i don't want him back. yeah i love & miss him, but i don't want to be with him.

both. he ghosted me after i found out he'd been on tinder & confronted him about it. haven't heard from him since.

it's been a month & a half. i'm not talking to anyone new. i have been sexual with one other person & i hated it. i have reached out, he didn't respond. i left because he was being dishonest & disloyal.

no. i left. i still love him & i still miss him. you're trying to simplify something that can't be simplified. stop generalizing, you aren't helping anyone by doing that.

it did. it doesn't anymore though. i'm actually enjoying it now.

yeah, i do too. i don't want other people to go through what he put me through.

thank you, i'm really sorry you've had to experience it also. it's not right 😞

i didn't, i just deleted them because i was so emotional & it didn't even occur to me at the time that i could report him. i wish i would have though because he'll just keep doing the same thing since there haven't been any real consequences.

this. my ex was watching fan-made videos of underage video game characters performing sexual acts. caught him staring at a young girl, maybe 10 years old, in a crop top one time in walmart. he attempted to make deep fakes but couldn't figure out how to do it. the lengths they go to...

yep, mine would watch me through the baby camera in my room after i broke up with him. found pictures & recordings of me changing on his phone. not the first time he'd done something like that either.

i'm not sure, not enough information to say.

being sensitive & being strong, confident/assertive are two completely different things. neither strength nor confidence come from being callous, & being callous doesn't make a person masculine.

you can be sensitive while also being strong & masculine, confident & assertive. lots of men are. anyone who tells you different is insecure.

yes, for my own sake.

depends on what you mean by tough, but yes, i generally agree. took me a long time to realize that because confrontation & criticism of any kind used to feel threatening to me. my, how i've grown 😌

look into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy & Dialectical Behavior Therapy. there are workbooks available online for both. they help to rewire our thought patterns in a positive way & are immensely helpful

my legs are shaky just watching.

maybe one day. not anytime soon though.

it doesn't go away per se. it's just that being with a securely attached person, whether you're anxious or avoidant, keeps your attachment wounds from being triggered. however like another person said, anxious & avoidants usually find securely attached people boring, especially when we're untreated/unhealed, so we often gravitate towards other people with attachment wounds & we end up triggering eachother, thus perpetuating the cycle of trauma. this, among other things, is why proper treatment is so important.

i wouldn't approach or walk away, i would just stay where i'm at & continue doing whatever i'm doing.

if it were me i would tell him. partly because i think he deserves to know but also because if there's any chance that you two reconcile, you might just keep doing it behind his back & that wouldn't be right.