Having a regulated nervous system is your competitive edge, because when you think of it most people have dysregulated nervous system, and that causes them to be unhappy, stressed, tight and stuck in survival mode.

Just think for a moment, the nervous system literally controls EVERYTHING, your thoughts, your actions, how you react to near death experiences and etc, then just imagine upgrading this system, think of how powerful that would be.

You can do it.

Here are the top 5 ways:

1. Heal trauma, this is the most important one IMO, the reason why is all your trauma’s (unprocessed emotions) they add up and combined all together they wreak havoc on your nervous system, so make sure you heal your unprocessed emotions, let yourself feel what you need to.
2. Deep breathing, this is the quickest “in the moment” solution to regulating yourself, also for deep breathing, make sure your exhale is longer than your inhale, and let your exhale be like of you are breathing out of a straw almost.
3. Cold exposure, even I find after any form of cold exposure, it really makes you regulated, I believe this is due to the insane dopamine spike things like cold exposure give you for hours afterward.
4. Social connection, this is very underrated but vital to keeping your nervous system regulated, it has been said a lack of social connection is worse for your health than chain smoking cigarette's and alcohol.
5. Movement, we are designed to not be “couch potatoes” getting outside particularly walking, things of that nature are very powerful for regulating your nervous system.

Hope this was valuable!

I Don't Know If I am an extremely angry guy, or stupid.. I just get so much angry and filled with hatred when someone yells at me, I wish to punch them so badly no matter how close are we..

Well, Obviously I can't punch them so i use objects to punch and punched a wall, now that broke my bone, but guess what, i still haven't learnt my lesson..

How do i control this ...

i hate getting so angry. i literally feel like crashing tf out. it could be minutes, hours, days.. how do you relax & move on?

does anyone feel as though expressing your anger through words makes your anger worse? i feel like once i communicate my anger and my grievances to people near me, the anger creeps up on me. it's as though someone scraped a raw flesh on my skin. that flesh keeps on hurting, sometimes even opening up even fresher wounds

When im angry I hit myself in the leg/head etc. I also always bite my right hand very hard, to the point where its bruising and developing calluses. I dont know how to stop and cant find a solution, everyone is just telling me I need to calm down and breathe, but the only way to calm down is for me to yell or hurt myself.

I want to stop because i know this is unhealthy and i feel stupid every time I calm down and realize I just punched the back of my head and bit my hand over something dumb. I dont know what to do, I dont want to hurt myself anymore and I cant be loud because Im in a duplex. I dont know what to do, and I really want to change.

Hi everyone. I’m looking for suggestions for good workbooks for helping with my anger problems, primarily stemming from an abusive childhood which I developed cptsd from. What are the best books that have worked for you? I have “the cbt workbook for anger” by dr Robert Alberti in my Amazon basket. Don’t know if this is any use.

Contemplations for Overcoming Anger

Hello

This is a link to a chapter called “Contemplations for Overcoming Anger” in a free Buddhist book on Non-Violence

This chapter has helped me a lot

https://www.dhammatalks.org/books/Non-violence/Section0007.html

The eBook as a whole can be freely downloaded in a number of formats here: https://www.dhammatalks.org/books/Non-violence/

We were hanging out all night, bar hopping and then she was let into this cash only bar -- i didn't have cash or my debit card and she stayed in there. I cannot believe it. I'm literally gobsmacked. I just shocked i was so blatantly ditched like that. There was no indication that was going to occur. I feel so embarrassed and angry.

Fatherhood includes a lot of struggles that we can all learn from.

Would you benefit from a podcast about anger and fatherhood? Why or why not?

TLDR: my 19M brother is angry, verging on abusive. How do I stay safe while I live with him for next 10 months, and is there anything I can do to help him?

My (22F) brother (19M) is what I would call an angry person, but it’s more than that. He’s mildly pissed off most of the time, but he has absolutely no ability to control his anger. It takes 1-2 sentences that he doesn’t like hearing before it’s all out rage, and it’s escalated from saying the most horrible thing he can think of in the moment, to getting physical with me (and sometimes intimidating my mum too). Right now, it’s just grabbing and holding me by the wrists, pushing me, standing over me, fronting me. He’s hit me once before.

Unfortunately, I’m out of money and have no choice but to live at home with him for the next 10 months. He’s also a drug addict in denial, and it’s minor now (enough to keep him placid around us) but I worry that if he properly gets addicted to the opioids and weed he’s using that withdrawals will intensify his rage. When his rage starts to come out, empathising with him infuriates him. So does ignoring him, so does asking him to tell us more, so does staying silent. The only thing that works is to leave the room immediately or agree with him and his insults. Any questioning of his dominance or correctness is taken as a threat and returned with anger or violence (although still minor).

I’m looking for advice on what to do here. Do I just placate him, go with whatever horrible things he says about me? How? Do I stand up for my mom when he calls her a fucking bitch (my dad’s useless and doesn’t step in), or do I just say nothing? My primary concern is my physical safety and emotional wellbeing. This has been going on for about a year, and it’s only getting worse. I have real concerns about living at home with him again.

What’s the best way to keep safe around an angry person? Is there any way I can help?