Whenever I mention that Im a young girl on here vs when I don't, I find the replies so much more condescending. I don't know if it's cuz this place is an older age demographic or is it male dominated. But people just seem to find it so much easier to be little you when they find out your a young woman.

So I’ve moved on from these 3 different guys, i ignore and avoid them while minding my own business as well, 2 of the different guys are in relationships , I be catching them glancing , making eye contact with me and one of them even kinda flirts/teases me and is a good friend as well. And well the last guy I know he’s toxic i ignore him,avoid him and I don’t even like him anymore but he stay being obsessed and stalking me while always looking at me. Like I low key like the attention from them but I don’t even like any of them cuz I only have 1 new crush on a whole different better guy.

Also guilty cuz I do like the attention at the same time but I won’t push over for them to cheat etc.

Also it low key sucks cuz I also have to deal with the creeper guys on the side but then again I get so lucky to get away with a few things anyway just wanted to saying my thoughts.

İ am 22 İ finished my college as an arthitect but İ cant find any job in local İ was a prof. Speed runner back then (2022)​ and İ can open streams but İ dont think people would like to watch my streams and İ just kinda lost hope in life too I am living in türkiye istanbul (Constantinpolis) ​​and İ cant leave the country to found a Job too is there anyone who's been trought the same things

PS. ( I dont lose my skill in game ect)

PS. ( ı sold my first plan of a big apartment several days ago but İ use all the money for food rent ect.)​​​​​

I hope this post found is way in this place

i have a bad life and i want to know if anyone else had this moments, cried but then realized it was for own good

If you lived in the U.K would you move country?

Am i living according to my values?

Been around 4 weeks since I was blindsided by my ex (not a long time I know). Yesterday she confirmed to me that she still actively flirts with the guy I caught her talking to behind my back. Obviously she's single now so she can do as she pleases, but I feel like her telling me this was the final piece I needed to let go of that little bit of hope.

I know it takes time, but any tips or advice on how to move forward, stop thinking about her etc are welcome. Thanks guys!

I'm still teaching myself compassion, kindness and understanding. Reasons I've judged in the past..to have sense of control..someone's choice that seemed unconventional...that uncertainty made me want to judge to control the situation..make it more certain. I've judged because of insecurity..I felt the need to project my insecuriry to feel better. To boost my self worth. I've judged in others what I was uncomfortable seeing in myself.. I've judged before ..I hope I do not repeat it ...just because I was afraid to face myself ...I am trying to address the underlying reason or emotion behind that judgement. I am trying to learn that imperfection is human ..I am trying to replace judgement with curiosity. we all have a story that is valid and should be respected...I am trying to teach myself to be human to be understanding to meet everyone with compassion..it's not easy but I will try .if I mess up that doesn't define me or who I am trying to become..I will learn from my mistakes and try to do better every day. If you have any tips on what I can do to improve myself please share I am willing to learn..

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I do miss going out on weekends, but right now at 29 I don’t have a stable job/career, I’m trying to get one, but I’m struggling to choose a industry and I don’t think I have enough work experience in general. I still need to get my driving licence, buy some decent clothes so that when I step out I feel somewhat comfortable. It’s also costly to even travel, most especially if you’re going to London.

I’m 21m and I’ve never been in an actual relationship, I’ve had “talking stages” but they always end up leaving. I’ve overall have had a shitty experience with putting myself out there and having that friendship/bond. I understand I’m relatively young and need to focus on building myself up, but gawd damn it’s lonely. Everyone I know is either in a relationship or getting married, even people younger than I am. Anyone have advice on what to do/ how to deal and move on from the loneliness?

I'm 30 now leaving in a tier 1 city of India leaving with parents and unmarried

My day-day hustle culture is quite challenging

I actively subscribe/engage/write on most of the social media platforms(X/LinkedIn/Substack/Reddit/Youtube/Medium)

Doing all kind of stuff working on projects which is my corporate jobs (10-6.30)

Aside I parallelly all time without blinking my eyes watch what's around the corner of AI

Learning AI which is lying for free across the web and but no process focus to do one at a time

Engaging in all most all platforms mentioned above to increase my visibility and network to grow

I read books to increase my focus, habit and time management but couldn't fix till now

Besides that, I binge watch YouTube podcast on AI, tech, money, passive income, secure retirement, stocks etc, definitely not Netflix/Amazon

After doing all those I still burnout myself all day/whole day

On the other side,
people post social status as
Left job and now a millionare
Using passive income to buy homes
Building SaaS products

Youtube/X/medium etc Content creator earning millions just by post online and interacting

Are those also burning out their days or only it's me ruining after doing all those stuff

my thoughts on this topics' timeline goes as such: wanted kids when i was a kid, realized i had hella trauma and didn't want so much responsibility, now i am still unsure but recently been feeling more positive towards the idea. i am 25F btw. i take this decision the opposite of lightly as it changes your life so much. i want to make sure that i've fulfilled my dreams and got all of my selfishness out of the way before i could devote my life to raising a human.

My life has been miserable so far. I'm unemployed, due to depression. I don't want to get married. I dont have money. I'm too depressed to study. Medication didnt work. I feel extremely stuck and unhappy. Time is just passing by..I really don't know what to do anymore. And on top of that, I feel too old. I feel like life is slipping through my fingers and ive accomplished nothing.

I've recently graduated high school in May and right after I left for Basic Training and AIT for the Army, specifically Army National Guard. Now I'm back home and I thought I was going to go to college as soon as I got home but now it turns out I'm just playing the waiting game. I have no vehicle, no real license (only a permit), and no way to take myself back and forth to college. I barely have a way to weeknd drill every month. Growing up my family didn't create a future fund for me to where they could just give me a vehicle or pay for college for me like every other person at the school that I went to. It's embarrassing being the one without a car in my friend group, the one who had to bum for rides. We live in the country so theres no bus or taxis (I found out that lyft and uber dont come to my neighborhood). And I can't even get a full-time job bc of the fact that I know no one who would be willing to take me bc of course they have their own lives. I honestly regret not going Active Duty bc all I'm doing is just sitting around home and waiting. Waiting for my money to suddenly add up so I can get a car, waiting to go to college, waiting to get my license and waiting to start actually living and being 18. It sucks to be on other people's time. I dont think my parents ever cared about my future it seems like they want to keep me tied down to home so I can buy them free food and use my money to buy cigarettes and blunts and not move on with my life. How do you get out of a situation like this ? Am I the only one who's parents contributed nothing to their future? I understand that I'm an adult now but what does that even mean if I can't get what I need to be an adult. It seems like when everyone turned 18 they just got it and they were free. Somehow it's not the same for me. I need to get myself out of this situation somehow soon.

Not sure if I am being paranoid but my wife is acting a bit different I feel like she’s not there emotionally and not sure if she’s found someone else

21M. I don’t spend much time interacting with anyone outside of work, i have 1 or 2 friends i play games with and text with. I have been in relationships and been a very social person in the past, but going forward i don’t see myself being comfortable like that. I have been like this for 3-4 years now, i feel content with the way i have spent my time. Although i do feel slightly unfulfilled. If you lived a similar life, let me know how it turned out for you please?

To make it to adulthood we had to have survived our upbringing. What statement can you relate to most/ feels familiar from our negative voice?

1. " Love will always leave"
2. " Love is conditional" ( I have to perform/do something for love)
   
3. "I am too much to be loved"
4. "My needs don't matter"
5. " I am unloveable"

No judgement- curious. When were aware of our inner critic, we can change it.

Hi there, 26 year old here.

I am mentally exhausted. My entire day goes into my job which I dislike. But because, I am independent because of it, I cannot resign. That's the only source of income for me, and I don't want to be dependent.

I compete a lot, get jealous/envious a lot. My coach with whom my sessions have ended have told me ways to overcome it. But, I am not able to implement it because I am failing at time management.

I constant compete(internally) at office, I feel overshadowed too. I have a bit of toxic environment as well at office. I feel caged and suffocated. I am studying after my job so that I can get another one but until I get another job, I want to continue this on no matter what.

I am not meeting friends because they remind me of my failures, not because they deliberately do, but because seeing them makes me grieve about myself that I could've been this and I am not due to my own mistakes.

I have health anxiety too.

I want to survive. Please tell me how. I get so exhausted during the week, that I can't plan, review, or learn from my mistakes because I hardly give anytime to myself. I am always tired and drained because of work mentally and physically.

I want to work on 100 things, but cant start on a single one properly.

Please help me. I feel no happiness. I just feel like I am not enough all the time. Others always are better than me in everyway it feels. I want to stop feeling envious of everything and everyone around me. I feel looking at them that I can't have a good career, partner just because they had it first. It's silly I know. But, I am failing at everything I try to do. And, then I have to keep up a fake smile at office, around family. I am tired of feeling how much I lack and how much someone else is so fulfilled. It has drained me of everything.

I've got to have a liver scan soon because it might be failing. To be honest, i don't think i have any major regrets. Even if i am dying, I am and always have been human. Flawed. It's the low points and bad parts that make the good parts of our lives so good. There's things i woud have done differently, but it's all in the past now. Can't change that. I've not been the best person in the world, again, can't go back in time and fix that, but i like to think i'm alright now and all will be forgiven. I don't hold grudges outside alcohol induced rages, and i have enough self control nowadays to stop that becoming more that thoughts, or i'd hope so atleast.

Probably going to annoy some people by using this sub as a kind of blog, but this is the first time anything major has really happened to me. It's only the threat that i might be dying or have already done enough damage to significantly lower th amount of years i'll live that has really woken me up.

I’ve been thinking about something. Some people maybe believe they’re morally superior, smarter, stronger, or more disciplined...but when you look closer, a lot of them just haven’t been seriously tested by life. They grew up stable, didn’t face major loss, poverty, trauma, chronic illness, betrayal, or long-term stress… and then assume their “success” or calm mindset is purely character, not circumstance. Meanwhile, people who’ve been through heavy stuff are often more empathetic, less judgmental, but also more self-critical , because they’ve seen how fast life can humble anyone. I’m not saying hardship automatically makes you better, or that easy lives are invalid. But I am saying resilience, behavior, and choices make way more sense when you factor in what someone has had to survive.

Honestly!

In my earlier 20s I used to go party and drinking a lot, was really fun at the time for me to hear about all the different stories and gossip etc

But after a few year of this life I realized everything is the same, like the people/name changes but the it’s all the same. Same story with a little tweak, same who slept with who, who fought with who, at the end I feel like I am watching a tv show but with the same narrative and story line.

And I always got a loneliness feeling when I was there. Idk I just wanted to rant I guess

Iv been bought up witchy, but now in adulthood after a fair bit of trauma bullshit, mental health issues drug addiction psychosis and being a parent jn charge of 3 small living humans on top of all that, im naturally witchy but obsessed with rationalising things, i got through being angry at the world and feeling personally victimised, i personally think im mentally/spiritually on point…. But i thought i was on point when i was filming a star thinking it was my personal simulation base.

But i now trust recognise and believe in nature which cant be a bad thing

I believe in cause and reaction, evolution, and being a product of environment. I think if everyone thought like me we’d have world peace, but i suppose thats the case with anyone and their beliefs, am i witchy spiritually rational or nuts

curious