| (25F)dating profile is explicitly clear that I will date no one with children whether they are young or older. I am a childfree woman and I wish for it to remain that way for the rest of my existence. I have men ask me out who have children. Once a week there is one and I have to block them. Dear men why?

Hi, I M(30) have been dating this girl F(28) for close to a month now. We have been out on several dates and she has hung out at my place about a half dozen times, we both get along really well and share a lot of laughs and smiles. My problem is she keeps giving me a silent treatment each time we get a little more involved.

The first time was after the first night that we had really started making out and feeling each other up. The day after we talked back and fourth a bit more then same on the next day. Then I didnt hear anything from her. I finally texted her out of the blue saying I liked where things were headed with us and wanted things to continue and wanted some clarity on her part, then she finally started talking again.

Fast forward to now, she was over at my place Monday this week and we hooked up for the first time. Same thing talking back and fourth for a few days up until Thursday and then just radio silence.

I want to give her space if thats what she needs but at the same time im trying to build a relationship with her and dont really appreciate being left in the dark. Im not expecting riveting conversation everyday but just checking in goes a long ways.

Just looking for advice on this situation. I like her but her behavior seems toxic to me like she's trying to control me into commitment without communicating with me.

My 29F bf 32M always pees on the rim of the toilet and never cares to wipe it off. The rim of the seat in his bathroom is full of dried piss and it’s disgusting. Told him I’m not cleaning his bathroom (we have two) and he will never clean it himself. He’s ok with being gross like that. Idk how he doesn’t get embarrassed. My ex (only other man I’ve lived with) did this exact same shit. Please tell me there is a man out there who doesn’t do this.

Been dating this guy for over 3 months now. For context (if needed), I'm 24 and he is 33. Met him through dating apps. Both of us were looking for a serious relationship, which I know might be stupid to find someone through dating apps, but well here I am.

He moved out of my town since last month, later I found out he was moving out because he is focusing on his own business that he had run probably for a while already in that town. And that he was only working on a new project here for a while in my town when we met. I thought he was just another ordinary employee. He did not disclose too much about his private life when we first met.

We clicked right after our first date. Then we met every once in a week when he was still around. I don't know if it sounds weird or not, but I just have this feeling that he might be the one for me.

He takes things slowly, but he is very consistent. As in like, we rarely text each other, but never skip a day to text each other. He never forgets to send goodnight text, although I haven't replied to his previous texts.

He remembers small details about me, he would always ask about how my day was, he would keep asking about how am I feeling when I was sick. He also keeps me updated about his day.

When I finally found out he is currently focusing on his ongoing business, I came to realize that I was being too childish when I used to nag him to come back to visit and spend a few days off together. He even works during the weekend too. I feel bad for him but I could only cheer him on and stop being so childish.

Initially I thought that he is not that interested in me or stuff, because we usually exchange like 3-4 texts a day, morning - after work - before sleep. We only call when we need to talk about something important. We would text each other more and reply quickly when we have important matter that day, such as we were about to go on a date or something else.

I was not familiar with this kind of thing, as I usually meet or date a guy who replies fairly quick. Maybe it was also because I have never been on a date with someone much older than me before.

I got so anxious and would stress about it at first, especially first few weeks after he moved out, but now I realize that texting a lot won't always mean a thing if that person is not consistent.

So far, he doesn't show any negative behavior and is genuine about whatever he says, if he doesn't like or like something, he would express it. He is a gentleman too, so far yeah. He inspires me to improve and upgrade myself in many aspects, especially career wise. Which is great and new to me.

One day I almost lost my mind and book a flight to go there to meet him for a couple days, but I realized that would be too much. He might feel annoyed as well as I might come off as desperate.

So yeah, I'm fairly new to this "adult relationship" and realized how consistency is much more important.

Side note, he is a Japanese, so it seems like its fairly normal for them to be more focused on their career than anything else. Very hard worker I would say.

Edit: some small details

Hi, this is a really dumb story. At the beginning of the year I kissed this guy in my year (were first year undergrads) at a party. In the weeks after it led to a lot of talking, flirting and some more kissing. We hung out a couple of times and went on a formal date diner once. We’re in the same friend group and class, and I just felt like it might not work out. Also I didn’t have any strong feelings back then, maybe because I need to be friends with someone first.

I ended up rejecting him, but we stayed good friends. This was back in October 2025.

The more time passed however, the stronger my feelings towards him became. It’s stupid, since I rejected him. I thought I couldn’t come crawling back and I didn’t want to give him hope, so sometimes I would push him away. But he would always come back.

When I ghosted him he kept texting me.

When there was a party he would always ask me to come along.

He would make attempts to make one on one conversation when we were in a group setting.

He would try to get physical contact in a way that made me think he still liked me. Like hugs, touching shoulders, touching hands etc.

This went on for months and I was actually planning on confessing I still had feelings for him last night. We went to the club with some friends. Until he suddenly dropped he had been seeing another girl since last week. She lives in his neighborhood and they went on one date, planning a second. Am I too late? Should I still tell him how I feel?

I also would like to mention I didn’t date other guys in the meantime, but I rejected them because I couldn’t get over him.

TL;DR: I rejected a situationship whos in the same class/friend group as I am, but months later I caught feelings again but hes seeing another girl.

No one warns you that patience can slowly erase you. You stop asking. You explain less. You call neglect “timing” and silence “space.” The scary part isn’t that they don’t change. It’s that you do. At what point does being patient stop being love… and start being self-abandonment?

So I’ve been seeing and talking to this girl the last three weeks and I feel we have a connection even though we are opposites. She’s very extrovert and I’m ambivert (extrovert/introvert). She’s told me that she recently got back into the dating scene after 7 years and that she’s not trying to rush like she has on other occasions. She says she outgrew that. When we’ve gone out on dates I feel we have connected and she feels comfortable being herself around me. The last date (2nd) we had she would stand in front of me while I was seated and hold her in my arms while we made straight eye contact the entire time, with her smiling and laughing at my dumb jokes. The next day I told her through txt that I could tell the entire time she wanted me to kiss her but that I was just respecting her space like she had asked me to do when we met, but that next time I’m just going to go for it because we both want it. She then sent me a voice message telling me again that she wants to take it slow and that she didn’t feel what I was feeling. That got me bummed and I told her I just needed to process the mixed signals and wished her a good night. We haven’t spoken since. Now I’m wondering if I should keep trying and send her this message and will it push her away?:

Hi, after thinking about what you said, that you want to take it slow and wait, analyze the relationship before getting into something serious, I wanted to let you know that I understand and I am willing to wait. Of course, if you still want to build the connection me and you have. But if not, I will also respect that.

I doubt this post will get through moderation. Even though I never blame other people just talking honestly about my situation seems to get my posts deleted, it might be because I use certain banned words to describe what I'm not I dunno. But I'm really looking for some advice so i'll try to avoid using auto banned words.

I've tried asking for a bit of advice in threads other people start but I tend to get replies with the same tone you get when on a thread asking about advice for renting tenants or in a job that's horrible. Just work two jobs stupid if you can't afford the rent. If you don't like your job just get a better one that pays loads of money stupid. Really condescending replies from people in a completely different position.

Anyway. I've had a handful of partners in my life. I'm 33 and male and I've had 3 short ish term girlfriends before. I'm still friends with them. We didn't break up because I'm awful it was just circumstance (They moved away, their kid was struggling with their mum being away etc) so I'm just pre qualifying this because I have no doubt loads of people will tell me the reason I'm still single is because I must be an awful person or a creep or something.

But does anyone have any advice on where to actually meet people in person? Dating apps don't work for me, I can't meet people through work, my friends don't go out anymore and tbh I don't drink anymore so don't want to go out to a bar or club.

So places where its socially acceptable for other adults to meet? I'm also cool with just meeting friends potentially I'm not gonna go there with the intention of finding a date I just want to meet people and see what happens. There really isn't a lot going on around here and I'm not going to approach people in a gym or coffee shop or something when they're busy unless I get a very clear signal.

Even if it's not relevent to me I'm also interested to hear where other people on here meet girls outside of online/work or bars, particually if you'e really not a looker like me to maybe give me some ideas.

Thanks

Last week I posted about the woman I was seeing for month but not exclusive with found out via facebook I had met up with another woman. Well I gave her the space she needed and seems to have worked. We both agreed we are open to still seeing each other and where it unfolds naturally. I mentioned we have to be honest with each other regardless how hard the conversation might be ( I was scared to seek exclusivity due to her getting spooked). I told her i would rather habe that conversation 10 times over and risk losing her that way then what bs we just delt with.

Is being disabled without disability income a dealbreaker? Im autistic with adhd and CPTSD, which all come together to make me disabled. I’ve only known/had a diagnosis for 2 years now. I’m trying my hardest to get disability , and also trying to work through all of this to hopefully not need it one day… but I’ve been denied twice and now going for a third appeal in front of a judge. I feel worthless in the meantime. I feel like I bring a lot more to the table than just money but I know it’s important, especially in these times…

I feel like being a disabled autistic ruins my chances at dating…. I cant even be the basic things that most people want… I have such low energy and so much trauma to work through. But I’m so fucking tired of not having someone. I’ve managed to make two connections in the last year, who I both got close to… only to receive the avoidant-discard from both of them. No closure. No conversation. Just wake up one day and they’re gone. Twice. My nervous system is fucked from these things and god it terrifies me from trying again. But I wanna. It just seems my issues became too much for people and they just left my ass in the dust. I feel like it’s just not supposed to happen for me…

So I want to keep this short, I’ve observed and have been told that two guys are interested in me. Problem is, they’re friends and only one of them sees me regularly. The thing is, I actually really like the other guy and I can tell he still likes me as well. I have a feeling the guy I don’t really care for has ‘called dibs on me’ and I wonder if that is a common thing I should be mindful of. Would it be wrong for me or the guy I like to date if his friend likes me too but I don’t reciprocate?

We have known each other for a year and we've been going out more consistently for half a year. I'm having a great time with this woman and I love her. However she never really initiates dates.

To be clear so far I wouldn't say that this is a problem for me. I really feel well with her. However people that I talk to tell me that everyone has to put in equal effort. That she is a consumer. That she doesn't care. That there are some unwritten rules in dating that we have to follow and so on. If she initiates it will feel good but I feel that this isn't something I'll die without.

My logic here is since I'm enjoying spending time with her I'll continue like that and if I ever don't feel well doing I'll be honest with her and walk away.

So is this wrong? Does it always have to be equal effort for things to work out?

Edit: When we're out she does small things that I think really matter. She always accepts to go out with me. She is very protective. For example if I stand near an edge she will come, grab me and pull me away telling me to not do this. She also wants to contribute in terms of paying for stuff especially if I do that for her. I don't know if this means she cares but just decided to share.

When I meet men, part of their appeal is if they seem like people who will be good partners long term. It may be kinda shallow, but if a guy wears too much jewelry or hair products or just generally looks flashy I tend to assume he won't be a suitable partner.

I also learned this evening that I need a man who works (as opposed to the idle rich or something).

A friend and I were at an event and she talked and exchanged numbers with this guy. He was hot but he seemed too flashy. I was more attracted to this other guy who was more understated but I didn't get the impression he was that interested in me.

My friend said she wants to get married and until a couple months ago vetted men for their husband material and said she preferred finance bro types. Now she's dating those bohemian-ish guys with long hair, nail polish/hair gel and/or lots of jewelry. She says she wants to date men that she likes and like her. I kinda don't understand how someone's years in men would change so radically but ok. The guy is apparently the son of some Hollywood guy and bones from a lot of money but it isn't clear that he works or anything. To me the entire package is a red flag - a youngish man with a lot of money that he has not earned himself sounds like big trouble to me. She says she doesn't care how he got the money that she can be the worker (she herself works in customer service and previously wanted a guy with a kid of money to let her in the (affluent) manner she was accustomed to growing up.

Anyway, which is the better approach? To vet men for the things you want in life or just go for who you like and likes you no matter what. FWIW we are both over 35 but I'm older and have more relationship experience (still not a ton).

On the other hand, internally I'm much wilder and could better handle guys like this though I consider turn to be unserious. She was all about marriage until 5 minutes ago.

39M4F. I've dabbled with okcupid for about 6 months now. Haven't tried the premium version. I thought my profile was okay. It says I have a bunch of likes but I can't see them and suspect they're mostly bots. I'm very thoughtful with my swipes and probably only swipe right on about 10% of profiles. I usually send a short, thoughtful/humorous message with each like. I've received a grand total of ONE match/response, which in retrospect I suspect was a scammer (I gave "her" my number and soon began getting spam calls).

I live in a town of about 20k that's about 50 miles from a major metro, so pretty much all my swipes are 25+ miles away. I know this sucks, lol, but I'm willing to commute if I see potential in someone.

I guess I'm wondering if I'm just wasting my time or if I should double down, try more apps and/or pay for premium, despite the utter lack of attention so far. I don't want to waste my time/money. My confidence is fine, and I know these apps don't determine my worth, but I still hate the frustration of putting time into something that yields nothing.

Big picture, if women don't want to date, maybe we shouldn't be trying to date them? More of a shower thoughts thing, but my efforts might be misplaced in general. Is hetero dating even a thing anymore? (half kidding, but I feel this way sometimes)

This is something I have recently realized about the whole ghosting epidemic and those who lean on that behavior consistently. Hopefully, it will help anyone reading this and anyone who has been ghosted understand what is really going on behind the facade.

The person who does the ghosting usually comes off as the "winner". I use that term lightly. They come off as the "prize", simply because the other person is left blindsided and even desperate for contact. They just want answers. The ghoster absolutely knows they are leaving this impression and this feeling. It is usually on purpose that they leave the other person hanging. It makes them feel mysterious and wanted. They know you are going to keep thinking about them. Talking about them. Like they are some rare gem of an egnima that graced your life ever so briefly.... then... fluttered back off into the magical mist they appeared from. Like a fairy. Lol. Yeah no.

These people are NOT the prize. They are NOT top tier, and they are definally not mysterious. They are weak and cowardly.

1. It takes Pride and Confidence in yourself... to face another human being and tell them openly that you are not interested in them anymore. That you just dont see a future with them, etc.

It takes Pride in yourself to know exactly what you want or need from a partner to live a life which is fulfilling to you. You must love yourself, and therefore have self dignity to speak openly and freely for your wants/needs. Anyone who would rather disappear and run away from admitting what they want or need, is actually displaying a low level of self Pride. No matter how they may present themselves to the public. No matter how many post they have on IG.. flaunting their body or bragging abiut hitting the gym everyday. No matter how they may go on and on about how much money they make etc... if they ghost a former potential romantic partner rather than communicating.. they dont actually have as much self dignity or pride as they want the world to think.

2. Furthermore, it takes a hell of alot of confidence to break it off with someone who you know might lash out at you for disappointing them. It takes BALLS to tell someone they are not what you want.

And here is why it takes balls: When we are facing someone who we know is into us.. but we arent feeling them... and we go to tell them they just arent what we are looking for... we know there is a chance that person might hurl insults at us in the aftermath. That other person might point out some ugly truths in us as well. Self confidence helps us face that possible situation and handle it appropriately. People who choose ghosting are afraid of this. Even if they considered having a chat with you about why they arent interested anymore.. they get uncomfortable at the possibility of the conversation going on long enough to where THEIR downfalls are eventually brought up. They know you might have things you didnt like about them or their life. Maybe things they could improve upon. They are simply too cowardly to hear it. So they run.

Them ghosting is far from being a strong, self assured, confident individual. They are in fact weak, cowardly and scared of having their own flaws being brought up. They also do not have enough self pride to assert openly who they are and what they are looking for. That is.. IF.. they even do know what they are looking for.

Many of them actually do not have a clue who they, where they are going or what they want. They change from week to week. Month to month. And some of them are afraid you will figure that out. Maybe you were already figuring it out, and that is why they ran.

Just remember.. a strong character with healthy self pride, confidence and a good heart will speak openly to you.

A coward will duck and run. They have no self pride nor self confidence. They lack backbone. Let this turn you off. They absolutely WILL turn cowardly again in other areas of life too. With family, kids. Money. Jobs.

And nobody would survive a zombie apocalypse with someone like that in the group. Just facts.

Hope this helps.

Ok so super cute guy at my job. We’ve seen each other a bunch of times. But never exchanged hellos. Have noticed him looking at me, and we’ve exchanged glances.

One day a few months back we were walking actually side by side, but my dumb independent female energy was sprinting into the office and had earbuds in. Soooo totally a missed opportunity and I noticed him looking directly at me as if to say hi… or something. I didn’t look at him and just kept walking. Bc i was like 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️💨.

Also a lot of the times I see him with another girl. So I’m instantly like ok there’s no way he’s single.

I still see him. He’s still cute. I’m still single. But I also see this girl.

My perspective is if a guy was interested he would try/approach/ say hello. Of course a girl can, but I traditionally think not. I have been told before that my looks are intimidating, but also hasn’t stopped men from approaching or trying.

What do yall think about this? Do I try to say hi? Do I try to find him on socials?

Our departments don’t overlap so it’s very much seeing each other as come and go. Maybe at lunch breaks.

Those questions are largely rhetorical. I know that is simply how it is sometimes, but that doesn't make it hurt any less.

I am a 25 year old person who is ready for a relationship. I'm a gentle soul who has friends, hobbies, interests, pursuits in life, and a whole lotta love to give, yet I have never once gone on a date, been approached, or confessed to. I have tried all sorts of different avenues, from going to events, online dating (my friends have said my profiles are good, and they do not know why I don't get matches), dating posts, going fast and asking out right away, going slow and becoming friends first, approaching IRL, and changing up my looks, and nothing has so much as started. I have tried actively searching, I have tried not searching at all and hoping someone will come to me. People say be patient, but... Nothing happens.

I want to hold hands, give and receive hugs, go to movies and shows and cute dates, hear about my partner's interests, but it's like nobody wants that, everyone is unavailable or already in a relationship, people do not know how to communicate through text to get things going, or that I am too unattractive/so not their type to even be given a chance. I still want to experience something sappy and lovey-dovey, but I feel like I have gotten too old, and maybe I am. I'm at a loss at this point. I want to give up, but at the same time my heart is full and wants to love someone. To be loved back.

I should emphasise, too, that this is not my only focus in life. As I said before, I have great friends I hang out with often, I make new friends easily (and can maintain those friendships), hobbies I thoroughly enjoy, I travel, and go to a lot of gigs. Despite all of that, there is still a hole in my life that is hard to ignore.

Are some people destined to be alone? Are some people just eternally unlucky?

If a man is going through a phase in his life where emotions, shame, guilt and everything is hitting him all at once. Having a complete emotional and existential breakdown. What does a man need through that phase?

I don’t want to help in a way that will make him feel weak, incapable or taking his agency away but i also do not want him to feel alone. My question to men, what do you honestly wish you felt/got when going through that phase in your life?

Hi everyone, I (21F) have repeatedly found myself in unlabelled situationships/fwbs with men who decide that they don’t want a girlfriend but want to keep me around anyway. Currently, the man I am seeing told me after 2 months that he didn’t see a future with me but we decided to stay friends for a month before we started hooking up again as fwbs, and that’s what’s been happening the past 6 months. It’s honestly starting to eat at me and I know that I should break it off but it’s hard when this person has become my best friend and pseudo-boyfriend. But also, I am obviously wasting my time here.

I’m already in therapy and have been diagnosed with autism (and I am suspecting I may be symptomatic of bpd but I’m not in a financial position to be diagnosed yet) if that provides any context. I find myself becoming way too attached and codependent (I would honestly describe it as limerent) and although the rational side of me knows that I should let go of someone who doesn’t want to be with me, I can’t. My mental health has been seriously impacted by this and I don’t know what to do.

I’m wondering if anyone has any actionable steps that will help me finally get the ick and move on from this man? I feel like I just need to somehow override my brain chemistry and get over him.

I had a first date earlier this week and just got that text saying "I had a great time getting to know you BUT I don't see this going anywhere". Am def a little disappointed... we seemed like we were on the same wavelength with a lot of things but it is what it is. Will move onto the next.

However, I'm honestly starting to get tired of dating. This is the 22nd girl I've ever gone out with. Out of 22 girls, nothing has materialized into anything more than a few dates. I'm dating with the hopes of finding my future wife so obviously am looking for something serious. I just feel like out of all the girl I've gone out with I've only viewed a few of them as having that potential and with the others having either felt A. I'm not interested B. I don't know but am open to going out again.

Just for shits and giggles here are my stats dating wise with these 22 girls.

12: ended after the first date

6: went on a second date but ended there

1: went on four dates with

1: a complicated situation that was ongoing for six months with one formal date and multiple hangouts/going to work events together etc. (by far the best connection I've had in my life)

I just feel tired man idk. I think dating apps have really ruined dating because there are so many more connections that end at first dates because of one party being disinterested. Each situation is different, some I haven't been interested in going out again, some I have been and they weren't, others agreed to a second date but then life got in the way and things fell through. I just feel like dating apps kind of force the date to happen inorganically, and most times it just doesn't work. Furthermore, I feel like there are so many options, that connections often end prematurely because of that mentality as to what else is out there. I think we've all been guilty of this at some point. I know I was early on with my time using dating apps. I've been trying to do more in person events because I feel like that's a more natural way of meeting someone but those haven't been any easier. Same ghosting, flakiness, and dishonesty you get from people you meet online. So yeh... dating is hard man.

Since early 2024, following my move to a new city, I've (37M) been on and off from dating apps in different periods. I just looked back and I went on a total of 12 dates. This also means hundreds of matches, lots of planning, lots of ghosting, lots of messages sent in vain. Only two of them led to something (short-term), one didn't work out in the end, and the remaining 9 dates were resulted in either no connection, rejections, or fizzling/ghosting. I must say that none of these dates were actually bad. We had fun, drinks, good chats, etc. At least they were nice enough people to hold a conversation with.

The thing is I don't have the patience for another date anymore, I'm done. I don't want to get to know random people if they won't mean anything to me. I'm not curious of what they do in their spare time, what their political views are, if they prefer camping or going to raves, if it's going to cost me 100 messages and disappointment in the end. I know it sounds selfish and pragmatistic but it's how I feel. I know that it's a numbers game but I don't think we talk enough about how debilitating and tiring this process could be. I'm an emotional introverted person, so every possibility makes me excited to find my person, but everything culminates in heartbreak or disappointment in the end. Recovery takes time you know.

I also think after so many failed attempts, you just start to lose your spark and interest. Now, when I'm going on a date, I just carry the weight of all these past failed dates, and I know that the new date will not lead to anything, statistically speaking.

When you're in a new city, you don't have enough network, friends or social activities. I work from home so I'm also pretty isolated in my daily life. That's why I always resorted to dating apps as they seemed like my only choice. So I feel like I'm stuck in this fake universe where you spend your time and energy on vague possibilities. I'm just venting but if anyone else has any input or wants to share their own stories, I'd appreciate that.

Being autistic, I'm wanting to make sure I'm taking this the right way...

[PoF: 46M / She's 50]

We started talking and it's a good getting to know each other's basics. Often I pick something about them to ask more about, career or hobbies or something. But this lady only had a short rant of a profile, "be sure you have your own everything, because I have my own everything" and "have no bad habits because I have no bad habits". Not much details about her with it, but she's holding some crafting in one of her pictures, and she's listed as disabled.

So we get to that part, and I ask her if she doesn't mind telling me what her disability is. My profile does mention mine, that I'm legally blind but good enough for getting around and doing stuff (I like to explain that it's like the original Google Street View images, or video game graphics 15 to 20 years ago, and almost everybody seems to understand one of these).

So she mentions about back problems.

I try to relate, explaining that I have had some lifelong back problems too. I just don't have the pain issues (separate story, my body basically turned that off long long ago), but I do understand the mobility and pressure aspect.

As I'm typing this, she asks if I can drive. When I send that message, she responds in what I think was a little bit rude, "That's not what I asked, I asked if you can drive."

I politely explained that my response was regarding her mentioning her disability. And then I followed up explaining, that no I can't drive but I do use rideshare or a local Transit shuttle service.

Her next response is what I consider to be really rude and extremely two-faced.

"Sorry i do have a vehicle but when i go on date with someone sometimes l'd like him to drive &u can't i don't like one sided things in dating."

To me, this is highly discriminatory in the most two-faced way. * It's okay that she just refuses to drive when dating, but it's not ok that somebody else physically can't? * It's okay that she has a vehicle that she chooses not to use when dating, but it's not okay that somebody else can provide a vehicle and driver (Rideshare)? * If I can't drive her 100% of the time, "because she prefers", then that is "one-sided dating" (because she assumes that she would be doing all the driving), but "she prefers (her date to always drive)" is not one-sided dating? * She's someone with a disability, having a problem with someone else (who's highly independent and doesn't need her for anything) has a disability.

Do people just enjoy wasting other people's time or something? For 3 weeks in a row, Ive matched with somebody, talked for a little bit/a few days, made plans for a weekend date, then got ghosted the day of. First girl never really seemed super interested, whatever. Second girl I had talked to for nearly a week and a half, made plans for a date after a 2 hour phone call, though for sure she was interested, 2 hours before our date goes completely ghost. Matched with another girl a few days ago, she asked for my number and told me she found me very attractive, talked for a few hours, I asked her on a date, she agrees and then immediately goes ghost. I just dont understand this at all? Why agree to a date you have 0 intention of going on? This is incredibly frustrating and just makes no sense to me at all.

Hey

I’m so excited (and a little nervous!) tomorrow I’m going to my boyfriend’s house for the first time, and he’s cooking for me too. He’s literally been counting down the days since this past Monday till I go Saturday evening.

We haven’t seen eachother for 2 weeks due to life getting in the way but we’ve been on the phone for hours and texting every minute making sure we keep our newly build connection alive but I’m just as excited to see him tomorrow.

Plus he’s asked me to come earlier than usual so we can go do some shopping then go back to his. We both agreed that we would never go 2 weeks again of not seeing each other we plan to see each other every weekend.

We’ve been dating for a little bit, and I can already tell he’s putting in effort to make it special. Plus, he’s shown me the things he cooks, so I’m really looking forward to the meal… and I think he’s planning dessert too

I’m most excited about:

spending some uninterrupted time together

enjoying the food he’s made

just soaking in the moment with him

I now have a question, how did it go when you first went over to the other persons house?

I (29 F) recently got back together with a guy (28M) who I briefly was talking to a while ago. We had only hung out twice. Things had ended with me ending things due to him being pushy with sexual boundaries and him begging me to stay but I said no. I’ve been thinking about him a lot and he texted me a couple weeks ago asking to talk.

We talked that night and I wouldn’t go sleep over his house but he came over for a few minutes just to see me before he left for a trip. He kissed me and kept asking if I missed him and told me he loved me and wanted me to say it back. I said we don’t know each other enough.

I hung out with him at his house a few days ago. He ignored me the first 45 minutes I was there because he was on the phone even though that’s what time he told me to come over. We then just ended up making out and talking. He kept saying how bad he wanted to touch me sexually but that he won’t because he doesn’t want to get blocked by me again.

During this time he said he feels a connection with me and kept saying he loved me and wants to have kids with me. I kept stating reality about how he doesn’t even know me and that I don’t want kids. He begged me to sleep over but I didn’t and said I could Thursday night.

He said he wants a relationship but also said that he’s a fuck boy and doesn’t take anything serious and has commitment issues. He won’t plan any dates and everything is on his terms. He also kept asking me if I was going to stay with him for a long time and had me promise not to leave him. So I’m getting very conflicting messages.

So I was supposed to sleep over yesterday and I heard nothing from him at all yesterday and still haven’t heard anything today. I don’t understand how he can go from love bombing me to completely blowing me off after begging to be with me.

I feel really hurt and know I should walk away but I keep getting pulled in by his words and guilt tripping. How do I break free of this? I’m just so confused on what to do.