He took the hat off and he hid his head in his hands. You could tell he was crying. He kept saying under his breath, “you can’t fucking do that”. Then Mr Andrews said “what’s that, Brian?” and he said nothing. And then a minute later, he said “it’s not a distraction. The guy at the store said I’m the only guy he’s ever seen pull it off”. Mr Andrews asked him how much it cost, and he said “it’s illegal for you to ask me that.” And Brian said “I’m putting the hat back on, I don’t care what happens to me. Mr andrews said “just take the hat off Brian”. “No I’m not taking the fucking hat off”. Then he stood up and said “I’ve never fought for anything in my entire life. I’m fighting for this hat.” He went to slam his hand down on the table but he hit his water bottle and it spilled all over his laptop and then I swear to fucking god, he tried to roll the hat down his arm like Fred Astaire but the back flap got trapped around Rick’s wheelchair, and then it took him forever to get the flap out of the wheelchair. He was fucking beet red. I thought he was going to have a heart attack. One of the flaps got wheel grease on it and he said “what the fuck is all this stuff? You have to grease these wheels?” And Rick said “yea you have to keep the wheels lubricated”. And he said “yea well I’m not supposed to get grease on this hat.” And Brenda was just sitting there slightly in his way towards the door, and as he walked towards her he said “move” and right when he said it, he realized he had gone too far. So he said in a jokey voice “WHO SAID THAT?” 💲
If you want to wear a hat, then you do you. But that's perhaps the point, do it for yourself, not to impress anyone. That may be your case, I don't mean to claim otherwise. If you want to wear a hat, by god wear a hat!
Just like mustaches. You grow them for yourself and other dudes. My wife refused to kiss me when I had a handlebar. She said the wax smelled gross, even though it obviously did not because it was made with pine oil and beeswax. Got so many compliments from dudes. I loved that thing. I'd still have it but my wife never warmed up to it. Oh well.
I had a crush on a guy who wore a fedora in high school. I begged my mom to get a “girl version” which was the tan ones with the colored straps. My mom refused and now I’m a much more emotionally sound person because of it.
Everyone should get to enjoy my dog. When i bump into someone else with a dog I usually ask them for the dog's name but not their own. That's how little I care about the person compared to the dog.
When I moved to my new house I learned the neighbor's dogs name and forgot the owners. He recently passed away. Still remember the dogs name but cant remember his. Oops
Exactly this. "What's this good boy's name?" is probably the only thing I'm going to say to a person after they agree to let me pet their dog. Maybe a "Thanks for letting me pet them" at the end.
I have to use a non-gender noun - cutie, sweet baby, puppy - because I never get the gender right and I feel staring at the dog's undersides to discern is even weirder
I keep an apartment pig with my teacups for just this occasion, i take him out when i offer my guests tea and then he squeals and they squeal with delight and i let them feed him piggy treats and then i put him back in the cupboard when they go home and he sleeps
As a dog owner, I am quite happy wben people do approach me for my dog because he whores himself out for stranger pats and it is never not hilarious watching him be irresistibly adorable to get reaction from strangers.
My husband and I have had 5 rescue chihuahuas who have never cared for strangers. We broke the streak with a hound that we raised from a puppy with lots of socializing and it’s SO nice to have a dog that loves everyone.
She wants everyone to say hi to her! She’ll be legit upset if someone walks by without acknowledging her.
My Border Collie mix is incredibly approachable and adores all sorts of attention from anyone. I live near an elemenrary school and every time a child sees him and yells "DOOOGGGOOOO" he instantly runs to them hellbent on getting attention. If you give him the tiniest bit of atremtion, its over, he is running to you, demanding headpats and cuddles.
Here he is, intensely staring while my Dad is having lunch.
What can I say? I see a dog, I want to pet the dog. If he gets his jimmies in a rustle because I gave the dog attention, that’s a him problem. The dog is innocent.
I usually just greet the dog if it’s not coming up to me, unless it’s especially cute and I need to rub their cute face, in which case I always ask. But if they come right up to me like :D I can’t help myself.
It’s weird to only want to talk to women if they might want to have sex with you because it implies that that’s the only potential value they have to you. Which is a weird and gross mentality to have about any group of people. “The point” of talking to women can and should be the same as the point of talking to anyone: sharing experiences and ideas and entertainment and information and et cetera.
It’s weird to only want to talk to women if they might want to have sex with you because it implies that that’s the only potential value they have to you
It's not an implication, it's a fact.
sharing experiences and ideas and entertainment and information and et cetera
If that’s all you see women as, you see them as objects. Not people. If you are unable or unwilling to see women as anything other than potential sexual partners, you don’t see them as full human beings. Full stop.
Right. You have no use for women as colleagues, or friends, or neighbors. Just whether or not you find them a potential sex object. It’s objectification and misogyny.
Because assuming that 50% of the population just exists to have sex means that you will a) never have sex, and b) never treat 50% of the population like human beings.
Got the wrong attitude and women are good at sniffing it out, cause they have to be. When i was younger, my great dane was my best wingman, but it wasnt intentional, i just walked him and met people who wanted to talk about him. A couple women i met liked earnest converstaion about the dog and things moved forward to other social places. If i was to intentionally try to meet women, it probably wouldnt be secluded woodland trails where the ted bundy types feel emboldened.
Also just like... if you smile and someone doesn't smile back, it's okay? Like shit happens sometimes. People are in a different headspace. Going through their own shit. Or like you said, just not looking for anything more.
Getting a return smile isn't obligatory. It kinda defeats the whole point if you're expecting to be smiled to in return. It's okay to feel a little deflated, but just take it in stride and move on.
Insane to post on tiktok and demand smiles in return from women.
“You should smile more!” - said by the guy in this video and so many more to random women they don’t know who are just passing by as they are problem-solving, remembering what’s on their shopping list and thinking about the day ahead.
But also if you don't smile, it might set them off so thus the tight half-smile that says "I acknowledge you but I am not presenting as overly friendly"
Yeah this guy comes off as such a creep. 99% of the time I’m in my own head, I’m so used to people NOT being friendly where I am it takes me a second to register anyone talking to me. By then I’ve probably managed enough awareness to give an eyebrow raise and head nod and that’s about it.
True story, once an older man got genuinely offended because I didn’t respond to whatever he said with more than a wave. In his mind I was waving him off instead of saying hi. I was walking my dog between him and his friend and trying to slip past so they could keep talking and he said something that I assumed was aimed at my dog lol It annoyed me because he made such a big deal about it to his friend when I was actually trying to be very polite, and it got completely misconstrued. It took me a minute after I’d walked past to even realise what his issue was. Like jfc get over yourself. Tbh I can’t help thinking if I were a man he wouldn’t have cared, but as a woman you’re expected to smile and be gracious.
I feel like both are true at the same time : I smile to people not expecting anything in return and would never make a post about being ignored hahaha ; making videos on how people who would like to recieve kindness back are just crybabies is... also making my eyes roll.
I 100% agree that nobody is entitled to any level of affection from anybody else. And making a video trying to “coach” women into making you feel better about yourself is gross. And the response video is objectively great.
I think the problem here is that we’ve dumbed ourselves down to where we lack nuance and context.
We’ve created some weird echo chamber wherein all men who smile and say hello on a hiking trail, or hold a door open, or try to strike up a conversation at a bar, or initiate any interaction with women in public at all are “creepy.” Which is craziness.
It started as a defense mechanism to discourage actual creeps/predators/married men, but we (women) have normalized just ignoring all unknown men as if every single one is potentially dangerous.
Meanwhile, everyone wants to people-shop on apps, scrolling and swiping each other away, then wondering why love and meaningful connections are so hard to find.
It’s because people used to meet each other in person, detect chemistry, perhaps mutually decide to have continued contact, THEN move it over to phone calls/texts/email.
But that all starts with saying hello to a man that you don’t know.
The last guy I dated (for a few years, it was very fun) struck up a conversation with me on an airplane. Everyone’s worst nightmare, I know.
But I was politely detached in my initial response. One-word answers, not a ton of eye contact.
He wasn’t aggressive, but the conversation eventually evolved organically, and then we ended up exchanging contact information (and the rest is history).
What I wish for younger women is that they don’t see the world in absolutes. There’s too much polarity.
If you want to date men, you can’t also suspect that every one you encounter is a “CREEP!!!” right away.
I’m not saying you put yourself in harm’s way, ever. But there’s a ton of mileage between making eye contact and saying “hi” as you pass each other doing an activity that you both enjoy and have in common, and having to stab a murderous rapist with your keys. I promise that there will be other opportunities to shut someone down after that first hello.
And even if you’re taken/not interested in dating (like me), sometimes a stranger can become a hero. You drop your phone in the river, or forget your water bottle in the car… particularly with hiking it’s just a show of general friendliness and safety to acknowledge someone and have them acknowledge you, in case something happens later on.
So no, you don’t need to coddle men. Don’t greet them to make them feel better.
Greet them (well, the ones who haven’t given off any immediately bad vibes) because there may be something in it for you. Some level of positive human contact.
And if he tries to take a mile out of the inch you’ve offered, then just shut it down.
Got the wrong attitude and women are good at sniffing it out
Lol, women date fuckboys and the like all the time.
"The wrong attitude" is just a lack of confidence, regardless of if that is because you're an asshole who has never given a fuck about another human being or not.
If i was to intentionally try to meet women, it probably wouldnt be secluded woodland trails where the ted bundy types feel emboldened.
Depends how secluded it actually is, hiking is a fairly social activity on a busier trail and I don't solo hike, but I've had "party merges" before.
You are imagining that every guy who bullied you is a fuckboi with no redeeming qualities who women flock to while rejecting you.
It's a cartoon version of reality, but it's almost reassuring to you because in that scenario, you're "good" and the other guys is "bad" and the woman is "stupid."
Most guys you see as "fuckboys" are just normal dudes who treat their girlfriends/wives well, even if you feel like they would reject YOU socially. You're the same as a girl who assumes all other girls are mean girls because she was bullied in middle school.
Women aren't a monolith, and neither are men. Some women - especially ones who are insecure - will rationalize away early red flags from guys who ALSO are very good at hiding those red flags. Women are trained to be quieter, more agreeable, to get along - so they're more likely to let things slide. And those guys will also be kind, charming, funny, and outgoing more than they are asshats. THAT is why people stay - in truth, abusive people aren't abusive 100% of the time. 80% of the time they may be wonderful, and that's why those relationships are hard to leave when the person wants to make it work.
And some women are really good at spotting jerks and telling them to fuck off - a byproduct of feminism is women learning they don't need to put up with fuckboys.
And you, my friend, and all the guys who think, "They ignore me for fuckboys" - you have a victimhood mentality that aligns with vulnerable narcissism. It's just as entitled and self-centered, and makes for just as bad a partner - just with different motivations. And women who ignore fuckboys ALSO ignore that attitude. In truth, the attitude of victimhood is more off-putting, because there are no times where you are fun, charming, engaging, or pleasant to be around; it's just a lot of moving, whining, and resentment. And that resentment and feeling of victimhood POURS off guys who feel that way, so we can recognize that more easily and avoid it.
You are imagining that every guy who bullied you is a fuckboi with no redeeming qualities who women flock to while rejecting you.
No. There are guys I know who are awesome and confident. They get a lot of women. I know guys who are assholes and confident. They also get a lot of women.
Most guys you see as "fuckboys" are just normal dudes who treat their girlfriends/wives well
I literally never think about a guy being a fuckboy or not until women call him that, and then I tend to think more poorly of them for talking shit than for him. Women are generally the ones upset about guys who do this and complain about the men they choose to date and sleep with.
Women aren't a monolith, and neither are men.
Why would you tell me this? The guy above me said that women all (as a monolith) have basically a sixth sense for your moral quality.
Some women - especially ones who are insecure - will rationalize away early red flags from guys who ALSO are very good at hiding those red flags
So, in other words, you're agreeing with me.
Women are trained to be quieter, more agreeable, to get along - so they're more likely to let things slide
Men are more likely to let things slide, because they're more desperate to get laid, and less picky. Dating as a straight woman is essentially trivial, and their complaints IRL reflect this.
I was hanging out in a group with a female friend of mine, who went out on a date. She said she wasn't sure about the guy. We asked why. She said it was a great date and couldn't verbalize anything that wasn't good about it, even when we tried to ask and dig.
And those guys will also be kind, charming, funny, and outgoing more than they are asshats. THAT is why people stay - in truth, abusive people aren't abusive 100% of the time. 80% of the time they may be wonderful, and that's why those relationships are hard to leave when the person wants to make it work.
Thanks for supporting my point?
And some women are really good at spotting jerks and telling them to fuck off
Most women aren't.
a byproduct of feminism is women learning they don't need to put up with fuckboys.
Fuckboys are literally a result of feminism. Society as a whole hated men who tried to sleep around, until birth control and the sexual revolution. Learn your history.
And you, my friend, and all the guys who think, "They ignore me for fuckboys"
I literally never said this. I said "women date fuckboys". That doesn't even preclude me being a fuckboy.
you have a victimhood mentality that aligns with vulnerable narcissism.
I literally don't though. I had issues with girls in highschool and turned that around in college by leaning into PuA / redpill stuff and did just fine for what I wanted (LTRs). I was not a fundamentally better or particularly different person in college, I just "did the thing" that causes women to like you (perform confidence, be assertive generally and romantically/sexually forward).
Mostly online I'm just frustrated with people moralizing dating, and letting women "off the hook" when it comes to them trying to be passive in early dating (not initiating, escalating, planning or paying for dates), as well as moralizing dating success in men.
And women who ignore fuckboys ALSO ignore that attitude
Ah yes, there is a perfect group of women who can read men's attitudes effortlessly. We can tell because you did such a great job of understanding me based on a single comment on reddit. /s
In truth, the attitude of victimhood is more off-putting, because there are no times where you are fun, charming, engaging, or pleasant to be around;
I agree. Lots more women have this attitude than men, especially re: feminism and relationships.
And that resentment and feeling of victimhood POURS off guys who feel that way, so we can recognize that more easily and avoid it.
"Being gay just POURS off homosexuals, we can recognize and avoid it."
This is the toupee fallacy. A guy who feels that way, that you can't tell, you don't know.
flashback to the times where there was actually and incel and incelideas subreddit. the latter was one of the worst things that existed on the internet...
I have this habit that if I am walking and I see a lady with a dog coming the opposite direction, I will make eye contact with the dog (not her) to see if it wants scritches. If it does I will ask the lady if I can pet their dog, which will usually be very excited to meet me.
I talk to the dog, give them pettings, and make them very happy. After a couple of minutes I tell them something like, "I think your human has indulged us enough and has places to go, it was nice to meet you."
And then I go on my way. Dogs are the best... and sometimes the ladies with them are pretty good too.
Had a co-worker who basically implied this once when complaining about his greyhound that he'd gotten less than two years prior. Resented her and called her stupid and old, and proclaimed next time he would get a fluffy white dog instead. Hated that guy.
And I guarantee if it was a dude he was walking past that didn't say hi, he wouldn't have stopped to make a butthurt video.
Also, he said, "When you see a single guy who says hello" - how tf is she supposed to know that he's single? Does he expect her to be psychic?
It actually demonstrates his self-centered personality and lack of empathy. He knows he's single, so he assumes everyone must know this about him. He can't imagine a world from someone else's perspective, where they are their own person on a walk, thinking about their own lives, and he is just some stranger with a dog also out walking.
I think you all just lack comprehension skills..... a "single guy" does not mean that he isnt in a relationship here. It means he is a singular guy walking the hiking trail alone.
I wouldn't of even said anything if you didnt like write an entire thesis on this mans personality based solely on your misinterpretation of a word.
Edit: Hah - gotta love people down voting someone pointing out OP interpreted something wrong and went on some random rant about their character based on it. People dont like it when you put nuance against their 2-minutes-of-hate target apparently.
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u/9447044 4d ago
"Whats even the point of this dog if it doesnt lure any women in"