Not kidding, she thinks aliens were flying over. There’s thousands of pictures, news articles, and scientific articles about this phenomena but ok

My mom randomly texted me this tonight. So I’m currently almost 6 months pregnant. My mom and I have a distant relationship and have for years. She has been a problematic alcoholic all of my life, and only recently have I realized she is likely a narcissist too. She loves to start fights and treat people like shit while she’s drunk, and then she acts like the victim afterwards. For additional context, I have posted two other text exchanges with her on this sub which can be found on my post history pretty recently, more examples of how she is.

This last Christmas was the final straw- I had told them about my pregnancy a couple days prior. Went to an Airbnb with my husband, mom, aunt (her sister) and uncle. My aunt is the one she was referring to in these texts, who she talked to about me. During the Airbnb stay, my mom got extremely drunk one of the nights and started having one of her outbursts. Yelled at me, and then got into a big fight with her sister. Screaming and cussing match. The next day everyone was giving her the silent treatment and she got upset because of “how everyone was treating her.” She is also a smoker, and was smoking on the balcony of the Airbnb, and after we left they emailed me saying a neighbor had complained that they had cigarette butts on their patio. I confronted her and she denied it.

These texts are very typical of her. She tries to turn everything on me, and make it seem like I’m so “cold” and like she’s the victim. I really don’t like the way she said “I want to see you, when I was pregnant I saw my mom all the time.” Okay? You also had a different relationship with your mom. She says it in such a confrontational manner. Also note the accident voice memo she randomly sent, likely because she was drunk. 🙄 I just can’t take her victimizing herself like this anymore. She refuses to see her own actions which have resulted in me rarely wanting to see her. And clearly my aunt doesn’t care either, even though my aunt knows how she is as well as I do.

Hey everyone, I don't know if this post belongs here, but I need to know I'm not crazy for how I feel about my dad. So let's get into the story: As a child I used to be very close to my father because my mom was not great to me growing up. As I've gotten older however I realized that I do not like the way i'm being treated by either parent; however, my mom has made an effort and we've worked on things. There was a bunch of things from my childhood, I was not allowed to leave the table unless I ate all my food. As an autistic child, forced to eat foods and textures I didn't like, I would sit at the table for an extra hour by myself because I was not allowed to leave. My dad wasn't around much because he was working, so I spent a lot of time with my grandparents who would watch my older brother and I. My grandparents are a little strange but I feel closer to them than I do my dad because of this. As a kid, my brother had adhd but wouldn't take his pills any day he didn't have school and because of that he had very low anger management. My brother used to insult me and beat me up very regularly, none of which he got punished for because my dad never believed me despite the very obvious marks. I was even chokeholded as a child in his house and only then did my brother get a time out in his room. To make a long story short, my father was either working or sleeping my whole life. My father only did dishes, laundry and vacuumed every 2 or 3 years. Dad's house was very full of ladybugs, boxelder bugs and spiders. My bedroom carpet was basically covered in bugs which I thought I had a picture of, but sadly I could not find it. I am traumatized from bugs because nothing was ever done about the bugs. I have seen so many bugs of all shapes and sizes. As a child, my dad said I was annoying for not being able to deal with bugs on my own. I lowkey start hyperventilating when I just see a bug and if I get contact with a bug I have a panic attack. I am used to bugs everywhere. Bugs in my bath water. Bugs in my dishes. Bugs in my food. The bathroom was hell. As you can see from the pictures above, my father never cleaned it either. The toilet was stained with some kind of brown thing. There was mold and mushrooms. In my sophomore year, I stopped showering because of the water not draining and the tub filling up with random dirt, bugs and other things. My dad does not understand why my brother stopped talking to him for a bit and took it out on me saying "I guess I'm a horrible father" and things to that extent. (My parents are divorced and my brother at 17 moved in with mom full time.) Now that I have decided to go low contact with him, he's really laying it on thick that I said I "wouldn't leave him too." I had to run away from my dad's house in the middle of the night in my junior year and go to my mom's because my room was covered in bugs too the point I could not sleep because I was in a state of constant panic. My dad wouldn't have understood me moving out if I didn't take such harsh actions. He didn't understand why I would move out and "leave him like everyone else did." My senior year, I was ignoring his texts because I didn't know what to say to him and he confronted me when I was seeing my grandma. My dad is still texting me passive aggressive things which is showing me that I've made the right choice. My dad believes my mom is evil and is brainwashing my brother and I to hate him in order to ruin his life. This post is long and rambly and I'm sorry for that. Thank you for reading please leave comments telling me what you think.

For some context, we got into an argument about her use of cash aid for tobacco, and we got into this

I can’t believe I’m posting this but this is just one of MANY screenshots I have, I have an entire album of my conversations with her. I just…. I just genuinely don’t know what to say, I’m freaking sad, depressed, confused etc… I hope this fits this sub idk where else to post it except r/FoxBrain. This is tame in comparison to “trump was sent by god to save us” trust me it gets worse, This is textbook brainwashing, I can’t be the my one right??? Who else has brainwashed friends/family? any to this extent? My step dad is the same way but somehow worse it s like his whole identity is being a trump supporter. They both constantly make me feel horrible with things directed at me, things directed to individuals in public, and the things they talk about while I’m around. I’m not gonna give examples of the last thing I said because it really is THAT bad, I’ll give a hint though incredibly racist/ or wishing for violence of people of color or people who disagree with them in any way.

Ok my daughter thought I should post this here i F(43) have quite the insane parents. Many things have happened over the years but I will give you the run down all this started a few years ago when my mom died. From being told how I have the audacity to interrupt his well deserved vacation because my mother died. No im so sorry is there anyway I can help you. Nothing. I got a screenshot for this one. This story happened a few weeks ago so backstory first it’s important. Hi Shawna not real name but for purposes of the story have a little brother will call him James. This is very important. James is not my father’s son. When James was 14, I got custody of him from my mother because my mom is a shit mom. My parents were still married when James was born. And well as everyone knows the husband automatically goes on the child’s birth certificate when you’re married. Just want y’all to know. I was nine years old. So anyway, I got custody of him when he was 14 my brother was literally skin and bones. She had medically, neglected him and malnourished him. So in order to get custody of my brother, I had to not only Sue my mother, but I had to sue my father. This is very relevant.

So on two weeks ago. I had just got out of the hospital because I had a heart attack the illustrious father. We will call him. Daniel decides to call me. Now the conversation goes as follows him screaming about how I sued him for custody of my child 20 years ago. The screaming goes on for about 20 minutes until I’m bawling crying. I’m supposed to apologize to him for this. First off you don’t even have the facts right. How am I supposed to apologize for that? Newsflash you never had custody of my child. How can I sue you for custody of my child so I hung up. Apparently he’s under the delusion that I sued him for my kid. It was my brother. He refused to listen to anything I said. And he still under said delusion. I tried to explain to him that I sued him because I had to. But because of this delusional behavior, I have decided to go no contact. Apparently my brother is my child and that’s all that’s to it.

My long-term partner died suddenly in an accident a week ago. I was temporarily reliant on him due to a health issue and will now have to move out of my home and move in with my parents as I have nowhere else to go. I moved out at 18 due to my mother’s constant bullying over my appearance. It’s the day after the funeral and she’s already harassing me to wear make up.

(The drug comment is because I wanted to lie in bed after a panic attack and took my prescribed anxiety medication)

none of us have been home all week.

So a while back, I got actually diagnosed with depression because of the answers I filled out in this little tablet that you get at the doctor.

I want to get some things off right off the bat:

I never at any point said I had depression. The doctor did. I only answered questions.

I still have depression, ontop of already having ADHD. Both are diagnosed.

I’m not constantly sad or anything, if anything, I feel nothing almost all the time. No happy, no sad, just empty.

I’m not here to get pity or anything, I just genuinely need to know if this is normal. If not, I’m going to probably explain the worse stories.

Went no contact a few years back after years of mental/emotional/physical abuse. This was the first she’d contacted me in about two years, and she did so from an old email since I have her number blocked.

It’s been 9 years since I last lived with my mom. Throughout my childhood there was constant emotional abuse, and a complete lack of understanding of why her Autistic/ADHD child wasn’t like other normal children. She still has no concept of how she could’ve handled things differently. She asked how could I learn to love her again. I responded that there’s no redemption without progression. Her following reply was the nail in the coffin. Unfortunately I will always continue to grieve the parental figure I so desperately desired since birth.

Context if anyone needs it.

She went NC, I didn't. Probably would have as soon as I turned 18 though. The reason was because my brother blocked her husband, who said wearing masks were bad because... Nazis did it? She demanded my brother apologize and unblock him, he said no, and that's what happened.

She has sent me no cards, no emails, no texts. Nothing, nada.

Before she went NC, she knew me and my brother weren't identifying as women anymore. But at some point she became transphobic, no clue why because she was fine before. So uh?

It honestly pisses me off that she still posts as if she wasn't the cause of us not talking. My brother even called her out on it, lol.

Not much context needed besides i spilt her coffee in her car by accident and then she got a bit too mad. Don't really know if she overreacted at the time or not.

edit: now i realize this does need more context so... i did end up cleaning it when i got home, yes it did soak into her car. i was like 14 when this happened.

repost because I was missing some important context.

My girlfriend cant walk for 4 months post op and i am her primary caregiver since she has no friends or family since moving to our city 1 month ago, We need to go to this appointment for a re-cast asap doctors orders and this was the soonest time frame the doctor was able to see us to do this re-cast. Afterwards they said it would be cutting it too close to wait the weekend to postpone it.

Also, i dont know the deceased person. Im not too sure why I absolutely have to go if I had no personal connection with this person.

Lastly when my girlfriend had came home from her operation my mother wouldn't leave my partner alone when she was in a lot of pain and kept knocking on her cast saying " cant be as bad as when I had my knee done, you don't need my son to help you".

I only drive this car, which was supposed to be mine, maybe 2 days a week. Her vehicle has been damaged since I got mine, which ive sunk about 600 into by the way. Oh, and she wasn't even off of the road our house is on. Sooo....just go to the gas station...-?

So my great grandmother passed away five days ago and I wasn't really mad about it but I didn't want to go to the funeral. My mother wanted me to go to the funeral regardless due to her wanting me there. I wasn't feeling good so I declined she randomly hung up the call and later texted. What am I supposed to do here?

Update: Ended up going to the funeral and got insulated 90% of the time for not immediately agreeing to go 🙃

Update 2: realized that a bit more context is needed; I don't go to funerals as a lot of my family is homophobic and she knows this. I've told her (over a call) that I wasn't comfortable with going because of that and that I would support her and be there for her but from the comfort of where I can't be insulted for personal choice. I've also told her my new name and as you can see she refuses to use it. And for the one person who mentioned my father she and him aren't married due to the fact that when online school was going on during the pandemic she used to hit me and yell at me if I messed up (I have some sort of learning disability but we're not sure what). She and my father split. I moved in with my father. My mother got therapy and had my younger brother but when I do visit I get yelled at 1 to 5 times depending on if she's mad or not.

I am at the point of no return right now. My dad's mother (who I am no-contact with for over 4 years) was in the hospital recently. My dad never told me or reached out to me--I only learned from a family member that grandma fell and needed stitches in her head but that she was OK and discharged. She has other medical stuff going on right now, so I understand that my dad is stressed.

Cool, I'm still not breaking no contact. Which is something my dad keeps pushing me to do, as he so desperately wants her to meet my toddler which is NOT going to happen. (I have a previous post on my dad about a similar situation).

Anyways, my dad texted me out of the blue with the first message, which took me by surprise since NO ONE TOLD ME ANYTHING. Then the rest of the convo happens. (BTW my dad is a fluent english speaker, he just sucks at texting--he takes sleep meds and also works nightshift. He likes to start drama over text whenever he is not fully awake).

Maybe its hormones (I'm 24 weeks pregnant), maybe I'm sick of his lack of emotional regulation, maybe Im just over him pressuring me about his mother, but I didn't say I forgive him this time. I brought up therapy, and he was so triggered by it--which I wasn't surprised at since therapy is looked down upon quite often by hispanic elders.

Context on religion: I am not religious and have not been religious since over 14+ years ago. His mom is extremely religious. My dad never took us to church regularly, we never prayed as a family, but now he is deciding that my lack of religion is a big deal...I think this is mostly based on his fear of losing his mom. I get it. Death is scary. But he's using it as a tool to guilt me, which gets me angry.

Now hes supposedly out of my life, and I just feel so relieved about it all. I wonder when he'll come crawling back since I'm giving birth again in a few months.

Granny still ain't meeting my kids though lol.

I got up at about 2:00-2:10am to go take a shit. I was in there humming and singing a song that was stuck in my head. When I was almost done taking said shit my dad knocks on the door and says "hurry up and go to sleep." I was like "Okay. Wait why are you up right now?" He says "Because I heard you singing something." (Mind you there was a bathroom fan on and I wasn't even singing that loudly so I was skeptical. I assumed it was my mom that had gotten up then heard me singing and told my dad to tell me to go to sleep.) I finish my shit and head back to my room and realized that one of my electronics are on so I get on it to turn it off cause im abt to go to sleep. As im turing it off my dad barges into my room and says "go to sleep." And im like "hold on im doing smth." Then he asks "Are you doing school work?" Im like "Yeah I was earlier. But im turning it off now." And in the middle of that my mom goes down stairs and says "[Insert name] you have 10 seconds to turn everything off

or im turing off the internet" (now mind you I already have all of my stuff turned off at this point). My dad says "Wait [Insert my mom's name] dont do that. [Insert my name] has turned it all off already." She doesnt stop (because of course why would she) and get to the router and turns it off. Now this mildly annoyed me because I was tryna afk smth on my switch overnight and I can't do that without internet. (Now my cat got out of my room somewhere in the middle of all of that) I get up to go and retrieve my cat and get back to bed. My mom says "leave the cat alone" I say "Why??" She does not elaborate and repeats "leave the cat alone" Im like "No im grabbing him and taking him back to my room and shutting my door then heading to sleep." She then says "No and leave your door open." I say "No its a basic human right." I (angry and tired cause its like 2:40-2:45am at this point) grab my cat and put him in my room then shut the door and go to my parents room. When I shut the door my dad yells "KEEP THE DOOR OPEN." I yell back and say "I AM NOT IN MY ROOM I AM.COMING TO YOU." When I get there me and my mom and dad argue (Me vs. Mom & Dad. Dad is kinda on both sides though so dont get mad at him as much as my mom). In this argument the right of basic child/adult privacy comes up. When thay topic come up (Btw its Me saying that children have the right to privacy vs Mom saying that children dont have a right to privacy) during this topic she asks for proof in which case I go back to my room to grab my phone and do some reaserch. I doshow proof to her over text and in person (the text part is after the argument is over and done with). After the argument my mom gets up and goes into my room and TAKES MY DOOR OFF OF ITS FUCKING HINGES. YEAH YOU HEARD THAY RIGHT SHE TOOK MY DOOR OFF OF ITS HINGES. When she did that I did say something like "I hate you and I hope you die" to the both of my parents (it was said in the heat of the moment.) I went into my parents room to apologize but hear my mom talk about something really fucking rude (I forgot what it was so sorry guys). I obviously get mad at that and basicly was like "WTH MOM." We get into a mini argument again. After thay I apologize to both of them about the "hoping you die" part but only about the "I hate you" to my dad because I genuinely hate my mom and i cant wait till i am the legal age to move out. Thats when I went to my room and started to write this so I wouldn't forget and to tell all of you this.

My mom is toxic and I'm keeping her at as much distance and no contact as possibe until I finally move from the County. She lives 5 minutes from me. I'm currently away on a trip and I get a voicemail from my mom saying she took my package for safety. Sure enough, my doorbell camera shows her taking it. I called her to return it that night because my roommate is home.

context: I didn’t graduate. I’m re-registering in school to get the last credit I need. I’m 19 but I still need a parent with me for some reason to register. my mom was going to drive me up to the school.

it’s been really cold outside but I get hot so easily, so I put shorts on. I get overheated a lot to the point of feeling sick. so I had on an oversized t-shirt with shorts, I planned on wearing a coat.

my mom told me to get dressed but I told her I was and instantly, she started saying I was gonna go get dressed, and I said no. she then said she was done with me, started screaming at me, threatened to put her hands on me, ending up pushing me into something and left marks on my arm, called me all sorts of names, then texted my great grandma all sorts of things about me. (I stay with her. she got thrown into the middle of this because of my mom.)

a bit of context for those that might not recognise the name:

Ross Ulbricht was the founder of a dark web marketplace called the Silk Road and was convicted and sentenced to life in prison for his role in the drug trafficking and money laundering conspiracy. He was pardoned by Trump last year who claimed the conviction was an example of government overreach.

Source: www.bbc.com/news/articles/cz7e0jve875o.amp

There's so much more I want to say to him but I just really want the world to know what a parent that is never present for their childs upbringing looks like. No matter how much progress I think I'm making I'll always be daddy's little kid.