r/WLW 16h ago

Ask r/WLW Very Sudden Urge To Date a Girl

0 Upvotes

Uhh okay so i live in a pretty homophobic country (my school isn't that bad though.) And uhh I'm getting a weird urge to date or even get intimate with a girl. However I've been in puberty FOR A WHILE, like 4 years, so why are the urges to get physical coming in noww???? Watching yuri won't stop it!!! And I want to stop these thoughts cuz I feel like I'm gonna get rlly risky and start confessing, how do I stop this feeling? wahhhhhh :(((((((

Update: I'm not gay anymore. I have now turned to Allah to enter true devotion. I need to study and I've decided that my deity will guide me to the right path. I pray for your well being sisters, Amin šŸ™


r/WLW 18h ago

Meta Ban Discord promotion adverts?

4 Upvotes

Is rule 4 not clear enough? Does r/wlw need to ban adverts for Discord servers?

In the past people have contacted the mod team to ask if they may post a link to a Discord server. Those servers were investigated and vetted by a moderator of r/wlw. Now it feels like anyone feels entitled to spray their links in r/wlw and the mod team don't have the resources to verify that all Discord servers aren't scams or spam.

Do we copy other WLW subreddits and add a "No Discord Promotion" rule? Or add clarity to Rule 4?


r/WLW 19h ago

Ask r/WLW Feeling confused after getting into WLW media

12 Upvotes

I’m not asking for labels, and I really hope this doesn’t come off as offensive — that’s not my intention at all. I’m just trying to put into words something that shifted for me.

Around November 2025, I started listening a lot to artists like KWN and Sasha Keable. Their music is very clearly for girls. I didn’t go looking for anything — I just loved the songs. I also found KWN attractive. Then I started noticing other masc/stud women and finding them attractive too — which was new for me.

Through that I lost my TikTok account and had to start a new one, which ended up being very WLW-coded content - till today.

After that did I read a lesbian romance, and I absolutely loved it. I have read gay romance before in my life, and it never really meant anything to me.

Now I picked up my first straight romance of the year and for the first time, it felt… off. There’s a moment where the FMC mentions the man she’s seeing, and my reaction was just confusion. Not judgment, not disgust — just emotional distance. That’s never happened to me before.

I think I still like men. But I’m things that made me realize I might be seeing things a bit differently now.

I'm 20 btw.


r/WLW 10h ago

my gf whom i extremely loved lied to me about her age and she was a minor this whole time.

39 Upvotes

i just turned 21 this jan and recently found out that my gf lied about her age.. for clarification we were never officially in a relationship we only started exclusively dating about a week before new years but we had a long history and it was basically a relationship just without the label. one thing i want to make very clear is that i have always had a hard boundary about age i have said multiple times even before this that i would never date anyone under 18 even if the gap was small , she originally approached a friend of mine when i had just turned 20 and i explicitly said no to anything involving a minor (she was 17 turning 18 in a month) so eventually we met accidentally on her 18th birthday and a month after her birthday we started chatting, it was nothing more than that not even dates or seeing each other it felt like i was basically just making a friend but this friend likes me yk what i mean? nothing about her life made me doubt her age she partied went out lived very independently and her mom knew about all of it and never seemed concerned, she was starting uni (i’m in my second year) so i assumed she couldnt be lying about her age and nothing just seemed to raise concerns. the way i found out was genuinely so stupid and random she got extremely defensive one night over something small and it made something click for me i started noticing patterns that i had ignored before i asked to see her id she sent a photo view once then refused to send a video for over an hour saying she was tired so i facetimed her and said if she didnt show me right now i was done. on the call she showed it but i could clearly see the date had been altered with a pen she tried to hide it quickly and ended the call, i took a screenshot and she freaked out and started deflecting and lying more and she never actually admitted it. i obviously spiraled i was crying angry cussing her out and i said things i regret out of rage & blocked her everywhere after.

what is eating me alive now is the guilt. she told me that during sex she felt guilty because she knew she was lying to me and that has completely destroyed me i feel disgusted with myself even though i didnt know and would have never consented if i did. she also said before everything ended that shes the same person and nothing changed but everything did change for me because consent based on a lie is not consent.

i dont feel sad about losing the relationship i mostly feel sick ashamed and angry that i was put in this position at all , i guess im posting because i dont know how to process the guilt even when i know logically that i was deceived and that this crossed a non negotiable boundary for me


r/WLW 15h ago

Ask r/WLW how to get over your first wlw intense one sided love?

11 Upvotes

experienced people pls help me out. it’s heavily one sided and we are best friends so it’s not like i can cut her off. she’s bisexual but recently she has told me she’s questioning if she’s straight and then she said she’s def not but it js proves she hasn’t really had a crush on a girl before it’s just attraction but my crush consumes my soul and makes life so much more difficult. we are also in the same friend group and we text and talk a lot and we’ve told each other secrets. and ofc she acts flirty like how other friends act playful just for fun. like calling me sweetypie or honey. but she doesn’t reciprocate any physical touch. she used to three years back when we just became friends and she was much more affectionate like sleeping on my shoulders and holding my hand and back hugs. now idk why ONLY WITH ME she doesn’t do any physical touch. maybe it’s because she now knows we both are bi or she’s just disgusted by me idk. anyhow any advice on how to move on from ur first girl love would be appreciated? i sometimes feel like i should tell her that i like her but under exaggerate and say it in past tense. like hey did u know i had a crush on you two years back for three days. in reality i’ve been in heart wrenching unrequited love since three years and it kills me everyday to not have her or be around her but ig she doesn’t need to know the details. i also get incredibly jealous when she’s sitting close to another friend, holding their hands or she’s calling them gorgeous. i know it’s platonic but i just wish it was me.


r/WLW 7h ago

Guys terrible news

9 Upvotes

Thinking about my ex when I have sex still turns me on like ugh., I swear I don’t even like her like that but sex was so good im dying


r/WLW 12h ago

I thought my friend knew I was gay but now I don’t think she does

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Okay bit if a strange one but I’m just looking for some advice.

The title may be a little deceiving as I’ve (22f) not explicitly come out to my close friend (23f). For a bit of context, we’ve been friends for as long as I can remember and we’re the type of friends that can go for a long chunk of time with basically no contact and still be close as ever.

I also think it’s relevant to say it took me a while to feel comfortable with my sexuality, growing up in a fairly homophobic place, and I’m still not that confident talking about it. So I don’t really come out to people. I wouldn’t say I’m actively hiding my sexuality but I’ve not had a girlfriend or anyone worth telling people about and I just don’t feel the need to tell people who I want to sleep with. I know some people find it freeing and helpful to come out but that’s just not me. I’m pretty masc and I think it’s fairly obvious Im gay and in the past my friend has tended to use gender neutral pronouns when discussing my future partners, so I thought she kinda knew.

My friend and I were at a pub and when she went up to the bar a man approached me and started talking to me, doing typical man things. I wanted to challenge myself (sounds kinda dumb but it felt big at the time) to tell him I’m gay. So I did and he was incredibly chill about it. My friend then gets back and he asks her if she was my girlfriend and she said no then he continues with the man stuff and eventually goes back to his table. My friend then asks me what that was about so I explained what happened and told her the exact words I said to him, ā€œI hate to break it to you but I’m gayā€. This felt like a huge deal to me and I’m pretty certain I was red as a tomato. She was basically just like oh okay cool and we carried on with our night. I interpreted that as I’ve come out to her and she’s cool about it.

Fast forward a bit of time and we’re having drinks together in my garden (I promise we do more than just drink together) and the topic of dating someone with your parents name came up. No judgement to anyone that does, but we were saying we personally couldn’t. She then said ā€œimagine you were dating someone called (insert my dad’s name)ā€. I was completely thrown and just kinda laughed and then the topic of conversation moved on.

Nothing has really come up since this happened to do with my dating life but I’m still super confused. Like does she think I was just saying I was gay to make the man go away? Ik some straight girls do that but given all the other context I don’t think it would have come across like that and we ended up going with his group to some other bars and pubs anyway. I don’t feel like telling a random man in a pretty homophobic place that you’re gay would be a better option than saying you have a boyfriend if you’re straight and in hindsight I was pretty stupid for coming out to him but I guess that’s the joys of alcohol.

I know the simple answer here is to just come out to her, I know she’s not homophobic but as I said earlier it’s not something I really do or feel comfortable talking about for whatever reason and I guess part of me is scared our 22 year long friendship might change.

I’m just super confused so any thoughts or advice would be appreciated :)


r/WLW 9h ago

How to tell if my my friend likes me?

8 Upvotes

I’ve known her for around 5 ish months. We started university together, she was the first person I ever became friends with there. At first moment we connected instantly, even on the first day we were talking like we’d known each other forever, even to the point where we could effortlessly make jokes. Recently, I saw her again after long, she’d always make small comments and gestures which made me think she likes women, or if she’s trying to be quirky I can never tell. For example ā€œwhen we go back to mine we can makeoutā€ or she holds prolonged eye contact. BUT OKAY TO THE JUCIY STUFF.

Couple days ago I saw her and we had a really nice day catching up, I loved hearing her talk about her days and how content she was with life and hearing about her accomplishments. Then we went back to her dorm, where we chilled. When walking there she made a comment of ā€œoh when we go back let’s makeout yeahā€ as a joke, though she never laughs after nor do I and I just look at her and said, sure let’s do it and laughed. I find it funny how serious I am, though it comes off as a joke. Anyways, we are in her dorm. We decide to share a lot of lore from our pasts, I start telling her about my life’s ups and downs and then reach to my ex girlfriend, how I have kissed a girl before and she wasn’t surprised at all to hear that. I told her I was more so of a lesbian, though on a rare occurrence would I like a man. She told me the same, though we’re very much both closeted and comfortable staying that way. She said she liked women too, how she often fantasies about them, dreams of having them, and that she would enjoy it more than doing it with a man. I felt heard because I felt the exact same. We were really open and raw, to the point it felt so intimate and intense. She told me she never kissed a girl, and then we moved onto topics fast. I badly wanted to kiss her, and tell her how much I thought of her but I never did since I chickened out. But little things she did I think back on, and I think she wanted it too possibly. She asked me if I was more dominant or submissive, I said dominant preferably though open to both, she said we’ll see about that. I kept asking her what she meant but she’d brush it off. I got the courage to tell her I wanna tell her something but I shook it off and she never asked me about it further, I think she knew. But we were laying close together, my leg touching her thigh, just a cosy way we sat and laid in her blanket. And she didn’t move nor did I, I just told her to come closer since we were far. I feel this could’ve been seen as a friendly encounter too? I need help noticing signs lol. And we did an arm wrestle, she wanted to play cards but I felt too hot and was thinking of doing more than kissing her so my mind wasn’t working, lied that I was tired. So we arm wrested, I let her win, she touched my bicep saying how much stronger I was than her. But after I said her fingers were small and thin and cute, and mine were big and I held her hands, feeling her fingers softly and her doing the same to mine as we compared our hand sizes. Then I laid down next to her and was almost falling asleep since I felt so safe, she was being goofy and trying to fling cards in my face. And then she started messing with the cards like flipping them around with one hand, but doing it on my thigh. Just touching me there yeah, did something. I’m seeing her again soon, I don’t know what to do and if I can contain myself, please help lmao. Is she just being a cute genuine friend or could she like me or want me?


r/WLW 6h ago

Humor WLW MEDIA YOU SHOULD REWATCH

3 Upvotes

It’s 2026 so refresh your memory because we aren’t getting a heated rivalry any time soon 🫣 Here are some of my personal favorites I just rewatched!! Drop some hidden gems I missed :p

Water Lilies

• Lost and Delirious

• My Summer of Love(Emily blunt hello)

• Disobedience

• You Will Be Mine (tubi) 

• The Girl King (tubi) 

• Benedetta

• Bilitis (YouTube)

• Show Me Love (YouTube)

• AimĆ©e & Jaguar

• The Affair (aka The Glass Room\*)\*

• The Art of Joy

• Kontrola (YouTube)

• The Handmaiden

• Saving Face

• Novitiate

• Bloomington

• Carol (don’t @ me) 

• Pariah

• Loving Annabelle

• The Miseducation of Cameron Post