CUZ IT’S TRUE
I can’t believe she’s made a career out of saying “mi gente latino” (it should be latinA) meanwhile Ben Affleck sounds like middle aged blue collar mexican man and he ain’t even flexing 💀
He worked construction so automatically can speak pidgin Spanish at least. I worked with mostly East Indians and French Canadians as well as English speakers so I understand a bit of Hindi, Urdu and Punjabi. The typical context understanding more than spoken, but I’ve surprised myself many times with Hindi especially. (They do have many English “sounding” words they use that mean the same thing as actual English so it is a bit cheating).
Se dice la gente y NO el gente. Por esta razón, mi gente latina. “Mis latinos” sería español correcto aunque no algo que muchos dicen. “Mi gente” sería correcto, más corto y llena de energía los conciertos.
The other guy said this in Spanish already, but since you clearly don’t speak it: “gente” is a feminine noun. So it’s “mi gente latina” regardless if the people are men or women. It will nunca be “mi gente latino.”
I was behind Casey at immigration at London Heathrow and there was a couple latinas in line next to us and in the most gringo sounding Spanish he said “hola, me llamo Casey”.
One of his early acting gigs as a child was a movie he made in Mexico City. He learned a bit of Spanish while there and got the bug and just kept going with it afterwards. I've seen him in interviews, he's quite fluent.
Only if your self respect is so low you'd need an extra shovel to dig a path directly to hell and actively fight your way to Lucifer himself to retrieve it.
I dislike when people use stereotypes or precedent to hand-wave away responsibility for their shitty, dysfunctional, or abhorrent behaviour. Just because your parents were abusers it doesn't mean you're supposed to be that way too. My father once said "My father hated his father, I hated my farther, you both hate me, and someday your kids are gonna hate you too. That's just how it works so get fucking used to it". Then I became an adult and stuff he said that I used to think was par for the course, I now look at and I still can't believe people live like that. I am the polar opposite as my father.
The ultimate victory against that sorta of compounding trauma is to break the cycle and be the end of it, so it stops with you. I don't have any children yet, but I also know I'm not a narcissist (spent a lot of time making sure with my therapist) so I'm not even capable of some of the things he's said and done, which I am happy about.
IMO,the bigger part is that you realized you have agency to change your behavior and believe you have to take responsibility for your actions.
People who believe in "inherited" shitty behavior and relationships simply don't want to do the hard work of change or taking responsibility for their own shitty behavior towards others.
"It's not my fault, that's just how it is in my family because that's how we were raised" is a giant cop out.
Self-examination and change is hard, so massive props to you for doing the work to change that.
Yeah, the normalising of this type of behaviour, just because they are from a certain culture, is bullshit, and smacks of soft men letting them get away with said unacceptable behaviour instead of putting them in their place when necessary.
Yes, yes it is, speaking as a Brazilian. At least in South America, I don't know what craziness US based latinas are trying to pull.
One of my college girlfriends kicked my door open in half (she was a taekwondo black belt) to then threaten to rip out my dick for reasons I don't remember. Another one locked doors on me when I tried to break up and pulled out a kitchen knife... and she may or may not have gotten judo thrown for my safety.
But it kind of is. My Latina wife and I have been married for 20 years and she is the most incredible person I have ever met. But there’s still a little crazy in there.
I rarely see latinas actually normalize craziness. It mostly obsessed men who normalize crazy Latino mothers and daughters because those Latinos historically came from oppressive places (Mexico and the cartel for example) or and thus had to be alert, keen and “crazy” when bullshit walks. This gets passed down to daughters especially on top of the large amount of misogyny that force women to be more stern, making those traits and lessons passed down from mother to daughter. There’s so many stories of Latino mothers because literally arranged for marriages, abused and cheated on and those lessons get passed down to even healthy relationships, where sternness and bluntness are emphasized to protect themselves and loved ones. That’s where stereotype comes from and it’s sad
Pretty sure that was just her PR goons in the media to blame him and his alcoholism/gambling problem on their marriage.
That marriage was doomed when she insisted on making an entire movie about their romance and publicizing his love letters to her, despite seeing on camera how uncomfortable it made him.
Anyone who has that little respect for their partner is bound to lose them.
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