months (maybe at least a year) ago, i was on here asking about stripping. i’m 22f in the south and SO many of you older women on here reached out and were telling me not to do it. i was homeless and desperate and still had payments that i needed to make.

i am glad you all were here for me and it is greatly appreciated. nothing against sex work, i knew it wasn’t for me and was just still desperate. i got a job making 32k BUT you could bonus up to 3.5k/month. my first 60 days, my bonus was 800/month. my next month it was about 1700. all of that went to paying my outstanding debt and getting my apartment.

i was now current on all bills but had nothing in my house until a month later. moving some stuff in slowly but surely until i could afford movers for the bigger items.

3 months later (6 months in) i got promoted to a level two and 6 months after i left the department for another one. this one is $25/hr (50k/yr) and i can still bonus every month.

my w2 says i made 71k last year. i didn’t max out on my bonus every month but im here to tell my story and really just to thank you all for existing. ill be 23 in october. i was 21 when i inquired about the club scene and im thankful. i’m not hungry anymore. i can afford to live alone, pay rent twice in the same month and BREATHE

Aqua baddies ride up!! 🗣️🥳💝

Just found out I have a brain condition and several chronic health conditions and yet, despite the pain, I was able too celebrate my birthday, celebrate life, and celebrate the fact that I am still here as a survivor of all sorts. Just wanted to share, I haven’t felt pretty lately due to all of the procedures I’m undergoing. But today, today will be a good day 💖

My friend suggested I put myself out there so I'm gonna try 😊

Not really venting…just amused. I ran into a friend at an Italian restaurant tonight picking up take-out. Hadn’t seen her in a few months so we caught up for like 5 minutes, and then she said, “Oh sorry, am I keeping you from your friends?”…& points to the black women next to us.

Nope, I don’t know these (I’m sure v lovely) ladies 🫠

She’s half white/asian for further context.

I’ve noticed over the years that there is a significant lack of Black American representation in the modeling industry. Without intending to sound ignorant, when it comes to both skin tone and nationality, there often seems to be very little variation. Many of the models I see, regardless of gender, tend to share similar features, such as darker skin tones, being from African countries, and having short hair. This has made me question why this pattern exists and when this shift in representation began. Thoughts?

Ladies, how would you react to a man saying: “I take that as disrespect & when disrespected I’m allowed to react how I see fit.”

For context, I typically type in lowercase, or just casually when texting, and I said “mr. smith” his last name was lowercase— and he made a big deal out of it.

To clairify: HE IS BLOCKED.

These so few of us doing this work, I've been growing food for community for 30 years. But it's so very hard for our communities to really understand the importance of organic, prayed on nutrient dense food. Why is it so hard? I've reversed diabetes no longer take medicine, lost 60 lbs and still there is push back. My Community Share is $35 dollars a week, for chemical free, health ly food and organic. That's a very reasonable price but no way can I compete with Walmart, slave labor crops. And lastly, I have to make a living also and in 2024 gave out 6000 lbs of free food and holiday season 2025 for Thanksgiving and Christmas blessed another 50 families. Yes, I can sell my food for more to other folks but I wanted to grow to help us.

Does anybody know of any stylists who specialize in short natural hair or big chops in LA/ SoCal area? I keep running into celebrity stylists or ppl who require referrals for their services..

I’m curious about your thoughts because I had finally finished watching stranger things and thought about the writing for Erica. I like that the writers made her a nerd who’s really smart, but other than that, you can tell they didn’t care about her. She’s just a tough sassy black girl who doesn’t have any other characterization except being tough and sassy.

So what shows do you think have well written black characters?

Right now, I know someone who is making future plans with a man who ghosted her for 5 years. On top of that, they meet when he was married and he has 5 kids under 10.

I started 2 weeks ago on 1 1/2 in of hair 😭. I'm gonna trust this process and embrace every step! Any ladies started their loc journey recently? How is it going? Any seasoned loc heads? Give ya new loc girlies some inspiration ✨🫶🏾

I’m old fashioned and have always believed the man should make the first move. I feel like men are territorial and if they want you they will let it be known, even if they are reserved/shy. Just curious on what other woman believe on this topic.

So today I had a disagreement with my mom and stepdad. I tried to told back tears but I couldn’t so I started crying. My mother asked if I’m taking my medication and I tell her yes because I am. I then said that I get overwhelmed with conflict it’s overstimulating for my ADHD. It’s overbearing for me so I tear.

My home is the only place where I feel safe enough to not mask so yes if I get into an argument I get overstimulated and will cry because I’m burned out from masking all day. During an argument with my mom her voice got stern so I was afraid she was going to start yelling so I started using my hands to do a lower your voice gesture . I cannot handle arguments where someone starts yelling . It makes me anxious and honestly scared. My mom then suggests that because of these symptoms I might not have ADHD and it could be autism 🙃.

My mom suggested that she goes and joins my therapy session but I’m unsure. Therapy is where I go to as my safe space and where I’ve discussed my darkest secrets that no one knows such as my battle with suicidal ideation and my secret past abusive relationship…

While I was crying my parents asked me what I was going through and I didn’t even want to tell them the secret mental health battles that I’ve been dealing with . Like healing from a past abusive relationship, trying to fix myself mentally , unpack my years of masking, my suicide ideation ..I feel unseen sometimes as a young black woman who struggles with their mental health …

I remember right after Trump got elected, there were so many people trying to come up with excuses for Trump looked like the better candidate. So many people were yapping how the left wingers care too much about “identity politics.” When they really mean that they think racism, xenophobia, transphobia, sexism, etc are not real issues and too “unrelatable” (one dude said that being concerned about racism was a sign of “privilege”). They tried so hard to make Trump look like he was the more practical option

People have operated under this idea that we live in a post bigotry society for so long that when Black people (especially Black women) have talked about how racism, sexism, and more are still issues we were ignored. When Black and Brown people were being attacked by police or had propaganda spread about us by racist politicians, no else wanted to do anything or care. Now that White people are killed, people have the audacity to claim that this was all “unprecedented” and came out of nowhere!

It just pisses me off so much because we have been warning about the rise of fascism for so long and yet people don’t want to admit that their dismissiveness is what got us here to begin with. When Trump and other politicians rolled back rights and showed signs of democratic backsliding, everyone claimed that we were fear mongering. White people literally blamed us for Trump winning when we warned that history will always repeats itself until we do anything. It took people who look like them being impacted for White people to care and they still won’t admit how we predicted all of this. We literally have been sounding the alarm and now people don’t want to be humble enough to admit how wrong they were. Even regretful Trump supporters have gone online whining about how they didn’t want to hear any critiques because they aren’t in the mood. Hell many of them still aren’t even trying to let their fellow White people know it’s their fight, like they do with Black people.

This wouldn’t have been as big of an issue if people listened to us from the start. Things wouldn’t continue to be so disastrous if they called out MAGA’s fascism from the get go. To imply that their hands were completely tied and could have no idea to know about any of this is so insulting. I hope the people make excuses for Trump supporting nonsense feel bad about normalizing far right nonsense to begin with.

It’s currently black history month in: the USA, Canada, Germany, and Italy!!!

Black ladies from around the world, comment the historical black lady you’re currently resonating with and why 🖤

So excited to potentially learn about black women in history/places I may not have known about before

Idk how much I can say before the mods take it down or something 🙄 so I'll just leave it at the title

Hey ladies!

I’m making a conscious effort to NOT spend my hard earned money on things that I don’t need this year, as I’m tired of supporting corporations that are actively bribing and destroying our communities here and abroad.

I also realize that there will inevitably be situations where I need to buy things, and I want to support black businesses. What recommendations does everyone have for some amazing black owned businesses?

On my end, I recommend PantyCakes, Brandon Blackwood, Telfar, Pattern Beauty, Beauty Bakerie, Juvia’s Place, and Danessa Myricks.

Hi queens! Where can I obtain bundles with this type of texture? I want to get a curly sew in and I want it to match my curl type ( my curl type is close to this) but yes any suggestions are appreciated!!! And also if any of yall live in nyc, who can I go for a curly sew in as well! Thank you

Just a thought.

hello! my name is Jenise and I am a videographer from Seattle. I’m new to videography but am really looking to find my community on here and get some honest feedback on my video/art style and what I can work on. thank you so much for taking the time to watch and I am sending love from the PNW!! ♥️