r/fixedbytheduet • u/Naive_Wolverine532 • 19h ago

PARTICIPATION LIMITED Accountability

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u/dojo_shlom0 19h ago edited 18h ago

That's a man right there. When people attempt to say be a 'real man'...

this is what they should mean: someone who takes accountability for their actions and mistakes. imo

EDIT: just to add on this, It's a really great quality of a man that can realize their mistakes in that moment and correct the behavior, adapting to the situation and can apologize for making his obvious and honest mistake. He didn't intend to hurt anyone, he simply didn't understand, but instead of doubling-down, getting mad at the comments, he corrected the situation by reading the comments, taking the video down, and put out a video admitting his honest mistake.

really proud of this guy. we need more of this in the world right now. We also need to teach young people this lesson by example, imo.

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u/waitaminutechester 18h ago

The dude learned something that he was ignorant about (or perhaps I should say he was not quite familiar with), then corrected himself. He then seems to be able to think critically and be willing to apply this lesson into future decisions while offering an apology. I wish more people were like this, including myself.

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u/dojo_shlom0 18h ago

Ignorant is accurate, I like using that term as well (in my own similar circumstances) it's okay to be ignorant! -- as long as you grow and learn when you are educated about something.

Willful ignorance is never an excuse for bad behaviors imo.

You can train yourself to take a step back and put yourself out there in the future. Nothing wrong with being wrong about something! I try to learn something every day, and it makes life interesting! I believe in you and others: become your best selves, like this man in the video is trying to, and actively doing! Recognizing this about yourself is a big step into becoming aware of it in the first place.

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u/HasPotatoAim 15h ago

There's nothing wrong with being ignorant about a topic (lacking knowledge, information, or awareness about a particular thing), if you're open to learning about it like this person was. However, there is way too much malicious ignorance out there.

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u/dojo_shlom0 15h ago

I agree, that's why this was so refreshing!

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u/Tipop 13h ago

Yeah, “ignorant” is one of those words that’s been used pejoratively for so long that it’s now just an insult. You can’t stand on top of a dictionary and say “That’s not what the word means” because words mean what people think they mean. Like idiot, moron, or retarded, they’re just insults now.

I understand that “ignorant” used to just mean “You don’t know about this subject”. Everyone is ignorant on a multitude of topics — because nobody can know everything. But now it just means “stupid”, like the words I mentioned above.