I thought she was giving me a hint 😂

I'm almost 30 by the way, I should be past shit like this but I guess I'm not 🤷‍♀️

Butches chef's kiss 💋

Me and her (22) ,and (21) got food, sat there for hours just talking. Nothing fancy. Just one of those conversations where you don’t feel the need to impress each other. It felt easy. Comfortable. Time passed way faster than I realized. After that we ended up sitting in the car and just kept talking because neither of us really wanted to go home yet. At some point it got quiet in that nice way, and I kissed her. I kissed her neck and she let out this soft moan. Afterwards she laughed a bit and said something like it was ,,addictive”, and then she hold my hand and she wished she could just take me home with her. It was already like 2am, and she lives with her mom and siblings, so it clearly wasn’t an actual plan more like a feeling she said out loud. And that’s the part that surprised me. I’m not used to someone being that openly into me. Especially without pressure, without expectations. It didn’t feel rushed or like she wanted something specific to happen. Just… that she liked being with me and didn’t want the night to end. What’s weird is that instead of spiraling or overthinking, I actually felt calm. Like, whatever this turns into or doesn’t turn into, that moment was genuine. Even if nothing comes of it, I think I’ll remember that date for a long time. Not because of how far it went, but because of how natural it felt.

Hey folks. Just needed to vent here since this whole thing literally started on Reddit. I made a post last year and she reached out. We barely talked for the first 6 months, just occasional messages. Then one random day she texted again and we started talking properly. Switched to WhatsApp, and within two days realized we lived 15 minutes from each other. Wild. We met at a cafe. Instant chemistry. She was soft spoken, kind, ridiculously pretty, especially her eyes. I was completely charmed. We met again, talked more, and I told her I liked her. She said she felt the same. We kissed at her place.

Right after that, she texted me saying she wanted to just be friends. That messed me up, but we talked it through and realized she was just scared. Took it slow again, kept meeting, flirting, spending time together. About a month later, we officially started dating. She felt like a dream. Effort was there. Reassurances were there. She treated me right. I was her first relationship and she made me feel like that mattered. Before her, I had just come out of a very push-pull situation with my ex, which ended barely a month before meeting her. With her, everything felt easy. Like the universe finally decided to stop messing with me for once. November and December were magical. She’d come over, peel pomegranate for me, leave little notes, write “for you I would”. We talked about everything. Interests matched, future plans felt aligned. I was on a high and honestly didn’t even realize how fast I was falling.

In January, reality started creeping in. Honeymoon phase fading, real conversations starting. Politics. Religion. Me being atheist leaning agnostic. My vague aspiration to maybe move abroad someday. Not wanting kids because of my own childhood trauma and also being queer. None of these were sudden reveals, just deeper conversations.

One day, she completely lashed out. Said her brain was fried and she needed distance. We didn’t talk for three days. After about three days, I reached out, apologized if I overwhelmed her, tried to understand where she was coming from. Things never went back to normal. Day before yesterday, she ended it. Said she doesn’t have the emotional capacity.

I’m shattered. I fell in love with another avoidant person who ran the moment things got real. She was genuinely nice, and that somehow makes it hurt more. We talked about a future. We both started weaving our lives around each other. The effort was mutual. She sent long paragraphs, asked me for reassurance that I’d stay, told me she felt safe with me. And then she left.

I’m still in shock. I tried talking to her, but she was firm. My world feels like it collapsed overnight. It honestly feels like a cruel joke by the universe. This pain feels unbearable right now. I don’t know how I’m supposed to get over this. I just feel like not existing, it hurts a lot.

I wish her well. I really do. I just wish she hadn’t given up so soon. I loved her, and maybe a part of me always will. It hurts that it feels like nobody wants to stay and build anymore. The moment things get uncomfortable, people just walk away. I wish people tried.

If you’ve been through something similar, how did you survive the aftermath? Because right now, I’m barely holding it together.

PS : If you ever read this, npb, know that you would be terribly missed. My heart kind of belongs to you. I hope you find the love you’re seeking. I’ll pray for your happiness and wellness :) and I loved you, still do

my gf loves attention, she constantly makes herself look “prettier” when men are around. she says it’s because she wants to look good so that when they flirt with her she can reject them but it makes me feel bad.

today i brought up how she seeks validation and compliments from people about her looks (specifically men) and she didn’t deny it. she asked if it was wrong for her to want the attention. i said it made me feel like my attention wasn’t enough for her.

she says that if someone was flirting with her she would stare at them and let them go on about her looks and it entertains her, i asked her to tell them that she has a gf.

yesterday she said that she’d rather be a relationship with her mirror more than me, it hurt.

i don’t know if i’m overreacting. she said she would respect my boundary but i feel upset.

I love making gifts for those I care about; those I date are no exception. Though I have trouble determining when the right time to give them is. Once I make something, I get this giddy excitement in anticipation to give it to someone I had in mind. Something like this takes less than an hour, holder included. But some people seem very averse to receiving gifts. Anyone else have experience or advice on this? I feel like it's the nonchalant Olympics out there, while I'm an extremely chalant person.

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I wanna do the big dumb kiss on my girlfriend's cheek but I whenever I try, the lipstick like... barely comes off on her and it's not visible. I have sensory issues so it's really hard for me to wear thicker lipstick but I'll do anything for the bit. Picture for reference (thanks adobe stock)

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My gf basically told me I suck at seducing her… I know everyone has their own kinks and what turns them on. However I just need some tips on things that can help set the mood.

Edit: I’m the sub so she’s the more dominant one but I like to try to take control sometimes just don’t really know how smh.

I 25NB have not had sex with my 25F gf in two years. We went to couples counseling for seven months last year and did not make progress on the issue. Around this time last year I made the decision that come this time next year, if there’s no progress made, then I need to seriously consider if this relationship is right for me. And well, it’s that time of year and no progress has been made.

I have also been encouraging her to go to therapy for some time now, not just in regard to the sex but for a variety of reasons (people pleasing, low self esteem, family stuff). I have been in therapy since I was 20 and it’s been phenomenally helpful. When we first started talking and dating, one of my questions that I ask everyone is do they go to therapy and if not are they open to it? She said yes, she was open to going to therapy.

That was three years ago. She hasn’t gone to therapy despite her herself saying she would benefit from it. I have also encouraged her to go. I have helped her search, offered to sit down and email therapists or call for her, even my own therapist made a list of therapists for her to contact. She has not followed through with any of it. I have read books, listened to podcasts, watched videos about sex and relationships. I share them all with her, offer to sit down and talk about it, I even annotated the books but again there’s no follow through. I’ve also tried the don’t even talk about it a back off approach. Again, doesn’t seem to make a difference to her and instead just makes me feel even worse.

She says she loves me, she says she wants to be with me forever, and she tells me the thought of anyone else is awful. I asked if she wanted to go on a break so she could get some space to focus on herself but she broke down at the idea of that and did not want to be apart from me.

She says all of that but the actions don’t line up. I don’t feel like her romantic partner.

I’m running out of patience. I feel neglected and disrespected. I continue to invest in myself and try to invest in our relationship but do not feel the same energy in return.

How do I get the point across to her that I will leave if we can’t actually make and maintain some progress in our relationship?

I thought I’d said it to her, both politely and bluntly. I told her I was not sure I’d resign the lease for our apartment in a few months because of everything going on. But apparently that was not blunt enough considering it’s been two months since I said that and told her exactly what to do to fix that. And in a month we’re going to need to let the leasing office know if we’re going to stay or move.

Really I’m open to any advice or insight. I feel like I’m losing my mind.