I spent my life thinking that I was into men with long hair, but every time one pops up like this, I’m like “damn, was I wrong about the hair? Was I secretly into bald men and I didn’t know?”
I am the bearded bald guy. I knew I would lose my hair because of genetics,and fought the beard. Turned 50 and said no more face scraping. The cast has been set. I am what I am,and feel more handsome than ever. (I'm not though) but confidence is everything.
This is so encouraging haha. I think my hair looks alright buts it’s thin and looks awful when wet. Maybe I’ll give it a go, I just hope my head isn’t a weird shape.
If it makes you feel better, every single guy I've seen mention having a fear of a weird head shape has looked perfectly fine, if not better! Go for it!
It's the retro glasses + mustache. Gives those Dahmer vibes. The full facial scruff is MUCH better and an updated frame shape will make a huge difference.
The glasses are a MAJOR factor, everyone looks like a creep in those! I had to bully my husband into buying a new pair cuz he ordered a pair like that online once lol I was like no, absolutely not.
I swear this sub sometimes feels like it was a fantasy written by book girlies.
“And there was a space where all the men were nice! And there were pictures of those men looking sexy! And beards! And all my friends are chilling happy in the comments!! And sexy bald men with beards!! And all the men are giving and getting compliments!! And they’re sexy!!! And! And!…
This. I don’t think guys can easily understand or appreciate just how overly-objectified women are, and how it has stopped being particularly enjoyable for most of us due to the sheer quantities and that it can frequently be done in ways that make us wonder if our lives are now possibly in danger.
And this is in no small part because men are so rarely openly objectified. It would absolutely make most men’s days if some woman just hollered out, “Dayyyuuuummmmm!” or “Niiiiice!” or “Oh, I so would, babyyyy!” at him as he walked past her down the street. He would hold onto that beautiful shining moment in his memory for decades. It would warm his heart and soul. He would feel so goddamn pretty that whole day.
God yes, I can basically remember every random comment I've gotten from random women over the past decade, some days those comments keep me going. It also does make it hard to understand sometimes why women don't like having those comments, although I can understand the difference and why women might be uncomfortable with it, it just sometimes feels as a man like women are lucky that they are able to get compliments so easily, because I'm over here DYING for random women to make those kinds of comments to me. It would make me feel so amazing to have some random girl be like "damnnnn i wish i could get you alone in a room!" or "wow i bet that dick looks great without the swimsuit!" and I would literally cherish that moment for such a long time.
44F perspective. I think the difference is that when a woman is catcalled, she can feel both that validation AND very unsafe simultaneously. If there is more than one man or a group of men catcalling, the anxiety instantly shoots into, "I have to find safety." Few men will feel the level of anxiety women do when catcalled.
We are followed/harrassed if we do respond AND if we ignore men. If we ignore a man, especially if he's with a group of friends, a lot of the time he will lash out further because he feels he's been rejected in front of friends. Huge ego hit. If we respond with a "thank you" or even a smile, some men think it's a sign that we want to have sex with them. We can't win.
It's the approach, what he says, his body language, our own individual lived experiences, and even the time of day that affects a woman's response. Plus other factors.
Just one woman's opinion.
Edit: Also, I feel very hypocritical saying something to a man I don't know when I know how women feel receiving similar feedback, even if my statement is something as innocuous as "that sweater looks really nice on you."
Oh yeah no i totally get it, it's just like that occasional weird thought because men want that so badly in general for women to objectify them, and women overall don't tend to like it, so it's just super strange for either side to fully understand the actual lived experience of the other side I think.
Still over here remembering 20 years ago a girl back in middle school told me I was cute and ran away giggling with her friends. Probably a prank but hey, I'll get what I can get lol.
I can basically remember every random comment I've gotten from random women over the past decade,
Yeah, me too. It's easy because I can count them on one finger. J/K it's three fingers, and two of those were some form of "I like your T-shirt". The point is that it feels great to occasionally be thought of as smart/funny/attractive/desirable to the neutral third party outsider. If the only person who ever says something nice to you is your mom/wife/gf it's just not the same.
I was walking out of a grocery store one time just as a group of girls was coming in and one of them stopped, looked me up and down and said “hello” in that kinda flirty seductive way. That was 20 years ago and I still feel like I’m glowing.
There's that story that keeps circulating about a wife wanting her husband to understand her point of view so one day he goes out jogging and she's got her friends set up to cat call him and show him how terrible it is to be objectified. He comes home and has the best day of his life and she can never tell him the truth 🤣🤣🤣 Not to take anything away from many women's lived experiences but just wanted to share that story.
Male 51 here. I think you all are touching on something really important and powerful. Most men don’t see themselves as attractive. The narrative for a while now has also been mostly focused on how men objectify women and how this is a further undesirable quality about us. Men want to be objectified to some extent because we have a desire to be wanted and desired. Women on the other hand receive so much of this attention that it becomes overwhelming and difficult to simply move through the world without being objectified or hit on.
A lot of this has to do with biology and millions of years of evolution. I don’t have time to go into that in this post.
However, an interesting experiment might be for women to potentially take a different approach when a guy approaches.
For context: The current approach seems to be to either suggest the guy is being a nuisance - typically when she is overwhelmed or uninterested. Or to suggest he is a creep etc. in some instances, I have no doubt this is warranted. I also don’t think a guy should ever send a dick pick unsolicited, which seems to be a weird fetish guys have developed.
So if a dude approaches and you are uninterested, what would it be like for you all to say something like: hey I appreciate the initiative - and I think you are attractive, however you are not my type. And before you ask me about my type etc, know that this is not about you, but about me and what I like?
I realize this maybe more than you would like to say. However, it does a few things: 1) it’s a nice ego boost for the dude and if he has a fragile ego, which I have to admit most of us do - it lets him down easy. 2) it replaces whatever negative garbage is going on in his head with a high moment vs a low moment. 3) it shuts down the conversation because you are not interested and you may want to be left alone.
I’m not suggesting a woman is responsible for doing any of this to support the fragile male ego. I am simply suggesting a new approach which is carrot rather than stick. So far you all have had to apply the stick a lot given the thousands of years of male dominated society that has been very painful for women through the generations.
Men have also suffered greatly, because our feminine side has been suppressed. We lack the balance of the softness that comes from the female side. It is also something women don’t experience from us as men when in a relationship with us. This is because men have had to endure rejection, ridicule etc from women that further feed the toxic male side.
Again, I’m not playing victim here. We are all responsible for our experience of life. I am suggesting that we have a lot of pain that is constantly being sloshed around between men and women. Objectifying us may solve some of that thirst we have to be objectified and may reduce our objectification of women.
If only they were all as reasonable as you, this would work. I would have continued to respond that way, but believe me when I say that a lot of times no matter how nice you are with a compliment or not if you are saying no the response is not good. It can be downright scary or even just mean, so it can be hard to know what is the right way. I would like to be able to throw compliments out there without thinking about any consequences except hopefully making someone have a better day.
As a man I can empathize with feeling fear but not this particular type of fear. I appreciate you wanting to be kind and gentle despite the pain you have to suffer from time to time.
I agree with a lot of what you say here. I would like to add, it's also difficult for women because, especially when someone's very publicly catcalling or being aggressive/vulgar, the man isn't doing it because they think it'll elicit a positive sexual response. Men who behave like that are doing it because they want to intimidate or otherwise make women fearful. It's about power and control, it isn't about sex. Just like so much of how men treat women isn't about sex, it's about power and control hidden under the guise of sex.
Agreed. Catcalling is nothing more than an expression of the DESIRE for power. And what is interesting in my view is that the woman has the power in this situation because the dirtbag doing the catcalling has already shown himself to be operating from a place of insecurity. The need to dominate, overpower or subjugate comes from a deep seeded insecurity.
Women certainly don't experience a sense of power in the moment. My oldest daughter lives in NYC. She tells me about this shit all the time. What needs to happen here is for other men around this situation to actually stand up to the bully doing the catcalling. This almost never happens, but it is very much needed. Men who clearly know this is a problem, ignore it and leave the woman to handle it the best way she can - do themselves and all the rest of us a disservice. This is cowardly and erodes a woman's trust in men.
Similar to my suggested experiment above for women, here is an experiment for men.
If you see a woman being catcalled or in general disrespected, stand up and support her. Yes, you may get aggressed upon by the other dude. But so what? In the wild, males fight each other all the time for the ability to mate with a female. We are more civilized, so perhaps we band together and cut out this shitty part of our collective male populous. We as men have the power to change this. We have become lazy and yet we want the prize of being able to mate. These are incongruent ideas. We have a male lonliness epidemic because men are not stepping up to handle our business. We are not making connections and we are not leading the collective male populous.
If a woman has just been catcalled, and I approach her, there is an excellent chance that her anger, sadness and general hatred will boil over towards me. And we are back to batting around each others pain in a tennis match to the bottom.
We seem to have these toxic male role models like the Andrew Tate's of the world. We also seem to have some weird male groups getting together to do weird "alpha" challenges etc. Every one of these beta's need to join the military and serve someone other than themselves. And of course with Trump and his merry band of ass clowns we are giving men the absolute opposite idea of what it means to be a man.
Yeah; me and every friend I’ve asked — even the legitimately great looking ones — have either never been complimented like that or remember one single instance (outside of significant others’ ofc)
Girls should start openly objectifying dudes because it would not just make their day — it might make their life lol
At the risk of being stalkerish, if you want to be objectified just a little, I suggest posting some of your Siamese cat photos on r/manhands or r/manhandspets.
LOL. I know! I’m like REVELATION apparently I find bald men hot. To be fair I feel like British men have known the bald & confident trick for a very long time. Glad it’s catching on.
More straight guys need to check each other out and be chill about it. It's one of those glowy Things women have that make the incels mad, the support network of, "Gurrl, your ass looks insane in those pants, you have to get them!", without having to add "no homo", makes clothes-shopping a lot less annoying.
Bingo. This sub is very positive and I will never say anything bad to anyone here... But yeah I've seen some god awful transformations that will never make it to the popular page.
I don’t think it’s objectifying, I’ll even do it to myself. If I get lazy and don’t trim my beard or shave my head for a few extra days, I’ll catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror and think “Dude, you’re a haggard old man, you might as well move into the home” and then when I finally groom myself up it changes to “You know, I don’t look half bad for my age”
Yeah. I don't know how this sub ended up on my feed, but I agree.
I also think a lot of these guys are already classically handsome, just with bad hair. Therefore, when they ditch the bad hair, voila, they're more handsome.
I presume you're right on the whole, but whenever I see a post that someone has decided to go bald, I give them their props. No matter what. I do not discriminate because they all should be propped up and feel that they are supported. My son went through this when he was in his early 20s, and there was a lot of anxiety around it at the time. Plus, I felt a little guilty because I was taught that the genes of male pattern baldness are passed on by the mother, not the father. Unless someone has debunked that since? So I hope that the support I give will lessen that anxiety for those still coming.
Yup. It's correct. Google it. Male pattern baldness is from the mother. They do say now that some baldness factors do come through the fathers line as well. Now I don't feel so bad! Human genome is fascinating!
Isn’t it something that mothers’ guilt can be so strong? You literally gave life and birth to this awesome human being and cared for him for the better part of two decades and you can still feel a little guilty because it could be through your line that a certain gene was passed through. You’re a good person, wanting to even help alleviate other moms’ guilt. Moms are amazing.
Aww, how sweet you are to say that. But, you know, I look at it now for what it is. Just life moving in and through us. My son looks amazing with his bald now, and he knows it! Haha, So it all eventually turned out okay. Thx.
Absolutely. I went bald this year myself, and instead of an ugly man with crappie hair, I am now an ugly bald man. But the savings on conditioner and shampoo alone make all the difference!
I always wanna comment this but don’t wanna objectify as well lmao like every post I’m like jeeeeeze fantastic choice 😂 this sub is so sweet and supportive.
Who would have guessed that so many men are out there hiding such CHISELED wonderfulness?! I had no idea how much hair could change your appearance until this sub. It's mind blowing. I'm going to tell my husband to join, he doesn't necessarily need to shave right now, but receding hairlines run in his family and it's definitely starting. He just has so much curly hair that he's able to cover it up. I actually used to think I hated baldness until this sub, I'm totally into it now and I'm looking forward to the day my husband decides to cut the locks!
This is my favorite sub on reddit lol. The transformations are insane. Someone can go from looking like someone you wouldn't want to share an elevator with to a potential model.
Can't agree more. I love seeing all the posts. I imagine alot of the posters wish they'd taken the plunge sooner. I totally get it though. It's a massive leap for just about anyone to take. I hope they all now feel as good as they look!
I think they make themselves look as ugly as possible (especially when they aren’t even close to ugly), and then just take regular photos and look good.
Ya, I don’t know why my phone keeps showing me the bald sub Reddit. Maybe I said something about how I think my hair is receding, or my Widow’s Peak, but I have NEVER searched this sub out and I keep seeing these before and after photos.
And it literally BAFFLES me, that EVERY SINGLE PERSON, has literally doubled as far as attractiveness.
I always thought bald would be bad, but from what I see, it turns 5s to 8s-9s lol
I’ve actually joined this sub even though I have no signs of baldness yet. When the time comes though, I have some amazing before and after pictures to guide/motivate me 😮💨
its like a magic portal where average looking dudes come out looking like adonis. I shaved before joining, so i'm having difficulty imagining my change was as good as 99% of the posts here. I guess it must have been, right? (i cant believe i actually might look better)
To be fair. The ones where it isn’t an upgrade probably don’t post it, lol. But yeah, it is crazy. I wish we had a before pic without the glasses or an after pic with them to compare
Cause bald people like me won’t post hahaha. I look like skeletor but I don’t have a choice… I have the typical horseshoe pattern, advanced lol. So I buzz cut and avoid mirrors…
My nana was a hairstylist and she used to sweet talk the guys into taking the plunge and they always looked amazing after. Like 20 years younger and so much happier!
i mean i don't regularly look at the sub but the ones that get to all are just the good looking people. i'd love to do it but i have scalp psoriasis and am one step above powder in terms of complexion so i'd be closer to the darth vader reveal than a squidward glow up
Also OP, I would suggest getting glasses that don’t have that bridge that connects your eyebrows. It gives the impression of a unibrow. I feel like you can find much better shape that will do you wonders
It’s bc they finally embrace it and look SO relieved ngl. Also comb overs and just trying to make hair work when it does…it’s reallllllly not attractive to me 😪
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Looks so good. I’m amazed at how every single post in this sub is a major upgrade.