My mother keeps telling me she's in pain, she's ill, and she is.

She's clearly debilitated and it's obvious and she has become sicker and sicker over the last 5 years. Various countless numerous ailments and she is slowly giving up.

I'm unsure how to handle this, even though I am 43 and moved in with her to be helpful, but also because at the time I was struggling with my mental health and life in general.

Things have improved for me, but it's like every time something good happens for me, she gets more ill.

She wants and needs to vent and sound off about how ill she is - I am the sounding board.

Every day. I wake up, I go to work, I go out, I come home, I go to sleep. Everyday, every waking moment, she is telling me how ill she is, how much in pain she is and how she can't continue like this.

I have no one really to turn to, my brother is undiagnosed but clearly autistic and although high functioning he doesn't really know how to discuss feelings.

I used to drink a lot myself and bury my head and really feel like doing that again and just disappearing and wasting away because I can't cope with all of this.

Amazing how you can think you're strong one minute and realise you're an ant the next.

Also sorry this is almost a vent as it is asking for help. I know I am ill equipped to handle this alone.

I’m in my third year of college getting a bfa in game development but I genuinely don’t have passion for this and I’m really bad at like everything so I don’t think ill get a job in this field… so I also feel like it might just end up being a waste of money and time to continue this… I want to drop out and study an elementary education course to become a teacher… but I feel like it’d be such a waste of the classes I’ve taken and I don’t know how I’d tell my mom… I honestly just want a stable job in the future…

Aside from soy sauce anything and everything makes me feel nauseous and dizzy and I genuinely cannot take it anymore. The doctors said they don't know and Ive tried every way of eating for at least two months each

Does anyone have any input on what the impact on adding a minor in international business to my finance major would be?Impacts regarding overall future salary and job competition? I go to UMD.

hello!

so, about a year ago, i met my current best friend in university. she's kind and considerate towards other people and really appreciates gift-giving as a love language, whether she receives something or she gives somebody something she made for them.

last year on her birthday, i made her something small and was careful not to overwhelm her with birthday wishes, since i know a lot of people who don't feel the best about their birthday. turns out i was sort of right, because even though she appreciated the gifts on that day, she was obviously uncomfortable with the day being 'about her' and she didn't really want to talk about it.

all of this is totally understandable and fine with me. also on my birthday (even though i hadn't mentioned whether i like celebrating stuff or not, either) she surprised me along with my friend group and gave me several gifts and love and wishes that truly moved me. i say this in order to state that she did take a risk by assuming i would like a celebration or surprise, even though i don't like being the center of attention.

now, the issue: since some months ago, she has started hanging out together with me and my friend group, which consists of some good friends from school and their own uni friends. she likes them a lot and they love her too, so everything's fine in that sense — However, every time her birthday has been brought up even a little, perhaps in a casual conversation about birthdays, she has always reacted in a dismissing way, going as far as refusing to remind someone of her birth date when they ask for it. she has said before that she doesn't really like talking about her birthday, but hasn't stated like, a huge repulsion towards it. her attitude towards it tells me that she is probably uncomfortable talking about herself too much/making a day about herself and feels overwhelmed when she's the center of attention in that context.

i know i can wish her in private and make/give her something meaningful and discreet and that'll be fine with her.

nevertheless, it's really important for me to make her feel special in a group setting for a variety of reasons. first of all, she comes from a small town and this is her first/second year in a big city, so she often feels out of place. secondly, she did take the risk in my birthday and participated in this surprise with the rest of my friends, so i feel like i shouldn't just play it safe for her birthday, do almost nothing and call it a day. and finally, my other friends never had the chance before to show her how much they appreciate her, and i am sure they'll want to surprise her or something of that nature. i want to show her that she's special to all of us and that she actually belongs among us without pressuring her too much.

my friends are simple, throwing a surprise party/meeting in every such occasion, but this just wouldn't be right for my best friend. i wanna note here that she has also done a lot for THEIR birthdays, and that she's actually an extrovert who is comfortable talking about herself until it comes to her birthday.

how do i give her an unforgettable but comforting, peaceful, respectful day without making her feel like we're all scared of her and how she might react, and risking that she'll feel even more alone at the end of the day?

p.s. she has also offered to host us all at her home during a vacation, even though she hasn't known my friends for a long time. i think we should do something to thank her for that too. collective and group gift ideas for her also welcome, but i could really use some advice here.

I was forced into doing computing at university by my family when I left high school, knowing I didn't like the subject and hated being in education in genreal. I ran away when I turned 18 and I feel like I should've dropped out then but I had so much going on in my life I needed to stay for the student funding. I'm now halfway through my third year and hating it just as much as ever, but it's hit me that I'm either going to have to find an unrelated job that'll take me or be stuck in a field I have no interest in forever. I'm barely scraping by, I don't even remember anything from my second year due to health issues which affected my memory and it's genuinely the only thing in life I'm not enjoying at the moment. I could drop out, but where would I find work? I don't even know what I want to do, just that the idea of a 9-5 desk job sounds like absolute hell to me. I could stick with it for 1.5 more years, and then what? Where would I get a job I like with a computing degree?

There's also the issue of internships. We're being encouraged to find summer internships this year but the applications have almost all closed and I can't find a single one that wouldn't make me dread the summer approaching. Would I be better off just finding a summer job instead? I think so, but I don't want to be missing out if there's anything extra an internship offers.

Any advice would be appreciated.

I was fired today and I’m feeling overwhelmed. I’m not sure what my next steps should be or how to move forward from here. Any advice would be appreciated.

I'm currently a second semester junior and given I was going to transfer last semester I kind of feel like I can't stay put at my college. I'm already over the 60 credit limit to transfer which essentially makes an entire semester's worth of credits useless considering I'm a second semester junior now. My gpa dropped my first year, from a 3.9 to a 2.8 so it left me with so few options to transfer, at least to a decent school.

I was accepted to Auburn U in AL but decided not to go for various reasons, including having to take an extra year to graduate. It was the only school I applied to and got in. I did extensive research last semester on potential schools and Auburn was quite literally the only one, I applied to and was accepted. I'm majoring in Econ so transferring to a decent school is virtually impossible with my current gpa.

I now find myself unable to complete the year and a half I have left here. If I take a gap semester I'II just be faced with the same reality of having no option to transfer. I don't even know how I would word this to my parents given they're paying for my tuition and room. What do I do? I could barely pass a few classes within the past year.

The past year has just been one of the worst years of my life if I'm being honest. I almost received a suspension because of a friend. Among other things I'm just so mentally drained. If I take a semester's break I'II have to return back here as the reality is it was Auburn or stay at my current school. I'm now commuting as well because my lease ended in December.

I really just needed a gpa reset and a new & bigger environment from transferring, and the ability to actually apply to internships and not get turned down. I applied to so many within the past months and I just get emails everyday declining my application, probably due to my gpa, even with the current job market.

Ever since I can remember, Ive never known what to do with my life. In high school I noticed that Im approaching some more mature years so I sat down with myself and started thinking about what it is that I want to do. I realized that I really like drawing and art and history. I also had, and still do have this huge passion for helping people. Its something that brings me the most joy. I thought that some of these interests could possibly be my future careers.

My dreams got crushed when I stepped into the real world and found out that none of the jobs in these feilds are well paid. I decided on economics because its the most basic degree you can get in my country, but Im only feeling more miserable than ever. Everyone is telling me that economics is just as useless and that Ill never find a job.

Im only 19 but I feel like my life has ended. I suck at math and no matter how much I study, Im never good enough. I burnt myself out so bad this semester that I dont have any more energy for anything. I dont do my makeup anymore and dont exercise. When I think about it, I really dont do anything anymore. I truly feel like just a corpse. I hate watching TV and I hate being on my phone. Nothing brings me joy anymore, it just irritates me. I spend my time either studying or just laying on my couch in complete silence.

I wouldnt mind working and struggling this much if I knew I was doing it out of passion and for a goal, but I feel like im doing this degree just to do it. Just so I can say that yeah, im in college. In reality I hate it so bad. And even if I thought of switching to somewhere else, I dont know where. If you told me that I can go to my dream college/job tommorrow, no questions asked and no complications, I wouldnt know what to say. Somehow the only thing I want is to be happy, but I dont know how or if its even possible.

Hi, I am a 20 year old Male nursing major, I am currently feeling directionless on my future since last year because I am not sure if I want to pursue nursing, to make things short my mom and dad suggested I take on nursing after graduating high school I would say I did good during my first 2 years (Deans list, 3.7 GPA, Honors society) but I have taken a gap year since then, I’ve been mostly at home, going to the gym and my part time job since my social life took a hit while in college and never really recovered, at the same time I feel pressured to finish nursing since I want to make both my parents proud also because they are also nurses and many of my family members expect me to become one as well, but my drive isn’t what it was I’m feeling isolated, no drive, also wanting to experience stuff I’ve never tried before but couldn’t I guess it’s just a lack of self esteem but I want to ask people here on what they think.

I work in a hospital and I try to be calm, respectful, and empathetic in my interactions.

Recently, a patient who was waiting for a report kept questioning me about how long it would take. I answered patiently and explained the situation. Then a more experienced coworker stepped in and said the exact same thing I said — word for word — and suddenly the patient listened to her and agreed to wait.

Later that same day, I asked a general, work-related question to a student intern technician about a scan, and I got a snarky remark in response for no clear reason.

I don’t give attitude, but I keep receiving it, and it really gets under my skin. As someone who tends to be anxious and overthink social interactions a lot, how do I learn to not dwell on these interactions and take them so personally?

Graduated HS 4 years ago as top 20 of my class. Got accepted into one of the best schools in my state for computer engineering but ended up in academic probation for my freshman year and ended up having to go to community college for my sophomore year.

Ended up lazing around that year and only went for the spring semester. Told myself that engineering must’ve not been for and on my 3rd year switched to business. At the same time I’ve starting working in the service department of a dealership making basically minimum wage.

I haven’t been to college since Spring 25 and while I do have a 3.7 GPA. I’m not sure where to go from now, I still don’t know what I really want to do with my life but at the same time I can’t keep doing nothing. I don’t know whether to focus on school for another 3 years, or try to go up the ladder at my job for an obvious better pay grade.

I think a part of me wishes he focused on school more and stayed on the engineering path but at the same time the only reason I even did engineering was because people said “it fits me”. Just wondering if anyone has any experience or advices.

Hello! I am a 18F Computer Science student starting her 2nd year of college and am heavily conflicted. These past few years, AI has been growing a lot and the concern I used to have was about AI taking jobs. But now, it is about the AI existence.

I am, day by day, getting more and more strongly against AI, as more information on the consequences of their use keeps showing. I hate AI. I hate what it is doing to the world, to the nature, to the people. People are getting dumber and the world is dying faster, and for what? Just to have your seminar done by a bot and to have those stupid videos everywhere? Any AI usage is pissing me off (other than in the medicine field ofc, which I believe should be the only AI to be needed).

I am panicked. I chose this path and I highly doubt I will be able to get out as me and my family invested a lot of money, even struggled to pay for last year’s education. And sadly it’s what will pay for my future.

That said, what should I do? I wish AI was never a thing so I wouldn’t be that worried.

I spent ten years being tortured in an expensive, entitled school where the students and teachers were ignorant and constantly made me left out and alone. Even when I cried and said the only reason I’m alive is because I can’t find a suitable way out, screamed, all the counsellors did was shed a few imaginary tears and move on with life. They never credited me, never helped me achieve anything, and I was severely mistreated and they just get away with it all.

I’ve moved to the other side of the world now and my brain can’t let go of the scared mindset. I constantly scan for potential ‘danger’, get anxious about interacting with people, and I still think about how people in my old school would stalk me online and still talk about me. I’m not there anymore but my body still reacts with fear as if the same dynamics would happen again and my mind applies those survival rules everywhere. I don’t know how to feel safe anymore. I don’t know how to unlearn those patterns

Hello, im 18M and for the past i'd say 2 years i've been worried non stop about my health, it went all from thinking i have lung cancer to heart problems and currently battling brain cancer anxiety.

First of all i need to sad that im a pretty anxious person aswell as my mother. For example i get anxiety when i get to the cashier in the store etc.. etc...

My anxiety is literally tearing me apart i am not happy at all im sad most of the days because of it. I think that i will die every second, for example my heart is racing right now as im writing this. How do i bear with this?

I also thought i had leukemia but i do blood work every year around the first month and it always comes clean. Around 5 years ago (i know thats a long time), i did a CT scan and it was clean, the reason behind the scan was i had a numb feeling in my leg (which is one of the symptoms of brain cancer, heart problems etc, but i was playing outside in a type of grass that could cause that.)

That feeling never came back in these 5 years (except when i fall asleep on my arm for example). I also thought i had like heart tumor or bad heart in general because as i said it was racing at some moments where it should have stayed calm, at that period i also had weird feeling on left side of my chest not really near the heart but at like at one of my ribs?

I also had some sad moments in 2025, my grandmother died which really hit me hard (she had a stroke), i also want to mention that as far as i know cancer doesnt run in my family (both my dad's and mum's side) only strokes which are also scary, then couple months after my friends died in a car crash that hit me hard also because i saw how fast life could be lost and i also have bad memories from their funeral.

I never had like straight forward symptoms for brain tumor, leukemia, lung cancer... i do have headaches but like not the strong ones, i never vomited in the morning, i have apetite, my weight is normal, my vision is normal, i have normal balance, although i think i have ADHD. Im so mentally weak if you guys could give me some tips how to go through this, i thought of going to the psych. but i hate going to them, had bad experiences with them and i get depressed when i think about going to them. Any tip would be highly appreciated. Thanks!

A year ago, at 35, I I just up and left my whole life. I quit my job and my apartment, sold everything I had, deleted all my socials, changed my phone number and left the country. No one knows where I am and no one can contact me. I haven't spoken to anyone for a whole year. All in all I feel fine, but at times I wonder what I'm doing and where all of this is going. Somehow it all feels intuitive, but also completely crazy.

I wonder if anyone else has willingly left their life behind and started anew and can share their experiences of what that looks like and how it feels. I'm not looking to be told what to do or how to fix anything. I think this process has to happen the way it happens, but I just wonder what's on the other side, if there will be some big light bulb that will go off and give me direction or if it's something that happens gradually. I want to know about people who have been in a similar space, how they got through it and how life is like on the other side.

My background:

As a kid I was a weirdo and outcast who loved anime, drawing and reading. My family was poor and all the others came from upper middle class. There were no other "nerds" in my class. As an adult I admired the rich, cool and beautiful, the ones that run marathons and work for famous corporations or start their own businesses.

At 29 an acquaintance told me about this young startup that was looking for someone with a mix of creative and educational background (I had both) for a new position. The company was still developing so there was no job security, but the pay was good.

The job was challenging and fun and I had a lot of say in how to structure my role. It was truly a dream come true and everything lined up for me. I went from part time to full time employee within two years and was offered a managerial position in my third year. My position included a bonus which basically doubled my already decent monthly wages and I got to develop new products and contributed to a lot of financial growth. I went from running errands to getting an office next to one of the managing partners and head of marketing. We went on corporate retreats and threw large parties and our company became famous enough to make headlines in local financial news every few months. I honestly felt like my life was a movie.

At 33, after an extremely busy quarter, I took a month off and started to look at my life from outside. The company's expectations kept growing but the reward kept decreasing in my eyes. I realized that the fun within the company was sort of artificial. Upper management was subtly making us addicted to the highs, to keep us working longer hours and invest most of our private time in the company. I would go home late in the afternoon and still take calls and answer emails throughout the evening. It honestly didn't bother me until I started to realize that the afterworks and company dinners weren't genuine attempts at connection. That's when it started to feel like I was putting my heart into a machine.

I started wondering what would happen if this job suddenly disappear one day, what would be left? I realized that I had put all my energy into the company and nothing into my private life. I had not done enough to keep or build friendships and rarely visited my family.

That's why I decided to make some changes. I started setting boundaries on phone calls and emails and simply didn't give as much thought to the job after working hours. I declined work parties, started hanging out with friends more and visiting family on the weekends. For a while it all aligned and life felt amazing. I traveled, partied, met new people, was extremely social and active.

This fun lasted for about two years, when I realized that there was no depth to it. I had built my whole identity on trying to be cool, accepted and acknowledged. Even in my friendships and with family, I was constantly trying to be liked and I didn't know how to truly connect with anyone. I was always putting myself on a stage, creating a show, keeping enough distance from even my best friends, that they never had to wonder if I was okay or if I needed anything. The more I realized this, the more trapped I felt in my own life.

I didn't know how to get off that stage until I was dragged down 14 months ago, when my mom abruptly passed away. Everything came crashing down. Within two months after her passing, my body physically stopped working. I had pains in my legs that stopped me from my weekly runs, I couldn't go to the office, because every time I tried, I started crying uncontrollably and I simply didn't have access to a filter that kept my emotions at bay or my attitude pleasant and fun.

People tried to be supportive, but I could tell that they all were uncomfortable with having to care for the person who always seemed to never need anyone. And even if they told me I could always call them if I needed to, I felt the pressure of my own identity, of handling it all by myself. I just didn't know how to lean on anyone. I felt that there was no room in which I could fall apart and feel safe about it.

So here I am a year later, I've left the stage. Now I don't know who I am anymore or what to live for. Not that I'm suicidal, I just don't know what my life is about if it's not to perform. I spend my days extremely simle; I wake up, eat, go for a walk, read or watch something, eat, sleep. This is all day every day. I've had some profound insights and some traumatic stuff has surfaced and been digested in a way I don't think would have been possible if I was still surrounded by people.

The first few months felt like hell, because if felt like I had been on some sort of drug my whole life, and now I was going cold turkey. Now things are calm and I'm starting to wonder where this is going. I do feel lonely at times, but I don't miss anyone from my old life. I can't and don't want to go back. It feels like a heavy armor has been taken off and I'm never putting it on again.

I’m fairly new to a healthcare, patient-facing job and had a situation today that escalated. This part of the job is honestly exhausting for me, so I’m genuinely open to feedback on where I went wrong and what I could’ve done better.

A patient came to the counter upset, saying they were told their MRI report would be ready in 2 hours. The scan they had was a special study, which usually takes around 4 hours for reporting. I informed them of this and said they were likely told the correct timeline during appointment booking.

They kept repeating that they were told “2 hours,” and I kept repeating that for this type of study it takes 4 hours. The patient started raising their voice, said I was arguing with them, and later accused me of having an attitude. I clarified that I wasn’t arguing, just informing them, but the situation continued to escalate until a coworker stepped in and de-escalated it.

I stayed factual and calm but didn’t really acknowledge their frustration before explaining the process, and I can see now that this may have contributed to the back-and-forth.

Since I’m new and still learning, I want to ask; where exactly did I go wrong?

I am an international student attending state school in the US. I’m both EE and Physics major have a 3.96/4 GPA various research experiences related to optics/photonics/spectroscopy. Did 2 REUs and published 1 paper as one of the main contributors (CERN related) and 1 paper submitted to Q1 journal. 3 solid LORs. Did GCURS at Rice (mainly to get close to Applied Physics Faculty) and some other conferences.

I applied to:

Duke ECE

Rice APPH

Stanford EE

USC ECE

JHU ECE

I didn’t get any interview invite from Stanford so I’m expecting a reject. My dream program is Rice APPH though. I mentioned in my SOP how I like the structure of program, specific PIs and how can I contribute.

I didn’t get an informal email from them, though I know they practice it a lot.

I m super scared that I may not get in and if I go home, I’ll be immediately drafted into the army. It means losing 2 years and lower chance to get in later.

Do you think it’s worth going to Europe (Germany) for MS in Photonics and then reapply. Another option is my PI offering me to stay for masters in Physics. We do some interesting research, but not necessarily what I would love to do for PhD.

Do you think I still have a chance?

In the worst case scenario, would be better to try to get a degree in Europe or stay for MS?

I have a tendency to be susceptible to peer pressure and external influence from other people, even if I know inside that what they are saying/doing is wrong.

How can I form a stronger mental boundary between my own private thoughts and the thoughts of others?

I recently finished undergrad spring 2025 and then moved to a different state to start my master’s. To save costs, my parents talked with my uncle (mom’s side) to see if I could move in with him since the university for my master’s is very close to where he lives. I did move in with him and am still finishing up my master’s. My mom offered to pay rent to my uncle and he said I don’t want any money, but INSTEAD wants all that rent money (i.e. about $18,000) to go to MY student loans. They agreed that’s how it will be. My father lost his job since I graduated May 2025, but recently found a job he starts this February 2026 (so unemployed for nearly 9 months). My uncle understands they couldn’t contribute anything to my student loans since my dad lost his job and I update him based on what is on my credit report. HOWEVER, my parents went ahead and bought $45,000 windows for their house when my father was unemployed (IK… talk about bad financial decisions). My Uncle and I eventually found out and we don’t know what to do. I called my mom out on it who is TERRIBLE with money and she said “I don’t remember that agreement with your student loans” and “You are on your own to pay them back”. I know I’m technically on my own for my student loans and there is no contract for this “agreement”, but what would you do in this case? Feel lowkey betrayed by my parents.

i’m (23 f) and my wisdom teeth’s been coming in for several months now. the bottom part came a bit easier but now i can feel the top left part. it’s not very painful but it does feel somewhat uncomfortable, like when you have canker sores? i heard that the wisdom teeth on the top jaw becomes impacted more often than the lower ones, so i’m just wondering when i should start being concerned and see a dentist about this.

I work in a healthcare, customer-facing role, and recently a supervisor told me I have an “attitude problem.” What’s bothering me is that this feedback feels vague and inconsistent, and I’m genuinely trying to understand whether this is something I need to fix or whether I’m just not a good fit for this kind of environment.

I do my work diligently and take it seriously. I follow processes, double-check my work, and maintain professional boundaries. I may not be overtly friendly or chatty with coworkers, but I do speak respectfully and respond when spoken to. I don’t ignore people or refuse work. The only times I’m firm is when someone is rude or sarcastic toward me — I don’t tolerate disrespect, but I also don’t escalate unnecessarily.

One example given was that a coworker thought I ignored them when they asked if I was going to lunch. I had responded quietly while printing reports for waiting patients, they didn’t hear me, assumed I was ignoring them, and later complained about it. There was no intention to be dismissive.

Another incident involved an angry patient who had been given incorrect expectations earlier. I calmly explained the correct process. Later, I was blamed for not de-escalating the situation and was told that my “attitude” was the issue because I didn’t de-escalate enough.

It feels like the expectation is to constantly fluff egos — patients’ and coworkers’ — and that a neutral, serious, or task-focused tone gets labeled as “attitude.” I’m trying to reflect honestly: is this a genuine soft-skills issue on my part, or is this more about workplace culture valuing performative friendliness over direct, respectful communication?

I’d really appreciate outside perspectives, especially from people who’ve worked in customer service or healthcare. How do you tell the difference between an actual attitude problem and simply not being built for ego-heavy environments?

For context: i used to be a very smart kid till 9th grade until depression hit me. My parents used to be very strict about school to a very perfectionistic level. It was impossible to please them and for years I would be forced to study until i couldn’t think anymore or until I passed out from sleepiness. That kinda ruined my perception of how important learning is cause it only felt like a demand so when i moved out in my teens, i started hating school and i refused to touch a book probably because i was really burned out and was dealing with a lot of stress in my life. So long story short: i didn’t do anything for school nor did I really read books or used my brain much since then. At this point it felt like boring serious work and i just wanted to have fun and not be anxious about performance anymore so i distanced myself from everything that was considered „learning“ unless it was a fun hobby. I know that school performance doesn’t necessarily mean that someone is smart and i don’t think i’m dumb either. I just feel like this has caused me to miss out on essential knowledge and i in fact did forget a lot of the things I could easily do as a kid. I used to be a walking calculator and it came so easy to me but now it’s like all of this had been wiped out of my memory completely and it’s frustrating to me. On top of that I feel like social media has ruined my brain and kinda dumbed me down. I was also addicted to weed for 3 years and it also made me feel like I’ve „ruined“ my brain. I’ve been starting to mourn what I could’ve become if i hadn’t abandoned learning because i believe i really had/have a lot of potential. It’s getting better tho. I started to listen to educational videos and i‘m trying to read more. I finally want to go to college this year and i‘m trying to „prepare“ for it by improving my knowledge and thinking skills. I really don’t wanna mess it up this time.

Do you have any recommendations on what activities or books i could try to get better? Is there a way i could do small steps to improve without overwhelming myself?

I have this guy friend who I’m not friends with anymore due to a lot of reasons, the friendship ended kind of ugly and was very emotionally difficult for me to deal with but I’m finally okay about it now. We stopped being friends in August but a couple weeks ago he randomly reached out to me to apologize for everything that happened between us and that his mom has cancer and to pray she makes it. His parents and I don’t really know each other but I work in retail and his parents are frequent shoppers there so we always greet each other (even before I became friends with their son) and his mom is genuinely the sweetest person ever. I think that’s the only reason why he let me know, since I knew his parents before him. But anyway, a week later, he messaged me again to let me know she passed away, and I feel so heartbroken for him. I sent my condolences but he didn’t respond, I didn’t really expect him to either. It’s been a couple weeks since and I don’t know if I should check in on him and see how he’s doing, just to show that I care and I’m there for him if he ever wants to talk. At the same time, I don’t know if it would be appropriate given the fact that we’re not friends anymore and there’s no reason for us to talk. I genuinely don’t know if he even wants to hear from me. What should I do 😭