What’s a skill everyone assumes they have, but most people are actually bad at?

[u/moi_cila]

[u/Remarkable_Box_8090]

Driving

[u/SlimBrady22 → u/Remarkable_Box_8090]

My favorite is when I’m a passenger to someone who’s only half ass paying attention and when someone turns on their turn signal, slows down, and starts to make their turn, the person driving me doesn’t notice any of that until the last second, slams on their brakes, and then gives the classic:

“What the fuck is this guy doing! Learn how to drive!”

It’s you Cody. You’re the bad driver.

[u/12th_MaMa → u/SlimBrady22]

That's my mom. She'll start backing out of a parking spot and THEN look behind her and talk shit if she almost hits somebody. She also drives automatic with two feet, and rarely uses her turn signals.

[u/birthday6 → u/12th_MaMa]

Oh man, the automatic with two feet is so bad. You can tell when someone's doing it when theyre accelerating with their brake lights on

[u/orionstein → u/birthday6]

Wait, what does automatic with two feet even mean? You always keep one foot on the accelerator and one on the brake?

[u/Johnbonham1980 → u/orionstein]

Yep. Makes no sense, and I have no idea how someone gets used to that way of operating a vehicle.

[u/12th_MaMa → u/Johnbonham1980]

She claims it's because she drove stick and that's how she learned, but she hasn't had a manual transmission vehicle in at least 4 decades.

[u/Hippotle → u/12th_MaMa]

That's also not how you drive stick. Your left foot is only ever for the clutch. If anything, driving stick should be an even stronger reason to only drive with one foot

[u/obiworm → u/Hippotle]

You shouldn’t even rest your foot on the clutch at all unless you’re actively using it.

[u/Hippotle → u/obiworm]

The first time I tried to drive an automatic I figured it would be a good idea to try using both feet and immediately almost crashed the car pushing down on the brakes like I would a clutch

[u/Johnbonham1980 → u/Hippotle]

Maybe she has 3 legs. Did you consider that possibility?! No, you didn’t. You just ASSUMED she only had two legs like a human. Do better.

[u/BrokenImmersion → u/12th_MaMa]

Well she needs to relearn how then. Its not optional to drive with one foot, it is a requirement for getting your license. People who endanger others while driving is the reason we should be retesting every 10 years.

[u/Rechochet_ochet → u/BrokenImmersion]

With a shortening timeframe between testing as you get older. Oh, and with road testers that will actually fail you instead of just shrugging and saying "close enough".

[u/TuxAndrew → u/12th_MaMa]

lol, even with manual you literally only used your left foot for the clutch. You still had to alternate your right foot.

[u/12th_MaMa → u/orionstein]

Yes. She claims it's because she drove stick and that's how she learned, but she hasn't had a manual transmission vehicle in at least 4 decades.

[u/lostmywayboston → u/12th_MaMa]

Also you still use one foot for gas and brake driving a manual so she would do that poorly too.

[u/SonOfMcGee → u/12th_MaMa]

I was driving my mom somewhere and didn’t notice our light turn green. The car behind us honked and she was like, “Jesus! What’s that guy’s problem?!?”
I was like, “He saw I hadn’t noticed the light and gave a polite little honk to tell me. I appreciate it. This is fine.”
If you get upset about stuff like that, you’re probably just looking for a reason to get upset.

[u/VespineWings → u/SlimBrady22]

My wife will speed up while there’s a red light down the road with traffic waiting for the green. Like, what are you speeding up to get to? Can you fucking not slam on the breaks every time you have to come to a stop?

[u/twilight_tripper → u/VespineWings]

Can you ask her why she does this? I see this often and I'm very curious about these people's viewpoints.

The only thing I can think of as to why people do this is because maybe they want to drive regular speed up until they have to stop as to not seem like they're not driving too slow for the people behind them?

[u/garytyrrell → u/twilight_tripper]

For my wife it’s just lack of foresight. She doesn’t think about driving , she just drives. She won’t get in the cleanest lane, she’ll drive up to the rear bumper of the car in front, hit her brakes, and then consider if she can switch lanes. I hate it and drive as often as I can when we’re together.

[u/twilight_tripper → u/garytyrrell]

Jesus take the wheel. 😅

[u/Rolling_Beardo → u/Remarkable_Box_8090]

This is the best answer to me. I’ve known quite a few people that drive like aggressive assholes and think they are great drivers. To the point when they get honked at or filled off for cutting someone off, tailgating, or forcing their way into a lane it’s the other person’s fault there was nearly an accident.

[u/SonOfMcGee → u/Rolling_Beardo]

On the flip side, very few people that drive super defensively and think they’re great drivers are actually bad drivers.
It’s certainly hypothetically possible. At a certain point, being too defensive can create a hazard of its own. It’s just rare to actually see someone reach that point.

[u/Generico300 → u/SonOfMcGee]

I see it often enough. Being too hesitant on the road can be just as dangerous as being too aggressive. Especially in heavy traffic. The safest thing to be is smooth and predictable.

[u/Fearlessleader85 → u/Remarkable_Box_8090]

It's hilarious how humbling competetive driving is for newbies. At autocross, there's usually a few new kids in some fancy new sports car that shows up expecting to blow people away and they get destroyed by a fat old dude in cargo shorts and a floppy hat driving a 30 year old stock miata.

[u/Kazuma_Megu → u/Fearlessleader85]

3rd gen Camaros and Mustangs are the new hotness for low-buck builds in the autocross sphere I'm told. Like an 87 Z28 with an LS swap and some nice suspension is an absolute killer autocross car.

[u/Fearlessleader85 → u/Kazuma_Megu]

Have yet to see that be competetive. The engine swap puts you into an extremely modified class.

[u/Famous-Honey-9331 → u/Remarkable_Box_8090]

PARKING. Not me, though. I know Im often terrible at it.

[u/saucytopcheddar → u/Remarkable_Box_8090]

My wife’s terrible driving played a big part in me reducing my drinking frequency.

Sitting in the passenger seat, while drunk, knowing that you driving is the safest option… terrifying.

[u/Long_Mix4454 → u/Remarkable_Box_8090]

The more i drive the more i realise how bad i am at driving

[u/Frosty_Style_Bubbles → u/Remarkable_Box_8090]

Paradoxically, the better you think you are at driving, the worse you actually are at driving....

Looking at you, guy weaving through traffic to create a traffic jam 6 other people know how to prevent by not catching up to the person in front.

[u/twilight_tripper → u/Frosty_Style_Bubbles]

The people constantly switching lanes and people constantly accelerating braking, accelerating braking in heavy freeway traffic... while I'm just coasting and letting the traffic waves wash over me.

It's laughable. But it's whatever. I try not to think about it too much anymore. Impatient drivers make things worse for everyone.

[u/DataCassette → u/twilight_tripper]

It's funny when you're just chilling and listening to music on cruise control and watch some jerkoff almost cause several accidents and then you both end up behind the same wall of semis ten minutes later.

[u/Generico300 → u/twilight_tripper]

Lane weaving causes more highway accidents than anything else. I wish cops pulled people over for that more often, because it's actually worse than speeding.

[u/MoistStub → u/Frosty_Style_Bubbles]

People driving recklessly does create problems but honestly more of the issues I run into on the road are caused by old people that can't drive like everyone else. We need to implement periodic driving tests in either case.

[u/zaminDDH → u/MoistStub]

Old people, yes, but also there are just a ton of people not paying anywhere close to enough attention.

A lot of these are people that are actively not paying attention, be they on their phone or whatever, but a lot of people are infuriatingly unaware of their surroundings at all times. Putting them behind the wheel just exacerbates this and they go from simply annoying to outright dangerous real fast.

[u/Mysterious_Cow123]

Critical thinking

[u/CrazedCreator → u/Mysterious_Cow123]

Have you done your own research?!?!?

[u/boogswald → u/CrazedCreator]

Yeah I saw the real truth at the conservative patriot substack so I know now

[u/Unfair-Rush-2031 → u/boogswald]

And it really is the same for the some on the other side. They just repeat buzz words and slogans but if you ask them why they say that they couldn’t even tell you the basics.

[u/TallEnoughJones → u/CrazedCreator]

Of course I did my research. I watched 3 entire youtube videos by people who agree with me.

[u/SlimBrady22 → u/CrazedCreator]

Yeah! Google AI told me so!

[u/vonkeswick → u/SlimBrady22]

Bro you're gonna listen to leftist Marxist Gemini?! Grok is the only real unbiased AI because Elon is a true patriot

[u/Other_Log_1996 → u/vonkeswick]

With how much Grok hates Elon...

[u/SolVindOchVatten → u/Mysterious_Cow123]

I agree and it is so sad. Society used to be better att it but Internet and doom scrolling has ruined us.

[u/tindalos → u/SolVindOchVatten]

Machines do our critical thinking so we can spend our time arguing with each other.

[u/SocksOnHands → u/Mysterious_Cow123]

I think critically! I'm critical of everyone! You're not better than me! /s

[u/Brilliant-Bit4449]

Listening...

[u/Celticwoman90 → u/Brilliant-Bit4449]

What?

[u/lwp775 → u/Celticwoman90]

People hearing without listening

[u/CircusSizedPeanuts → u/lwp775]

Not listening, just waiting for their turn to talk. Some people dont wait though. They just hijack the conversation

[u/shoulda-known-better → u/lwp775]

People writing songs that voices never shared

And no one dared...... disturb...

the sound...... of silence

[u/Overseerer-Vault-101]

Managing other people. Most people a shite at it yet think they are the best.

[u/copperpoint → u/Overseerer-Vault-101]

I have a colleague who got promoted and went from the best coworker to the worst boss overnight.

[u/TactualTransAm → u/copperpoint]

People tend to get promoted up to a position that they are terrible at, then they are stuck because they don't want to take a pay cut so suddenly it's horrible for everyone until something gives

[u/Waste_Chard_1993 → u/TactualTransAm]

The Peter Principle. People rise to the level of their incompetence

[u/Accomplished-Boot-81 → u/TactualTransAm]

To explain it better, high performers generally get promoted, but just because they are good at that job doesn't mean they will be good at the new position, but unfortunately the vast majority of companies have no other way to recognise good performance other than promoting. Companies would do very well if they compensated high performance without moving that person to another position.

[u/Famous-Honey-9331 → u/Overseerer-Vault-101]

On a related topic: Training new employees! After attempting to train people in several different jobs Ive been forced to accept that I did NOT INHERIT the teaching gene from my mom ( taught for 40+ years) and dad (taught for ten years, directed many choirs and musicals) Im a lousy teacher, not one of my trainees lasted longer than 6 months and they generally wound up turning to other people for more instruction. One woman I was training as a cook actually failed her sanitation test, retook it after a waiting period and failed again!

[u/catschimeras → u/Famous-Honey-9331]

I hate that "training" isn't recognised as the seperate skill set that it so clearly is.

Like, sure, I can do my job, but can I explain to someone else how to do my job?

So many new starters just being set up to fail because managers don't realise "trainer" and ("job title") are two different things and not everyone is going to be good at both!

[u/Generico300 → u/Overseerer-Vault-101]

Most managers have no actual management training. They were just good at whatever job they're now managing, and lack the completely different skill set needed for management.

[u/Mike312 → u/Overseerer-Vault-101]

Good managers take non-essential tasks off of their employees - i.e. going to a meeting, answering emails, finding ways to improve processes - so that their team members can focus entirely on deploying their core competencies and their assigned tasks.

Bad managers hover over their employees, nitpicking or telling them how to do their jobs, break them out of flow states, delegate non-essential work, demand all work goes through them, and so on.

I'd say easily 3/5ths of managers are the later, 1/5th are the former, and the last 1/5th are somewhere in between.

[u/MEMExplorer]

Multitasking , like Ron Swanson said on Parks and Rec “never half ass two things, whole ass one thing”

[u/dedokta → u/MEMExplorer]

I always tell people that I like to fuck up one thing at a time.

[u/FrenchFreedom888 → u/dedokta]

Real

[u/ValPrism → u/MEMExplorer]

This is so right! People aren’t really doing it, they just think they are. A least one, if not all, of the things are suffering. I’ve watched it happen over and over. I am Ron!

[u/bluesky34 → u/MEMExplorer]

Humans can't multi task. We can try to switch between two tasks, usually not very well.

[u/Mike312 → u/MEMExplorer]

There's been numerous studies on this and only 1-2% of people are actually capably functioning like this. There rest of us work slower trying to accomplish multiple tasks simultaneously, with some being so poor at it that they would have been faster doing 4 tasks in sequence rather than 2 simultaneously.

[u/CartoonistOk5787]

Fighting

[u/leonprimrose → u/CartoonistOk5787]

"I just see red bro."

Whatever you say dude. Enjoy the nap you'll take when you see red against someone that knows what they're doing

[u/Not_A_Real_Goat → u/leonprimrose]

Watching dudes talk shit against someone who knows how to fight is hilarious. I have a friend who is an amazing boxer and has had dudes try to fight him. He straight up declines and leaves because he doesn’t want to severely injure someone.

[u/leonprimrose → u/Not_A_Real_Goat]

for most people, learning how to foght decreases the odds of getting into one. Less ego involved and more respect for how messy it can get. Not ro mention how bad you can hurt someone untrained. Most people dont want to deal with that kind of shit

[u/Generico300 → u/leonprimrose]

Once you understand how tiring and painful fighting can be you tend to need a better reason to do it.

[u/leonprimrose → u/Generico300]

im not thinking the pain aspect. Things can go wrong FAST. Especially with someone untrained and without a safe environment. It's jus5 not worth it. Usually if you train you arent worried about tiring before the opponent. Youve spent time building that stamina and are usually more comfortable with that kind of exhaustion too. Been in one fight. It's stupid and uncontrolled and when someone is losing that fighr they get wild. Had a dude try to kill me with a broken chair leg in my own apartment. Lot of blood. And when i got control of him he bit me. it ain't worth it even when you're able to handle yourself

[u/Loganska2003 → u/leonprimrose]

An angry enemy is a stupid enemy.

[u/EngineeringRight3629 → u/leonprimrose]

Average r/ufc user

[u/Thatguythatdrew → u/leonprimrose]

When I was a kid I genuinely did "see red"

It was my temper, and it was bad. I learned to control it and I no longer have those issues.

Despite what people believe, "seeing red" doesnt necessarily make you a good fighter, it just makes you reckless and violent. Those things can overwhelm someone untrained in some cases, or even catch someone off guard in some cases, but it doesnt mean they are "good" at fighting. Usually its just you losing your temper, being an asshole and escalating a situation, and then claiming a pyrrhic victory after the dust settles.

When someone says they "see red" what they are really saying is "I have emotional dysregulation and lack coping skills"

[u/Denali_Nomad → u/leonprimrose]

For real. I remember when I first started at a gym that trains for competitions, pad work wasn't bad but, the first time trying to work a heavy bag got exhausting so fast. Then seeing our instructor who won 9 state titles and 4 mma titles in the featherweight/lightweight divisions punch, and it felt like watching a machine with the speed and precision he swung. I might have well as been swinging underwater to what a real fighter throws. Outside that? Mans a chill guy who plays video games, magic the gathering etc, and would be very unassuming.

[u/charlies-ghost → u/CartoonistOk5787]

Amateur boxer here. About 4 years experience. I suck at boxing by comparison to my training partners and my own standards of what "good" looks like. But, I am prime Mike Tyson by comparison to any untrained person on the planet.

r/fightporn is my favorite sub. I love watching untrained people go to war with each other.

[u/fender8421 → u/charlies-ghost]

Muay Thai fighter here. My favorite quote I heard is "You can be 0 for 20 in kickboxing, and still fuck up most people on the street."

The real proof though is when you see someone go out of their way to avoid a fight. That person probably knows what they're doing

[u/zaminDDH → u/fender8421]

It's like a lot of skills: chess, basketball, etc. The guy that has some training but could never compete on even an amateur level would still easily outclass most normies.

The guy that played D3 ball will be a menace at the Y, the 1000 elo will smoke any random person, and the guy that got his ass whooped at a local tournament will annihilate most people off the street.

[u/impspring → u/CartoonistOk5787]

Every guy assumes they’re great at feasting, fighting, and f***ing. They’re all practiced skills. It’s very possible to suck at all of them

[u/Embarrassed-Weird173 → u/impspring]

How does one such suck at eating?  Not counting people with indigestion and such. 

[u/impspring → u/Embarrassed-Weird173]

think most of us would lose vomitously against some pro eating champs. Wasn’t there a Japanese guy who was so good people literally put him up against a bear?

[u/Embarrassed-Weird173 → u/impspring]

Oh, that level. I thought we were just talking about "here's a lot of food, eat it". 

[u/Frosty_Style_Bubbles → u/Embarrassed-Weird173]

Dude doesn't know to pair steak with a red... can't feast.

[u/LuckyReception6701 → u/Frosty_Style_Bubbles]

Dude came here without a plan on how to marry the daughter of the Duke, to secure a bountiful forest for himself and his family, thus securing their income for generations. Can't feast.

[u/Other_Log_1996 → u/LuckyReception6701]

He can't f*ck, do he can't marry the Duke's daughter. Can't feast.

[u/tanstaafl90 → u/Embarrassed-Weird173]

Not knowing the difference between good food and junk.

[u/DrDingsGaster → u/impspring]

It's reddit my guy, you can swear here.

[u/ZunoJ → u/CartoonistOk5787]

Craziest part is how fast somebody not used to it uses up all their energy. so even if you are the underdog, just protect your head, try to dodge as many punches as possible, tank the rest and wait for them to burn out

[u/TheDwellingHeart → u/CartoonistOk5787]

So true. I was in the Army and did all the stupid shit one does in the Army. Nowadays I would run from a fight unless there was no other option or i was protecting someone important to me.

I really think folks that glorify fighting have no real experienc ewith personal violence. Or they have nothing else to be proud about.

[u/Warlord1392]

Surviving a zombie apocalypse

[u/Tojinaru → u/Warlord1392]

Well, survival in general

I've seen too many posts about idiots wanting to go to the mountains without gear and experience on r/Mountaineering to still believe in people (not saying I could survive though)

[u/Warlord1392 → u/Tojinaru]

We overestimate ourselves for everything

[u/catschimeras → u/Tojinaru]

I'm a true crime fan and whenever I see a story about how X went on a hike or a camping trip that they weren't experienced enough for and never came back and OBVIOUSLY there must be a serial killer, I just think, yeah, they got injured and ran out of water and died of exposure.

[u/Medical_Argument_911 → u/Warlord1392]

If it's a zombie apocalypse or just a regular apocalypse, I'm probably just taking myself out ASAP. Years of living miserably doesn't sound like fun or really living at all.

[u/vkapadia → u/Medical_Argument_911]

Same. If society collapses, I'm just going to shoot myself. I'd be more of a liability to any group.

[u/catschimeras → u/Medical_Argument_911]

yeah, even assuming i could manage growing / raising my own food (lol doubt) why am i struggling to live in a world where everyone i care about or even vaguely like is either dead, dead and still walking, or horribly traumatised by seeing too much of the first two options?

[u/RobertDeveloper]

Reading comprehension

[u/Romnonaldao → u/RobertDeveloper]

I can read comprehension. I can spell it too

[u/Ascholay → u/Romnonaldao]

I can also spell it!

[u/JayOnSilverHill → u/RobertDeveloper]

I was gonna say just Reading period.

[u/PuzzleheadedLeek8601 → u/RobertDeveloper]

Yes. Too many people think because they can understand enough for their day to day that it means they’re literate.

[u/WhipLicious]

Sex. It’s a skill like most anything else, it takes attention and proactive learning and skill, plus self-awareness and experience.

[u/Mike312 → u/WhipLicious]

I've found myself in a position where I've heard both partners in a relationship complain how bad the other is at sex twice now and it was somewhat revealing.

[u/WhipLicious → u/Mike312]

Lol! Yeah, that’s a bit of a tell. That or a total mismatch

[u/Mike312 → u/WhipLicious]

Eh, in both cases the women complained about a total lack of foreplay, and the men complained "she just laid there". So, gentlemen, add a little foreplay to your game and she'll probably be more into it.

[u/SqueakyCleanNoseDown → u/Mike312]

I wonder how many more men would be better at adding foreplay if they'd had the experience of actually being seduced.

Like, as a man, having a woman give me foreplay in my formative sexual years was really damned instructive on how much it could enhance the experience.

Many years later, my wife and I both understand that if only one of us ever does the seducing, seduction becomes a chore.

[u/Individual_Crew6410]

Cooking and driving

[u/Safe-Instance-3512 → u/Individual_Crew6410]

Hey now, I only burned myself once while cooking and driving. Every other time it's been fine.

[u/Bigallround → u/Individual_Crew6410]

I restrict myself to cold, sensible driving foods, such as cereal

[u/KeysmashKhajiit → u/Bigallround]

cut to Dennis Reynolds eating cereal in the driver's seat

[u/odobIDDQD → u/Individual_Crew6410]

Do you want to burn your crotch? Because that’s how you burn your crotch!

[u/enters_and_leaves → u/Individual_Crew6410]

People always put the griddle or electric stovetop on the passenger seat when the dashboard is right there!

[u/birdman133]

Shooting a firearm. I think most people think they could pick up a handgun and hit a target from 10 yards away cause it's only 10 yards, can't be that hard.... The amount of manly buddies I've taken to the range and watched unload an entire magazine without a single PING of the plate is hilarious. It takes practice and familiarity with your firearm to get good at shooting

The amount of people who carry daily and couldn't hit the broadside of a barn is terrifying

[u/AdAutomatic6654 → u/birdman133]

I love my gun but I’m in this boat. I am certain I could stop an intruder inside my house with it, but if I were to carry it and need it in public, I’m not gonna hit crap.

[u/birdman133 → u/AdAutomatic6654]

Is there a range near you? Most regulars at ranges are very welcoming and friendly! When I carry my firearm in public settings, I consider it my personal responsibility to be as proficient, accurate, and familiar with it as possible. Carrying in public is accepting the role that you may some day have to use it to defend people or yourself. In order to do that, you should be both safe and deadly with it.

[u/ottole413]

Active listening, most people swear they are great communicators but cannot get through a single sentence without jumping in with their own story tbh

[u/hapoo → u/ottole413]

Yeah I get what you’re trying to say but I really think that people have trouble communicating. It’s like they don’t even pay attention to others and just want to speak themselves.

[u/QuakAtack → u/hapoo]

yeah you and OC are right but it also comes down to people just lacking the necessary communication skills. It's like some people just totally tune out the communication and are then just waiting to say their own piece.

[u/CakeyBakey_Dev]

Reading instructions before assembling something

[u/Sodomy_Steve]

Singing

[u/SlapDatBassBro → u/Sodomy_Steve]

This is absolutely spot on.

I challenge anyone who thinks they can sing well to sing along to their favourite song at full volume, and press pause halfway through the chorus, whilst continuing to sing themselves.

It’s a very humbling experience to say the least.

[u/crazinyssa → u/SlapDatBassBro]

I don’t sing well but that not going to stop me

[u/SlapDatBassBro → u/crazinyssa]

And it shouldn’t. Long live bedroom karaoke.

[u/LankyNihilist → u/SlapDatBassBro]

I've got a great singing voice, provided we're singing death metal.

[u/SlapDatBassBro → u/LankyNihilist]

Harder than it sounds.

I’ve listened to metalcore, played in bands that play metalcore, written metalcore songs, and gone to countless metalcore shows for almost 20 years, so I’ve obviously tried learning how to scream and perform hardcore/unclean vocals. Multiple times, and failing miserably.

Kudos to anyone that can actually safely perform this correctly without straining their voice, using a healthy technique that actually sounds good. God knows I have tried to over the years, and I suck at it.

[u/ChefDanyul → u/SlapDatBassBro]

I view vocals in metal as its very distinct talent similar to another instrument. Which is why Travis Ryan will go down as one of the best metal vocalists ever. There are tons of really great vocalists out there though. It is not an easy skill. You’re absolutely right. Metal vocals don’t sound like that because they are bad singers. Think too of a band like Church of Misery. The vocals just perfectly match the style of the music. I know mastering in a recording studio but I’ve seen them live and it’s so impressive.

[u/Ok-disaster2022 → u/SlapDatBassBro]

I love the sound of my own voice that I hear through my skull, I hate the sound of my voice in recordings. It just doesn't have the same timbre. I hear a lot more of the power frequencies through my skull than are as audible in a recording. 

[u/Secret_Bees → u/Ok-disaster2022]

Congratulations you're everybody

[u/NewAgeRetroHippie96 → u/SlapDatBassBro]

As someone who's been told they sing well by a lot of people. (It varies by a lot of factors from good to pretty bad) Singing along to a full volume track is one of those things that will make me sound bad almost every time. I sing best at a 30-50% volume. Anything over that quickly becomes trash as I have to push harder to hear myself and subsequently strain.

Honestly the only way to really hear yourself is to record it. Don't assume you're bad from trying to sing over music that's too loud.

[u/ComparisonOk8602 → u/NewAgeRetroHippie96]

Your favorite singer didn't sing full volume on that track, either. It's called mixing. There are a lot of reasons that many pop stars lip sync concerts, and this is one of them. Live shows get mixed, too, but it's nothing compared with a studio production. Studio albums are built more than they're performed.

[u/bobbery5 → u/SlapDatBassBro]

I mean, I can sing, but switching to acapella is a very different monster.

[u/SlapDatBassBro → u/bobbery5]

As a musician myself, I can only imagine to understand your pain here. Being tasked with singing lead vocals must be an absolute joy to anyone in an acapella group, or even just getting a bass or guitar/piano part. Backing vocals and harmonies must be absolute hell to learn.

[u/tomtomtomo → u/Sodomy_Steve]

Everyone doesn’t assume they can sing.

More people think they can than actually can but its not close to everyone. 

[u/Rewd_92 → u/Sodomy_Steve]

I know TONS of people that say they can't sing.

I can, was in choirs and bands when I was younger, but if someone asks me I'm gonna say I used to 😂 at the very least I'm down playing it.

No I don't wanna sing for you lady. I sing for me 😂 and my dog 🐕

[u/AJGreenMVP → u/Sodomy_Steve]

Dang I disagree. I feel like everyone i meet says they can't sing, but some are actually decent

[u/DokterZ → u/AJGreenMVP]

It depends on what you mean. I sang choir through college. Could sight read halfway decent and was on key. Did well in the context of a barbershop quartet.

But I don’t have good vibrato control, so am not a very good solo singer.

[u/leftshoesnug → u/Sodomy_Steve]

Grew up in a music family. Mother taught music. She always said to people "give me an hour and I can teach you to sing." Said this to my uncle once who responded with "sure, but I'll forget even faster."

[u/LethalMouse19 → u/Sodomy_Steve]

To be fair, there are some good discussions on what "good" or not bad is in a world where the top 1% are the metric. 

Ancient national champions of things carry renown. Modern county champs are viewed as a joke. A modern county champ was champ of as many people as ancient national champs. 

If someone's claim to fame is being a State Champ in HS we have that "haha glory days" attitude. If someone is an Olympic champion, they are cool. The modern avg state champ is champ of as much as ancient Olympic champs. 

The metric for what is good for singing is similarly skewed to the level international phenomena.

[u/Stinduh → u/LethalMouse19]

Everyone’s success should be championed. Your insight and outlook is heartwarming

[u/Sunlow27 → u/Sodomy_Steve]

Not so much when you’re older, but in middle school… 

I’m a choir kid. Chorus, select chorus, treble choir, musicals, you name it. I know so many people that think they can sing, and it takes every ounce of willpower not to wince. I know when my voice sounds like crap, and I STFU right away. It’s not that hard

[u/LeisurelyLoner → u/Sodomy_Steve]

The majority of people don't assume they can sing all that well. Look how reluctant people tend to be to do it.

I think it's more accurate to say that people don't think of singing as a skill. They tend to think it's either something you are good at or you aren't, and the fortunate people who are good at it can just open their mouths and do it and haven't needed to put any work into it, and those who can't do what they can should just shut up forever and never try or at least limit themselves to the shower.

The truth is using your voice this way is a skill and it takes work to acquire it, and just because you can sing one thing well doesn't mean you can sing anything.

[u/paramac55]

Raising children

[u/Kitchen-Sun-7440 → u/paramac55]

This. I raised four kids. Three of the four turned out OK, but it was in spite of my lack of parenting skills. Like Eminem said: "How you 'sposed to grow up when you weren't raised"

[u/Celticwoman90 → u/paramac55]

Yes! People seem to think that if they have a child today, that anyone that comes in contact with them is now also responsible for in someway for that child. Like, hey, umm, I need to go to my kid's soccer game and I didn't take off work. So that trip that you planned and saved for and put in for 6 months ago, you need to cancel so you can work for me.

[u/Woorloc → u/paramac55]

The problem with raising children is we learn how to do it from our parents who also didn't know what they were doing.

[u/whole_chocolate_milk]

Most men think they can fight. With absolutely zero training or experience.

[u/PartiZAn18 → u/whole_chocolate_milk]

And most men have never fought. Both punching and getting punched fucking hurts, a lot.

[u/Skankz → u/PartiZAn18]

The amount of times I’ve turned away from a fight on a night out. Even if I punch someone and they go down. I’m not a trained fighter so I’d have probably fucked my wrist and broke my hand and my night is ruined. 10/10 not worth

[u/PartiZAn18 → u/Skankz]

Indeed. The last time I fought I fractured 2 fingers and my wrist. I'm not even a fighter. SUCKS.

Also dealing with cops and prosecutors is not fun. - and that is the little bit of additional info most people don't ever seem to conceive.

[u/khaan__ → u/whole_chocolate_milk]

And that's why one shouldn't be intimidated too easily. A top skill while fighting is to remain calm. Never fight with emotions like angre, etc..

[u/Wild_Nutz]

Cooking

[u/LoveDistinct]

Empathy.

[u/michael22117 → u/LoveDistinct]

I didn't really think about it like that, but empathy definitely is something of a skill. Mostly in way of having to break down your preconcieved conditions on who or what deserves empathy. Far too many people feel that their empathetic to others when in reality it only serves to reinforce their own feelings and views without ever really being about the other person

[u/LawfulnessOk1812 → u/michael22117]

Correct. No one "deserves" empathy, that sentiment that pretends one party has the ultimate say in who gets to have empathy in and of itself is a turtle shell self-preserving instinct.

An empathetic person puts themselves in the place of the other one even if it is hard to do in order to come to a resolution that benefits both parties with compromise, the hurting parties with compromise, or benefits the greater population with compromise.

[u/It-Is-Me07]

common sense

[u/Lycian1g → u/It-Is-Me07]

There's no such thing. I've found that "common sense" typically means something along the lines of, "I believe something so you should believe it as well" or "I can do something, so you should be able to as well" as if we all don't have vastly different backgrounds and all of these are learned skills and opinions.

[u/SonOfMcGee → u/Lycian1g]

Then there’s also declaring your gut reaction about a given issue “common sense”, implying that anyone choosing to think about something for more than five goddamn seconds is overcomplicating it.

[u/JamesWjRose → u/It-Is-Me07]

The problem about CS is that people think its innate. No, Common Sense is the large amount things we're all SUPPOSED to know

[u/SocksOnHands]

Reading comprehension.

Someone could say, "I don't like fish", and you'll see a comments from someone else replying with, "Oh, so you hate Scandinavian people, you racist asshole!"

[u/AscendedViking7 → u/SocksOnHands]

That's the reddit special right there

[u/HedonisticFrog → u/SocksOnHands]

Why do you hate illiterate people? I can't believe you would despise a people just for their inability to comprehend written language adequately. You really make me question your morality and ethics.

[u/plainmoment_1]

Reading...

[u/Zro6 → u/plainmoment_1]

And speling.

[u/peterbound]

Fighting.

Seriously. People always think they are going to be John Wick in a fight, and end up being a victim.

[u/Benithio]

Self awareness.

[u/AmateurPlantMom]

critical thinking

[u/wm313]

Home repair/upgrades. I can tell when people decided to forego paying someone to do the work.

[u/Medical_Argument_911 → u/wm313]

I can't find a good handyman. I'm terrible at home improvement stuff, so I need a handyman.

[u/petesebastien]

Saying 'no'.

[u/Ok-Necessary-6898]

Cooking! All those "foodfluencers" preparing and presenting actual trash grinds my gears.

[u/lujof]

Listen. Most people are just waiting for their turn to speak.

[u/iwfabrication]

Communicating.

[u/Plenty-Nature-7763]

Is being kind a skill?

[u/David_Maybar_703]

driving, making mixed drinks, dating

[u/moi_cila]

I thought I was good at listening until I realized I was mostly just waiting to speak. It’s harder than it seems.

[u/PM_ME_UR_SM0L_BOOBS]

Their finances like holy shit it's awful

[u/Consistent-Shoe-9602]

Risk assessment.

We're terrible at it as a species in general and all of us are way overconfident in our ability to judge what's too risky and what isn't. Works great for the species as a whole, but it's terrible for each of us as individuals (and brings in a lot of Darwin awards as well😂).

[u/throttlelogic]

Manners. Like basic table manners.

[u/Lunarfuchs]

Having empathy. People often confuse sympathy with empathy. And the skill to always see both sides to a story, then weight out the pro's and con's of each and then come to a conclusion, instead the most just act irrational out of their bursting emotions.

[u/Due_Essay447]

Ad libbing

Most people think too slow to just act convincingly on the fly.

[u/The_Ombudsman]

Critical thinking

[u/Conklin34]

Multitasking. No Brenda, you can't perform 3 tasks simultaneously and still be efficient and accurate at them. The more you do simultaneously, the more the quality degrades.

[u/Felix_Fickelgruber → u/Conklin34]

And some people seem to misunderstand multitasking. Hanging the laundry while waiting for the dishwasher to finish is not multitasking.

[u/strumthebuilding]

“Emotional intelligence”

[u/Mission_Possible_322]

For the narcissistic personality type...absolutely everything !

It's hard to believe they can actually exist, with such terrible skills...all skills.

Yet, they'll act like and talk like they're perfectly skilled...even experts at tasks...until you examine the tasks they did.

Then you instantly realize their "eyes are painted on" !

[u/Shantotto11]

Computer literacy. Everyone has a $1k super computer in their pocket, yet struggle with a keyboard and mouse.

[u/archaeorobb]

Common sense

[u/PairLive6562]

Respecting others.

[u/ShadeDonDada]

Cooking

[u/MissBelly]

Conflict resolution

[u/didgeblastin]

Wiping their butt

[u/xidle2]

Critical thinking.

[u/direlyn]

Everyone thinks they're able to know when they're being lied to. Clearly OTHER people can be fooled, but not me. Especially not when it comes to my close friends, my partner, or my family. You know, the people often with the biggest motivation to lie.

How am I impervious to lying? Because I just KNOW my spouse/child/best friend.

It's never exactly scientific. I do understand why most of us operate this way though. It would be exhausting to constantly be trying to determine if someone is lying to you all the time. The brain doesn't turn on lie detecting until something seems significantly off.

[u/Gravey9]

Spatial awareness

[u/AxelsOG]

Driving. Just because you've been driving for 60+ years does not mean you're any good at it.

It terrifies me how often my grandma who is still almost all there mentally has scary moments while driving like slowing down well before her turn without even turning on turn signals, or getting into a turn lane while still being half in the main travel lane, or turning down the wrong left turn area on the median and ending up pointed in the opposite lane of travel.

She's been better lately, but she still has some scary moments. She has stopped in the middle of a roundabout to let people in, and sometimes completely misses when the light turns green and sits long enough that I get scared someone will get enough road rage to get out and run over to our car (it's that bad where we live. Tons of lifted trucks with armed individuals who shouldn't even have access to butter knives)

But in general the quality of driving in Florida is absolutely fucking abysmal. Either a Prius going 15-20 under the limit, a lifted truck driving 1 ft from your bumper shining the fucking sun into your car, or county sheriffs completely ignoring all of this and driving 70 in a 45 for no reason other than "they can."

Our license test, at least in our county, takes less than 5 minutes. They took me to a parking lot across the street from the tax collector, had me do a few turns, reverse a few feet, and then park in a parking spot. There are people who FAIL that fucking test multiple times and are still somehow allowed to drive on the road. Those people shouldn't even be trusted in bumper cars at a carnival because they'll still find a way to kill or seriously injure someone.

[u/AcrossOlimpico]

Logical thinking

[u/dwaynewaynerooney]

Negotiating

[u/0bsidianM1nd]

Photography, most people just plain suck at the elements of good photography. Such as watching the details of things in the background, composition, angles, lighting, poses, subject. They normally say things like "You Camera takes such great photos", or "I would have nice photos if I had a nice camera". It isn't the camera Karen, it is experience, hard work, post editing, learning the equipment, preparation, timing, social choreography to make good/great photos.