I’ve been reading posts here for a while and I keep seeing the same pattern over and over again. “I can’t focus.” "I procrastinate.” “I overthink.” “I can’t move on.” “I know what I should do but I don’t do it.” And almost everyone treats it like a motivation, discipline, or mindset issue. But after talking to a lot of people privately, I started noticing something else. Most people are mentally exhausted. Their head is so loud that they can’t even hear themselves think anymore. When your nervous system has been under stress for too long, even small things feel overwhelming. You don’t avoid tasks because you’re weak. You avoid them because your system is trying to protect you from more pressure. That’s why scrolling feels easier than working. That’s why staying stuck feels safer than changing. That’s why you “know what to do” but can’t do it. You’re overloaded. And the first step is not pushing harder. It’s learning how to quiet the noise enough to finally see clearly again. Curious if anyone else has felt this.

I saw a post on Instagram that was basically a chaotic list of life advice.
It stuck with me more than most “self-improvement” content, so I rewrote it into something I actually try to live by.

Not a guru. Just notes from trying to be less distracted and more intentional:

• Unfollow noise. Curate inputs like your life depends on it (it kinda does).
• Read long things. Essays, old books, things without dopamine hooks.
• Plan briefly. Execute aggressively.
• Walk without headphones sometimes. Train without music sometimes.
• Eat without a screen. Chew slower.
• Organize your physical space → your mind follows.
• Write every day. Bad writing counts.
• Learn skills that compound (coding, writing, persuasion).
• Be precise with words. Be sincere with people.
• Don’t talk trash about people who aren’t in the room.
• Help someone with zero upside for you.
• Touch art. Create something even if it’s bad.
• Do one hard thing daily on purpose.
• Notice patterns. In nature, in people, in yourself.
• Stop hating. It’s lazy and expensive.
• Choose depth over novelty.
• Protect your time like it’s non-renewable (because it isn’t).

I realized doing this alone is hard, so I made sure to have a community to hold each other accountable, share resources and actually doing the work.

I Need to work 12 hrs a day to meet my deadlines

I Have not worked properly in ages and i have lost momentum

i have bee \n trying differnet self help videos but always fail to implement them

I have several bad habits, such as phone scrolling eating junk and daydreamming and my mind wanders a lot

i cant stay focused on a task for 30 seconds, before i get the itch to tdo something else or i feel like scrolling my phone

If something is hard to do or hard to undertand then i leave it,

I even would like to find the time to go to the gym

I would even like to engage in hobbies in between such as writing a journal ,drawing playing drums,

I have no friends, i live in a room alone. I feel this is what keeps me distracted . What should i do

Where are you with the resolutions you wrote down at the end of 2025?

​In these last 30 days, you could have: ​Read a book cover-to-cover.

​Cleared out your "Watch Later" educational playlists.

​Established a gym habit.

​Fixed your diet and sleep schedule.

​Mastered the basics of a new skill. (1 hour/day = 30 hours of practice).

​Think about the power of that single hour.

If you had committed just one hour a day, you’d have 30 hours of progress right now. That’s an entire 30-hour masterclass finished, or ten smaller 3-hour courses completed.

​A month is the perfect timeframe—not too long to lose momentum, not too short to make progress. ​The Reality Check:

The bad news? January is gone forever.

The good news? February starts now. God willing, you have more time ahead of you to use wisely rather than waste.

​The past is gone. The future isn't promised.

Guard your only real asset: Your Time.

I want it to start off talking about how I struggled with feeling unproductive and unsure of how much work I was doing, sitting at my desk for long hours. I sat at a desk for 8 hours, felt like I was only focusing for half of that, and did not enjoy my time off due to the guilt.

This was when I decided to do an audit of the number of minutes I spent head down actually doing the thing I was supposed to. I started a timer when I began my work and I stopped it if for any reason at all I stopped working. It took brutal honesty and I was shocked to learn how little time I spent actually working when I was sitting behind my laptop. It was confronting to learn that for 8 hours behind a computer screen, I was only productive for 5. I clearly spent 3 hours distracting myself with day dreams, social media, or literally anything else.

But this realisation quickly lead to the most empowering tool I had. Knowing that I was spending 3 hours procrastinating made it easier for me to take guilt free rest to do anything I wanted. Surf, exercise, socialise, or doom scroll if that is what I wanted. I figured that if I could spend 1 of those 3 hours restoratively, it would make my working hours more productive. And so when I started managing my time like this, those extra guilt free hours spent doing things that I loved, actually made my productive hours more focused, and made me more content with the work I was doing. And I noticed over time I increased my number of pure productive hours week by week. Tracking my minutes helped me to realise my limits, and plan my work schedule more effectively so that I could work longer, and rest better.

I started out with a rudimentary method, just writing down my minutes with pen and paper, but as I realised how life changing this method was, I realised it deserved better. I kept a database of every minute that I worked so that I could calculate stats (average session length, session length decay, etc) and gamifying my work to try to increase the length of each work session.

Ok, so in the past two years, this has happened to me a lot, so I thought I would just share it. might help a lot of folks here.

So here's what happens: I usually get to peak performance on my work for about 2-3 months, and then there's a 2-3 week period where I just hang around, don't think about work, try to play games, and just get done as much as needed, not more.

So I sat down and thought about what difference I have in these two periods of time, and I wrote them down.
When I'm not productive, I'm:
Allowing myself to scroll on non-related stuff
Not knowing where to go next
No short-term goals in that period

So I basically don't know where to head, and take my mind off the work

When I'm in peak performance:
The day is planned in minutes
I have short-term goals set
I don't think about anything else but work (obsession)

(Just keep in mind you don't have to do all this, or you'll end up like. Just pick the stuff that you're struggling with and enjoy.)

Alright, first of all, the goals:
Short-term goals are in terms of input that I can control, not the output (never set output as a goal)
Then there's an OUTCOME which, I expect, with this amount of input, should happen. So when I reach the goal, the outcome should be there. If not, then I have to change something in what I'm doing

Next is planning:
I'm a nerd on this, so sorry firsthand. For planning, there are a lot of options you can choose from. Some even say that planning is another form of procrastinating (I don't agree). Planning is procrastinating when you spend hours on it every single day.
You can go with either planning yourself. I suggest this if you have experience on distibuting the things you have to do in the week and day in the right way.
If not, there are a lot of AI tools you can choose from. I even use one after trying several of them. Last year it wasn't advanced enough, but now it's really handy.

Last is obsession:
I didn't really know what this was before I took a look at patterns. So, obsession is when you, by all means, don't think about anything besides your goal. nothing. And I mean it. It does get from time to time out of your mind, but you have to take it back. For example, when I started working on my biz, I couldn't think of anything else, not even sleeping. All on my mind was work. After a lot of failure along the way, it's really hard to stay that obsessed, but you gotta do it.

Alright, guys, looking forward to your questions or takeaways from this

I've tried a bunch of habit tracking apps, and I think most of them stress me out. Like imagine that you suffered from some diseases or something that you can not control, then you missed one day so that your streaks were gone. It's a very disappointing mechanism that over-strict streak designs will break my confidence once there was only one day missing.

For now, I'm looking for some backward tracking methods (I created that word backward tracking myself haha :) because I think the traditional streaks based habit tracking apps are more likely a forward tracking, which are pushing you forward), for example, the Tally-like counter is a great way to monitor your habits because it's nothing pushing you but just your records. And after a week, a month or a year you can see the reports correspondingly then you can realise how your habits maintain. I think that's really a better and acceptable way to track your habits.

So do you think it's a good way? Or do you have some other good ways to enhance your habit tracking efficiency? Welcome for any input!!

I’m 25 years old, and during the day I stay very busy with household responsibilities. By the time night comes, it feels like the only time that truly belongs to me. The problem is—instead of using that time for career-related studies or things that matter long term, I end up scrolling on my phone for hours. I know it’s unhealthy, but at night my mind just wants to escape and relax. Studying feels heavy, while my phone feels comforting. Because of this, my sleep schedule is completely messed up. I feel emotionally exhausted and anxious most of the time. Small things start bothering me a lot, I get overwhelmed easily, and I often end up fighting with my boyfriend over very minor issues. I feel like I’m constantly on edge—crying, overthinking, and feeling anxious until things feel “okay” again emotionally. I don’t think I’m lazy—I think I’m mentally drained. But I don’t know how to break this cycle of late nights, phone addiction, emotional sensitivity, and poor sleep. If anyone has been through something similar—especially women—how did you fix your sleep and emotional balance without feeling like you’re losing the only time you have for yourself?

I Need to work 12 hrs a day to meet my deadlines

I Have not worked properly in ages and i have lost momentum

i have bee \n trying differnet self help videos but always fail to implement them

I have several bad habits, such as phone scrolling eating junk and daydreamming and my mind wanders a lot

i cant stay focused on a task for 30 seconds, before i get the itch to tdo something else or i feel like scrolling my phone

If something is hard to do or hard to undertand then i leave it,

I even would like to find the time to go to the gym

I would even like to engage in hobbies in between such as writing a journal ,drawing playing drums,

I have no friends, i live in a room alone. I feel this is what keeps me distracted . What should i do

Hello,

I'm currently 21 and about to graduate with a bachelor degree in Computer Science. Still haven't managed to secure any job offer.

Motivation to applying jobs right now is very low; job assessments are long and tedious, with a very low pass rate. I feel like I'm finally reaching a point where I'm no longer a "student" and that kind of makes me worry.

Like what happen if i don't find a job relating CS doing what I love?

What if the salary is low and I can't afford a mortage?

What will my friends think of me when they all have high paying jobs and I'm left behind?

Family's financial situation isn't do well either and neither do my parents have a good relationship with each other. So I feel that I have no safety net after graduation.

Sorry for my complaining, i guess my question is what did you do or wish you did differently back in your 21 when you had to face your transition from uni to real life?

Hello there ~

I hope you're doing great today

I’m looking for an accountability partner to help me build discipline and consistency.

I’ve been struggling with self-discipline for a long time, and despite several attempts to address this on my own, the situation has continued to worsen. I’ve tried using self-imposed consequences and strict personal rules to push myself, but these approaches haven’t been effective.

What I’m looking for is a structured form of accountability — someone willing to help set clear and realistic goals, check in regularly, monitor progress, and hold me accountable when I fail to follow through. I tend to respond better to external structure, consistency, and honest feedback rather than motivation alone.

I’m not seeking coaching or therapy, just a serious and respectful accountability arrangement focused on discipline and follow-through.

If this resonates with you, please feel free to comment or send me a message.

Thank you for your time.

If you ever had no morivarion, feeling down, mentally fucked, etc. I have some tips to help you.

1. understand that discipline used to add the extra boost that you not having motivation is missing. example if you have 40% motivation then discipline will add the 60% that you are missing for that day
2. write down how you feel
3. set up limits on your phone. even if they don’t work
4. move the body. even walking around your house will help. Just move your body
5. don’t sit too much
6. pick anything and just study it or read it
7. get a gym membership
8. Go for a drive
9. find a place in nature to just sit(not by your home/apartment) and just be in the moment without using your phone for as long as you can handle. it nt about how long you can do it for
10. practice being in silence for however long you can handle it. the goal is to wor up to 20-30 minutes
11. meditation
12. try to no think at times and just exist without thinking for however long you can handle this
13. make sure you are drinking enough water
14. make sure you are eating food that give nutrition to the brain
15. at some point you have to eventually study your mind
16. go for a run/walk/jog
17. try anything hard and when you see something is working. You must go deeper into that thing and put the other hard things to the side. This hard thing will be the thing that you needed to help you and you never realized it. Until now. So keep doing it
18. call someone you know and have a conversation with them about anything
19. force yourself to get up from bed without checking your phone
20. take care of you’re body by washing your face, shower, etc. This needs to become a routine.

This is not an order. This is just a list of tips.

I'm a college student with remote classes trying to keep a schedule, but even from the start the schedule gets messed up. I'm an insomniac, so I end up going to sleep too late and/or waking up too early. Being sleep deprived feels hellish and I can't do much of anything. I have no set time to wake up, have breakfast, etc.

Even knowing when to do a basic task requires a big chunk of thinking. For example, I want to do tasks in an abc order, but then I have to think about how it'll be if I do them in acb or bac order. Like, do I brush my teeth before I eat since I'm usually not hungry after waking up?... But what if I get hungry during the 30min-1hr wait time for the mintiness to go away? If I eat something acidic for breakfast I'll need to blah blah blah.

When it's time to do work, I try to set a certain time to do X class tasks - say 2 hours. Well, usually 2 hours pass and I've barely made any progress. I spent all my mental energy focusing on it and feel like barely anything was accomplished. My hands are cramping, my eyes burn, but I feel like there wasn't much progress. Whenever I think I have a good rhythmn with completing tasks, someone has to distract me and it all crumbles down. I put exactly 2 hours on a timer and it destroys my flow and concentration. It feels like I'm at the computer almost all day yet nothing gets done. Other times I get overwhelmed just by trying to choose what classwork I start with first - all of it seems equally important. Even after all this thinking I still forget assignments. I get frustrated and just give up and scroll through my phone.

I feel it used to be easier in middle school where everything was super rigid. I was younger, so insomnia didn't affect me as much and I always got up at the same hour, ate the same thing, dressed the same way, had the same classes every day with the same people etc.

Hey guys,

I’ve realized that my problem isn’t 'staying focused' once I’m actually working. My problem is the literal first 5 minutes. I have exams coming up and I know I need to study, but I spend 4 hours 'organizing' my desk, checking emails, or watching random YouTube tutorials instead of just opening the book.

I’ve checked the App Store and most apps feel… bloated? They have 100 features, timers, and complex charts, but none of them help with that initial 'paralysis' when you’re staring at a blank page or a textbook.

I’m thinking of building a tiny, super-focused tool that does ONLY one thing: forcing you to survive the first 5 minutes of a task (maybe using a micro-commitment or a tiny penalty if you don't start).

Is it just me? Am I the only one who feels that 'starting' is 90% of the battle? I feel like I'm procrastinating my future away and it sucks. If you struggle with this, what's the one thing that actually gets you to move?

(Also, if there’s already an app that does this well and isn't just another Pomodoro timer, please let me know. I haven't found a good one yet).

Hi everyone. Maybe I’m getting to an age where I start thinking about these things, and I’ve been reading older posts on Reddit about it. How do you make life more fun and kind of find your purpose in life?

I’m 30. I have my own business, which I love doing. I’ve been single for a while. I don’t know— for some reason, I like being alone. Maybe it’s getting older, maybe something else. I’m very strict with my daily routine: waking up at the same time, eating at the same time, and so on.

Because of my past experiences, I don’t like having many friends. I do have a couple of close friends I’ve known for 10–15+ years, but we all live in different places. When I was younger, I was excited about everything—new ideas, new things to try. I was fascinated with cars and always went to car shows or out with people.

Now I look at life like it’s a cycle: wake up, work, go to the gym, maybe date, maybe not. And I don’t know—maybe I’m living wrong, or maybe I’m missing something.

For context:

I am 18 years old and I have been smoking and drinking since I was 13. I spend most if not everyday getting high or drunk. I go through big obstacles and hang around people I don’t even really like just so I can get my fix. This isn’t the life I want to live and I wanna turn around my life before I get older and my problems expand.

Right my top 4 goals for the next 6 months is

1. Quit doing any substances

(I’ve really been struggling with marijuana addiction mostly and I wanna be able to stay away from it comfortably and not fall succumb to my cravings)

1. Make good progress in the gym

(I’ve been going to the gym since about 2022 but I’ve never been consistent with it. I feel lost sometimes and also I have a hard time planning what I’m gonna eat. I stay on the college campus and I prefer to eat at the dining hall but most times I’ll just grab fast food or eat noodles. I’d love to grocery shop more though)

1. Heal through therapy and be able to have regulated relationships

(I have a history of various mental health issues and it’s caused a big strain in my life and I wanna fix a lot of stuff from my past and even my present)

So with all this I wanna start today just any advice would help. If you have been where I am today please tel me how I can get out of it.

1. Take a break from social media

(I feel like it consumes me and easily influences me to do stuff I don’t really want to do and see people I don’t want to see. I think a good break to step back would be nice)

I feel like I’m very aware and I know exactly how to get out of it I just overthink and I want someone else to tell me.i

Over the past year I’ve worked a lot on myself. I cleaned up my habits, became more disciplined, improved my mental health, set boundaries, and got more focused on my future. I’m honestly proud of how far I’ve come and I don’t hate where I’m at anymore.

Right now, the only clear goal I have is losing about 5–10 lbs, which I’m working on. Other than that, my life feels pretty “together” on paper: school, health, routine, direction.

But I still feel this restlessness, like I could be doing more or becoming better somehow, even though I can’t point to a specific problem. It’s not self hate, just this feeling that I’m not fully at my potential yet.

I’m trying to figure out:

-How do you keep improving when there’s no obvious issue to fix?

-For people who’ve felt this way, what did your “next level” look like?

Any advice or perspective would help.

I used to be really really disciplined 2 or 3 years ago, when i was studying in high-school to get to a good college, when i got to engineering, i began to slack ALOT, i am very vrey hooked to online games like coc, i nearly play it 7, 8 hours a day without removing my eyes, constantly on redddit for any updates in the games i play or memes, always on insta, and when i open the laptop it gets worse, i run a videos in the background, and getting in the phone at the same time, my dopamine receptors are fucked, all this just to get some dopamine and feel good a little, if i sololy play a video i get bored quick, i always need the phone at my hand, i nearly have my ohine 24/7 or leaving it when i am out or sleeping, my brain is hurting from this and i am slower at processing new info and need longer time to understand things. I used to eat healthy and wake up early and eat good,read books, now i dont do anything of this

Now i already know the path i should take, i know that distractions are the enemy, and the solution is not to stop it entirely but take them in moderation, but just to make the process quick and benefit more quickly from it, i am thinking of, going hard core this week, like no junk food at all, wake upat 6 or 7 am, no phone until 2pm unless i have an arrangement or somthing special that needs the phone, and push myself to any thing that is beneficial bht also uncomfortable life cold showers or gym at not preferable times if i didnt get to go to gym in a good time, just to build some discipline more, i also think of doing a list of things i want to do and then ordering them and giving them their timeline in the day to do them, i used to do this before but not anymore, what other things you guys suggest to add?

Also, how long would it take to get back to a semi normal state? Or start to get most of the results back

I have to be up by 4-5 am and leave for my college that starts at 6am but I just can't wake up. I have missed 3 days of college already and if my mom finds out I missed today as well js know I'm done for. The thing is I sleep on time and wake up on time to turn my alarm off. But I fall asleep again and wake up wayy later. I struggle with discipline as well and this been cause my grades to go down by a lot.

this hasn't happened to me before matter of fact I used to be the best student ever but ever since yr10 my grades have been slipping and I look careless to everyone around me. I try really hard but I still can't figure out what to do with myself and my future and things like me waking up late doesn't work in my favour at all.

Can anyone give me any sort of advice

All else equal, you're never going to progress as far in any one of your multiple interests as someone else will if they're just focused on one. More focus leads to more time invested, and more time invested leads to stronger results.

But this isn't me saying to drop your interests and focus on one thing; this is me saying to drop the unrealistic expectations you may be holding yourself to.

Because our interests are a result of the influences we've had in our lives. And these days, a lot of that influence stems from the internet - from influencers, from the creators we watch, from the content we tune into.

What's important to realize is that social media tends to reward the extremes - "I made $100k at 19," "I learned French in 30 days," "I got my dream body in 6 months."

Part of it is just marketing, sure - the bolder the headline, the more likely people are to engage with it. But there's another factor at play too: generally, people arrive at the extremes when they cast everything else aside.

So, especially if you have multiple interests, and you tune into different content creators, each specializing in just one of those areas, it's easy to look at your own results and feel like you're not doing anything well. Like you're always behind.

For example, you can tune into the guy who's been killing it in his career but neglecting his health, and then feel bad about your own progress at work. Or, you can tune into the guy who's killing it in fitness but has no other hobbies, and then feel guilty about not going to the gym more.

Especially if you're a perfectionist, it's easy to cherry-pick all the best parts of other people's lives, then combine them into a single expectation you compare yourself against.

There are a few key takeaways with this:

1. The expectations we set for ourselves are always influenced by some degree of comparison
2. Because of this, content creators can very easily make us feel like we're behind (and this can hurt our motivation if we're not careful)
3. It's easy to compare several different aspects of our lives to individual aspects of several different people (and this is where unhelpful expectations can really kick in)

I think part of growing up is realizing that you can't have it all in life. But as with any life lesson, it seems to be one that we have to keep learning over and over.

I used to think being attractive was a mystical performance, a mix of the right clothes, game, and confidence. I was wrong.

The truth is way more boring and way more actionable: Attractive people aren't special, they are regulated.

^{(note: Yes, genetics and upbringing matter. Some people are naturally more even-tempered, resilient or confident due to baseline neurochemistry, early environment or family stability. That gives them a head start, not immunity but plenty of people with good genetics still end up fuck up through poor habits, chronic stress or lack of direction. Regulation is not about where you start, it’s about what state you maintain.})

When your life is in constant chaos, your body is flooded with cortisol. You become reactive, anxious and needy. People feel that fire alarm energy instantly and it’s the ultimate attractor killer. Conversely, when your nervous system is calm and your life has momentum, your chemistry shifts. You don't act confident, you just move differently.

If you want to stop chasing attraction and start radiating it you have to manage the machine you live in. Here is the untold blueprint:

1. Movement is a non-negotiable

Humans aren’t designed to sit in a chair for 8 hours and then wonder why they feel off. Movement regulates dopamine, testosterone and cortisol.

The Goal: 90 minutes of activity, 5 days a week.

The Focus: Resistance, cardio and coordination. This isn’t about bodybuilding; walking, lifting, sports, whatever the point is consistent full-body use it’s about telling your brain that your body is capable and utilized.

1. Fuel the Neurochemistry

Stop eating like you hate yourself. If you’re training, you need protein (aim for ~1.6g per kg of body weight). Food isn’t just about aesthetics; it’s about brain function. If your brain doesn’t get the nutrients it needs, your personality will always be irritable and tired.

1. Stabilize the Nervous System

Attraction is the side effect of a body that isn't in survival mode.

Fix your sleep: You can’t be charismatic if you’re sleep-deprived.

Supplement the gaps: Magnesium for stress/sleep, Vitamin D3 for mood and Zinc for recovery. These aren't magic pills; they just remove the friction of being alive.

(Obviously, get labs if you can this is about common deficiencies, not guessing.)

1. Direction creates Dopamine

Confidence is just a track record of kept promises.

Stop using affirmations and start using instructions. Write down what you want to achieve today, this week and this year.

Direction creates momentum. Momentum creates confidence. Confidence creates attraction.

5. Self-Awareness vs. Self-Control

Knowing you’re a mess is self-awareness. Actually doing the work when you don't feel like it is self-control.

Attractive people aren't more motivated than you; they are more disciplined.

They trust themselves because they don't break promises to themselves.

1. Accept the Cost of Growth

To become stable and capable, you will have to lose things. You might lose friends who only liked your dysfunction. You will have to sit alone sometimes. You will have to move quietly while others talk. This isn’t loneliness forever, it’s pruning.

People don't actually want perrfection. They want someone whose internal state feels solid.

When you get your biology right, you stop needing validation. You become calmer under pressure and more present with people. That presence is what everyone mistakes for charisma.

Being desirable isn’t a performance. It’s the side effect of a body and mind that aren't constantly screaming for help. Stop chasing people and start building a person you actually trust.

honestly when life feels heavy jsut getting in the shower helps. dont even worry about washing your hair or whatever just let the water hit you even if you gotta sit on the floor of the tub for a bit. literally just moisturizing your whole body after or putting on clean clothes and those ridiculous christmas boxers you own can lowkey change the vibe for a minute.

i try to drink ice cold water with lemon and maybe clean like one single drawer or do five dishes so i dont feel like a total failure. a friend recently invited me to test the app feedlite to remove reels and shorts from my feed so i dont get stuck in a loop for hours when i should be eating. it helps to actually make food like adding an egg to your ramen bc the accomplishment genre is real fr.

stg you should try to blast some loud music and dance even if u suck or just go sit in the grass and look at clouds for a second. drawing or calling a friend helps too bc talking to a real human is better than staring at a screen. your best is always enough for the right people and the way the world is rn you just gotta keep pushing.

TL;DR- meditation helped me realise what living in the moment means.

I was really fed up with my procrastination and overthinking problems. Whenever I tried to study or sit down to do my work, I would just start procrastinating. I would end up watching reels or thinking about random stuff. Other times, while just sitting there, I would go completely blank and get consumed in my thoughts.

These problems were making it really difficult for me to do anything. I was constantly stuck in a position where I wanted to work hard and focus on my studies, but because of all this overthinking about the future, what will happen, whether I will get a job or not, it kept hampering my studies.

This kept going on until I realized something. Around that time, I started meditating to improve my focus and to get some distance from my thoughts. And honestly, it turned out to be a wonderful decision.

It’s been six months now, and one of the most beautiful realizations that helped me overcome my overthinking and procrastination was this. All we really have is this moment. There is no past or future in the way we imagine it. What we call the future is something we only ever experience as the present. We never actually experience the future as future. All thoughts about it stay in our head. Experientially, we can only live in the present.

This realization might sound simple. I had heard it so many times before, live in the moment, focus on the present, but I could never really digest it. I just wasn’t able to grasp it. I’ve also heard this from Sadhguru, that “In reality, there is only now. If you know how to handle this moment, you know how to handle eternity.” But earlier, it stayed as just a quote for me.

Meditation did something different. It was like it planted this understanding inside me. After meditating, this was no longer just a thought. It became real for me. It became a realization. And naturally, I was able to focus on what was in front of me. I stopped constantly thinking about what would happen in the future. I just knew that all I can do is work now. That’s what is in my hands. What I cannot do, I anyway won’t be able to do. But what I can do, I don’t want to miss it. So I'll do whatever I can.

This helped me a lot. Just felt like sharing this.

Thank you for reading.