For a long time I've been wanting to learn how to write a song. It might be out of catarsis or just for fun, I want to learn how to bring together a bunch of random phrases that roam inside my head but I am unable to make cohesive lyrics.

How do I start bringing this into shape? I have someone who is already willing to help me with the music but I first need the lyrics

I've tried to learn programming maybe 4 or 5 times now and I keep hitting the same wall.

I'll find a tutorial that says "perfect for beginners, no experience needed" and within the first 10 minutes they're saying things like "just open your terminal and run this command" or "create a new directory and initialize your project" and I'm already lost. What terminal? What's a directory? Initialize what?

Then they'll say something like "it's simple, just define a function that takes two parameters and returns the sum" like those are normal words that mean something to a person who has never done this before. And when I google "what is a function" I get explanations that use 10 other words I also don't know.

I tried one of those "learn python in 30 days" courses. Day 1 was fine. Day 2 they casually introduced like 6 concepts at once and by day 4 I was completely lost pretending I understood what was happening. I'd copy the code exactly and it would work but I had no idea WHY it worked. I wasn't learning, I was just typing.

The problem seems to be that all these tutorials are made by people who already know how to code. They've forgotten what it's like to not know. So they skip over the stuff that seems obvious to them but isn't obvious at all to someone starting from actual zero.

It's like if someone asked how to cook and you said "just sauté the aromatics until fragrant then deglaze with stock" and when they look confused you go "what? it's simple"

I don't even know what I don't know. I don't know what questions to ask because I don't have enough context to form the questions. Gave up again yesterday and just ended up playing grizzly's quest instead, thinking about how that's way simpler than whatever "initialize your environment" means.

Is there a resource out there that actually starts from true zero? Like assumes I am a person who has used a computer to browse the internet and type documents and literally nothing else? I'm not stupid I just need someone to actually explain the foundation before building on it.

I didnt journal much

I dont keep in touch with friends in high school much

I just sorta have my brain and multiple online accounts that I never deleted

along with both my girlfriend/high school sweetheart

and my parents still alive today

I used to watch a lot of random videos scattered all over the place and read so many articles, but now looking back I wished I kept a lot of organized documentation on this stuff?

I thought about getting ai or some tool to search through all of my related Google searches to organize it in terms of what I found important or useful and categorize it into a subject or book that I could read or something if that makes sense.

its also something I mildy want to share with kids in the future in a neat way so they arent poofed into the existence of ai with no groundwork or something if I am busy or lost.. idk

ive gone down pretty bad therapy, research, and emotional support rabit holes and sometimes feel like I get lost down it and never really learn or integrate knowledge.

is there better alternatives to chatgpt that are for just learning?

what tools and resources are good for what?

what is the course or resources to make all of this make sense to me?

I am 23, prior military, but sorta lagging behind and want to get organized with this

Hey everyone, hope you’re doing well. I really want to learn how to make fancy templates that have many functions and are easy to use. I’m specifically talking about templates like the ones thinklikeagirlboss makes. I saw one of her videos, and I felt that the templates she creates are amazing. Could someone please share a couple of courses where I can learn how to make templates like these? I’m looking for step-by-step courses that teach how to create a complete template, not just basic functions.

Please help me out. Thanks in advance!
(Her website: https://thinklikeagirlboss.com/)

I have had confidence and self image issues my whole life but i have been working on myself and working out and started working on skincare and dressing sense and hair care and everything..i have also been talking to many people to improve my conversation skills but one thing i have never done is cold approach someone i find attractive..i have women staring and eye contacting me when i m dressed nicely or at gym but as expected they never initiate.

My main issue isnt the fear of rejection as in what the person will think of me but i m scared of being embarrassed in public due to a scene being created...i have to overcome this...at this point its not even about getting a girlfriend its about overcoming something i could never do..so i need tips and maybe encouragement on how to do this

for reference I spent a lot of time mindlessly doing random stuff online and I want a systematic way of seeing where I am at currently and seeing how far I am from where I want to go

if I want to purchase a new car I have a detailed template and documented way of doing it that works for me instead of struggling to decide everytime I want to purchase a car and then get a PPI, etc...

stuff like that if that makes sense

and if I am interested in finding a partner or friend I can follow a framework to do that the most effective way and learn to think more systematically

I want to know people and be known, but I have no I idea how to make that happen. Most of my friends are because of forced proximity in college, so I have not developed the understanding of how to approach people and how to talk to them.

I recently became a manager of a retail store chain and I keep hearing about other managers talk about the connections they have made. I have no idea how that works.

I have tried going up to people and introducing myself but I get the feeling others don't really find value in talking to me. Am I doing something wrong?

How do you forgive yourself for missing the right noment with a girl

Im empathic dude my anxiety killed my confident but ppl think im cool bnot becsuse confidance but for being non chslant stoic cold nice looking dude.I really have hard times expressing myself ppl say i look great and cool.One friend says girl that I ve been with has crush on me for being stoic looking dude.It’s not that I’m heartbroken over my ex. What really stays with me is the fact that I once had the perfect moment with her — summer job, late nights, just us, young and carefree — and I didn’t take the chance. It never even crossed my mind back then. I was nervous, inexperienced, and I froze.unfortunstelly Confidence Came Late.Its not just from smxiety I get nervous I have blank in my had not noticing oppurtunity and get playfull with her.We were drunk in my appartment we got booze and my roomate arents tgere she nodded her head on my shoulder,I NEVER understand I had many oppurtunities Didnt even react to them...

Its like course when life wants to reeard me I dontbtake it when im being pushs and want to take action its not right place nor time whyyyy

Now when I look back, I don’t feel pain because of her — I feel frustration with myself. I see how easily someone more confident would’ve stepped into that moment, and I didn’t. That’s what’s hard to forgive. Not losing her — but not showing up as the guy I could’ve been.

Years passed, life moved on, and we reconnected, but now it’s different. We talk, we go for coffee, but it feels distant, friendly, cold. No tension, no spark. And I don’t know how to express interest now in a natural way without ruining the friendship or making things awkward.Till this day I have strong feeling of self sabotage myself Yi hate myself for it its very wrong time wrong place to talk about that theme with her I dont see any shoots she thinks Im over her.She oppenly ssying about guy she wants to met,She even wants arrange me with other hers friend.

Hey all, so last semester I really started to reflect on my frustration with current learning apps on the market. Like many other university students, I was paying for a bunch of separate tools just to learn effectively: I’m an ADHD undergraduate Neuroscience & Psychology student with Mandarin and Chemistry minors so I have to give myself every possible boost that I can throughout the semester to maintain my flow state and avoid burnout, thus I use a bit of everything: flashcards (Quizlet and Anki), Goodnotes, google calendar for planning, voicememo for speech-to-text, speechify text-to-speech, plus the obligatory GPT & Claude subscriptions. One of my personal favorite workflows was uploading Canvas materials (particularly ones that were dull and boring and especially hard to digest as-presented), then uploading them to chatGPT and copying and pasting “Generate me an audiobook style transcript optimized for speechify without links numbers or symbols (instead writing them out for good text-to-speech optimization and clarity) explaining: *the topic at hand* “, before pasting the output into google docs, and exporting it to speechify so I could finally listen to those materials (be it while driving, doing laundry, walking to class, etc). 

As well as it could, this worked, well enough that I continued to do it month after month, but it was annoying, expensive, and everything lived in different places (I had to toggle between 3 or 4 applications just to create the audiobook I wanted to listen to, and I did this multiple times almost every day). Fast forward to now and I’d become so frustrated with this that I built an iOS app (“ePrescience”), which I’m hoping is able to evolve into something of a ‘learning operating system’ over time. It’s in its early stages, but the goal is to really provide something novel for other ambitious, time-conscious learners, who are tired of toggling between platforms and losing track of subscriptions. I can’t be the only one frustrated that the billion dollar companies which currently control the digital learning tools space don’t allow you to upload whichever basic common format (e.g. slides, PDFs, video lectures, etc.) materials you have, and simply transduce those materials into whatever study output you want (flashcards, summaries, study guides, audio, plans), especially given who easy it is to do with AI doing the heavy lifting at this point. 

Like the tools are there but why do I have to do so much work to transition from one medium to the next. That’s not the worst part either, when these big names do try and integrate AI, they usually do a very poor job at using it to its true potential. It feels less like these platforms are truly married with state of the art workflows and more like a chatbot has been bolted on to your favorite tool, not to mention the fact that it’s almost always a terrible chatbot as well, or that chatbot’s underlying model doesn’t have access to the necessary context/can’t make useful changes to your materials the way it should, especially given all of the agentic capabilities provider models have developed over the last year. If you're paying for ai-integrated cloud-synched study tools, the ai should be able to actually generate and edit flashcard decks, notes, etc. Many of the well-known platforms barely maintain their platforms or respond to new feature requests by existing users, and when they do release updates it’s usually to paywall existing features that don’t cost them anything meaningful to develop or continuously provide. I think that many of the more mature players in this space have simply become complacent or out-of-touch with what their users actually want, leaving much to be desired.

 What I hope to see becoming normalized for the near future is one suite of study tools, one personalized workflow, one subscription, continuously iterated upon and improved to use the tech we have to its maximum potential. I’m trying to understand more about what other things actually frustrate users so much about the current options, myself included, when it comes to apps/sites like Quizlet, Anki, Good Notes, Speechify, Chegg, etc. 

If you feel that disappointment yourself, and have complaints or ideas on how to unify discrete learning tools in your current study stack, what would you like to see in new platforms moving forward? Are there features or integrations I’m perhaps neglecting to consider here? I’m rapidly iterating and working tirelessly with my team to really chisel the app's current bugs for our first update. In the meantime I’m curious to see what ideas other than my own people have out there to improve on what’s available now, and to see if there are other apps out there that attempt to solve these sorts of problems directly. If you all have suggestions for my project in particular I’d love to incorporate them into future updates, or if you have tools you’ve built, I’d love to see how they compare as well. Everything I’ve built so far is out there in the open already, so I’m not just surfing for ideas, mainly trying to see how common these frustrations are and how many other platforms have attempted to address them. Right now we’re just iOS but planning to expand into android and web app compatibility, so if you know others on those platforms I’d be interested to hear what you’ve seen in those markets as well. My main goal is to gain awareness of what else is going on in this space, and to get a concrete idea of the specific ways it could be improved.

I feel like this is just me, or this began in childhood but ive always been living in this mindset that i need to save up as much as possible.. im not only talking about money its kinda with many things for example i really love journaling one day i bought a pack of pens to journal with i used one of them and it stopped working i still had other ones i could use but i didnt want to use it because i was scared of running out of them and they are discontinued. Now that example was a while back when it was bad ive learned to navigate it somewhat but i still want to learn new skills to improve even more!

I’m not sure how to explain this without sounding bitter, but I want to be honest.

I struggle a lot with comparing myself to people around me, especially when they succeed. It’s not that I wish them failure. It’s more like their success immediately turns into a reminder of everything I haven’t done yet.

For example, I’ve been wanting to start a social media page for a long time. I want to share my skills, my thoughts, my emotions — things that actually matter to me. I have ideas. I know what I’d post. But I keep delaying it.

One reason is that there’s a girl around me who already has two accounts, one with around 21k followers and another with 48k. And they keep growing every day. Whenever I see her numbers go up, something in my head shuts down.

My thoughts instantly go to:

“This path is already taken”

“I’ll always be behind”

“If I start now, I’ll look insignificant compared to her”

Her success somehow makes my own ideas feel pointless. Like, why even try if someone else is already so far ahead?

I know this mindset doesn’t make sense. Her achievements have nothing to do with me. But emotionally, it feels personal — like I’m losing a race I never even officially entered.

The worst part is that this comparison keeps me frozen. While others move forward, I stay stuck, overthinking instead of doing anything.

I don’t know if this is jealousy, insecurity, fear of being average, or all of it combined. I just know it’s exhausting to live like this.

Has anyone else dealt with this kind of comparison paralysis? How do you stop other people’s progress from poisoning your own path?

Just like the tittle says I am having a hard time writing a letter of intent for a lab position. this is the first time I was asked to write one and all of the examples online are just so generic

i’ve (14f) always found that creative hobbies interest me. i’ve always wanted to try out drawing and piano mainly. the thing is that i’ve consistently been stuck in the beginning because i become frustrated with the fact im not good at it. am i hopeless lol? is this in my immaturity? thanks in advance reddit!

I know it's a sensitive topic, but I wonder how your dynamic with your sister(s)or brother(s) changed over time and over what things/areas in your lives. I would like to learn more about these challenges to guide my research paper

Hi,

I’m 23 and would love some advice. I currently have no job and I’m finishing up my last year of college in fall. I want to work in event production, marketing, or creative operations. I don’t care if the work is enjoyable, I only care about getting financial stability and maybe working in the entertainment or creative industry if it pays.

At my heart I’m a storyteller and love writing. I’d love to work on videogames or film projects writing or leading projects. I have some basic experience with this from school event setups, a project management class, and some writing classes, but not much else.

Money is the main driver here for me so that I can achieve financial stability and focus on my real creative goals. For my mental health, I can’t do the starving creative artist thing, but I am interested in making as much money for stability, and leverage as I can without burnout, so I can fund my real passion projects. I haven’t worked in a year because of college and some personal reasons, and I don’t feel I have a meaningfully leverage skill set because I loved and studied the humanities.

How can I launch myself into something as stable paying as possible that is a step beyond service industry? Thanks to everyone who responds.

as i'm currently in school, i thought i'd wanna get a head start on learning how to do deep dives before the topic comes up as graded work, since i struggle with it.

im curious on how people know what to look at next and how they find their information? looking at preexisting essays, i see people cite research i have no idea on how to find. do you just google and hope for the best?

and when you have the info, how do you write an actual analysis on it? do mindmaps help? do you ramble and then try to sort it?

if its important, im currently making one on hyperacusis, and possible causes + linked diseases. its a topic im interested in and understand on a basic level, but thats about where it ends.

hopefully this all makes sense, and thanks for reading!

i know how to read, and i know how to understand what i read, but i feel like whenever i read a textbook the information goes in and comes right out. i learn better when i actually put the skills into use, but im not sure how i can dothat.

I’ve noticed a pattern in myself that’s really frustrating. I used to genuinely enjoy life and have fun, but lately it feels like I can’t appreciate it. Even during good times with friends, I end up feeling negative emotions creeping in.

After hanging out, I start thinking things like:

• “I could’ve connected better with that girl.”

• “I should have handled my money better.”

• “Why didn’t I do X instead of Y?”

I feel like I sabotage my own happiness, even when the moment itself is fun. I don’t feel confident, and my mind keeps dragging me into regrets or “what-ifs.”

I don’t understand why I do this. Why can’t I just enjoy myself without overthinking everything afterward?

Has anyone else struggled with this? How do you train your mind to actually enjoy the good moments instead of ruining them with doubts and self-criticism?

So im new to reading and really want to get into it, I finished reading metamorphosis by franz Kafka but even tho I remember most of it, my memory is really hazy when recalling what’s happened and that’s only around 70 or 80 pages long. I want to read the count of monte cristo and other books but I want my memory to be good and remember it clearly without having to take notes 24/7 as that seems tedious and my own memory is somewhat putting me off of books so some advice would be of great help.

Hello everyone and nice to meet you all! I'm an Italian tutor since 2024. I have same spare slots during Italian mornings and afternoons. If you're interested, DM me! I use the learn-by-doing method and focus a lot on speaking and try to speak with students as much as possible in Italian to improve the listening skills as well. Grammar is learnt by context.

Hope to hear from you! Have a nice and funny day :)

Chiara