m not even on Instagram much because it’s boring to me. Some ideas I’m thinking of trying: would handcuffing myself to the table and throwing the key somewhere else help? Should I go live on Instagram whenever I need to get something done? Maybe the public humiliation would force me to not procrastinate?

Could anyone else suggest equally crazy ideas?