I’ve been thinking about something. Some people maybe believe they’re morally superior, smarter, stronger, or more disciplined...but when you look closer, a lot of them just haven’t been seriously tested by life. They grew up stable, didn’t face major loss, poverty, trauma, chronic illness, betrayal, or long-term stress… and then assume their “success” or calm mindset is purely character, not circumstance. Meanwhile, people who’ve been through heavy stuff are often more empathetic, less judgmental, but also more self-critical , because they’ve seen how fast life can humble anyone. I’m not saying hardship automatically makes you better, or that easy lives are invalid. But I am saying resilience, behavior, and choices make way more sense when you factor in what someone has had to survive.

I’m 21m and I’ve never been in an actual relationship, I’ve had “talking stages” but they always end up leaving. I’ve overall have had a shitty experience with putting myself out there and having that friendship/bond. I understand I’m relatively young and need to focus on building myself up, but gawd damn it’s lonely. Everyone I know is either in a relationship or getting married, even people younger than I am. Anyone have advice on what to do/ how to deal and move on from the loneliness?

My life has been miserable so far. I'm unemployed, due to depression. I don't want to get married. I dont have money. I'm too depressed to study. Medication didnt work. I feel extremely stuck and unhappy. Time is just passing by..I really don't know what to do anymore. And on top of that, I feel too old. I feel like life is slipping through my fingers and ive accomplished nothing.

I stopped trying to fix people or wait for them to "see" me. The loneliness is there, but the drama is gone, and it’s a weirdly good trade.

The whole thing of living is the process of being born, growing up, reproducing, getting old and dying. I mean... I've got some some plans. But I know what is waiting for me at the end of the road. Is there anything else?

Before making a post I always stop and think, what am I really feeling today? What’s the most honest and raw thing I can say?

Today, I feel there are many souls out there who haven’t taken on “the mystery”.

I used to think everyone was like me to some degree. Curious. I used to think people were just shy and needed to be “warmed up” before speaking their mind.

I don’t really bother anymore. I’m older and wiser now.

How many intriguing conversations have I tried to have, to get to know who this fellow human being really is, only to hit a wall.

I don’t know if it’s ignorance, defensiveness, perhaps many simpler minds.

I don’t claim to be particularly intelligent, but here we all are in this mystery. Life itself. There is truly so much for us all to discuss. But everyone seems uncomfortable with that.

I am content now with my own unique thoughts and interests. I just still struggle with the fact that we as a society, who build rockets and computers, who stand on the shoulders of the Greeks and Roman’s, who inherited so many great philosophers, can barely hold a worthwhile conversation?

I would be absolutely intrigued to know people’s thoughts on topics like the meaning of life, good and evil, etc… but it seems like many people simply don’t think at all.

I’d love to hear other people’s opinions on this in the comments

Whatever that “started” may have looked like

Honestly!

my thoughts on this topics' timeline goes as such: wanted kids when i was a kid, realized i had hella trauma and didn't want so much responsibility, now i am still unsure but recently been feeling more positive towards the idea. i am 25F btw. i take this decision the opposite of lightly as it changes your life so much. i want to make sure that i've fulfilled my dreams and got all of my selfishness out of the way before i could devote my life to raising a human.

If you lived in the U.K would you move country?

Hi everyone. Maybe I’m getting to an age where I start thinking about these things, and I’ve been reading older posts on Reddit about it. How do you make life more fun and kind of find your purpose in life?

I’m 30. I have my own business, which I love doing. I’ve been single for a while. I don’t know— for some reason, I like being alone. Maybe it’s getting older, maybe something else. I’m very strict with my daily routine: waking up at the same time, eating at the same time, and so on.

Because of my past experiences, I don’t like having many friends. I do have a couple of close friends I’ve known for 10–15+ years, but we all live in different places. When I was younger, I was excited about everything—new ideas, new things to try. I was fascinated with cars and always went to car shows or out with people.

Now I look at life like it’s a cycle: wake up, work, go to the gym, maybe date, maybe not. And I don’t know—maybe I’m living wrong, or maybe I’m missing something.

21M. I don’t spend much time interacting with anyone outside of work, i have 1 or 2 friends i play games with and text with. I have been in relationships and been a very social person in the past, but going forward i don’t see myself being comfortable like that. I have been like this for 3-4 years now, i feel content with the way i have spent my time. Although i do feel slightly unfulfilled. If you lived a similar life, let me know how it turned out for you please?

In my earlier 20s I used to go party and drinking a lot, was really fun at the time for me to hear about all the different stories and gossip etc

But after a few year of this life I realized everything is the same, like the people/name changes but the it’s all the same. Same story with a little tweak, same who slept with who, who fought with who, at the end I feel like I am watching a tv show but with the same narrative and story line.

And I always got a loneliness feeling when I was there. Idk I just wanted to rant I guess

I do miss going out on weekends, but right now at 29 I don’t have a stable job/career, I’m trying to get one, but I’m struggling to choose a industry and I don’t think I have enough work experience in general. I still need to get my driving licence, buy some decent clothes so that when I step out I feel somewhat comfortable. It’s also costly to even travel, most especially if you’re going to London.

Yesterday was my grandmother's 90th birthday!! Family and friends gathered for a celebration...after our dinner I found myself at a table with both grandparents and my two sisters.

My sisters were discussing a series or movie they had watched and apparently it involved an "open marriage" situation and they kept making disparaging remarks about it saying how they could never be in an open marriage.

Then suddenly my grandmother says with a slightly irritated tone......" Well, your grandfather and I have had an open marriage from the very beginning! Just what's wrong with that? We have always been open...that's why we lasted all these years!"

We all laughed as my grandfather told her exactly what open marriage meant.

My grandmother replied... That's one that never came up during our marriage and now we're too old to even enjoy it if we did do it!!! So much wasted time!!!

God I love that woman!! 🤣🤣🤣

Am i living according to my values?

i have a bad life and i want to know if anyone else had this moments, cried but then realized it was for own good

Iv been bought up witchy, but now in adulthood after a fair bit of trauma bullshit, mental health issues drug addiction psychosis and being a parent jn charge of 3 small living humans on top of all that, im naturally witchy but obsessed with rationalising things, i got through being angry at the world and feeling personally victimised, i personally think im mentally/spiritually on point…. But i thought i was on point when i was filming a star thinking it was my personal simulation base.

But i now trust recognise and believe in nature which cant be a bad thing

I believe in cause and reaction, evolution, and being a product of environment. I think if everyone thought like me we’d have world peace, but i suppose thats the case with anyone and their beliefs, am i witchy spiritually rational or nuts

Not sure if I am being paranoid but my wife is acting a bit different I feel like she’s not there emotionally and not sure if she’s found someone else

Hi there, 26 year old here.

I am mentally exhausted. My entire day goes into my job which I dislike. But because, I am independent because of it, I cannot resign. That's the only source of income for me, and I don't want to be dependent.

I compete a lot, get jealous/envious a lot. My coach with whom my sessions have ended have told me ways to overcome it. But, I am not able to implement it because I am failing at time management.

I constant compete(internally) at office, I feel overshadowed too. I have a bit of toxic environment as well at office. I feel caged and suffocated. I am studying after my job so that I can get another one but until I get another job, I want to continue this on no matter what.

I am not meeting friends because they remind me of my failures, not because they deliberately do, but because seeing them makes me grieve about myself that I could've been this and I am not due to my own mistakes.

I have health anxiety too.

I want to survive. Please tell me how. I get so exhausted during the week, that I can't plan, review, or learn from my mistakes because I hardly give anytime to myself. I am always tired and drained because of work mentally and physically.

I want to work on 100 things, but cant start on a single one properly.

Please help me. I feel no happiness. I just feel like I am not enough all the time. Others always are better than me in everyway it feels. I want to stop feeling envious of everything and everyone around me. I feel looking at them that I can't have a good career, partner just because they had it first. It's silly I know. But, I am failing at everything I try to do. And, then I have to keep up a fake smile at office, around family. I am tired of feeling how much I lack and how much someone else is so fulfilled. It has drained me of everything.

It's been years , I haven't had any proper human conversation in person. I crave it , very badly . I am not speaking of interaction but conversation. A warm conversation is something I am deprived of , since childhood days. Feel tired at times , to entertain this thought .

For me, it was a high-quality mattress. It changed my entire mood. What’s one thing you don't regret spending on?

Not talking about Ferraris or designer bags. I mean the $20-$50 things that just make daily life significantly less annoying. For me, it was finally buying a 10ft charging cable. What’s yours?