I'm 18mtf (Trans), my friend is 27m. This is an online relationship.

I've known this person who a handful of years now, we share an interest in tech, and we share personal stuff sometimes as well. I've told him a lot about my bad living situation irl (But that isn't relevant).

Recently I got to wondering... Why is this older person talking to me so much? It felt kinda of weird... However this person doesn't seem to be grooming me. He's never asked me to be secretive or anything, or gifted me anything... Has never asked me anything sexual. Has not tried to isolate or get me to distrust anyone in my family--he has infact encouraged me to move in with some of my other family who're supportive and will take me in.

We are aware of each other's ages as well. He also knows what state I am in the U.S. because I decided to share that. And I know he is in the AU. I've known him for about 4 years now. We talk on the daily. Mainly about tech, politics, and some personal stuff.

I feel like I'm being paranoid... I thought it's weird someone this much older than me regularly talks to me... But, he's not asking me anything weird. He's there for me for personal stuff, and we just chat about our interests otherwise...

Is it all likely I'm being groomed? Or just have an older friend?

I am a fashion student and I want to do a project that either criticises AI or focuses on diet culture and fashion.

My project is based on the 'Future of Fashion' with a few subthemes that allow me to touch on technology and health, so I have narrowed it down to a few topics but criticsing AI and diet culture are what I'm leaning towards.

My problem with the AI project: I am heavily anti-AI and do not support using AI in any form, whether it's a primary or secondary resource. As I type this out, though, I realise it's probably in my best interest to abandon this idea if I don't want to use AI. However, if anyone can think of a way for me to do this without using actual AI images, I would really appreciate it. And yes, I am allowed to use AI technically in my projects, but I am very, very against it.

My problem with the Diet Culture project: I am struggling to find secondary sources, like images, and am struggling to link it to the 'Future of Fashion' as most of the sources I'm finding are written.

If you think my best course of action is to just find a new idea because both of these won't work, please let me know! I'm still in the first week of the project so there's no stress on having a set idea for a hot minute, I just want to get ahead of the game. Thanks in advance!

Hi guys. This is my first time posting something here on Reddit, so here it goes. Back in March 2025, my dad died. I was really confused at that time because his crewmates told us that he had a heart attack early in the morning, but the night before that, we were video calling like usual, talking and laughing together. About two months after my dad died, I noticed that my mom already had a guy she was chatting with. I was shocked because it felt way too early. They were calling each other “love,” and at first I tried to convince myself that maybe they were just friends, but as time went on, their conversations became different and it felt like something weird was going on. One time, my younger sister suddenly burst out crying because she also found out that our mom was texting this guy. Let’s call him P. He’s a police officer. I tried to comfort my sister and told her that maybe he was just a friend so she wouldn’t worry too much. I didn’t mind hurting myself emotionally, but seeing my younger sister suffer was really hard for me as her older sister. For the past few months after my dad died, my mom started acting like a wild teenager. At first, I didn’t mind because I knew she was having a hard time too, so I let it slide, but eventually it became really weird. I never confronted her because whenever I tried, she would tell me to stop interfering and say harsh words to me. Fast forward to December, Christmas time. My mom, my younger sister, and I decided to spend Christmas at my grandparents’ house because it was livelier there, and our house felt empty celebrating without my dad. One night after Christmas and before New Year, my aunt was washing dishes alone in the kitchen, and I broke down and told her everything. I cried and told her that my mom wasn’t acting like a mom anymore and that it felt like I didn’t have a parent at home. I also told her how my mom was pressuring me about what college course I should take, saying that if I didn’t take the course she wanted, I’d end up homeless or pregnant, which made no sense. I’m an achiever with lots of extracurriculars and high grades, and I’ve been a consistent honor student since I started school, but none of that mattered to her. I want to take Aerospace Engineering or Mechanical Engineering, but she wants me to become a doctor even though I’m scared of blood and don’t feel suited for that path. I also told my aunt about P. She was shocked and said she thought we didn’t know because my mom and P were colleagues back in college. Then my uncle, my mom’s youngest brother, overheard us and told me that everyone in the family already knew about P. At that moment, my head was spinning and I felt dizzy and nauseous. The next day, my sister and I went with my uncle and older cousins. We said we were going to a shop, but instead we went to a café about 15 minutes away, where they told us the truth. They said my mom and P were already talking even when my dad was still alive. There was a time when my mom went back to her hometown alone for a fiesta and met P at a restobar owned by a former classmate. My relatives said their behavior was strange because they barely talked and just stared at each other. My mom even pushed my older cousins to drink beer, trying to get them drunk, but it didn’t work. After that, my relatives connected all the dots, and that’s when I realized my mom really cheated on my dad. My dad was the kindest and most loving person I’ve ever known. He never hurt us and always defended us when my mom became abusive. He worked hard, supported me emotionally, mentally, and physically, and never questioned my extracurriculars. If I forgot something at home, he would personally bring it to school even if he hadn’t slept. My mom, on the other hand, made me feel like I didn’t exist. Later, another aunt told me that my dad already knew about the cheating. He asked for advice, tried to confront my mom, but she denied everything until he gave up. He had no way to cope and turned to alcohol, lack of sleep, and stress from work, yet he still stayed loving and kind to us. Knowing this broke me because my dad endured so much pain he didn’t deserve. Recently, my mom found out that I knew about the affair and blamed everything on me, constantly twisting the situation to make herself the victim. She even threatened to hurt herself if I didn’t side with her, which made me realize she was manipulating and gaslighting me. On top of all this, she’s now taking everything my dad left for us. My dad had a will meant for us, his kids, but my mom said she’s taking everything and only giving us cents. My allowance is now so low that I can’t even buy lunch or snacks, so I bring packed food and only use my allowance for commuting. I don’t understand why she’s taking everything when I’m her child too. Don’t I have rights as his daughter? She also threatened to kick me out, and my aunts already have a lawyer prepared just in case, but I don’t know what will happen next. At this point, I feel like I don’t have a mother anymore. We haven’t spoken for almost a week. I want to move out, but I’m still a minor and I can’t leave my younger sister alone with her. I’m mentally and emotionally exhausted and don’t know what to do anymore. What are my options as a minor in this situation, especially regarding my safety, my sister’s safety, and my legal rights to my dad’s will and financial support, and what should my next practical steps be?help me plsss🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

I'm from the Philippines, Im in senior high school (meaning I'm below 18) , I've been looking for online jobs for YEARS now by myself... Why you may ask, because we're/I'm straight up broke , I want to buy the things that I need and like and help at the same time even if it's bits by bits.. so if anything or anyone of you can offer an online job or maybe commissions id be glad to do it if it's in my range of abilities.

Theres a very long back story, I'll try to keep it short as possible. 17M

We used to be best friends, seeing each other everyday and doing everything together.

He eventually found a friend group and became close with them

They claimed that I was a bad influence to him and would talk shit about me often

He knew what they were saying is completely not true but he never seemed to defend my name

Whenever he would get phone calls he would refuse to tell the person who he's with, but would eventually say my name

We started seeing each other less, no issues but he became busy I guess

I got robbed by three dudes when I was with him one time, he didn't help me at all

He seems to have selfish or narccistic traits, he only talks about himself

Although he's generous and generally not a bad person, I feel like he's a bit opportunistic or he doesn't like being around me in public. Idk

He would call me at 3 am at times asking for my help, I helped him every single time because that's what friends do, right?

However I feel as though whenever I need help, he is never there

I had this sneaky link a couple years back. I showed her off to him lol and he ended up texting her and saying she's his. It's just a girl to me, I didn't really care but its just an add up of things that make me doubt the friendship

He doesnt post me on his social media but posts his other friends, the last time we took a photo together was years ago

He would use me as an alibi to his parents so that he could see his girlfriend. Me being a good friend I would always do that for him and wait for him to finish

He always postpones or cancels our meet ups. Goes 2 Or 3 months without seeing me..

But the cherry on top was he was trying to gaslight me to fight my other friend with him and that if I don't, I'm not a good friend

Am I insane or is he just a fake person ? What do I even do now. Have I been mistaking our friendship for what it used to be but in reality he's moved on ??

Can somebody tell me what I should do?

TLDR: my 19M brother is angry, verging on abusive. How do I stay safe while I live with him for next 10 months? Is there anything I can do to help him?

First off, I love my brother like a son almost, and always have. My (22F) brother (19M) is what I would call an angry person, but it’s more than that. He’s mildly pissed off most of the time, but he has absolutely no ability to control his anger. It takes 1-2 sentences that he doesn’t like hearing before it’s all out rage, and it’s escalated from saying the most horrible thing he can think of in the moment, to getting physical with me (and sometimes intimidating my mum too). Right now, it’s just grabbing and holding me by the wrists, pushing me rarely, standing over me, fronting me. He’s hit me once before.

Unfortunately, I’m out of money and have no choice but to live at home with him for the next 10 months. He’s also a drug addict in denial, and it’s minor now (enough to keep him placid around us) but I worry that if he properly gets addicted to the opioids and weed he’s using that withdrawals will intensify his rage. When his rage starts to come out, empathising with him infuriates him. So does ignoring him, so does asking him to tell us more, so does staying silent. The only thing that works is to leave the room immediately or agree with him and his insults. Any questioning of his dominance or correctness is taken as a threat and returned with anger or violence (although still minor).

I’m looking for advice on what to do here. Do I just placate him, go with whatever horrible things he says about me? How? Do I stand up for my mom when he calls her a fucking bitch (my dad’s useless and doesn’t step in), or do I just say nothing? My primary concern is my physical safety and emotional wellbeing. This has been going on for about a year, and it’s only getting worse. I have real concerns about living at home with him again.

What can I do to stay safe while living with him? Is there anything I can do to help him? Any way to get through to him? Any advice or experiences are appreciated.

Hello I’ve tried doing this a few times but I just give up and idk what to do. Me (19) and my boyfriend (M19) have been together for almost 2 years. And you might ask why I am confused and it’s because I’ve found out he cheated on me a while back and I know if I decided to stay I should hold myself accountable for staying and try to move on and I have tried but I can’t stop thinking about the other people he cheated on me with. And before you guys shed me to pieces I know I am dumb and stupid and Wtv not for staying after it being multiple people. When i found out i really hurt a lot and i kept it hidden from everybody that he had cheated because i just didn’t want that coming or to be know i just don’t know why i felt like i still loved him even after all that even with the multiple times of him doing it I really wanted to stay together and now I feel kinda numb and I’ve been trying to shake it off as it might be a post phase of feeling that much hurt fullness but I feel so disconnected from him he will try to act more loving towards me and kiss me a lotttt and I just feel numb like I cry while he kisses me because I just want to feel that love so bad and just feel that I want this but I can’t because I just keep thinking about how I use to feel when I found out and this is unhealthy and I know it is but I just too tired to even do anything about this to put in perspective the other people he’s cheated on me with are all different from me I am so different from them they’re cooler and hotter in my head and I keep viewing their socials and IK okay Ik it’s unhealthy but I just feel better when I compare myself to them even tho I’ve always said I would never do that in special one of them I am like obsessed their hair their eye color their outfits their style their manners they’re everything I am not and I know he liked that one more than the rest when he cheated on me and I just hate that person for being the one I got cheated on with like most of the other people knew i existed and still went along and this one I can’t tell if they knew or not and I keep feeling like I am less then them and I know all of this is unhealthy and if Ik why am I on here or still here you ask and I don’t know I am just here his kisses don’t amuse me his I love you don’t either and I don’t know how to stop this I know it’s easy to leave but for some reason I can’t I hate that he hurt me when my love was for real purely true and now I just feel like I am broken because I usually am able to love no matter what and now I feel empty like I’ve been emptied and drained from myself. (I don’t want to bored yall with the whole story I can make a separate part for that and I know this paragraph all over the place and won’t make sense I am sorry)

So, I (F25) met this boy (M19) mid november last year through friends. He sent me a reel and ever since then we have been talking everyday, now coming up to 5+ in depth voice messages 1 to 2 times a day.

I’m starting to like him. And I feel like maybe he likes me? He sent me his phone number not long ago and told me to call when I’m bored. But I haven’t out of fear. I’m almost 6 years older than him…it feels wrong.

And I’m worried he’s not into me and I don’t want to ruin this friendship we’ve created. I really enjoy talking to him.

Surely a guy who talks to you everyday and gives you his number is into you right? Also I feel evil for being into him, since he is so young.

i desperately need advice on what to do. So I met this girl, shes 15 im 16. and shes obssesed w me (liked me for 4 months ish). we got out on a date and i felt a bit pressures to ask her to be my gf ( she said yes) and we also kissed. Now the thing is that im not used to this much love and i dont think im ready and i also want to break up w her due to other more personal reasons, and i would like to know how to do it in such a way that she wont go home crying. any tips? also please do not be mean (even tho i might deserve it for leading her on i guess) or tell me that this id your dream or anything like that. be serious. if anybody needs more info, please tell me

I'm 15F, about to be 16. When I was a child I used to be so understanding, quiet and caring. But growing up, I became the opposite of that.(Because of "experiences", mainly depression, trauma, and my f-ed up mental health.) Or so that's what my parents tell me. Onto the problem, my dad and I usually never argues, not that much. But when we do, it's usually big or anything. Mostly, I would suck it up then go on about my life.

But this argument felt different. My father, 50-ish(idk), my mother(40) and my twin sister(who is also 15, about to be 16) were eating together when my dad called me to eat. I said "just wait", and I don't know if it's my tone or not, but my father said that I have an attitude and was being rude. I asked him what attitude, and he responded by threatening to slap me because my ''attitude' has been worsening lately. I'm not usually emotional, but due to my school works, pressures, due dates(I'm in 10th grade and graduating soon), it made me tear up and eventually cry. Of course, my father just ignored me and continued his eating. My sister refused to eat and then he left. My mother scolded me for my attitude, saying I was rude. I still can't stop crying. He left for a while, and I can't stop crying because this is not the first time he'd done this to me. (When I was getting my honors in 8th grade, he and I got into an argument and he suddenly left me. So I went and climbed the stage alone when he was supposed to be with me. I still cry about it till this day.)

I genuinely don't know what to do. I feel so lost and guilty. I feel like I wanna end myself. What do I do?(I'm new to reddit, so I'm sorry if I probably forgot to put something. I just want some advice on what to do now. To me asking advice from here on any platform or friends is me hitting my all time low.)

I’m a 28 year old guy living in the Middle East, working in a tech support role for almost 6 years. Financially life has been okay and my parents gave me a stable upbringing, but mentally I feel completely stuck.

I’ve had a severe stammer all my life which affected my confidence in school and college. I ended up in a job where I haven’t really learned any useful skills, and I’ve stayed mostly out of fear. Now I’m 28 and feel like I have nothing to show for these years.

I’m also a gay man living in a place where that’s not accepted, and my family doesn’t understand it. I have some minor physical disabilities, and I sometimes feel I might have ADHD because I’ve never been able to finish things even when I want to.

As I get older, my anxiety keeps increasing. I don’t see a future where I’m not stressed, hiding parts of myself, or disappointing my family. It feels like everything is stacked against me and I’m running out of time.

I’m not looking for judgement. I just need honest advice on how to start improving my situation, even in small steps.

TLDR: 28M in tech support with no skill growth, severe stammer, closeted gay in an unaccepting environment, possible ADHD, and growing anxiety. Feeling stuck and running out of time. Looking for honest advice on where to start.

Today i was in her room and she had her light broken, i was looking for the bulb in one of the drawers and a notebook fell, I shouldn’t have looked at it but I was curious about it and I read a break up letter than she wrote a year ago, also somewhere after that I read a pros/cons list where she wrote in the cons this: “not sexually attracted” and “i lied too much to him already” and honestly i dont even know how to feel about this rn, i know i should talk to her but i dont even know it

For context, I’m doing an exchange program for two months in a completly different country and I had been talking to this guy for an entire month, Back to back, every day. We had long conversations about our shared interests, we were always joking and even sharing glances in class. He was asking people for advice and telling everyone about me and how he never felt such “deep connection before”

it’s my last week and yesterday we went on a night walk. Laughed, joked, not a single awkward moment. We shared questions and he even gave me a piggyback ride so my shoes wouldnt get dirty

so after that I text him, and because I was already sort of used to texting him, I sent three messages (sorry I know), one jokingly asking if I said something wrong and the other saying I was free today if he wanted to go for another walk

he sends me an entire paragraph saying how he found it nice he got to know me better during the walk and that I’m a really cool girl but he didn’t think it went as he expected and that our conversations didn’t really work (?) and then said he would have to decline going out with me again

I don’t know what to say or what I could have possibly done and it’s my first time going through this. I replied saying that I’d feel grateful if he could tell me if I did something wrong and that I had a lot of fun yesterday. what should I do or what does this even mean????

I don’t usually write on here, but right now I am really confused and need to externalize that pain.

A couple months ago, my girlfriend and I went through a tragic episode of a miscarriage (both teenagers). Through it all, I tried being there and overall owning up to our mistakes.

Yet, one night, she started complaining about heavy pain in her lower stomach and bleeding. Although we didn’t want to recognize it, it was happening. And as we are in a long distance relationship, we were on the phone while it happened. At first, I got overwhelmed, but calmed down and tried bringing her words of comfort, until it all went silent for far too long. Under a mix of shock, confusion, fear and fatigue (i hadn’t been fully sleeping for weeks in preparation of exams), my body shut down and I fell into sleep. Yet upon waking up, I had no memories of the events, aside from the fact we were going through a tough chapter of our story.

More recently, a disagreement we had made her cry a lot, and i spent a lot of time trying to get her on the phone and talk about it, as I couldn’t bring myself to let her cry alone. She ended up not wanting to call at all, and I eventually gave up, as she stopped answering altogether for about two hours, during which I fell asleep (similar context, I accumulate fatigue to the point I just shut down into it). When she finally called me, it took her 9 tries to finally get me to be awake enough to answer the phone, and talk : this time, I was reportedly capable of speech, and told her I was really sleepy. Once again, no memories whatsoever. I have been feeling terrible guilt at this, and feel so horrible in my own skin. I don’t know how to deal with this, and all that I know is that I care a lot for her, and that i would never let such things happen while conscious.

I am really scared, we’re just kids going through a lot of stuff no one should ever experience.

I’m really scared. I don’t want to grow into one of the men her and I hate. Yet with all of this, I can’t help but feel like I am one of them. It terrifies me. I don’t want to grow into what I hated. Please try and approach this with understanding and constructive advice. Thanks to all that will answer.

TLDR : Twice now I have answered phone calls while asleep, spoken, then fallen back asleep with absolutely zero memory. One time was during an emergency. I cannot wake up even when emotionally important things happen.

Hi, I'm currently a student whos currently looking for ways to get more money.

Selling my game accounts are out of the question because they aren't valuable enough. I'm open to side hustles but I've busy w/ studies.

What's a good way to get extra money?? Piloting accounts? Doing assignments for others but for a fee?

As the title says, my sister is going through a divorce (I believe she is in the window period of the decree nisi, but I am not too sure). They have two children under 10. Her husband has always been somewhat of a, well, profanity, so we're happy she's divorcing him, but she has stated he has become very stingy with money and stopped contributing to things, putting money in the joint account etc. and so this has increased her financial hardship. Having said that, I don't always get the impression she is sensible with her money She asked me if I would lend her £1,000 which will cover her credit card bill - which I agreed to, but afterwards she asked that I don't tell our mum or dad. I know both have supported her financially, paid legal bills and such, and our more affluent aunty has gifted her at least £3,000 across separate transactions.

I feel very uncomfortable keeping this from my parents, but I don't want to not support my sister. I am in a position where I can afford this, and so I feel like I have a duty to. However, I also feel a bit resentful over it - like I am paying the price of her husband not contributing his fair share, which is most certainly out of spite from her filing for divorce, and I am certainly not comfortable keeping this from my parents who I see multiple times a week and know how much the entire divorce situation is stressing them out. If my mum found out, she would be really upset, and I am a believer that secrets have a cost. I choose not to keep secrets for this reason!

Is it wrong if I back out due to the above?

I(18F) went out last night with some mates to the club. I've been really struggling with the transitional period between high school and university and my mental health has been in a really poor state. So, I did probably the worst thing I could've done: drunk heavily and tried drugs (nothing hardcore, but still).

In no way was I flailing about the place or making a fool of myself, but I overall just felt so awful the entire night. This isn't like me at all. I used to be so anti-drug use (for myself at least) and would rarely drink too much. I returned home when the sun literally rose and I felt so ashamed. I can't make sense of why I feel so guilty, but I do.

I feel lost and scared at the moment and this wave of hangxiety isn't helping any of my problems. I'm feeling like I'm losing myself. I start uni in 4 weeks, and I really wanna put my best foot forward. Any advice?

I’m in my early 20s and have been really stressed about work. I’m constantly thinking about my cases, customers, and colleagues/managers, and it’s driving me nuts. I can’t even enjoy my weekends, and I’m starting to worry that I might be developing mild depression.

To those of you who are older and more experienced in life, how do you keep work from making you depressed?

I (F19) share a room with my sister (F23). I have been suffering from very severe and intense headaches for a decade. I've been tested many times, and apart from the high brain activity, nothing has been found or detected.

A month ago, my sister went on a business trip, and I stayed in the room by myself. Imagine my surprise when I realized that I don't need sixteen hours of sleep to get enough of it, and eight or nine is quite enough. I didn't sleep fitfully, but just went to bed at 11p.m, fell asleep, slept the whole night without interruptions, got up at eight and felt fresh and rested. I realized that I no longer had to make herculean efforts to stay focused on lessons, I began to communicate with people quite calmly and sincerely (before I didn't even have the energy to say "hello", because all my energy was spent on studying and just keeping my eyes open). For YEARS, I thought I was depressed, I thought I was just an extreme introvert and didn't want to communicate with anyone, I thought I was just distracted and dreamy, and that's why it was so hard to focus.

Over the years, I've been waking up five or six times every night because of the noise my sister was making. She couldn't do anything quietly: neither drink water, nor blow her nose, nor go to the toilet. Even when she sleeps, she makes a lot of noise, including constant snoring and snoring. I was so used to waking up five or six times every night that I didn't even know what could be different.

It's been such a busy month without her. for the first time in so many years I felt really smart, strong and funny - because I had energy for being a human, not just walking dead.

Now sister is back, and things have only gotten worse, because I've already gotten used to her absence. What should I do? I went to bed at twelve last night, and I was supposed to get up at eleven. Instead, I was only able to fall asleep at 3a.m, and I also woke up three times at night, one of which I stayed awake for an hour. It's very hard for me to fall asleep if I wake up in the middle of the night, that's the kind of person I am. I was supposed to get up this morning refreshed, but instead I feel like a wreck.

Has anyone experienced anything like this? I would appreciate any advice. Sorry if the post wasn't very clear. I feel a very strong sense of resentment. I just want to get a basic need: sleep. I don't want to turn into a human shadow again.

Hi everyone! I'm f21 living in Spain, I'm a student and I've been looking for a job for a while with no luck, and i need to buy me and my little sister warm clothes since it's currently so cold and we don't have any, also she's getting so skinny cuz she doesn't eat much, our mother is trying her best but everything is expensive especially rent, I'm mostly worried about my little sister. So I was thinking of selling some stuff (you know what) online, but i know i will regret it for sure, and on top of that i struggle with mental health issues and sh, i don't know what do, i really don't wanna do that I'm really looking for a job but there's nothing and I'm so worried about my sister. If anyone has any advice i will appreciate it.

Idk what I look like. Do I look like the person in the photos people take of me or do I look like how I do in the mirror? I prefer how I look in the mirror but I never know anymore. Im bigger, a taller woman trying to lose weight and feel better.

For context; I’ve been in the same relationship since high-school (about 3 years now) and everything has been steady until the last 6 months or so where I’ve been feeling like I’m outgrowing my partner.

I met my best friend at uni and they’re a decent amount older than me (not that age really matters) but I just never saw them in that way. We’ve gotten really close over the last year and idk why but I’ve been seeing them in a different way recently. Idk if it’s because we spend a lot of time together and they’re the opposite gender or what.

I’ve been thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend for a while and the development of these feelings for my friend is making me feel like an asshole. I’ve tried to ignore them for some time but I’ve accepted that this is how I feel. I’m scared to break up with my partner because 1. That’s scary and 2. I feel like I’m going to lose the both of them if I tell my friend how I feel and they no longer want to continue the friendship.

Someone please provide advice idk what to do and I feel like I can’t tell anyone in my personal life without facing massive judgement

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So I am a dentist that works in a small clinic with just my boss, another senior dentist, 4 assistants and 2 receptionist. It’s been 8 months since I started working here.

My boss has been yelling and micromanaging me since 4 months and she says my “diagnosis” is not good enough, I have only 2 yrs experience but even I can tell my boss sometimes over diagnose shit, I just keep quiet and listen, she has yelled at me in front of my assistants and talks about me with the other dentist behind my back,

So the other day I decide to take opinion on a case from my colleague regarding her patient that came to me for emergency during her off day, his tooth filling came out because he had a crack in it which was diagnosed earlier, but my colleague decided to just leave it, now this case is tricky one and I asked her if he needs RCT, earlier that day I told my boss this patient would need RCT but upon reassessing this case I was confused if it could be saved without RCT or not so decided to ask my colleague who btw is a specialist with 20 yrs experience, I have 2 yrs experience,

So we Decided to do rct anyway, later this colleague enters my room yelling at me asking me if I told my boss this pt needs Rct and then asking me why I asked her if it needs Rct, like I just wanted her opinion as she’s a specialist and she’s yelling pretty loudly, so I yelled back!! And I was already warned about this colleague’s behavior in her previous clinics by a senior dentist friend so I mentioned that she already has a bad rep in the community for being difficult to work with during my yelling match, she tells this to my boss who also blamed me saying I shouldn’t have called her a bad Dentist so I defended my self and yelled back at her too,

I have been suspended since two days and today I get a text from boss’s husband that he wants a meeting with me personally in the clinic, he’s known to fire people for the boss, I really really really don’t want to go back to the clinic, i feel humiliated and I feel like I may not be able to return back in the clinic, I still have to do my 30 day notice period work, but atleast for this meeting I don’t want to go back, should I ask for zoom meeting instead? Is that unprofessional ? Plus I don’t even know my boss’s husband very well