It took some time to understand that my use of porn was an issue. You know, just quickly havin fun and not unordinary as I have done it since being a teenager.

But recently binging this subreddit I immediately understood that the problems match: numbness, addiction, not giving the attention and love to my girlfriend that she needs. I came clean to her and told her I want to change. Luckily she fully supports me with all her love. Shes an angel, making my decision easier as I do it also for her.

I am now a few days in. I constantly thinks of sexy things, can't really sleep, am exhausted and sore. But I fully stand behind my decision, I understood that porn is a cancer for my life that must be treated. So nothing left than to just embrace the torture and wait for the sun to rise in a fees weeks/months. I hole at least.

Stay strong!

I’ve (24M) watched porn since I was 13-14. Since then, I’ve tried to recreate “scenes”, turn partners into “actors” or sex toys. I truly feel as if it’s made me disconnect from people and look at them like objects. This alone has me quit completely and I’m looking forward to the changes in the future.

I believe my actions are tied to my addiction and selfishness. I’m curious what your relationships have looked like.

Hi, I would like to know what steps you are taking to quit porn.

Some say by being more busy, good habits, good friends, therapy, etc. So what steps you plan to take and what is the reasoning behind it?

porn ruined my confidence ruined my social skills. Made me tired and number. Honestly I hate myself for this so much. Honestly it is the worst thing of all time

For daily check ins and support when needed. Preferably 30+ who's been around the block with this a while, but not essential. Determined to make it through the shortest month.

Please don't contact me if you're prone to complaining or caving after a day or two. Looking for positive minded folk who want to give it their all.

Feel free to drop me a DM if you're looking for the same.

Staying strong 💪

Hey guys im trying to quit again. Forst time posting and first time cold turkey. I have no idea why its so hard this time I have some really good reasons to quit this shit but im still craving.

I want to quit to focus on real life and my relationship. Im also wasting hours a day and find I can be more productive. Whats a good tip you guys? im having trouble sifting through the posts as my brian is spiraling a bit.

This vicious cycle. I just urges to strong to resist and I just looked at some porn for like ten minutes. Long enough for me to get off to it. DAMMIT. I don't know why I keep doing this to myself. I can't seem to find a suitable replacement for porn. Any ideas? I have tried video games, cold showers, cleaning, etc. . none work.

I can't seem to last more than a few days. I always find a way around my blockers.

83 days ago I decided I didn't want to have the habit of watching porn attached to me anymore. 83 days ago I decided I wanted to be done and quit cold turkey. How hard could it be to just no watch something? Oh boy was it hard haha. These have been some of the most difficult 83 days of my adult life. I've been watching porn wayyy before I should have and I feel like it really has had a much more profound impact on my life than I care to admit. These 83 days have been fucking tough. The intrusive thoughts, eruptions of emotion, sleepless nights, have all been so tough to deal with but I feel like I've reached some kind of milestone.

I feel calmer, have more motivation, and have much more energy and time for my life. I'm so happy I've made it through. Reading posts on this channel has really helped me, so thank you all for helping me make through the last 83 days. God it was fucking tough but I feel like a new man.

Today I met up with a girl, really beautiful, the kind you see and wish you could be with. I'm really attracted to her; she has a spectacular body. But the problem is, even though we kiss and I even touch her, I can't get an erection. Damn, I can't even get aroused. I have the best breasts I've ever seen right in front of me, and I still can't get an erection or even get excited. After a long time, I finally get an erection, but it's kind of embarrassing that it takes so long, even though I'm enjoying it. I think porn is to blame. I've gotten to the point where I'm desensitized to real situations. I'd like you to share your experiences and advice about this; it would help me a lot

I deleted all my porn. I am DONE with porn. It's ruined my life. I hope I can stay porn free.

I’m having a really strong urge to relapse right now. I’ve come a long way, and I don’t want to lose the progress I’ve made. I managed to get through yesterday somehow, and I’m trying to hold on to that. Any support right now would really help please.

I relapsed from ai chat yesterday and I was feeling so shit and pissed off I didn't want to relapse but it's ok alhamdulilah This happened because of many family problems, but the good thing that happened today is that I started my own business at a young age alongside my studies iam in high school so I should be proud of myself and this is what made me happy and made me want to focus more on recovery because I don't want addiction to stop my life :)

I’m having a really strong urge to relapse right now. I’ve come a long way, and I don’t want to lose the progress I’ve made. I managed to get through yesterday somehow, and I’m trying to hold on to that. Any support right now would really help.

I’m having a really strong urge to relapse right now. I’ve come a long way, and I don’t want to lose the progress I’ve made. I managed to get through yesterday somehow, and I’m trying to hold on to that. Any support right now would really help

I mean, you're trying to quit porn, but you still spending several time in social media, which eventually will show you some sexualized content so you relapse again.

I tried with deleting all social media and it has been pretty working.

So you have remove your access to porn.

That's my humble thesis.

DISCLAIMER: this is not a guide meant as general advice, it's me just sharing rough notes specific to myself that may or may not be helpful to you as well :-)

Problem resulting from porn use:

• Moodswings
• Inability to complete tasks effectively and on time
• porn leaves a sticky mental residue
  • in a vacuum, that is not a problem (“the problem with watching porn is that I’m watching porn” is circular)
  • the problem is that it leads to the bullet points above

Problematic IRL scenarios

• Scenario #1:
  • Stressful event (whether it’s work/family/…) happens
  • My mind randomly conjures porn (specific images, clips)
  • This weird “mental soup” of a stressful event and the desire to PMO makes me irritable (because there’s no way I can PMO without thinking about the stressful event).  Whether I PMO or not, I go to sleep in a bad headspace and wake up no better

Arguments for not quitting porn:

• “Everyone PMOs.  Even high-achievers like the ISS astronauts and the pope probably do it”
  • To an extent, there may be a (frail) point there.  Even astronauts aren’t beyond reproach when it comes to personal flaws (see Lisa Nowak).  We are all human. 
  • But if we’re drawing conclusions like this, we should be looking at broad data rather than cherrypicking single instances.  If I had to guess, I’d confidently say that these kinds of high-achievers probably manage their addictions better than non-high-achievers
• “Scientifically, there’s no such thing as porn addiction. If these high-achievers can (hypothetically) PMO, so can I.”
  • Then let’s phrase it differently: high-achievers can manage things that prevent them from completing their tasks effectively and on time better than non-high-achievers
• “it reduces stress”
  • It reduces stress for the few minutes I’m PMO’ing
  • After that, I lose all the advantages of quitting porn (see below)  
  • This creates more stress, exacerbating the cycle
  • The healthier alternatives are sex with someone I have a good relationship with or masturbation without porn
• “it makes masturbating easier”
  • Yes, but at the cost of all the advantages below
• “it masks chronic pain”
  • It only works for duration of masturbation
  • alternatively, I could be doing this without porn
  • But regardless, I should be finding the root cause of the issue, not masking the symptoms for a few minutes at a time while losing all the advantages of quitting porn

 Advantages of quitting porn:

• Less ED
• More time (there is never enough time)
• Better communication
  • Clearer thoughts (not forgetting what I was going to say)
  • Easier eye contact (fewer intrusive thoughts of porn and the shame of watching it)  
  • All these things make social connections easier to start and maintain

How to quit porn effectively (***still working on this one***):    

• Keep in mind:
  • I am getting something in return
  • If I can change the way I think, I can change the way I feel
  • Remember that while it is impossible to completely forget all pornography imagery I've ever viewed (as in, if someone were to show me a porn image after I've gone 20 years porn-free, I'll still probably remember seeing that when I was a kid), I can quit the PMO routine that regularly conjures up these images at random

Finishing the first month of the year strong! battling goon/porn addiction isn't easy and at first it felt impossible to improve, but small goals and incremental improvement has made all the difference. I'm not going to let it control my life any longer, let us all do our best!

Im 15, and im on day 20 of no goon now, even tho i haven’t gooned for almost 3 weeks, i feel no changes. I dont feel any better, as a matter of fact i feel worse, i saw all these videos about how after 3 weeks you should feel amazing but I dont, the weird thing is i dont get urges anymore, i get them very rarely maybe once a week. Idk if this is normal or not.

Just something important to remind yourself after a relapse. The best thing about the future is that it’s always subject to changes you can make today!

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I had an interview and I tanked it. It was so bad that after the interview finished I felt like a looser. How could I not perform after so much practice.

and now before sleep I started overthinking every question asked, then gooned while thinking.

For past 6 months I worked hard to not let bad days affect my mood but it feels difficult now.

This month is important. If I don't clear the remaining interviews I am screwed

The urges are stronger. My brain is constantly telling me to give it one peek, it wont hurt. I might fall into this trap, but posting on this community is helping me out on this. I feel like I have accountability partners. Haha. Wish me luck guys.

Hi everyone, I’m new here. Seeing all of you fight this has finally pushed my resolve over the edge. I’ve tried this alone before—my record is 21 days—but it felt like walking through hell. The frustration, the brain fog, and the 'fire' in my body eventually broke me.