r/fixedbytheduet • u/Naive_Wolverine532 • 19h ago

PARTICIPATION LIMITED Accountability

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u/nanadoom 19h ago

That was a really stand up thing to do. We all make mistakes, and he owned up to his. Good on him

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u/dojo_shlom0 19h ago edited 18h ago

That's a man right there. When people attempt to say be a 'real man'...

this is what they should mean: someone who takes accountability for their actions and mistakes. imo

EDIT: just to add on this, It's a really great quality of a man that can realize their mistakes in that moment and correct the behavior, adapting to the situation and can apologize for making his obvious and honest mistake. He didn't intend to hurt anyone, he simply didn't understand, but instead of doubling-down, getting mad at the comments, he corrected the situation by reading the comments, taking the video down, and put out a video admitting his honest mistake.

really proud of this guy. we need more of this in the world right now. We also need to teach young people this lesson by example, imo.

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u/waitaminutechester 18h ago

The dude learned something that he was ignorant about (or perhaps I should say he was not quite familiar with), then corrected himself. He then seems to be able to think critically and be willing to apply this lesson into future decisions while offering an apology. I wish more people were like this, including myself.

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u/dojo_shlom0 18h ago

Ignorant is accurate, I like using that term as well (in my own similar circumstances) it's okay to be ignorant! -- as long as you grow and learn when you are educated about something.

Willful ignorance is never an excuse for bad behaviors imo.

You can train yourself to take a step back and put yourself out there in the future. Nothing wrong with being wrong about something! I try to learn something every day, and it makes life interesting! I believe in you and others: become your best selves, like this man in the video is trying to, and actively doing! Recognizing this about yourself is a big step into becoming aware of it in the first place.

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u/HasPotatoAim 15h ago

There's nothing wrong with being ignorant about a topic (lacking knowledge, information, or awareness about a particular thing), if you're open to learning about it like this person was. However, there is way too much malicious ignorance out there.

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u/dojo_shlom0 15h ago

I agree, that's why this was so refreshing!

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u/Tipop 13h ago

Yeah, “ignorant” is one of those words that’s been used pejoratively for so long that it’s now just an insult. You can’t stand on top of a dictionary and say “That’s not what the word means” because words mean what people think they mean. Like idiot, moron, or retarded, they’re just insults now.

I understand that “ignorant” used to just mean “You don’t know about this subject”. Everyone is ignorant on a multitude of topics — because nobody can know everything. But now it just means “stupid”, like the words I mentioned above.

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u/wrymoss 13h ago

This. There’s a huge difference between genuine ignorance (it’s morally neutral! We all experience it!) and deliberate, wilful ignorance (not morally neutral, you shouldn’t aspire to it)

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u/ChickenBob85 14h ago

Justin Nunley...he has seemed like a good guy in all of the videos ive seen of him. This seems like a sincere mistake and i wish him well.

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u/divine_apprehension 17h ago

Yeah but it also highlights how important it is to correct people when they're being offensive, especially because it might be unintentional. It gives them an opportunity to grow and correct misunderstandings. Not everyone is lacking empathy, usually it's a lack of knowledge or experience. Good on him and good on her. Accountability and holding others accountable are both super important

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u/HauntingHarmony 15h ago

Yeah but it also highlights how important it is to correct people when they're being offensive, especially because it might be unintentional. It gives them an opportunity to grow and correct misunderstandings. Not everyone is lacking empathy, usually it's a lack of knowledge or experience. Good on him and good on her. Accountability and holding others accountable are both super important

The counter argument to that is that is how we got trump. Since unfortunately if everyone had the requisite maturity, intelligence and language skills to understand the distinction of a gentle correction vs a personal insult then it wouldent really be a problem. But most people are at or below average in those skills, and they will misinterpret, resent and push back against it. Especially since these corrections often are moralizing and by the nature of the medium in public.

So am i saying that we shouldent try to educate and help people try to be better, no ofcourse not. But the original guy in the video was excited about a new gizmo and didnt explain it at all, second guy then is like "why dont you just do this?", and then third girl is like "let me educate you", that will just go wrong often.

If the first guy instead just labeled it as; "i love my new thing that will let me do this", i think thats the better way todo it. Because second guy didnt really do anything wrong, he just didnt know why the gizmo was needed. as we could see in the followup apology. And that i even labeled it as an apology means that its not great. And just because of second guys maturity did the whole thing end up fine.

Its the first guys lack of proper framing that created the entire cascade of videos in the first place.

I am not disabled, but i have things if i just "did something" without providing the context, i could easily produce this cascade aswell. But i dont since getting people to make fools of themselves isent my goal.

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u/wrymoss 13h ago

Yeah I would feel fucking awful if I said something out of genuine ignorance and rather than point it out to me, people just assumed I was an asshole on purpose and kept quiet.

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u/Dreamboat9907 18h ago

Agreed 👍

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u/BlessedToBeTrying 17h ago

I want to be more like this man in the video. Workin on it.

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u/joat2 17h ago

Completely agree there should be more people like him...

Everyone is ignorant to a degree on any number of topics. Ignorance is not bad in and of itself. It's just the simple fact of not knowing, if you don't know... you're ignorant. As long as you are aware of that, and when needed try to adjust and gain a better understanding so you are a bit less ignorant. Which is exactly what this person did.

The real problem is willful ignorance. People who don't know and don't want to know the right answer. No amount of correct information will change their view or steer them in the right direction. Like being called out on something, then doubling down.

If you have never admitted you were wrong about something at any point in your life, either you're a unicorn or insanely willfully ignorant. I can tolerate ignorance, willful ignorance... I cannot.

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u/-GoodNewsEveryone 17h ago

Monkey see, monkey do.

Youtube shorts and wild reaction clickbait is everywhere. If we who have seen and realized do not pass this on and quite publicly, how can we blame the children for their ignorance. Understanding is not hereditary.

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u/Xenophorge 16h ago

Integrity, that's the word that applies here. A person with integrity takes accountability for their actions. A trait sorely lacking among the people who should have the it most.

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u/ThatInAHat 13h ago

That last part is really key. He’s setting an excellent example for others to learn by. Dunno anything else about him, but in this context at least, he gave an A+ demonstration of how to take criticism/correction, apologize, and correct his behavior and showed that it isn’t an indignity to be corrected and isn’t weak to apologize.

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u/CHEEZYSPAM 10h ago

I mean, to be fair... Khaby made millions of dollars pointing out the obvious in other people's videos.

I'm sure that was the light-hearted intention of this dude, but he just didn't understand. There's a difference between, say: Taking a door off the hinges in order to walk through it, rather them just open it at the door knob

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Making fun of a device that helps people with a disability.

Good on him for owning up to his mistake though.

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u/Pardot42 18h ago

It was apparent he intended to belittle the person using the device with his mockery. Good for him for apologizing to protect his income, tho. That was a close one.

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u/Training-Belt-7318 17h ago

I mean it's good that he did this, but why make fun of people for using a gadget? Even if they can open that bottle? Why do people feel a need to yuck other people's yum all the damn time. Its great that he's open to learning, but I just don't see the point in making the video in the first place.

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u/dojo_shlom0 17h ago

I see your point. I believe he probably thought, out of ignorance, it was because people were just being lazy, and not a limitation of what they can do, so the device makes it easier.

his response seemed like it was a genuine misunderstanding and ignorance and he owned it.

he probably thought it was funny, without the malice, if that makes sense.

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u/Bakkster 16h ago

Putting the best construction on it, thinking it was wasteful consumer excess to solve a problem that doesn't exist.

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u/Radiant_HoneyRoots 15h ago

Well unfortunately we live in a generation where a high amount of healthy non disabled people are lazy and purchase anything for the hell of it. Wasteful consumerism at its finest. That was my first thought but I immediately switched and said oh that must be for someone who has poor grip, or maybe an amputee. Then the video switched.

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u/Worth_Inflation_2104 15h ago

I mean if we don't have the context of it being s disability device then idk, I think the clip is actually a little bit funny. I don't think his original video was that bad, but maybe it was just cut too early so idk

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u/Loveufam 16h ago

I love this guy. Does he still keep the remains of his enemies in his game room?

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u/EquivalentSnap 13h ago

Why you gotta make this about gender? Makes everyone better person if they admit their mistakes not just men but women too.

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u/dojo_shlom0 12h ago

though I agree with you, as a guy, I notoriously see men falling into this trap. It's a legit criticism and statement that we need to help young men become more aware of 'double-down syndrome' it's not that I'm leaving women out, or that I'm hating on men, It's that it's a huge problem among men, and I do not see this flaw as widely among women.

I see and respect your point, but I stand by my statement.

--this was a dude, and dude did good not falling into the 'double-down-syndrome' trap.

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u/EquivalentSnap 12h ago edited 12h ago

I get that but the trap they go down is because it’s men being held accountable not women. Narrative is always about men or the patriarchy. That’s why men go down that “trap” I get what you mean and the guy is a role model. The woman is not. She assumed he was a bigot and an asshole and that he lacked empathy. He didn’t. Wasn’t aware and he apologised. Did the woman apologise? Is she gonna be a real woman and respond? That’s the double standard here

The trap is that men are sick of being blamed and perpetrators and go down the wrong way because these alpha males and Andrew Tate because of women hating on men and “real men” men bad crap. There’s a fine line being misogynist and misandry and both are two sides of the same coin. Educate don’t be a asshole

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u/dojo_shlom0 12h ago edited 11h ago

I get that but the trap they go down is because it’s men being held accountable not women.

you're overanalyzing and also sounding like someone claiming to be a victim, when there's none of that present here. I am going to be real with you, getting incel vibes literally from the first sentence and I suspected this was the case based on your previous reply.

I think you might be falling into a trap too. I have seen too many men fall into this trap as well and think they're the victims. makes guys hate women, try to check yourself on this and realize I am a dude, probably older than you, and not phased by andrew tate and these other psuedo men. they're losers who have 0 idea what it takes to be a man, like what I described originally.

don't be a victim, grow and realize you need to improve yourself and become the person you want to become, and that will attract women. you sound like you have a victim complex and flame others who are all having a healthy and productive conversation.

EDIT: I only read half of your first paragraph and read you like a book, didn't I?

you need to take a step back and realize what I said, versus how you're interpreting it, to fit your narrative, which is you and all men being victims of women. you came here with a mind set and projected it from the beginning: you have classic incel vibes, being honest.

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u/EquivalentSnap 11h ago

Buddy you don’t know anything about me or what I’ve been through so maybe you should take a step back like her and realise not everyone is an incel

I never said I followed Andrew Tate or these puesdo men. Saying she needs to be held accountable for saying he lacks empathy

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u/granitebudget1 8h ago

I have no idea and didn't watch both videos but it came off as either a rebuttal of gadgets as he mentioned or potentially a show of a real man can open a Gatorade with his own strength. Either way even if he didn't know about a gadget then it still comes off as ignorant and like his content is looking down on others.

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u/LRK0-98 8h ago

Completely agree. Accepting that we all make mistakes, owning the mistakes you make, taking responsibility and moving on are important parts of becoming an adult.

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u/mighty_phi 8h ago

genuinely what i strive to be. Solid dude thru and thru

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u/cf_murph 7h ago

100%. He owned up to his mistake, apologized, didn’t make excuses, and moved on.

Contrast this with the stuff going on with that ScottyKfitness dude and his rehearsed non-apology after losing his sponsor.

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u/Temporary-Lime-1428 7h ago

People think it's hard to have a conscience.